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By (user no longer on site) OP   
32 weeks ago

Which has kind of blown my mind a bit.

I’ve looked on Google (so it *must* be true, right? ) that 30-50% of people DON’T have one!

How do they rationalise their thoughts if they’re not “talking to themselves” in their mind?

Even now my inner voice is saying “right, time for a cup of tea!”

Do you have an inner monologue? If not how do you process / rationalise information?

I’m intrigued to know!

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By *hrek101Man
32 weeks ago

Herts


"Which has kind of blown my mind a bit.

I’ve looked on Google (so it *must* be true, right? ) that 30-50% of people DON’T have one!

How do they rationalise their thoughts if they’re not “talking to themselves” in their mind?

Even now my inner voice is saying “right, time for a cup of tea!”

Do you have an inner monologue? If not how do you process / rationalise information?

I’m intrigued to know! "

I have an outer monologue

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
32 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

There's no words. I'm aware of what I'm doing and how it feels and what the next steps are, but it's not in words. There's no narrator.

When it comes to words I just have to open my mouth or start typing to see what the words are.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
32 weeks ago

Staffordshire

More inner dialogue than is healthy I’d say.

It’s a result of spending so much work time alone with only music and my own thoughts for company.

I wonder… Has anyone ever attached a familiar voice to their inner voice?

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
32 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon

My inner monologue even has ad breaks and season trailers.

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

I have 5

Each voice tell me something different

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By *omRPMan
32 weeks ago

North Curry

I was mind blown when I first heard this. I have an internal monologue. Sometime two, debating, which causes a lot of over thinking.

I’ve a close friend whose mind is more visual and he thinks with images, so it’s more a silent video feed.

I’ve another friend who has neither. Which confused the heck out of me.

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By *eliWoman
32 weeks ago

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This is going to sound weird and I know that but I don't really care. Thought I'd caveat it nevertheless, though.

I don't have an internal monologue as such, it's more an internal typewriter so those words sort of appear in my mind on a sheet of paper and then get added to. Where it gets interesting is when I have to make a decision and end up doing a mental pros and cons list. I don't really have an inner voice it's more an inner library that gets added to.

I think I'm odd. I should stop typing. :D

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By *esthetic21Man
32 weeks ago

Birmingham/Bristol

It's hard to get your head around that

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By *ayRyuMan
32 weeks ago

Harrogate


"This is going to sound weird and I know that but I don't really care. Thought I'd caveat it nevertheless, though.

I don't have an internal monologue as such, it's more an internal typewriter so those words sort of appear in my mind on a sheet of paper and then get added to. Where it gets interesting is when I have to make a decision and end up doing a mental pros and cons list. I don't really have an inner voice it's more an inner library that gets added to.

I think I'm odd. I should stop typing. :D "

Is it an old fashioned clickety click typewriter? That'd be pretty cool

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By *ell GwynnWoman
32 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

I have visuals, music, the inner monologue and a few smells thrown in there as well. I can't imagine not having any of those components in my thoughts.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
32 weeks ago


"I have visuals, music, the inner monologue and a few smells thrown in there as well. I can't imagine not having any of those components in my thoughts."

Likewise - all of the above.

I can’t think how I would function without the words there too.

But I guess I used to function ok before I could talk.

How did I think then? It’s making my head hurt thinking about it!

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By *ornycougaWoman
32 weeks ago

Wherever I lay my hat

My head and my heart regularly have conversations. Usually they are amicable but they have had some right ding dongs!

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
32 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry

Loved learning about the inner dialogue during my undergraduate...

Russell Hurlburt, arguably the grandfather of “inner experience” research, came up with five categories; inner speaking (voice), inner seeing (pictures/images), feelings (happy, sad), sensory awareness (carpet beneath our feet), and unsymbolized thinking (which basically includes awareness of a thought but without words or pictures).

Mr

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By *ittlebirdWoman
32 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

There’s a whole party going on in my head not just an inner monologue

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By *ANDA!Man
32 weeks ago

DUMFRIES

I've an inner monologue, then I also have at least 2 critics of my monologue. Thats what the meds are for but they don't really work

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By *illan-KillashMan
32 weeks ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants

My inner monologue frequently becomes my outer monologue. Maybe I need to adjust my filters.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
32 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

Yep. It's even written about in my bio and been there for an absolute age.

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By *eitanMan
32 weeks ago

East Sussex

I was mind blown relatively recently when my ex told me she has Aphantasia which is a condition where some people are unable to visualise mental images. This means that they cannot form mental pictures or images in their minds, even when they try to imagine or recall memories

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By *hrek101Man
32 weeks ago

Herts

I spend a lot of time alone especially at the weekend when I may not speak to another human so I talk to myself, have conversations out loud with the inner me. In my head i see it exactly as me but like a ghost version.

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By *enelope PitstopWoman
32 weeks ago

Lincoln

I have ADHD so it's more than just a monologue...usually self commentary, various thought streams, sensory feedback, having an external conversation and at least one piece of a song...not the whole thing, usually just a phrase especially if it's an unusual word or cadence...

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By *ealitybitesMan
32 weeks ago

Belfast

Some people suffer from aphantasia and are unable to visualise or fantasise.

I have it to a lesser degree as well as anhedonia, one side affect of which is an inability to experience nervous anticipation or excitement or for events to leave a lasting effect.

Any internal monologue that I do have is basically trying and failing repeatedly to make sense of anything that is not in the now.

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By *issBellaWoman
32 weeks ago

Wales

I do, I think there's a couple of them in there.

I have the flirty one that almost purrs as she talks.. she's a right tart.

The irrational one that's close to the edge all the time. Constantly not nit picking at everything I say and do and the consequences of it all.

The hungry one who just mutters filthy food talk at me, she tends to win out of them all.

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By *till gameMan
32 weeks ago

two doors down


"More inner dialogue than is healthy I’d say.

It’s a result of spending so much work time alone with only music and my own thoughts for company.

I wonder… Has anyone ever attached a familiar voice to their inner voice?

"

Yeah mine is rab c Nesbit, I’ll tell ye this boy

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By *ANDA!Man
32 weeks ago

DUMFRIES


" I talk to myself, have conversations out loud with the inner me. "

Snap. But I call it "consulting an expert"

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By *hrek101Man
32 weeks ago

Herts


"I have ADHD so it's more than just a monologue...usually self commentary, various thought streams, sensory feedback, having an external conversation and at least one piece of a song...not the whole thing, usually just a phrase especially if it's an unusual word or cadence..."

Interesting

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
32 weeks ago

North West

I don't have an inner monologue. I don't visualise things, e.g. if asked the imagine a lovely beach, I can't. Nothing "appears" in my head. It's caused problems, such as when I was referred for pain psychotherapy. Everything was about imagining this or visualise that. I had nothing. It was completely pointless and ridiculous to me, but I was labelled a non compliant patient instead.

Yay! I'm broken

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
32 weeks ago

Staffordshire


"More inner dialogue than is healthy I’d say.

It’s a result of spending so much work time alone with only music and my own thoughts for company.

I wonder… Has anyone ever attached a familiar voice to their inner voice?

Yeah mine is rab c Nesbit, I’ll tell ye this boy "

I really hope that doesn’t come with the visual aspect too

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By *hrek101Man
32 weeks ago

Herts


"I don't have an inner monologue. I don't visualise things, e.g. if asked the imagine a lovely beach, I can't. Nothing "appears" in my head. It's caused problems, such as when I was referred for pain psychotherapy. Everything was about imagining this or visualise that. I had nothing. It was completely pointless and ridiculous to me, but I was labelled a non compliant patient instead.

Yay! I'm broken "

I assume you don't day dream then? Or dream at night?

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
32 weeks ago

North West


"I don't have an inner monologue. I don't visualise things, e.g. if asked the imagine a lovely beach, I can't. Nothing "appears" in my head. It's caused problems, such as when I was referred for pain psychotherapy. Everything was about imagining this or visualise that. I had nothing. It was completely pointless and ridiculous to me, but I was labelled a non compliant patient instead.

Yay! I'm broken

I assume you don't day dream then? Or dream at night?"

I sometimes dream if I'm in that dozing state in the early morning, but I rarely recall anything. I don't think

I daydream, no, but honestly, I'm not sure what a daydream would actually look/feel like

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
32 weeks ago


"I don't have an inner monologue. I don't visualise things, e.g. if asked the imagine a lovely beach, I can't. Nothing "appears" in my head. It's caused problems, such as when I was referred for pain psychotherapy. Everything was about imagining this or visualise that. I had nothing. It was completely pointless and ridiculous to me, but I was labelled a non compliant patient instead.

Yay! I'm broken "

Ah that’s really interesting. Often if I’m stressed or worried about something I’ll think of that upcoming holiday or day at the beach etc - that can really help.

I can’t visualise NOT being able to visualise if that makes sense!

I’ve always assumed everyone just thinks (mostly) the same way. Obviously not!

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By *hrek101Man
32 weeks ago

Herts


"I don't have an inner monologue. I don't visualise things, e.g. if asked the imagine a lovely beach, I can't. Nothing "appears" in my head. It's caused problems, such as when I was referred for pain psychotherapy. Everything was about imagining this or visualise that. I had nothing. It was completely pointless and ridiculous to me, but I was labelled a non compliant patient instead.

Yay! I'm broken

I assume you don't day dream then? Or dream at night?

I sometimes dream if I'm in that dozing state in the early morning, but I rarely recall anything. I don't think

I daydream, no, but honestly, I'm not sure what a daydream would actually look/feel like "

sorry for more questions. So at night is your mind "quiet"?

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By *he Flat CapsCouple
32 weeks ago

Pontypool


"I was mind blown relatively recently when my ex told me she has Aphantasia which is a condition where some people are unable to visualise mental images. This means that they cannot form mental pictures or images in their minds, even when they try to imagine or recall memories "

My daughter has this, which for an artist you would think would be pretty tricky. So long as she has a point of reference she's ok.

Also, if you asked her to describe me and I wasn't in the room with her, she could tell you my hair colour and that's about it. She can't recall any other features. She recognises me once she sees me, but can't picture me when I'm not with her.

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By *ulfilthmentMan
32 weeks ago

Just around the corner

What kind of weirdos don’t have one? I even have one for the dog.

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By *itaandJohnCouple
32 weeks ago

Bristol


"I was mind blown relatively recently when my ex told me she has Aphantasia which is a condition where some people are unable to visualise mental images. This means that they cannot form mental pictures or images in their minds, even when they try to imagine or recall memories "

We found out about aphantasia a few months back from a podcast and it was fascinating to learn about. Also realised that I (John) have it and it suddenly made some of my personal interests and traits make a lot more sense, like my love for photography and capturing visual memories in that form, as I'm unable to visualise memories, people, objects etc in my mind. It's interesting how aphantasia was only discovered relatively recently as well.

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By *till gameMan
32 weeks ago

two doors down


"More inner dialogue than is healthy I’d say.

It’s a result of spending so much work time alone with only music and my own thoughts for company.

I wonder… Has anyone ever attached a familiar voice to their inner voice?

Yeah mine is rab c Nesbit, I’ll tell ye this boy

I really hope that doesn’t come with the visual aspect too

"

Well in reality I do sound like him anyway and some say on a good day I look like him to

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
32 weeks ago

Central

It's peculiar that we often assume that others' experiences are going to be the same as our own. I struggle to imagine life without my other inner mind talking

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

There are times I wish I didn't have an internal monologue. The amount of time saved overthinking certain things that exhaust the fuck out of me would be amazing

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By *lder.Woman
32 weeks ago

Not Local

It's not always inner, I'm often caught mumbling to myself and people ask who I am talking to.

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By *eitanMan
32 weeks ago

East Sussex

Reading that still blows my mind, props to her for pursuing art with that disposition!

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By *a LunaWoman
32 weeks ago

South Wales

I do. I have some wonderful conversations with myself.

And I’m never lonely because I’m always there. Annoying myself.

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By *ellhungvweMan
32 weeks ago

Cheltenham


"There's no words. I'm aware of what I'm doing and how it feels and what the next steps are, but it's not in words. There's no narrator.

When it comes to words I just have to open my mouth or start typing to see what the words are."

Pretty much this

I know what I think but I don’t have a voice talking to me. If I had a voice in my head then that would be weird to me.

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By *ansoffateMan
32 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

Ironically, I just made a cup of tea and I can honestly say there was no internal narrative to that process.

I don't think it's that peculiar, if you talk to artists or athletes many will talk about being in the 'zone' or the 'pocket'. Where they no longer think they just do. This kind of optimal state of harmoniousness between mind and body is a fundamental aspect of Wu Wei in Taoism. Where it's practiced intentionally with that purpose. In martial arts people train such that their natural responses to sensory data bypass thought that would cause delay. The same could be said of dance.

All organisms learn to reflexively respond to their environment and needs. Why we would believe that thinking is superior to feeling, I find rather an arbitrary assumption.

Is it a perpetual state, no absolutely not. It's a desirable one for me though. I'm glad I can make a brew from muscle memory. Always seem to be the ones that taste best too.

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

Narrator - Woody puts his hand up at the back of the class hoping to get the op’s attention. .. after a while of noticing the ladies in the thread getting answered and flirted with he sits in his chair and thinking to himself…

’ I have an inner monologue, I thought it was normal’ …

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By *emonbuttercreamWoman
32 weeks ago

Birmingham

I find this so interesting! I was shocked when I found out too. My brain never switches off. I'm constantly thinking about something, talking to myself in my head, no matter what I am doing the voice and thoughts never switch off until I'm asleep but even trying to sleep is a nightmare as I can't stop myself from talking. I'm good at visualising too but I wouldn't say it is crystal clear. I am a huge daydreamer too. I get carried away with scenarios in my head for hours at a time. It's exhausting.

I look at my partner sometimes and I just know there's nothing going on up there and I'm so jealous.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
32 weeks ago


"Ironically, I just made a cup of tea and I can honestly say there was no internal narrative to that process.

I don't think it's that peculiar, if you talk to artists or athletes many will talk about being in the 'zone' or the 'pocket'. Where they no longer think they just do. This kind of optimal state of harmoniousness between mind and body is a fundamental aspect of Wu Wei in Taoism. Where it's practiced intentionally with that purpose. In martial arts people train such that their natural responses to sensory data bypass thought that would cause delay. The same could be said of dance.

All organisms learn to reflexively respond to their environment and needs. Why we would believe that thinking is superior to feeling, I find rather an arbitrary assumption.

Is it a perpetual state, no absolutely not. It's a desirable one for me though. I'm glad I can make a brew from muscle memory. Always seem to be the ones that taste best too."

I can understand all that - kind of like times I’ve driven somewhere and I end up safely at my destination and done all of the proper indications, stopping at signals, braking, being aware of others around me and what they’re doing etc but when I get there I realise that I’ve done pretty much the whole journey on auto-pilot and can’t really remember anything about it at all.

I’m guessing it must be the same for people with no inner dialogue.

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By *hrek101Man
32 weeks ago

Herts

If I have something to focus on I get hyper focused but with nothing to focus on I'm in a day dream. Can't sleep at night without something playing to stop my mind racing. When I dream it's really vivid.

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By *lderflower_AppleWoman
32 weeks ago

Basingstoke

No inner dialogue here. It's a very lonely world, mine! I do however, always count my steps in my head when I'm out walking, running, on the cross trainer, etc. I seem to go up to eight then start again. Does that count?

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
32 weeks ago

North West


"I don't have an inner monologue. I don't visualise things, e.g. if asked the imagine a lovely beach, I can't. Nothing "appears" in my head. It's caused problems, such as when I was referred for pain psychotherapy. Everything was about imagining this or visualise that. I had nothing. It was completely pointless and ridiculous to me, but I was labelled a non compliant patient instead.

Yay! I'm broken

I assume you don't day dream then? Or dream at night?

I sometimes dream if I'm in that dozing state in the early morning, but I rarely recall anything. I don't think

I daydream, no, but honestly, I'm not sure what a daydream would actually look/feel like sorry for more questions. So at night is your mind "quiet"?"

I do think through things I need to do for the next day, but it's very procedural/planning. I'm mainly affected badly by hot flushes and night sweats from menopause, which keep me awake. Not thinking about life.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
32 weeks ago

North West


"No inner dialogue here. It's a very lonely world, mine! I do however, always count my steps in my head when I'm out walking, running, on the cross trainer, etc. I seem to go up to eight then start again. Does that count?"

I lose count when I'm in the gym! It's embarrassing

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By *ellhungvweMan
32 weeks ago

Cheltenham


"No inner dialogue here. It's a very lonely world, mine! I do however, always count my steps in my head when I'm out walking, running, on the cross trainer, etc. I seem to go up to eight then start again. Does that count?

I lose count when I'm in the gym! It's embarrassing "

One, two, fuck it that is too heavy?

Thats my normal gym counting.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
32 weeks ago

North West


"No inner dialogue here. It's a very lonely world, mine! I do however, always count my steps in my head when I'm out walking, running, on the cross trainer, etc. I seem to go up to eight then start again. Does that count?

I lose count when I'm in the gym! It's embarrassing

One, two, fuck it that is too heavy?

Thats my normal gym counting."

I count but then see something or someone or something in my line of sight then lose count

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By *icecouple561Couple
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32 weeks ago

East Sussex

If I don't know if I have one does it mean I don't?

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By *ivemealadybonerWoman
32 weeks ago

somewhere

My sister said something quite profound growing up as she is "talker to ones self", I asked her why she did that outloud and she said "I always get the right answer that way".

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

Imagine not having voices in your head. Must be nice

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By *edeWoman
32 weeks ago

the abyss

I want a mute button for mine as they are a right troublesome bunch!!

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By *ansoffateMan
32 weeks ago

Sagittarius A


"Ironically, I just made a cup of tea and I can honestly say there was no internal narrative to that process.

I don't think it's that peculiar, if you talk to artists or athletes many will talk about being in the 'zone' or the 'pocket'. Where they no longer think they just do. This kind of optimal state of harmoniousness between mind and body is a fundamental aspect of Wu Wei in Taoism. Where it's practiced intentionally with that purpose. In martial arts people train such that their natural responses to sensory data bypass thought that would cause delay. The same could be said of dance.

All organisms learn to reflexively respond to their environment and needs. Why we would believe that thinking is superior to feeling, I find rather an arbitrary assumption.

Is it a perpetual state, no absolutely not. It's a desirable one for me though. I'm glad I can make a brew from muscle memory. Always seem to be the ones that taste best too.

I can understand all that - kind of like times I’ve driven somewhere and I end up safely at my destination and done all of the proper indications, stopping at signals, braking, being aware of others around me and what they’re doing etc but when I get there I realise that I’ve done pretty much the whole journey on auto-pilot and can’t really remember anything about it at all.

I’m guessing it must be the same for people with no inner dialogue. "

I think that's a very apt example. Also, maybe worth noting that the same thing sometimes leads me into taking the wrong route, out of habit

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By *ot to giggleWoman
32 weeks ago

Coventry

i was amazed when i first found out people's minds thought differently. I compartmentalise and everything has its place. I see things, so when i write something down i can see it - live it - i can see the list that is sitting of the fridge and can recall all the details that are written on it as if im reading it . sometimes parts of the picture are missing but i thought everyone had a 'tidy' head space.

I do have conversations in my head but it comes with pictures.

I had a conversation with a clinical supervisor and we were talking about the colour yellow - the whole room was yellow and she said even she thought it. It can be hateful at times, i sort of know what someone is thinking if i focus hard, but that is draining.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
32 weeks ago

North West


"Ironically, I just made a cup of tea and I can honestly say there was no internal narrative to that process.

I don't think it's that peculiar, if you talk to artists or athletes many will talk about being in the 'zone' or the 'pocket'. Where they no longer think they just do. This kind of optimal state of harmoniousness between mind and body is a fundamental aspect of Wu Wei in Taoism. Where it's practiced intentionally with that purpose. In martial arts people train such that their natural responses to sensory data bypass thought that would cause delay. The same could be said of dance.

All organisms learn to reflexively respond to their environment and needs. Why we would believe that thinking is superior to feeling, I find rather an arbitrary assumption.

Is it a perpetual state, no absolutely not. It's a desirable one for me though. I'm glad I can make a brew from muscle memory. Always seem to be the ones that taste best too.

I can understand all that - kind of like times I’ve driven somewhere and I end up safely at my destination and done all of the proper indications, stopping at signals, braking, being aware of others around me and what they’re doing etc but when I get there I realise that I’ve done pretty much the whole journey on auto-pilot and can’t really remember anything about it at all.

I’m guessing it must be the same for people with no inner dialogue.

I think that's a very apt example. Also, maybe worth noting that the same thing sometimes leads me into taking the wrong route, out of habit "

I do this far too often! Set off towards home automatically, despite on that particular evening needing to collect Mr KC and/or our daughter from somewhere! I've had to divert a few times

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By *ansoffateMan
32 weeks ago

Sagittarius A


"

I think that's a very apt example. Also, maybe worth noting that the same thing sometimes leads me into taking the wrong route, out of habit

I do this far too often! Set off towards home automatically, despite on that particular evening needing to collect Mr KC and/or our daughter from somewhere! I've had to divert a few times "

I put the sat nav on just to prevent it and I still do it.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
32 weeks ago

North West


"

I think that's a very apt example. Also, maybe worth noting that the same thing sometimes leads me into taking the wrong route, out of habit

I do this far too often! Set off towards home automatically, despite on that particular evening needing to collect Mr KC and/or our daughter from somewhere! I've had to divert a few times

I put the sat nav on just to prevent it and I still do it. "

I'm too stingy to pay for the "live" subscription for my car Satnav, so it's next to useless in the rush hour etc. I use Google Maps on my phone to decide a route before leaving; set off and then sometimes just head off on autopilot. I do usually remember I need to go to school or dance or whatever before getting too far along. I've not yet abandoned them

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By *agnar73Man
32 weeks ago

glasgow-ish


"I have 5

Each voice tell me something different "

Would have been disappointed if no inner voice for winko

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By *omKsubSMan
32 weeks ago

Newton

I have no inner monologue. I have to make a conscious effort to 'talk' to myself to sound things out.

It's also kinda pointless to ask me 'why I did that'... as often the decision process is a mystery to me too, I just decide and do.

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By *lexm87Man
32 weeks ago

Various


"I don't have an inner monologue. I don't visualise things, e.g. if asked the imagine a lovely beach, I can't. Nothing "appears" in my head. It's caused problems, such as when I was referred for pain psychotherapy. Everything was about imagining this or visualise that. I had nothing. It was completely pointless and ridiculous to me, but I was labelled a non compliant patient instead.

Yay! I'm broken "

A failure in treatment, probably down to them not listening. Sounds awfully like cbt. A decent chat with decent biscuits would have been more use.

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

I wish my inner monologue would just shut the hell up sometimes

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By *JcuriousCouple
32 weeks ago

Derby

I think this is wild that some people don't have it, it must be very quiet for them!!

Miss S x

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32 weeks ago

Huh

Are you sure?

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By *omKsubSMan
32 weeks ago

Newton


"I think this is wild that some people don't have it, it must be very quiet for them!!

Miss S x"

Very.

Partly why I dont mind if a meet can talk all 4 legs off a donkey.

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

Mine is like a running commentary, I wish it would shut the fuck up sometimes. The peace and quiet must be nice.

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By *ealitybitesMan
32 weeks ago

Belfast

I used to have an inner monologue until I was 40 and with illness and circumstances at the time that suddenly became like a broken record for almost a decade just repeating a particular phrase over and over without a break.

Eventually whatever was driving that ran out of juice and for the last decade it has been silent.

It's not always pleasant because it often feels as though something is broken.

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago


"I do. I have some wonderful conversations with myself.

And I’m never lonely because I’m always there. Annoying myself."

I’ve told mine to fuck off many times. The scary thing is he does. It’s so quiet.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
32 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon

*Glows inner monologue will continue after a word from our sponsors at Dormeo mattresses.

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By *ansoffateMan
32 weeks ago

Sagittarius A


"Imagine not having voices in your head. Must be nice "

True

Except for dissociation that's not so pleasant.

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By *ellhungvweMan
32 weeks ago

Cheltenham

People who say they have a voice in their head - do you actually mean that it is like someone else talking to you all the time? Does it have an accent? Can you shut it up?

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By *iddlesticksMan
32 weeks ago

My nan’s spare room.

I wonder how black males with average to small cocks feel.

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By *exyScientistsCouple
32 weeks ago

Castlebar

My inner monologue runs incessantly and when I'm tired it gets particularly self critical and judgemental.

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

The voices in my head argue with me a lot.

Sometimes the conversations are out loud. Luckily now, since many people talk on their mobiles when they are walking, no one seems to realise that I am a nutter.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
32 weeks ago


"People who say they have a voice in their head - do you actually mean that it is like someone else talking to you all the time? Does it have an accent? Can you shut it up?"

For me it’s my thoughts - in words.

So I’ve just put some shelves up for example, as I was doing it my thoughts / voice says I need to get the drill now for example.

It’s not a conversation with 2 people. My inner voice isn’t saying “how are you today, nice weather isn’t it”?

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By *ellhungvweMan
32 weeks ago

Cheltenham


"People who say they have a voice in their head - do you actually mean that it is like someone else talking to you all the time? Does it have an accent? Can you shut it up?

For me it’s my thoughts - in words.

So I’ve just put some shelves up for example, as I was doing it my thoughts / voice says I need to get the drill now for example.

It’s not a conversation with 2 people. My inner voice isn’t saying “how are you today, nice weather isn’t it”?

"

Is it all thoughts or just some?

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
32 weeks ago

North West


"I wonder how black males with average to small cocks feel. "

Come again?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
32 weeks ago


"People who say they have a voice in their head - do you actually mean that it is like someone else talking to you all the time? Does it have an accent? Can you shut it up?

For me it’s my thoughts - in words.

So I’ve just put some shelves up for example, as I was doing it my thoughts / voice says I need to get the drill now for example.

It’s not a conversation with 2 people. My inner voice isn’t saying “how are you today, nice weather isn’t it”?

Is it all thoughts or just some?"

Pretty much all

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
32 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross

Out of Kylie and Danni I prefer Kylie

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
32 weeks ago


"Out of Kylie and Danni I prefer Kylie"

There’s no accounting for taste.

#TeamDanni

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By *ellinever70Woman
32 weeks ago

Ayrshire

If we have thoughts and an awareness of them, don't we need words to understand them?

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By *a LunaWoman
32 weeks ago

South Wales


"People who say they have a voice in their head - do you actually mean that it is like someone else talking to you all the time? Does it have an accent? Can you shut it up?

For me it’s my thoughts - in words.

So I’ve just put some shelves up for example, as I was doing it my thoughts / voice says I need to get the drill now for example.

It’s not a conversation with 2 people. My inner voice isn’t saying “how are you today, nice weather isn’t it”?

"

My inner voice goes like this

“Right time to get up, I’m busting for a wee”

“Which sod didn’t flush the toilet last?”

“Time for a cup of tea”

Etc etc.

It’s like an interior running commentary on life.

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By *a LunaWoman
32 weeks ago

South Wales

Are we saying that those without an interior monologue just have silence in their head.

If they’re not doing anything then instead of talking to yourself in your head (about anything and everything) there is just nothing. Silence?

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By *uriousscouserWoman
32 weeks ago

Wirral

I love it when I'm having a little listen to myself, start pulling faces because I'm talking utter bullshit and both inner and outer me know it, and then realise someone can see me having a right old ding-dong with myself, in my head.

The good news is I'm never lonely. The bad news is I'm a proper weirdo and if my inner narrator was a person I'd cross the road to avoid her. The other good news is I'm dead funny in my head, I keep myself very well entertained.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
32 weeks ago


"People who say they have a voice in their head - do you actually mean that it is like someone else talking to you all the time? Does it have an accent? Can you shut it up?

For me it’s my thoughts - in words.

So I’ve just put some shelves up for example, as I was doing it my thoughts / voice says I need to get the drill now for example.

It’s not a conversation with 2 people. My inner voice isn’t saying “how are you today, nice weather isn’t it”?

My inner voice goes like this

“Right time to get up, I’m busting for a wee”

“Which sod didn’t flush the toilet last?”

“Time for a cup of tea”

Etc etc.

It’s like an interior running commentary on life."

exactly this.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
32 weeks ago

Wirral

It's a really interesting topic though, what we assume to be normal because we've never experienced how others think or feel.

I was going through a lot of stuff some years ago and my doctor took me through the standard depression questionnaire. I always remember her face when I answered "do you ever have thoughts of self-harm" with "oh just the normal ones that everyone gets".

Then I tried to explain it wasn't any serious sort of plans, but as I was driving towards a bridge I'd momentarily wonder if I could hit it hard enough to injure myself (nobody would expect me to take responsibility for anything if I had a broken leg) but not so hard that I did permanent damage.

I don't think she found that reassuring, oddly.

I've had those sort of thoughts all my life so just assumed they were a universal experience.

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By *amie HantsWoman
32 weeks ago

Atlantis

I think this is my favourite thread. I love hearing about how others think. I’d love to be in some of your heads for a day just to see what it’s like to process information and think a different way!

I do have one. Most of the time it doesn’t really have a voice? If I concentrate on it I attach various voices to it but it’s dependant on what I’m thinking about as to what voice I hear.

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By *ames250122Man
32 weeks ago

Worcester

I do, it never shuts up lol

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
32 weeks ago

wonderland.

I have great conversations with my inner monologue.... she's a complete brat though

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

Mine just says I'm a idiot ?

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By *utterfly64Woman
32 weeks ago

Raynes Park

Yes. I hear my inner voice often - sometimes it manifests as talking to myself. Both are fine!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
32 weeks ago

little house on the praire

I don't have one. I just say or type things of the top of my head.

The only time I have an inner monologue is when I'm very depressed and it tells me bad things.

Bit on an e eryday I don't have one

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
32 weeks ago

North West


"If we have thoughts and an awareness of them, don't we need words to understand them?"

How is that equating to an inner monologue? I know I'm currently typing on my phone but there's no inner voice telling me what I'm doing or reading my words back to me. I'm just moving my finger across the keypad and writing stuff. Silent words.

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago


"I wonder how black males with average to small cocks feel.

Come again?"

I didn’t get it either.

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By *ellinever70Woman
32 weeks ago

Ayrshire


"If we have thoughts and an awareness of them, don't we need words to understand them?

How is that equating to an inner monologue? I know I'm currently typing on my phone but there's no inner voice telling me what I'm doing or reading my words back to me. I'm just moving my finger across the keypad and writing stuff. Silent words. "

I think a few posted further back that no, they don't have an inner monologue-just thoughts with no words accompanying them.

I probably don't completely understand what an inner monologue is

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
32 weeks ago

North West


"If we have thoughts and an awareness of them, don't we need words to understand them?

How is that equating to an inner monologue? I know I'm currently typing on my phone but there's no inner voice telling me what I'm doing or reading my words back to me. I'm just moving my finger across the keypad and writing stuff. Silent words.

I think a few posted further back that no, they don't have an inner monologue-just thoughts with no words accompanying them.

I probably don't completely understand what an inner monologue is"

I'm one without the monologue. I know other people have one, but have no reference point to understand what it might feel like to have an inner "voice".

I just do stuff but without a running commentary in my head, I suppose.

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By *iddlesticksMan
32 weeks ago

My nan’s spare room.


"I wonder how black males with average to small cocks feel.

Come again?"

That’s what all the girls say.

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By *elloWoman
32 weeks ago

alpha centauri


"Which has kind of blown my mind a bit.

I’ve looked on Google (so it *must* be true, right? ) that 30-50% of people DON’T have one!

How do they rationalise their thoughts if they’re not “talking to themselves” in their mind?

Even now my inner voice is saying “right, time for a cup of tea!”

Do you have an inner monologue? If not how do you process / rationalise information?

I’m intrigued to know! "

Me and two friends were talking about this in a garden centre restaurant one day and me and 1 friend said we had an inner monologue and we rehearse conversations before we actually verbalising them and the other friend looked at us like we was insane lol and we were talking rather loud so the table next to us went silent and kept looking at us that's when I realised not everyone has the capability to inner monologue must be very quiet in their heads

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By *ark73XXXMan
32 weeks ago

North Staffs/South Cheshire

Read Ulysses if you want to know anything about internal monologues

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
32 weeks ago

BRIDPORT

Can’t imagine not having that, I mean, where would I go to get expert advice if I didn’t have an inner monologue.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
32 weeks ago

chichester

I talk to myself pretty much 99% of the time

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By *erfHerder74Man
32 weeks ago

Inverclyde

How do you read if you have no inner voice?

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
32 weeks ago

North West


"How do you read if you have no inner voice?"

Dunno, but isn't that different to what people are describing as a constant "chatter" in their heads etc? I don't have anything like that.

But I can read. I'm reading right now but I'm not detecting it as a "voice" in my head. It's kinda hard to explain

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

32 weeks ago

East Sussex


"How do you read if you have no inner voice?"

I recognise the shape of words.

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
32 weeks ago

BRIDPORT


"How do you read if you have no inner voice?

Dunno, but isn't that different to what people are describing as a constant "chatter" in their heads etc? I don't have anything like that.

But I can read. I'm reading right now but I'm not detecting it as a "voice" in my head. It's kinda hard to explain "

This is why it takes me ages to read a book, I read at the pace my inner monologue narrates it too me.

I know people who read books super fast because they don’t have this and are able to just scan read, I can’t do that.

And obviously I have to give all the characters their own voices and mannerisms, all this takes time.

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By *ark73XXXMan
32 weeks ago

North Staffs/South Cheshire


"How do you read if you have no inner voice?"

Good point

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

32 weeks ago

East Sussex


"How do you read if you have no inner voice?

Dunno, but isn't that different to what people are describing as a constant "chatter" in their heads etc? I don't have anything like that.

But I can read. I'm reading right now but I'm not detecting it as a "voice" in my head. It's kinda hard to explain

This is why it takes me ages to read a book, I read at the pace my inner monologue narrates it too me.

I know people who read books super fast because they don’t have this and are able to just scan read, I can’t do that.

And obviously I have to give all the characters their own voices and mannerisms, all this takes time. "

I read super fast because I can look at a sentence and take the whole thing in. I don't know if this is a good thing or not.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
32 weeks ago

North West


"How do you read if you have no inner voice?

Dunno, but isn't that different to what people are describing as a constant "chatter" in their heads etc? I don't have anything like that.

But I can read. I'm reading right now but I'm not detecting it as a "voice" in my head. It's kinda hard to explain

This is why it takes me ages to read a book, I read at the pace my inner monologue narrates it too me.

I know people who read books super fast because they don’t have this and are able to just scan read, I can’t do that.

And obviously I have to give all the characters their own voices and mannerisms, all this takes time. "

I read pretty quickly, as you describe. There's no different voices or anything.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
32 weeks ago

North West


"How do you read if you have no inner voice?

Dunno, but isn't that different to what people are describing as a constant "chatter" in their heads etc? I don't have anything like that.

But I can read. I'm reading right now but I'm not detecting it as a "voice" in my head. It's kinda hard to explain

This is why it takes me ages to read a book, I read at the pace my inner monologue narrates it too me.

I know people who read books super fast because they don’t have this and are able to just scan read, I can’t do that.

And obviously I have to give all the characters their own voices and mannerisms, all this takes time.

I read super fast because I can look at a sentence and take the whole thing in. I don't know if this is a good thing or not. "

Me too!!! Yay

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

32 weeks ago

East Sussex


"How do you read if you have no inner voice?

Dunno, but isn't that different to what people are describing as a constant "chatter" in their heads etc? I don't have anything like that.

But I can read. I'm reading right now but I'm not detecting it as a "voice" in my head. It's kinda hard to explain

This is why it takes me ages to read a book, I read at the pace my inner monologue narrates it too me.

I know people who read books super fast because they don’t have this and are able to just scan read, I can’t do that.

And obviously I have to give all the characters their own voices and mannerisms, all this takes time.

I read super fast because I can look at a sentence and take the whole thing in. I don't know if this is a good thing or not.

Me too!!! Yay "

Let's agree it's a good thing then

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
32 weeks ago

North West


"How do you read if you have no inner voice?

Dunno, but isn't that different to what people are describing as a constant "chatter" in their heads etc? I don't have anything like that.

But I can read. I'm reading right now but I'm not detecting it as a "voice" in my head. It's kinda hard to explain

This is why it takes me ages to read a book, I read at the pace my inner monologue narrates it too me.

I know people who read books super fast because they don’t have this and are able to just scan read, I can’t do that.

And obviously I have to give all the characters their own voices and mannerisms, all this takes time.

I read super fast because I can look at a sentence and take the whole thing in. I don't know if this is a good thing or not.

Me too!!! Yay

Let's agree it's a good thing then "

Definitely

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By *ark73XXXMan
32 weeks ago

North Staffs/South Cheshire


"How do you read if you have no inner voice?

Dunno, but isn't that different to what people are describing as a constant "chatter" in their heads etc? I don't have anything like that.

But I can read. I'm reading right now but I'm not detecting it as a "voice" in my head. It's kinda hard to explain

This is why it takes me ages to read a book, I read at the pace my inner monologue narrates it too me.

I know people who read books super fast because they don’t have this and are able to just scan read, I can’t do that.

And obviously I have to give all the characters their own voices and mannerisms, all this takes time.

I read super fast because I can look at a sentence and take the whole thing in. I don't know if this is a good thing or not. "

It’s a very good thing

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

32 weeks ago

East Sussex


"How do you read if you have no inner voice?

Dunno, but isn't that different to what people are describing as a constant "chatter" in their heads etc? I don't have anything like that.

But I can read. I'm reading right now but I'm not detecting it as a "voice" in my head. It's kinda hard to explain

This is why it takes me ages to read a book, I read at the pace my inner monologue narrates it too me.

I know people who read books super fast because they don’t have this and are able to just scan read, I can’t do that.

And obviously I have to give all the characters their own voices and mannerisms, all this takes time.

I read super fast because I can look at a sentence and take the whole thing in. I don't know if this is a good thing or not.

It’s a very good thing "

It can get tedious if I need to read in conjunction with other people. Also I sometimes feel I'm missing the full 'experience' of reading. Other people describe picturing characters, attributing different voices etc and I don't do that.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
32 weeks ago

Reading

Mine is constant

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By *rHotNottsMan
32 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"

I read super fast because I can look at a sentence and take the whole thing in. I don't know if this is a good thing or not.

"

It’s good for learning. But not the most enjoyable for fiction.

This is such an interesting area to me

I remember learning to speed & skim read at uni and when to use each.

That the least number of words you read the more you learn & understand because it forces your brain to work harder to join the dots.

Some tests showed that understanding increases the most when you remove 50% -75% of the worlds using templates with word holes cut out

Also the way we were taught to read at school looking at each word one by one is the wrong way to read efficiently as adults , but the right way to learn to read as a child. But we should’ve dropped the method by about age 7 or 8

Best look at whole paragraphs without moving your eyes and then move your eyes down to the next chunk looking at each part of the page for a few seconds only is the most optimal but it is mentally draining.

I read and annotated a 47 A4 page article while having my coffee before work this morning in around 15 mins, very very taxing.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

32 weeks ago

East Sussex


"

I read super fast because I can look at a sentence and take the whole thing in. I don't know if this is a good thing or not.

It’s good for learning. But not the most enjoyable for fiction.

"

I do enjoy fiction but as I said above I don't think I get the experience that some do. If I'm reading biography and autobiography I enjoy it much more because there are usually illustrations and photos.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
32 weeks ago

North West


"

I read super fast because I can look at a sentence and take the whole thing in. I don't know if this is a good thing or not.

It’s good for learning. But not the most enjoyable for fiction.

I do enjoy fiction but as I said above I don't think I get the experience that some do. If I'm reading biography and autobiography I enjoy it much more because there are usually illustrations and photos.

"

I must say I prefer reading non fiction books etc .

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By *lexm87Man
31 weeks ago

Various


"Read Ulysses if you want to know anything about internal monologues "

Just read it to bathe in the words, to feast on what language can be.

And it'll soon be Bloomsday!

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By *rRiosMan
31 weeks ago

dublin

This is called anaduralia, there is also aphantasia where you can’t visualize things in your head

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

31 weeks ago

East Sussex


"This is called anaduralia, there is also aphantasia where you can’t visualize things in your head "

That's me then.

I need a picture or I can't visualise it. Mr N explained a big plan he had to landscape our garden. I had no idea what it would look like until he'd finished it.

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By *rAitchMan
31 weeks ago

Diagonally Parked in a Parallel Universe


"Out of Kylie and Danni I prefer Kylie"

Thanks for that Inner Minogue.

I can't get it out of my head now

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
31 weeks ago

Maidstone


"Out of Kylie and Danni I prefer Kylie

Thanks for that Inner Minogue.

I can't get it out of my head now "

You think that's bad? I'm spinning around

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By *rRiosMan
31 weeks ago

dublin


"This is called anaduralia, there is also aphantasia where you can’t visualize things in your head

That's me then.

I need a picture or I can't visualise it. Mr N explained a big plan he had to landscape our garden. I had no idea what it would look like until he'd finished it. "

Do you dream?

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By *carlett!Woman
31 weeks ago

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Problem is when you start answering that inner monologue back lol (I'm not crazy, my mother had me tested hahaha)

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