FabSwingers.com forum: Preferences

By (user no longer on site) OP
32 weeks ago

I've been wondering, as a straight male, but given I'm finding it very hard to get conversations going with women (no replies!), should I be considering MF couple (where the F can play alone)?

Anyone got any experience on this? I.e. do you have to just chat to a couple profile and accept the man will be part of the conversation?

As a newbie, this feels a little uncomfortable for me :/

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By *naswingdressWoman
32 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

I don't think that would go well: you're essentially saying that you will tolerate that one half of the profile exists, but you don't want them involved if it can be helped.

You might get more replies, but they might not be very polite.

If you don't want to meet couples, don't message couples.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
32 weeks ago

"I don't think that would go well: you're essentially saying that you will tolerate that one half of the profile exists, but you don't want them involved if it can be helped.

You might get more replies, but they might not be very polite.

If you don't want to meet couples, don't message couples."

I get that, but I'm seeing loads of guys in the forum saying they like thier woman meeting up with a guy and just being send updates etc. Thats why Im asking really... if its a couples account which states they only play together then I agree with your point fully

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

Clubs and socials maybe your best bet to meet single woman

Also think you find it hard to find a couple whare one hafe allows you to icnore they exist op

Maybe this places and scene isn’t for you

Maybe normal date sites maybe better suited to meet single woman

Just be upfront in what your looking for on sed sites though

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By *naswingdressWoman
32 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I don't think that would go well: you're essentially saying that you will tolerate that one half of the profile exists, but you don't want them involved if it can be helped.

You might get more replies, but they might not be very polite.

If you don't want to meet couples, don't message couples.

I suspect that women in this scenario would have similar selection criteria to single women. I also suspect that couples who meet separately through their couples profile are the exception, not the rule.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
32 weeks ago

"Clubs and socials maybe your best bet to meet single woman

Also think you find it hard to find a couple whare one hafe allows you to icnore they exist op

Maybe this places and scene isn’t for you

Maybe normal date sites maybe better suited to meet single woman

Just be upfront in what your looking for on sed sites though "

Yeah perhaps its not for me... or maybe I need to be brave and try a club/social

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

You don’t have to do anything. Pursuing couples as a last resort when you already know that makes you feel uncomfortable, isn’t great is it?

As someone who meets alone, anyone I chat to has to be comfortable and mindful that I have a husband and acknowledge he exists.

Finding a couple where one half meets alone isn’t a cheat code to getting women.

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

"Clubs and socials maybe your best bet to meet single woman

Also think you find it hard to find a couple whare one hafe allows you to icnore they exist op

Maybe this places and scene isn’t for you

Maybe normal date sites maybe better suited to meet single woman

Just be upfront in what your looking for on sed sites though

Yeah perhaps its not for me... or maybe I need to be brave and try a club/social

Should give them a go and see

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By (user no longer on site) OP
32 weeks ago

"You don’t have to do anything. Pursuing couples as a last resort when you already know that makes you feel uncomfortable, isn’t great is it?

As someone who meets alone, anyone I chat to has to be comfortable and mindful that I have a husband and acknowledge he exists.

Finding a couple where one half meets alone isn’t a cheat code to getting women. "

Why do you suggest its a cheat code? If a couple has a preference with the F having solo meets, then what would be the issue if the guy she was meeting was a single straigt male? Im genuinly confused by this, isnt it just another way of all parties achieving thier preferences? Single guy meets girl (his pref), girl meet new guy (her pref), husband gets kick knowing about the meetup (his pref). Sorry not being difficult here, im genuinly lost with your point

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

"You don’t have to do anything. Pursuing couples as a last resort when you already know that makes you feel uncomfortable, isn’t great is it?

As someone who meets alone, anyone I chat to has to be comfortable and mindful that I have a husband and acknowledge he exists.

Finding a couple where one half meets alone isn’t a cheat code to getting women.

There’s no issues. I meet single men. It’s the way you have worded your OP. It comes across like you’re willing to put up with the male half of a couple as long as you get to meet their other half.

You go on to say it’s makes you uncomfortable. If you already know it’s going to make you feel uncomfortable, why consider it?

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By *naswingdressWoman
32 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

Another thing you might not have considered - straight guys meet couples all the time. I don't mean Fab straight. I mean straight straight. Threesomes are great.

(Like couples, they're also not a last chance saloon for guys who aren't getting replies from women, which I agree is what your OP sounds like)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
32 weeks ago

"You don’t have to do anything. Pursuing couples as a last resort when you already know that makes you feel uncomfortable, isn’t great is it?

As someone who meets alone, anyone I chat to has to be comfortable and mindful that I have a husband and acknowledge he exists.

Finding a couple where one half meets alone isn’t a cheat code to getting women.

You go on to say it’s makes you uncomfortable. If you already know it’s going to make you feel uncomfortable, why consider it? "

Ah I see... I should have said, what I mean is that I've only ever had 1 on 1 experiences, so a 3rd person being involved (or even involved in sexual chat), well I think I would feel akward as its new... just not a 'typical' situation ive had so its the unknown

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By *ansoffateMan
32 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

Some couples will be comfortable with meeting separately, communicating separately others won't.

I've been in relationships where we meet separately and met people in relationships separately it's not uncommon, just be clear and don't make assumptions.

I think as long as you state what you are comfortable with and respect their boundaries, you will be fine. Read their profile, many will have those kinds of details on there already.

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By *ayjay19xMan
32 weeks ago

Bromley / Lewisham / Croydon

"Ahoy, matey! Sounds like you're navigating uncharted waters in the dating sea. But remember, joining a couple's chat without a paddle might leave you feeling like a lost sailor. Why not start by chatting with solo profiles? It's like learning to swim before attempting synchronized diving – less chance of a belly flop! Keep those conversations afloat, captain!

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By *TG3Man
32 weeks ago

Dorchester

"I've been wondering, as a straight male, but given I'm finding it very hard to get conversations going with women (no replies!), should I be considering MF couple (where the F can play alone)?

Anyone got any experience on this? I.e. do you have to just chat to a couple profile and accept the man will be part of the conversation?

As a newbie, this feels a little uncomfortable for me :/"
If you can't get a woman to chat what makes you think a couple is a better option? Two people looking at your profile instead of one?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
32 weeks ago

"I've been wondering, as a straight male, but given I'm finding it very hard to get conversations going with women (no replies!), should I be considering MF couple (where the F can play alone)?

Anyone got any experience on this? I.e. do you have to just chat to a couple profile and accept the man will be part of the conversation?

As a newbie, this feels a little uncomfortable for me :/If you can't get a woman to chat what makes you think a couple is a better option? Two people looking at your profile instead of one?

Thats actually a very good point!! Haha

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By * and R cple4Couple
32 weeks ago

swansea

"You don’t have to do anything. Pursuing couples as a last resort when you already know that makes you feel uncomfortable, isn’t great is it?

As someone who meets alone, anyone I chat to has to be comfortable and mindful that I have a husband and acknowledge he exists.

Finding a couple where one half meets alone isn’t a cheat code to getting women.

You go on to say it’s makes you uncomfortable. If you already know it’s going to make you feel uncomfortable, why consider it?

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Every couple has a different dynamics but alot of the couples we know that are into the hot wife dynamics the husband has no involvement in any of the sex chat the only involvement they have is making sure their wife is safe which is understandable..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
32 weeks ago

"Another thing you might not have considered - straight guys meet couples all the time. I don't mean Fab straight. I mean straight straight. Threesomes are great.

(Like couples, they're also not a last chance saloon for guys who aren't getting replies from women, which I agree is what your OP sounds like)"

Hmm what do you mean by Fab Straight compared to straight straint??

Never had a threesome so cant comment on if they're great or not

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By *naswingdressWoman
32 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Another thing you might not have considered - straight guys meet couples all the time. I don't mean Fab straight. I mean straight straight. Threesomes are great.

(Like couples, they're also not a last chance saloon for guys who aren't getting replies from women, which I agree is what your OP sounds like)

Hmm what do you mean by Fab Straight compared to straight straint??

Never had a threesome so cant comment on if they're great or not

Some men here claim to be straight while playing with men. It's often called "Fab straight".

I was just saying, I don't doubt your sexuality is what you say it is, and playing with a couple doesn't mean you are attracted to men.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
32 weeks ago

"Another thing you might not have considered - straight guys meet couples all the time. I don't mean Fab straight. I mean straight straight. Threesomes are great.

(Like couples, they're also not a last chance saloon for guys who aren't getting replies from women, which I agree is what your OP sounds like)

Hmm what do you mean by Fab Straight compared to straight straint??

Never had a threesome so cant comment on if they're great or not

Some men here claim to be straight while playing with men. It's often called "Fab straight".

I was just saying, I don't doubt your sexuality is what you say it is, and playing with a couple doesn't mean you are attracted to men."

Hmm interesting... like a typical straight bloke ive only ever thought of the ffm scenario

I'm so steriotypical oops haha

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By *ueerKinkyCoupleCouple
32 weeks ago

Cambridge (She/They And They/Them)

Hi OP

Are you actually into swinging and non-monogamy? Because they both involve the existence of "others".

There are women who meet alone (I'm one of them) but, if they're in a relationship, their partner is an important part of the dynamic even if they're not present.

Maybe have a think about why you're on this site rather than a dating or hook up site.

Dee

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By *ueerKinkyCoupleCouple
32 weeks ago

Cambridge (She/They And They/Them)

"Hmm interesting... like a typical straight bloke ive only ever thought of the ffm scenario

I'm so steriotypical oops haha"

I have a vast amount of experience of MFF and most blokes don't cope well at all!

(I've also had amazing experiences of MFF but it's always been with very relaxed guys who haven't imagined that everything that takes place is for them (sex with them all covered in women or a live porn show performed for them)).

Dee

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By *uicy PumpkinWoman
32 weeks ago

Narberth

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By *uicy PumpkinWoman
32 weeks ago

Narberth

"I don't think that would go well: you're essentially saying that you will tolerate that one half of the profile exists, but you don't want them involved if it can be helped.

You might get more replies, but they might not be very polite.

If you don't want to meet couples, don't message couples.

Sane thought process here.. why would married women lower the bar or settle for something that no single woman or choosing?

Maybe think about what failing in your approach towards women instead?

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
32 weeks ago

Coventry

I'm straight, secure and I don't give a hoot what a man's sexuallity is to be fair. Just as long as we gel and we get on as humans (personality and team work is so important), my boundaries/sexuallity is respected and we give Mrs Misfit a great time (while having a great one ourselves). I likewise have no problems with Mrs Misfit having a great time on her own with the right guy.

However here's my problem with what you're proposing. You're indicating a threesome is a reluctant compromise to get your dick wet. That's no good to us and I'm sure no good to other couples. Because we only want awesome encounters. So why would we want to invite a guy for a MFM encounter if he's not wholeheartedly into that dynamic and completely comfortable with it and others? Not after second best, after guys who genuinely enjoy and thrive in that MFM dynamic.

Although that is us. There's many couples out there where the male likes to watch/film but not take part and some couples happy to send Mrs off on her own adventures. So please read the profiles because you may find some out there. But understand the majority of couples only play together. If that's not a situation your completely happy with it will tell.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
32 weeks ago

"I don't think that would go well: you're essentially saying that you will tolerate that one half of the profile exists, but you don't want them involved if it can be helped.

You might get more replies, but they might not be very polite.

If you don't want to meet couples, don't message couples.

Sane thought process here.. why would married women lower the bar or settle for something that no single woman or choosing?

Maybe think about what failing in your approach towards women instead?"

Yes, fully agree with this!

So in conclusion, I think we agree that looking at couple accounts could still provide good matches, but if my profile, approach, looks, etc aren't desirable, then it's irrelivant if its a single or couple account!

Makes total sense to be fair, but good to talk it through

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