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By *abletop2022 OP   Couple
41 weeks ago

Sussex

Hiya

Can you give me your best tips to approaching people in clubs? Whether it’s approaching a male, female or couple.

I (female) get a bit shy and nervous and I am crap at approaching others. What topics do you discuss other than the obvious? I can do the flirt once I’m in a conversation but it’s the initial approach I’m rubbish at.

Any tip?

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

It’s hard I know especially if you’re introverted naturally.

I guess it’s different for me as a male in a club than a female, so hopefully you’ll get some more appropriate responses, but I go with a totally non sexual approach, just like I would if I was to talk to someone in a supermarket or pub etc.

Something mundane about the weather “I’m glad it’s warm in here - it’s freezing outside” or something of a similar ilk.

As long as you’re polite and respectful most people will respond and you’ll get an early feel if they’re up for a chat.

The hardest part is summoning the courage to actually make that leap and approach them. Once you’ve done that most people in clubs (in my experience) have been lovely.

And if they’re not, well don’t let it knock you, plenty more fish in the sea!

As a female I’m sure most people would welcome an approach so go fill your boots!

Good luck!

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By *ellhungvweMan
41 weeks ago

Cheltenham

What he says

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By *ot to giggleWoman
41 weeks ago

Coventry

do you smoke? my friend asks everyone for a light!!!!

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By *abletop2022 OP   Couple
41 weeks ago

Sussex


"do you smoke? my friend asks everyone for a light!!!!"

Do you know what I do smoke when I go out and I never even thought of that.

Great idea.

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By *abletop2022 OP   Couple
41 weeks ago

Sussex


"It’s hard I know especially if you’re introverted naturally.

I guess it’s different for me as a male in a club than a female, so hopefully you’ll get some more appropriate responses, but I go with a totally non sexual approach, just like I would if I was to talk to someone in a supermarket or pub etc.

Something mundane about the weather “I’m glad it’s warm in here - it’s freezing outside” or something of a similar ilk.

As long as you’re polite and respectful most people will respond and you’ll get an early feel if they’re up for a chat.

The hardest part is summoning the courage to actually make that leap and approach them. Once you’ve done that most people in clubs (in my experience) have been lovely.

And if they’re not, well don’t let it knock you, plenty more fish in the sea!

As a female I’m sure most people would welcome an approach so go fill your boots!

Good luck! "

That’s a really helpful response. Thank you

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By *oannesTV/TS
41 weeks ago

Trafford

Tits out, everyone is happy

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By *abletop2022 OP   Couple
41 weeks ago

Sussex


"Tits out, everyone is happy "

if all else fails

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