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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So basically how many times do people read your messages but completely ignore you. i would say im at about a 95% ignore rate.

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By *ralking69.Man
over a year ago

NN4

About that

Or a delete

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By *exxyyDy11Man
over a year ago

North West

I'm at a 95% rate too. So don't worry about it mate. You win some, you lose some. Fab for ya

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d say I’m 99.9%….thankfully an email to one of the mods garnered a reply to let me know they’d fixed my account issue

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By *hortishblondeWoman
over a year ago

Essex

Don't take it personally everyone has their preference

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By *exxyyDy11Man
over a year ago

North West


"I’d say I’m 99.9%….thankfully an email to one of the mods garnered a reply to let me know they’d fixed my account issue "

Look at the bright side, at least you're not at 100%

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By *ros40Man
over a year ago

Bedford

92.4 % here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably about the same mate is what it is.

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By *mmaleiaWoman
over a year ago

Trowbridge

5%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get ignored maybe 95% of the time.

We ignore maybe 50% of the messages we recieve since they are low effort/one word

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say 50%. But I don't send loads, very rare I come across someone that catches my eye.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just one.

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

The bottom of the River Ankh

I rarely bother sending a first message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just one. "

She sounds rude as Woody.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't take it personally everyone has their preference"

Just needed to be said it would be rude not too. I have a massive thing for short women. So sexy. which part of essex are you from?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’d say I’m 99.9%….thankfully an email to one of the mods garnered a reply to let me know they’d fixed my account issue "

well theres a win for ya

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
over a year ago

Warwick and Coventry

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

The bottom of the River Ankh


"Just one.

She sounds rude as Woody."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I messaged it was probably around 98-99%. Tough lesson at the time

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By *uicy PumpkinWoman
over a year ago

Narberth


"So basically how many times do people read your messages but completely ignore you. i would say im at about a 95% ignore rate."

I NEVER ignore a polite message with a face photo. But yeah dunno, your profile is a bit bland eventhough you say ALL the things I want to see and hear... I'm not sure I would engage...

Think I just don't like bullet points, I prefer men that are articulated and make me chuckle.

Just be patient, you really don't want everyone on here, just the special ones

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By *exxyyDy11Man
over a year ago

North West


"I rarely bother sending a first message "

No messing about. I like it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd say 50%. But I don't send loads, very rare I come across someone that catches my eye.

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so even you are getting ignored which makes me question how high your standards are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just one.

She sounds rude as Woody.

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Ah, saying it sounds different to how I typed it. I didn't mean as rude as Woody. I meant as rude AS! I know what I meant.

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
over a year ago

Warwick and Coventry

Even my mum ignores my messages, nuttin new

Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd say 50%. But I don't send loads, very rare I come across someone that catches my eye.

so even you are getting ignored which makes me question how high your standards are."

I'm not sure if you're calling me easy or a picky bitch.

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
over a year ago

Warwick and Coventry


"Just one.

She sounds rude as Woody.

Ah, saying it sounds different to how I typed it. I didn't mean as rude as Woody. I meant as rude AS! I know what I meant. "

Like rude as fuck

Mr

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

The bottom of the River Ankh


"Just one.

She sounds rude as Woody.

Ah, saying it sounds different to how I typed it. I didn't mean as rude as Woody. I meant as rude AS! I know what I meant. "

Ah, the capitals make me think I know what you mean now lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So basically how many times do people read your messages but completely ignore you. i would say im at about a 95% ignore rate.

I NEVER ignore a polite message with a face photo. But yeah dunno, your profile is a bit bland eventhough you say ALL the things I want to see and hear... I'm not sure I would engage...

Think I just don't like bullet points, I prefer men that are articulated and make me chuckle.

Just be patient, you really don't want everyone on here, just the special ones

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you say that but what makes it bland?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd say 50%. But I don't send loads, very rare I come across someone that catches my eye.

so even you are getting ignored which makes me question how high your standards are.

I'm not sure if you're calling me easy or a picky bitch. "

Defo picky ive looked at your profile and i'd imagine youd get alot of attention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d say 25% I only message people I’m interested in, I send a message which reflects our mutual interests and do so in a tone which is becoming of meeting someone at a bar

I can only imagine the 90%ers are either spamming profiles/wanna suck on this/nice tits/cock pic people?

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By *uicy PumpkinWoman
over a year ago

Narberth

I never sent a message on here anyways so 0% rejection. Maybe wait for the messages to arrive, you'll get a dozen or so every day

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"So basically how many times do people read your messages but completely ignore you. i would say im at about a 95% ignore rate."

A few, but someone people take their time to reply? I’ve had replies a couple of weeks after sending a message, you just don’t know what the other person is doing, or how they use the site. Don’t get stressed, just be patient, and only message those profiles you genuinely feel you might be a match with

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

Honestly? 0%

But we probably don't use fab like most people do.

J

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By *ybermanMan
over a year ago

Comberton

Far too many!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100%

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By *aprica2Couple
over a year ago

Chertsey

Because 95% of messages are heys how's u x or how are you both, little to no effort goes in and most profiles are fake or not even swingers.

Single guys generally join because it's free not because they are into the life style/ naughty hobby.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’d say 25% I only message people I’m interested in, I send a message which reflects our mutual interests and do so in a tone which is becoming of meeting someone at a bar

I can only imagine the 90%ers are either spamming profiles/wanna suck on this/nice tits/cock pic people?"

you must be king on this site 25% of the time you would be ignore thats insanely good.

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By *uicy PumpkinWoman
over a year ago

Narberth


"So basically how many times do people read your messages but completely ignore you. i would say im at about a 95% ignore rate.

I NEVER ignore a polite message with a face photo. But yeah dunno, your profile is a bit bland eventhough you say ALL the things I want to see and hear... I'm not sure I would engage...

Think I just don't like bullet points, I prefer men that are articulated and make me chuckle.

Just be patient, you really don't want everyone on here, just the special ones

you say that but what makes it bland?"

The lists..... you say facts but you're not showing personality.

Articulate what you want with sentences instead. Don't be about facts, use the bio to show who you are too

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By *obyn GravesTV/TS
over a year ago

1127 walnut avenue

Loads... what gets me is twats that wink at you then ignore a message when you send it ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m getting used to be ignored…

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
over a year ago

Warwick and Coventry


"So basically how many times do people read your messages but completely ignore you. i would say im at about a 95% ignore rate.

I NEVER ignore a polite message with a face photo. But yeah dunno, your profile is a bit bland eventhough you say ALL the things I want to see and hear... I'm not sure I would engage...

Think I just don't like bullet points, I prefer men that are articulated and make me chuckle.

Just be patient, you really don't want everyone on here, just the special ones

you say that but what makes it bland?"

Bland, ya know boring shite that's seen every day on Fab.

Faf

WUU2

Dick pics

Graphic shit they'd like to do the missus/women all = bland

Mr

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By *uicy PumpkinWoman
over a year ago

Narberth


"So basically how many times do people read your messages but completely ignore you. i would say im at about a 95% ignore rate.

I NEVER ignore a polite message with a face photo. But yeah dunno, your profile is a bit bland eventhough you say ALL the things I want to see and hear... I'm not sure I would engage...

Think I just don't like bullet points, I prefer men that are articulated and make me chuckle.

Just be patient, you really don't want everyone on here, just the special ones

you say that but what makes it bland?

Bland, ya know boring shite that's seen every day on Fab.

Faf

WUU2

Dick pics

Graphic shit they'd like to do the missus/women all = bland

Mr

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Hahaha yeah.... guess that's what I meant.... I like different, I like personality...

Like this reply. Brave, different, hot af

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
over a year ago

Warwick and Coventry


"So basically how many times do people read your messages but completely ignore you. i would say im at about a 95% ignore rate.

I NEVER ignore a polite message with a face photo. But yeah dunno, your profile is a bit bland eventhough you say ALL the things I want to see and hear... I'm not sure I would engage...

Think I just don't like bullet points, I prefer men that are articulated and make me chuckle.

Just be patient, you really don't want everyone on here, just the special ones

you say that but what makes it bland?

Bland, ya know boring shite that's seen every day on Fab.

Faf

WUU2

Dick pics

Graphic shit they'd like to do the missus/women all = bland

Mr

Hahaha yeah.... guess that's what I meant.... I like different, I like personality...

Like this reply. Brave, different, hot af"

Just the sad reality of fab, and how most roll, I did forget copy n pasted

as a single man on fab, I learnt very quickly it is all about the approach

Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots not gonna lie. I don't take it personally but sometimes it does hurt your self esteem a little lol

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By *addy bareMan
over a year ago

southend

96.3 % of the time for me

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By *elboy1978Man
over a year ago

Jarrow

Most of the time

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
over a year ago

Warwick and Coventry


"Lots not gonna lie. I don't take it personally but sometimes it does hurt your self esteem a little lol "

Only hurts your self-esteem if your basing your validation on fab, if not it doesn't.....

Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m prepared for eyeball rolling & name calling.

I don’t send loads of messages, but I’ve never been ignored.

Some conversations have fizzled out.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

OP, whenever you send a message just delete it immediately from your Sent Folder. It does your wellbeing no good by keeping sentry around the messages you have sent and their respective read/unread statuses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just one.

She sounds rude as Woody."

I was hoping she would be….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Load it’s the laws of average

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By *rBobbMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

I don't really send cold random messages out. I will only message a profile if I think there is an initial attraction and there is a match to what we are looking for.

Even then the reply rate is low, but that is just how it is. There are two options really.

1. Go with it

2. Delete account

I am happy to go with it.

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By *esthetic21Man
over a year ago

Birmingham/Bristol

97.78%

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By *akarussMan
over a year ago

Witney

about 99% of the messages for me.

Thinking of messaging the sites support to just get a reply in my inbox for a change lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

30%? Not high. I don't message people for the sake of it.

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
over a year ago

Warwick and Coventry


" about 99% of the messages for me.

Thinking of messaging the sites support to just get a reply in my inbox for a change lol "

Even they may ignore you......

Mr

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By *ing_of_swing69Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

I’d say least 90% for me I know it’s hard to believe with over 100 veris but it’s true

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Lots not gonna lie. I don't take it personally but sometimes it does hurt your self esteem a little lol "

only alittle

feels like i'm living life on veteran difficulty on fabswingers

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By *akarussMan
over a year ago

Witney

Ouch! Lol that stung a bit …… but felt good

Its all good tho as in honesty i dont feel completely useless … i can always serve as a bad example

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’d say least 90% for me I know it’s hard to believe with over 100 veris but it’s true "

jeez 100 veris you completed fab surely.

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By *rowley616Man
over a year ago

Scarborough

99.99999999999999999

I try not to let it get to me. But I put a lot of thought into messaging someone. So it can sting sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Because 95% of messages are heys how's u x or how are you both, little to no effort goes in and most profiles are fake or not even swingers.

Single guys generally join because it's free not because they are into the life style/ naughty hobby."

tbh you got me there i just send hey and thats it and a photo of my face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same... about 95%

At least I don't feel so bad about it now we're all in the same boat lol

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire


"I’d say I’m 99.9%….thankfully an email to one of the mods garnered a reply to let me know they’d fixed my account issue

Look at the bright side, at least you're not at 100% "
,,, 100 percent

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"So basically how many times do people read your messages but completely ignore you. i would say im at about a 95% ignore rate."

1 in 20 is a pretty good hit rate there buddy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Same... about 95%

At least I don't feel so bad about it now we're all in the same boat lol"

seems like we most definitely are apart from a couple of the people who replied who said 25% and 30% which is insane.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

If you’re getting 95% delete or ignored I’m afraid to say you’re sending the wrong type of messages to the wrong people. Or perhaps your profiles may need work. Either way it’s not the recipient that needs to do more it’s the sender….

Harsh but true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

0%

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"99.99999999999999999

I try not to let it get to me. But I put a lot of thought into messaging someone. So it can sting sometimes."

Just a cock shot and "faf"... At least you get threads started about you then.

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
over a year ago

Warwick and Coventry


"If you’re getting 95% delete or ignored I’m afraid to say you’re sending the wrong type of messages to the wrong people. Or perhaps your profiles may need work. Either way it’s not the recipient that needs to do more it’s the sender….

Harsh but true. "

It can't be them LB its everyone else to blame

Mr

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By *lack Orchid 0204Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Its rare I send messages, not many profiles I see that a) attract b) looking for similar

I'd guess ignored/deleted about 60% of the time

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

I don't really put that much thought into it I just block and go time is of the essence

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
over a year ago

Warwick and Coventry


"I’d say least 90% for me I know it’s hard to believe with over 100 veris but it’s true "

Club goer though?..

Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely send a first message. When I do, I am rarely ignored.

I do ignore about 98.5% of messages I receive. A large quantity without reading them first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd actually say that I'm the one not responding.

I think I reply to about 50 percent though...

A large percentage is explaining to gay or bi guys that I'm straight. Sadly.

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By *ust want fun 888Man
over a year ago

nearby


"So basically how many times do people read your messages but completely ignore you. i would say im at about a 95% ignore rate."

I would say I’m about the same

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire


"I'd actually say that I'm the one not responding.

I think I reply to about 50 percent though...

A large percentage is explaining to gay or bi guys that I'm straight. Sadly.

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,,, this

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By *ot to giggleWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

ummm i rarely send 1st messages - i send the odd one i delete so no idea if they answer or not. I try to answer all my messages, although there are times i may wish i hadnt

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd actually say that I'm the one not responding.

I think I reply to about 50 percent though...

A large percentage is explaining to gay or bi guys that I'm straight. Sadly.

"

you know you can block them right lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Put it this way, I can fall in to a box of tits and arse and still come up just sucking my thumb lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, fairly high.. let's face it , people like or dislike. Up to them, its the ones that reply and chat then disappear that get me.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
over a year ago

Herts/Beds/London

Forum or messages? Forums higher.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd actually say that I'm the one not responding.

I think I reply to about 50 percent though...

A large percentage is explaining to gay or bi guys that I'm straight. Sadly.

you know you can block them right lol"

I don't mind that much to be honest.

Sometimes I get normal chats spinning off from forum posts also.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On reading the above I'd like to change my answer.

Nobody ever ignores me...

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Somewhere Southwest

Over the last 10 years I'd say that I have a 5% response rate to messages that I've sent as the initiator; more recently though, over the last 6 months that figure has dropped to 1%. I don't consider this ignorance though, as people aren't obliged to reply but I would love to be more successful on here but I guess that what clubs are for.

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By *ags73Man
over a year ago

glasgow-ish

Can’t be ignored if I don’t send..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

#Coyoteugly I can see why YOU never get ignored lol ????

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff

I've never sent a first message, yet....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've never sent a first message, yet...."

and how many messages do you recieve daily

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
over a year ago

Herts/Beds/London

Tbf I never message first.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Over the last 10 years I'd say that I have a 5% response rate to messages that I've sent as the initiator; more recently though, over the last 6 months that figure has dropped to 1%. I don't consider this ignorance though, as people aren't obliged to reply but I would love to be more successful on here but I guess that what clubs are for."

so are clubs really that much better cause i might actually go to one but the thought of having to pay 20 quid to get in cause im a man is abit meh

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff


"I've never sent a first message, yet....

and how many messages do you recieve daily"

Quite a lot considering my profile and pics are crap

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"On reading the above I'd like to change my answer.

Nobody ever ignores me... "

i wonder how good looking you have to be to get a response from you on this site.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've never sent a first message, yet....

and how many messages do you recieve daily

Quite a lot considering my profile and pics are crap "

to have a pussy eh must be nice.

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By *ot - CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

It depends who we message.

It's about a 99% rate we get a reply from males.

Females, it's about 40% rate we get a reply.

Couples, is about a 70% rate for a reply.

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff


"I've never sent a first message, yet....

and how many messages do you recieve daily

Quite a lot considering my profile and pics are crap

to have a pussy eh must be nice."

Oh he's lovely, all silky and black and sat on my lap right now purring

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Probably around 60-70%. It's best not to dwell on it, we all have our own preferences.

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over a year ago


"Probably around 60-70%. It's best not to dwell on it, we all have our own preferences."

60-70% is much higher than i would of thought even if you are part of a couple.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

I don't send them often but when I do it's not a bad return, probably about 50/50.

I usually fail at the maintaing contact part. I'm just crap at it unless it's frequent contact. Life, work etc or just off in my own little Dreamworld half the time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't send them often but when I do it's not a bad return, probably about 50/50.

I usually fail at the maintaing contact part. I'm just crap at it unless it's frequent contact. Life, work etc or just off in my own little Dreamworld half the time."

interesting what do you send as a first message then?

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Bournemouth


"So basically how many times do people read your messages but completely ignore you. i would say im at about a 95% ignore rate."
lol hey rarely do i not get a reply but i guess its about who you message, how you message and what your profiles like after all your profile is your advert here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So basically how many times do people read your messages but completely ignore you. i would say im at about a 95% ignore rate.lol hey rarely do i not get a reply but i guess its about who you message, how you message and what your profiles like after all your profile is your advert here "

my strategy so far has been message everyone that i think id be attracted to potentially i like the thinner to curvy girls so thats mainly what ive messaged.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Bournemouth


"So basically how many times do people read your messages but completely ignore you. i would say im at about a 95% ignore rate.lol hey rarely do i not get a reply but i guess its about who you message, how you message and what your profiles like after all your profile is your advert here

my strategy so far has been message everyone that i think id be attracted to potentially i like the thinner to curvy girls so thats mainly what ive messaged."
yes but do you read profiles and send messages based on the context of the profile or?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So basically how many times do people read your messages but completely ignore you. i would say im at about a 95% ignore rate.lol hey rarely do i not get a reply but i guess its about who you message, how you message and what your profiles like after all your profile is your advert here

my strategy so far has been message everyone that i think id be attracted to potentially i like the thinner to curvy girls so thats mainly what ive messaged.yes but do you read profiles and send messages based on the context of the profile or? "

not really i just look if i think she looks like she'll be hot ill send a simple hey and my face.

tbh as im writing these ive got a couple of responses from some that were ignoring me (2).

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By *LiamMan
over a year ago

Midlands

I'm not wasting my life sending out messages

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Bournemouth


"So basically how many times do people read your messages but completely ignore you. i would say im at about a 95% ignore rate.lol hey rarely do i not get a reply but i guess its about who you message, how you message and what your profiles like after all your profile is your advert here

my strategy so far has been message everyone that i think id be attracted to potentially i like the thinner to curvy girls so thats mainly what ive messaged.yes but do you read profiles and send messages based on the context of the profile or?

not really i just look if i think she looks like she'll be hot ill send a simple hey and my face.

tbh as im writing these ive got a couple of responses from some that were ignoring me (2)."
lol you'd get better responses if you read the profile made sure you matched with it then messaged

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So basically how many times do people read your messages but completely ignore you. i would say im at about a 95% ignore rate.lol hey rarely do i not get a reply but i guess its about who you message, how you message and what your profiles like after all your profile is your advert here

my strategy so far has been message everyone that i think id be attracted to potentially i like the thinner to curvy girls so thats mainly what ive messaged.yes but do you read profiles and send messages based on the context of the profile or?

not really i just look if i think she looks like she'll be hot ill send a simple hey and my face.

tbh as im writing these ive got a couple of responses from some that were ignoring me (2).lol you'd get better responses if you read the profile made sure you matched with it then messaged "

I'm maybe using this site all wrong then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah don't let it bother you

If you get along to a social it definitely helps meeting people in real life and you'll see an increase in responses then

At the end of the day fab is just a bit of fun. Nothing to be bothered by. It's just for laughs

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By *ortney FoxxxWoman
over a year ago

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I don’t send messages

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
over a year ago

Warwick and Coventry


"Over the last 10 years I'd say that I have a 5% response rate to messages that I've sent as the initiator; more recently though, over the last 6 months that figure has dropped to 1%. I don't consider this ignorance though, as people aren't obliged to reply but I would love to be more successful on here but I guess that what clubs are for.

so are clubs really that much better cause i might actually go to one but the thought of having to pay 20 quid to get in cause im a man is abit meh"

If your getting in to a club for 20 quid bargain, I've never known that price

Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m easily 95% even when the subject line was here and you put whatever phrase they ask for in for it to be read, guess what?…..

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

Chichester

Prob about 80% of the time I guess

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A


"I don't send them often but when I do it's not a bad return, probably about 50/50.

I usually fail at the maintaing contact part. I'm just crap at it unless it's frequent contact. Life, work etc or just off in my own little Dreamworld half the time.

interesting what do you send as a first message then?"

Usually a response to something in their profile that caught my attention either the content or the humour inspires me to say something.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Brum

It’s rare.

Rare we send a message to anyone we don’t already know or ‘forum know’ though which is probably why they reply.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't send them often but when I do it's not a bad return, probably about 50/50.

I usually fail at the maintaing contact part. I'm just crap at it unless it's frequent contact. Life, work etc or just off in my own little Dreamworld half the time.

interesting what do you send as a first message then?

Usually a response to something in their profile that caught my attention either the content or the humour inspires me to say something."

probably why i dont get replies then lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Same... about 95%

At least I don't feel so bad about it now we're all in the same boat lol

seems like we most definitely are apart from a couple of the people who replied who said 25% and 30% which is insane."

I don't think I have sent more than 40 messages to women and couples for the entire time I have used the site (Had previous account) I mostly message those who post in the meets & events sections now.

I would only message someone if their verifications were from people of a similar age and race to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn’t happen very often, but we rarely send out any messages anyway. I’m sure if we did the percentage would be higher.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Brum


"It doesn’t happen very often, but we rarely send out any messages anyway. I’m sure if we did the percentage would be higher. "

I often consider messaging your profile but then I look at your location and consider my disappointment when it gets deleted unread.

After that I break out the baby oil and just enjoy the pictures like a good boy

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

SOMEWHERE IN AFRICA

Happened once. I messaged again after he winked at me a second time and to my horror and shame I got that "stop you have already messaged this person and they didn't reply....do you REALLY want to be that sex pest?" That one got a response!

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I don't think I've even found 20 people on here that I felt were compatible enough to reach out to in that direction.

But when I have, I usually do get a response.

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By * and T xCouple
over a year ago

Cannock

A fair few, which is fine tbh.

Biggest issue with guys on this site is that they never read the profile, or their messages don't give off any spark which would help continue a conversation, or it's very clearly a copy/paste job sent to hundreds of others.

Fellas, you gotta realise that the majority of men are letting the minority down. The thing is though, it's not going to change anything because the people spamming inboxes aren't on the forums trying to have a conversation with people.

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"

Fellas, you gotta realise that the majority of men are letting the minority down. The thing is though, it's not going to change anything because the people spamming inboxes aren't on the forums trying to have a conversation with people."

To be honest I think the minority of men who do well on here actually appreciate the crapness of the majority - it helps them standout more.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Am I a bit of a throbber if I say very rarely? It's very rare. I sometimes take the risk and message someone but most of the time I'm sure it will be welcome. A mix of vag power and off the back of forum threads.

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By *ames250122Man
over a year ago

Worcester


"So basically how many times do people read your messages but completely ignore you. i would say im at about a 95% ignore rate."

I’m very board so I worked it out. So from the 57 messages sent over the last three months. 30 of the people I sent a intro message either never looked at the message or looked and didn’t reply. So that’s 54% that didn’t reply and 46% of people that did, which isn’t bad to be fair for me. I’m surprised I thought the number of none reply’s would have been much higher. Not saying though it amounted to anything more then pleasent chats but that doesn’t matter as I enjoy making connections and not just scoring

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m at 97%, every opening message gets a face picture. At least I’m not alone. Thought it was just me

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By *hew_ieMan
over a year ago

Kashyyyk


"Over the last 10 years I'd say that I have a 5% response rate to messages that I've sent as the initiator; more recently though, over the last 6 months that figure has dropped to 1%. I don't consider this ignorance though, as people aren't obliged to reply but I would love to be more successful on here but I guess that what clubs are for.

so are clubs really that much better cause i might actually go to one but the thought of having to pay 20 quid to get in cause im a man is abit meh"

Depends what your going for mate. Everyone likes to get their rocks off, but if you accept that as a bare minimum you will be somewhere hopefully with like minded people that you might have a laugh with to me that's £20 well spent.

If I'm honest I've had nights where I had no sex, they were far better than some where I've actually got to go into a room etc with people. Enjoy the company anything else is just a pleasant extra.

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By *aabmanMan
over a year ago

bognor regis

It has to be 99.9%. Just a thanks but no thanks wouldnt go amiss

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By *agatoXXXMan
over a year ago

Gone and completely forgotten.


"So basically how many times do people read your messages but completely ignore you. i would say im at about a 95% ignore rate."

100%

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By *unlovin72Man
over a year ago

BARNSLEY

95% at least

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By *io--Man
over a year ago

Near Blackpool

About 75%.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of em I'm shit at messaging lol

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

None. But then again I don’t message everything with a pulse in a 500 mile radius.

The mr

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By *as7643Man
over a year ago

staffs

About 85%

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I Don’t send many messages but when I do they normally reply. Maybe 1 in 5 or 6 do not.

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By *ustincider888Man
over a year ago

Preston Ish

1 in 3 I'd say.

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By *art123Man
over a year ago

Stoke

Yeh I’d say I’m in the 90odd% club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So basically how many times do people read your messages but completely ignore you. i would say im at about a 95% ignore rate."

Same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

98%

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

I see the wits are out

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By *uicy PumpkinWoman
over a year ago

Narberth


"So basically how many times do people read your messages but completely ignore you. i would say im at about a 95% ignore rate."

Can you copy here the last 3 messages you sent??

Just to see what's not working

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By *uicy PumpkinWoman
over a year ago

Narberth


"So basically how many times do people read your messages but completely ignore you. i would say im at about a 95% ignore rate."

Also... do they get check your profile and they choose not to reply?

Sometimes we reject the message because its just beyond lame... sometimes the message is good or ok but we see the profile and the profile is mediocre so we don't bother

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By *heGigglersCouple
over a year ago

near Birmingham

About 30% or something. We rarely send any these days but always reply if theres some effort gone into the message

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By *cnugatugMan
over a year ago

Chatham

100 percent ignored lol but it's fine I've grown accustomed to it now

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By *upcake and wandmasterCouple
over a year ago

long eaton


"It has to be 99.9%. Just a thanks but no thanks wouldnt go amiss"

Too many people cant accept that simple idea.

It either begins a sequence of why not? What's wrong? Gimme a chance style, think again style drivel.

or brings about abuse and name calling from someone who wanted to meet us 20mins ago.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

About 99%

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By *hristopherd999Man
over a year ago

Brentwood

The strangest ones are when you've sent a message because their profile says 'looking for older man' and they just delete without even looking ay your profile

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke


"The strangest ones are when you've sent a message because their profile says 'looking for older man' and they just delete without even looking ay your profile"

They’ve probably viewed your profile in ninja

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By *t0600Man
over a year ago

elvedon

I wouldn’t say my ignore rate is awfully high . I’d go 65% ignore

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By *orksguy1965Man
over a year ago

Howden

About 99% with me

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By *oberts_onMan
over a year ago

King's Lynn

99.9% It's actually a miracle if it gets read at all

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By *amierebelMan
over a year ago

My own little world

Maybe about 10%. should maybe be noted I don't message a lot and try my luck with everyone I'm pretty picky for being a fugly cunt

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By *empest2KMan
over a year ago

Derby

Personally, I've learned to appreciate the lack of responses to my polite and thoughtfully-crafted messages after I got a few really spiteful replies back from single lady profiles in the past...

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

Rarely but then most of my messages have food pics attached.

Food pics dick pics in my experience.

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By *mmaleiaWoman
over a year ago

Trowbridge


"food pics attached.

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It’s the best kinda porn

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

We don't message many people to start a conversation. We only message people who look very compatible and try to show that in our messages. Often they are peoplewho have winked at us so alreadyshown interest in us. I think we get replies to at least 60% of initial messages.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A


"I don't send them often but when I do it's not a bad return, probably about 50/50.

I usually fail at the maintaing contact part. I'm just crap at it unless it's frequent contact. Life, work etc or just off in my own little Dreamworld half the time.

interesting what do you send as a first message then?

Usually a response to something in their profile that caught my attention either the content or the humour inspires me to say something.

probably why i dont get replies then lol"

Hey, like I said it's quite rare.

I reckon a lot of guys wreck it for themselves by being inpatient. When I was in a couple on here my partner would frequently say something like: 'that guy who I thought seemed ok, the one I was going to message back... He's spat his dummy and started being a dick.'

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By *rMrs84Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Don't take it personally everyone has their preference"

This.

And the next bit will gather some hate but couples and ladies get that many messages (and some really low effort ones too) that relying to them all isn’t practical.

It might be low effort messages, age, looks, interests, something else. It’s hard to say but not everyone’s for everyone and we get several messages a day when active. We can’t fuck everyone and can’t respond to them all either.

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By *uckerABCMan
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent


"So basically how many times do people read your messages but completely ignore you. i would say im at about a 95% ignore rate."

Yeah totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% I’m use to it now, like I’d genuinely be shocked if a woman was interested in me

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By *oberts_onMan
19 weeks ago

King's Lynn

Pretty much every message I send...

Really frustrating, as I'm always polite and respectful on a message. Unfortunately the idiot men on here spoil it

Just proves how crap FAB can be if you're a single guy.

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By *IXEN200Woman
19 weeks ago

newcastle upon tyne

I have had a few but it's their loss not mine

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By *ack688Man
19 weeks ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

I get loads, it’s like it’s my super power or something!

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By *vonne5exMan
19 weeks ago

Doncaster

I'm not sure why some want an essay on your life in your first message, if someone in real life walked up to you in a pub and started rabbiting on you'd think weirdo, I dare say 99% of first contacts is a simple "Hello, how are you keeping"

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

I reckon I’m about 98% ignore rate

But then I am boring

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By *oberts_onMan
19 weeks ago

King's Lynn


"I'm not sure why some want an essay on your life in your first message, if someone in real life walked up to you in a pub and started rabbiting on you'd think weirdo, I dare say 99% of first contacts is a simple "Hello, how are you keeping" "

Keep it short and simple and it's too short, try for a longer explanation and you bore them, you really can't win

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By *obyn GravesTV/TS
19 weeks ago

1127 walnut avenue

Loads..I think a message from me scares most trannies to death.. the amount that never reply .😸

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By *nebworthMan
19 weeks ago

Knebworth

“The next bit will gather some hate but couples and ladies get that many messages (and some really low effort ones too) that relying to them all isn’t practical.“

When a both bi couple invited me to meet them to play with them both they had over fifty e-mails asking them if they were free to meet. They could not possibly have had time to turn down the other forty-nine.

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By *vonne5exMan
19 weeks ago

Doncaster


"I'm not sure why some want an essay on your life in your first message, if someone in real life walked up to you in a pub and started rabbiting on you'd think weirdo, I dare say 99% of first contacts is a simple "Hello, how are you keeping"

Keep it short and simple and it's too short, try for a longer explanation and you bore them, you really can't win"
agree, I seem to get more replies to the short and simple and people with verifications

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

100% ignore rate so far but I'm lurking just now so I don't expect much and I haven't really tried to approach anyone anyway.

I still expect it to be high even when I'm not lurking given the amount of single guys on here so not sure I'll be heard above the noise.

I think clubs will be where I actually get some engagement when I get around to being a regular somewhere.

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By *endalshaggersCouple
19 weeks ago

Lake District

Even as a couple it happens, so single men aren't out there alone in being ignored.

Whilst we have now got to a stage of brushing it off, no skin off our noses sort of thing, when we first joined it maybe.... not hurt, as such, but left you feeling "why" especially when you'd sent what you felt was a good opening message, and you "ticked the boxes" of what the other profile wanted.

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By *cottish guy 555Man
19 weeks ago

London

I don't message much. No idea what my average is but I get a good few replies. I respond to every message I receive but, as a single guy, that's easy for me.

It was way more difficult on the couples profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

Lots as peeps dont want to reply .

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
19 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/London

I’ve never sent a first message on here. But sometimes my replies are ignored.

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By *rX2024123Man
19 weeks ago

Rotherfield

At first I wondered if it was just me but now I don't get hung up about it, pretty sure most single guys experience that a lot but single ladies probably don't.

There's a reason for that!🤣

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By *ildTimes.Man
19 weeks ago

Wherever I May Roam

I do the ignoring. 😂. 🥪

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By *idnightMischiefMan
19 weeks ago

London

I rarely get ignored, but I rarely send out messages anyway - and if I do, it's because I actually have something to say, rather than just 'hi'.

I get more irritated by messages going completely unread - but that's not the same as someone opening a message and not responding.

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