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Single parent and sick kid.

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By *haiababe OP   Woman
31 weeks ago

North devon

To all the single parents.

Do you feel that sometimes your child/children has a built in anti sex alarm into their immune system.

You arrange to meet in the day while their at school. So you are being a good parent. And then they are sick. Isn't then1st time it's happened either.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
31 weeks ago

East Sussex

Children seem to have a built in parent blocker

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago


"Children seem to have a built in parent blocker"

They can sense when you want to have fun

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By *ittlemissTinselTitsCouple
31 weeks ago

Southampton

And this is why I don't have children

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
31 weeks ago

East Sussex


"Children seem to have a built in parent blocker

They can sense when you want to have fun"

When they get to their early and mid teens they begin to ask *really* awkward questions about your nights out too.

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago


"Children seem to have a built in parent blocker

They can sense when you want to have fun

When they get to their early and mid teens they begin to ask *really* awkward questions about your nights out too. "

Oh I’m hoping to be honest by that point. I bet they won’t ask questions then

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago

You’ve got to trick your brain into thinking you’re not arsed about the plans you’ve made.

They can sense the excitement.

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By *ravelling_WilburyMan
31 weeks ago

Beverley


"You’ve got to trick your brain into thinking you’re not arsed about the plans you’ve made.

They can sense the excitement. "

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By *ansoffateMan
31 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

After my wife died, my friends were all get back out there it'll be good for you. You're not just a dad etc etc. So I eventually gave it a whirl.

The amount of times my kids would block me. I'd be getting grief from women who were single mums themselves and had said 'my kids come first'.

I basically gave up until they left school.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
31 weeks ago

East Sussex


"Children seem to have a built in parent blocker

They can sense when you want to have fun

When they get to their early and mid teens they begin to ask *really* awkward questions about your nights out too.

Oh I’m hoping to be honest by that point. I bet they won’t ask questions then "

We found that honesty made them stop asking questions pdq. They didn't believe us for a start

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By *haiababe OP   Woman
31 weeks ago

North devon


"Children seem to have a built in parent blocker

They can sense when you want to have fun

When they get to their early and mid teens they begin to ask *really* awkward questions about your nights out too. "

My older children don't live at home. And I don't often go on "night out" unless they are with their dad or occasionally having a sleepover at my mums.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
31 weeks ago

Wherever

Children get sick all the time.

It’s important to get your priorities straight so when it happens, it happens, not a big deal.

Puts us single parents sadly down on the Fab availability line though, how can you even compare to those without such responsibilities.

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By *agnar73Man
31 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

It’s a bit shit.

Had a Saturday without usual time off and taking ten just now before I have to think of other things.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
31 weeks ago

Reading

This is why i just gave up on dating. Thank god for my wand!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
31 weeks ago

little house on the praire

This is why I never arranged meets during school hours, you never know if one needs picking up early

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By *haiababe OP   Woman
31 weeks ago

North devon


"This is why I never arranged meets during school hours, you never know if one needs picking up early "

But as a single parent I personally would rather meet during the school house than get babysitters in constantly. So when they need or want me I'm here. When they don't need me I'm not.

It's not so much of a complaint. But it's just so typical that they always seem to be ill when you have something on

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By *a LunaWoman
31 weeks ago

South Wales

Yes, used to happen. Thankfully most were understanding and happy to re-arrange.

Can’t be helped.

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
31 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

These things happen and it can't be helped.

I don't have kids, but I used to look after my dad who was ill and work shifts.

Sometimes I had to cancel if he got taken to Hopsital or something else happened.

I always let people know ASAP and they always knew upfront that my dad was my priority when we'd chatted.

It's sods law though, when you've arranged a meet and are looking forward to it.

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By *haiababe OP   Woman
31 weeks ago

North devon


"These things happen and it can't be helped.

I don't have kids, but I used to look after my dad who was ill and work shifts.

Sometimes I had to cancel if he got taken to Hopsital or something else happened.

I always let people know ASAP and they always knew upfront that my dad was my priority when we'd chatted.

It's sods law though, when you've arranged a meet and are looking forward to it. "

I always let people know I'm a single mum. At do things around the kids. Also that i never have anyone over when there are here even asleep.

I also way parent 1st, horby 2nd

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By *amierebelMan
31 weeks ago

nae danger.


"This is why i just gave up on dating. Thank god for my wand!"

Essentially same here but without the wand, I'll only try arrange a meet if I already got a babysitter booked wich ain't to often awww well born again virgin

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By *iss.Bella.Woman
31 weeks ago

Wales


"After my wife died, my friends were all get back out there it'll be good for you. You're not just a dad etc etc. So I eventually gave it a whirl.

The amount of times my kids would block me. I'd be getting grief from women who were single mums themselves and had said 'my kids come first'.

I basically gave up until they left school."

Well, fuck! There's no hope for me then

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By *he love catsCouple
31 weeks ago

South Wales

We have a day off tomorrow so looking for a meet and I am already anticipating the dreaded phone call.

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago

In my case they dont have to be sick to spoil things.

My kids are teenagers and above but seem to just appear out of the ether when i have meets planned and thus have to abandon or delay them on occasions.

Is this ability 'in built' or 'learnt' or 'intuition' to stop parents having some extra curricula activities of their own?

The mind boggles ffs

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By *og-ManMan
31 weeks ago

somewhere

Hopefully Op the person you were going to meet understood and realised that your kids come first

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By *allsdeep75Man
31 weeks ago

dunmow

Yes had that very thing happen while on the way to a meet then get accused of being a time waster

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By *agnar73Man
31 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

Saw comments about 9-5 brigade of men, presumably means ones on daytime weekdays when family not around.

Myself, it’s time when I get stuff done, but I can pop on and off fab like I do when kids are here.

I wouldn’t mind a daytime social if possible and I’ve went to things on weekdays too.

I think the assumptions made about cheating or where people are at given times is a bit daft. We all multitask and use what time we have.

Another half hour and I’m back to it until about 11 tonight but I’ll get time here and there to look at updates or read forum

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By *luefire2Couple
31 weeks ago

just somewhere around here

No children here, love it

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By *ansoffateMan
31 weeks ago

Sagittarius A


"No children here, love it "

Ooh you show-offs!

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By *haiababe OP   Woman
31 weeks ago

North devon


"Hopefully Op the person you were going to meet understood and realised that your kids come first "

Oh yes he did completely. As I said its just the irony of it.

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By *haiababe OP   Woman
31 weeks ago

North devon


"In my case they dont have to be sick to spoil things.

My kids are teenagers and above but seem to just appear out of the ether when i have meets planned and thus have to abandon or delay them on occasions.

Is this ability 'in built' or 'learnt' or 'intuition' to stop parents having some extra curricula activities of their own?

The mind boggles ffs"

I have 2 older teenagers who don't live at home and don't live in the same area. But I'm still.worried that one of the older ones will just turn up when the younger ones are away at their dad's and just walk in the house and I have someone over.

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago


"In my case they dont have to be sick to spoil things.

My kids are teenagers and above but seem to just appear out of the ether when i have meets planned and thus have to abandon or delay them on occasions.

Is this ability 'in built' or 'learnt' or 'intuition' to stop parents having some extra curricula activities of their own?

The mind boggles ffs

I have 2 older teenagers who don't live at home and don't live in the same area. But I'm still.worried that one of the older ones will just turn up when the younger ones are away at their dad's and just walk in the house and I have someone over."

Yes I totally get where you are coming from. Its that fear of them appearing that can make you uneasy enough not to enjoy the meetings as you're always on edge. I wish i had a pancea for this to share with you but unfortunately we just have to play the hand we are dealt with here.

You have my full empathy and I hope you can find an elixir to help you enjoy here in full.

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

My 2 definitely have a built in ability to ruin plans, even though when we are 'busy' we still keep a close ear for footsteps

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman
29 weeks ago

Hampshire/Dorset

They just know.... Mine nearly always calls when I'm on a social or something. And they rarely call!!

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By *illy IdolMan
29 weeks ago

Midlands


"You’ve got to trick your brain into thinking you’re not arsed about the plans you’ve made.

They can sense the excitement. "

Just realised Shivs have gone unlos

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By *cLovin2Man
29 weeks ago

Reading

I don't have any kids, I just thought I'd say that and rub it in

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By *ot to giggleWoman
29 weeks ago

Coventry


"Children seem to have a built in parent blocker

They can sense when you want to have fun

When they get to their early and mid teens they begin to ask *really* awkward questions about your nights out too. "

or start calling you when your having a weekend away and telling you something urgent has happened

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