FabSwingers.com forum: Time poverty

By *isfits behaving badly OP Couple
33 weeks ago

Coventry

Inspired by another thread looking at money needed to enjoy the scene. It got me thinking about arguably a far more valuable commodity in the lifestyle, free time.

I know it's our biggest limiting factor.

How does the availability of free time affect your enjoyment and opportunities? Is it a serious limiting factor or are free and unhindered to enjoy the lifestyle whenever you want?

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
33 weeks ago

Staffordshire

It’s the biggest factor in our meeting process.

We have so little spare time together that we have to really wanna meet someone to make it happen.

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By *ivemealadybonerWoman
33 weeks ago

somewhere

Let's reply from the perspective of when we were living the lifestyle (can't now as we aren't swinging anymore).

Before I started working in a hotel and doing shift work, attending clubs used to be really easy for us but most Friday or Saturday nights once I started shift work, I would be working til 11.

Meeting anyone was kinda easier I guess as I either had a morning or afternoon free x

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
33 weeks ago

Wherever

Lack of time is a the biggest obstacle for me.

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By *agnar73Man
33 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

Lack of time at the right time is my biggest hurdle.

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By *emorefridaCouple
33 weeks ago

La la land

Lack of time, due to kids, friends, family etc without even considering time for us.

We would put a gig we want to go to before anything from here tbh.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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33 weeks ago

East Sussex

We're retired so in theory should have acres of free time. However my dad's 97 so needs us and we have a million and one hobbies and other activities. Swinging is fairly low on our priority list

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
33 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon

Been stood up or ghosted quite slot on here. So Im very protective of my time now.

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By *TG3Man
33 weeks ago

Dorchester

I devote my time to enjoying my life so i have time to do that that pleases me

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
33 weeks ago

Staffordshire

"Lack of time, due to kids, friends, family etc without even considering time for us.

We would put a gig we want to go to before anything from here tbh. "

So going to a gig with some gig type people from here would be a great use of time

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By *herry-blossomWoman
33 weeks ago

Stafford

Makes it worse if people waste your time, don't show up, cancel last minute or ghost you. I don't get lots of time to myself, I don't have time for a relationship as such, so this has to be a tight run ship to get my fun. Add into this mother nature's surprise visits and I am pretty sure my patience is thread bare, with time issues!

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By *emorefridaCouple
33 weeks ago

La la land

"Lack of time, due to kids, friends, family etc without even considering time for us.

We would put a gig we want to go to before anything from here tbh.

So going to a gig with some gig type people from here would be a great use of time

This I could definitely get on board with

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By *apybarasCouple
33 weeks ago

High Lighthouse!

My dad has always said (though probably not about swinging), there's two things you need in life, time and money, and they never come at the same time.

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

"Inspired by another thread looking at money needed to enjoy the scene. It got me thinking about arguably a far more valuable commodity in the lifestyle, free time.

I know it's our biggest limiting factor.

How does the availability of free time affect your enjoyment and opportunities? Is it a serious limiting factor or are free and unhindered to enjoy the lifestyle whenever you want?"

I have one free evening every 6 months.

I'm currently planning for 2030 around October if anyone is free?

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
33 weeks ago

North West

"Inspired by another thread looking at money needed to enjoy the scene. It got me thinking about arguably a far more valuable commodity in the lifestyle, free time.

I know it's our biggest limiting factor.

How does the availability of free time affect your enjoyment and opportunities? Is it a serious limiting factor or are free and unhindered to enjoy the lifestyle whenever you want?"

It's THE limiting factor, along with its cousin, lack of childcare in the evenings (or any time).

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

Having young kids and virtually no sitters, makes arranging anything super difficult if it involves both of us.

Any free time we do manage to get is usually used up spending time with each other or friends. It’s tough.

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By *ealitybitesMan
33 weeks ago

Belfast

As I said in the other thread, this isn't a lifestyle choice for me. It's only a hobby.

I don't invest a lot of time in fab or fab related activities and there are many more things that are greater priorities.

I haven't met anyone new in 4 years, haven't been to a social in 18 months and overlapping work schedules leave very little time or energy to even meet with friends.

I could make time if illness and other issues hadn't completely destroyed my mojo so a lot of my time poverty is down to lack of motivation and being physically unable to meet the way I would like to

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

I’m easy to meet up with if time is the only factor.

…anyone fancy a beer in the pub round the corner? …

^see.

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By * and R cple4Couple
33 weeks ago

swansea

We are lucky in that we have 9 to 5 jobs and we had our kids young and they are all adults now and we are still young enough to enjoy ourselves..

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By *ee69Man
33 weeks ago

glasgow

A find that folk who are more affluent and have time can enjoy and do better so to speak , or they appear too anyway, I find the scene pretty middle class tbh

Will prob upset folk by say that , just my experience off it , a few different folk tho, am pretty new on this site but did the club thing before and was totally out off place lol compared to everyone else lol , a like it here for a nosey but do better on other sites , to go back to your question tho , time is money , so would certainly help having more free time

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By *hatsWhatCoupleCouple
33 weeks ago

Northampton

We are very time poor and as such don’t mess about with socials or chatting on here or other platforms.

We learnt very quickly how much time can be wasted so now, almost exclusively, we meet in clubs. We’ll arrange to not exclusively (we’re not dating) meet a few people at a club on a night we are going. If we all click, great, if not, great.

We’re straight with this from the start and it works well for us.

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By *ee69Man
33 weeks ago

glasgow

"We are very time poor and as such don’t mess about with socials or chatting on here or other platforms.

We’re straight with this from the start and it works well for us.

Xx"

A find any interaction online weather in the scene or dating , hook up etc is mainly time consuming and with its probs lol , glad the club scene works for you though , unfortunately it’s just no for me

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By *uri00620Woman
33 weeks ago

Croydon

I have loads of time, just lack of childcare is the limiting factor for meets.

I won't be meeting until sleepovers are a thing. That's still years away! I don't think I'm missing out though.

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By *ee69Man
33 weeks ago

glasgow

"I have loads of time, just lack of childcare is the limiting factor for meets.

I won't be meeting until sleepovers are a thing. That's still years away! I don't think I'm missing out though. "

Sure you will make up for it Mrs , no want to cause offence or annoy you but your stunning by way , happy fabing

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By *ames250122Man
33 weeks ago

Worcester

"Inspired by another thread looking at money needed to enjoy the scene. It got me thinking about arguably a far more valuable commodity in the lifestyle, free time.

I know it's our biggest limiting factor.

How does the availability of free time affect your enjoyment and opportunities? Is it a serious limiting factor or are free and unhindered to enjoy the lifestyle whenever you want?"

Time wise I’m pretty unhindered outside of work as I’m single and don’t have kids. Occasional things clash but that’s not a problem to work around.

However I realise and appreciate it’s not the same for everyone else, especially for couples or if they have kids so I try to be as flexible as possible and work around what limited times they are free to chat/ meet. Then if meeting with them, I try my best to make sure that time together is special and memorable as I appreciate it take a lot for them to arrange a meet x

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By *weetiepie99Woman
33 weeks ago

cardiff

Time isn't an issue for me. My kids are older, I am single, I do work strange hours but that's it really.

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By *isfits behaving badly OP Couple
33 weeks ago

Coventry

"We are very time poor and as such don’t mess about with socials or chatting on here or other platforms.

We’re straight with this from the start and it works well for us.

Xx"

That's exactly why we are club swingers. We can make clubs fit into our calendar without having to work around others and without risk. However the difficulty happens when we meet people in a club and we all want to arrange something out side of the club. The list of people we're planning to meet again with is growing faster than we can organise the meets

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By *luefire2Couple
33 weeks ago

just somewhere around here

I work shifts, which can be starting as early as 4.45am or finishing as late as 1.30am. I only get about one in four weekends off too. So this makes "normal" Weekend meets really difficult. We try and work around it as much as we can.

Mrs R

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
33 weeks ago

little house on the praire

A lot of us have young children at some stage I was a single mother.

You have to fit things in when you can. Then they grow up and you have plenty more time to enjoy swinging

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By *isfits behaving badly OP Couple
33 weeks ago

Coventry

"I work shifts, which can be starting as early as 4.45am or finishing as late as 1.30am. I only get about one in four weekends off too. So this makes "normal" Weekend meets really difficult. We try and work around it as much as we can.

Mrs R"

That's very similar for me (Mr). Very similar shifts and 1 out of every 3 Saturdays off when I get a long weekend. To be if I'm working an early shift on a Saturday I'm free in the evening. But with the earliest start 3.30am as you'll know lasting till the early hours of the following morning is an effort. Then add into the mix we are both single parents and family life is demanding onto of work. However life you guys we do the best we can. There are on some weeks we're both off the same day mid week. Or we have time in morning/afternoon. However the rest of the world doesn't follow the same awkward but fixed shift rotation. Luckily our favourite Club is not too far away and open 6 days a week (daytime and evening) so it at least gives us some options.

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By *r_PinkMan
33 weeks ago

london stratford

my biggest problem is lack of interest!

As for a llllllllllloooooooooooooonnnnnnnngggggggg time, no one has been interested in me

***sits in the corner and sulks!!!!!!

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By *isfits behaving badly OP Couple
33 weeks ago

Coventry

"A lot of us have young children at some stage I was a single mother.

You have to fit things in when you can. Then they grow up and you have plenty more time to enjoy swinging"

We're both single parents. Mrs Misfits are older and she was nearly home a dry when I met her. But then I brought a 2 and 5 year old (at the time) into the equation. Many years down the line but still many more till we get that independence.

Ironically it's being a single parent that partly brought me to fab. It gave me opportunities for causal personal and physical connections that worked around my kids. Especially because so many single mums on here who understood my restrictions and more willing and able to work with them. And it's through fab we met.

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By *ellhungvweMan
33 weeks ago

Cheltenham

The kids are my priority and take up a decent chunk of my time but outside of that I am _very_ lucky in that I can generally structure my calendar to suit me. That freedom to set my own time is liberating and I do protect it quite strongly.

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

"Inspired by another thread looking at money needed to enjoy the scene. It got me thinking about arguably a far more valuable commodity in the lifestyle, free time.

I know it's our biggest limiting factor.

How does the availability of free time affect your enjoyment and opportunities? Is it a serious limiting factor or are free and unhindered to enjoy the lifestyle whenever you want?

I have one free evening every 6 months.

I'm currently planning for 2030 around October if anyone is free? "

I should finally meet the age filter standards you've set, by then.

Unless you +1 them as each year goes by.

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By *illy IdolMan
33 weeks ago

Midlands

Time is always the biggest hurdle, which is why I love a daytime meet. Even if it means booking time off work

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By *sWyldWoman
33 weeks ago

Edinburgh

I lack free time in my life for anything. Partly through choice, partly through necessity.

When I do find time, meeting new people is very, very, very far down my priority list.

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By *agnar73Man
33 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

Sort of bemoaning myself just now, but rushing to do stuff would be worse than not.

Bad start to day didn’t help.

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