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"Why a lady and not a man?" I was thinking this myself. Myself personally and I know this might sound horrible to some, you do see quite a lot of homeless people on one stretch of high street sometimes, how do you decide which one needs help more? I rarely carry cash with me, so while I sympathise, I don't help them, it I was to buy a cup of coffee and see another a few steps up, I'd feel awful I couldn't buy for them too. That said, if I see a post on Facebook about people needing furniture because they are starting out on their own due to fleeing a partner etc (or anything else) and I have what they are looking for, I always try and help. | |||
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"Why a lady and not a man?" a friend told me they saw a homeless lady sat in the street. So trampy she had become my friend looked twice not sure if male or female then kept walking by. If left me thinking if more should be done to help, perhaps I've a weekness because it was so lady | |||
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"The most supportive attitude towards homeless people I've seen was in Brighton. There supporting those less fortunate was almost cultural. I've seen taxies slow down and drop food (packets of ready to eat items); churches open there doors as clothes distribution points; people stop, check, then buy an extra fast food meal for a person, or just taking the time to stop and chat. Coming from towns with more traditional/negative attitudes, this was quite shocking, but it opened my eyes to a more humane way of treating people. (Yes, it has changed the way I respond to people.) " Interesting. | |||
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"Not sure what gender has to do with it but I help to best of my ability without handing cash over. I have in the past taken odd one in for the night and offered hot shower, clean clothes and a warm night. Not once did I ever have anything taken for the record " you are a kind helpful soul. | |||
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"Not sure what gender has to do with it but I help to best of my ability without handing cash over. I have in the past taken odd one in for the night and offered hot shower, clean clothes and a warm night. Not once did I ever have anything taken for the record you are a kind helpful soul. " Just doing what's right, where I used to live I could see park benches opposite I couldn't just be cosy and ignore the person outside that could freeze to death. Would always offer a hot drink first to try gauge them | |||
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"Why a lady and not a man?a friend told me they saw a homeless lady sat in the street. So trampy she had become my friend looked twice not sure if male or female then kept walking by. If left me thinking if more should be done to help, perhaps I've a weekness because it was so lady " In most cities they are guaranteed one hot meal a day. If you want to help give to charities that feed and give them clothes and help then get housed, that's more use. | |||
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"If they are a baghead, no. If they genuinely homeless, yeah. The mr " That's interesting Mr. ( seriously ) Why not help a bag head ? | |||
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"If they are a baghead, no. If they genuinely homeless, yeah. The mr That's interesting Mr. ( seriously ) Why not help a bag head ?" Rats. The mr | |||
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"If they are a baghead, no. If they genuinely homeless, yeah. The mr That's interesting Mr. ( seriously ) Why not help a bag head ? Rats. The mr " I'd love to dig deeper but it's off topic. Thanks for answering. I feel the same to be fair when I see people with white sliced bread in their basket. | |||
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"If they are a baghead, no. If they genuinely homeless, yeah. The mr That's interesting Mr. ( seriously ) Why not help a bag head ? Rats. The mr " There for the grace of God go I...... Mr | |||
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"If they are a baghead, no. If they genuinely homeless, yeah. The mr That's interesting Mr. ( seriously ) Why not help a bag head ? Rats. The mr I'd love to dig deeper but it's off topic. Thanks for answering. I feel the same to be fair when I see people with white sliced bread in their basket. " Bit harsh on someone just buying bread compared to someone who would sell their nan for a 10 bag. The mr | |||
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"If you saw a homeless lady on the Street would you help her and how?? " No. But I’d help a homeless bear.  | |||
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"Yes, but round here drugs are rife amongst the homeless. Never give cash, will buy / give food only." Drugs are rife everywhere, from housewives juggling real life popping Oxy to get through the day, prescription or otherwise, to twenty something men snorting white all weekend trying to impress each other …….homelessness is a complex problem, reductionist labelling akin to “bag heads” et al is stereotypical and simply ignorant. | |||
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"After a series of poor decisions, my son was homeless for about a year. His ‘inside knowledge’ changed my perception of homelessness entirely! “Do you know what the worst thing about being homeless is?” ….. hunger, cold, loneliness, fear, shame ….. “You’re invisible, when you’re homeless, you’re invisible to almost everyone else” His words, not mine. " For this reason I always try to make eye contact and smile or say hello to the homeless people I see. Very few if any openly ask for money in this area but air BnB and no fault evictions are making more and more people homeless. | |||
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"Yes, but round here drugs are rife amongst the homeless. Never give cash, will buy / give food only. Drugs are rife everywhere, from housewives juggling real life popping Oxy to get through the day, prescription or otherwise, to twenty something men snorting white all weekend trying to impress each other …….homelessness is a complex problem, reductionist labelling akin to “bag heads” et al is stereotypical and simply ignorant." | |||
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"The most supportive attitude towards homeless people I've seen was in Brighton. There supporting those less fortunate was almost cultural. I've seen taxies slow down and drop food (packets of ready to eat items); churches open there doors as clothes distribution points; people stop, check, then buy an extra fast food meal for a person, or just taking the time to stop and chat. Coming from towns with more traditional/negative attitudes, this was quite shocking, but it opened my eyes to a more humane way of treating people. (Yes, it has changed the way I respond to people.) " We've got a few really good charities in Portsmouth that do similar. I think it's always best to contact the charities and let them know of the person rather than the other way round. There trained and have experience approaching anyone in need. | |||
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"The most supportive attitude towards homeless people I've seen was in Brighton. There supporting those less fortunate was almost cultural. I've seen taxies slow down and drop food (packets of ready to eat items); churches open there doors as clothes distribution points; people stop, check, then buy an extra fast food meal for a person, or just taking the time to stop and chat. Coming from towns with more traditional/negative attitudes, this was quite shocking, but it opened my eyes to a more humane way of treating people. (Yes, it has changed the way I respond to people.) " Hastings is pretty good too. | |||
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"Not sure if it’s true or not but a friend who was once homeless told me to always look at a homeless persons feet, it they’re covered up, they probably have brand new shoes on. They knew some homeless people who were dropped off and picked up by car. " That's interesting I saw someone a while ago tipping his coffee cup of cash into his pocket, I noticed his top notch trainers, glowing white socks and North Face jacket | |||
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"I mean I don't have the money to genuinely help them get off the street. I see a few begging around our way. I've put money in the pots before but it's not enough to have much impact. " I don't think many of us could fund a home for someone. I honestly believe that the authorities are happy to accept a certain level of homelessness (while continuing to demonise them) otherwise accommodation would be available for people who need it. | |||
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"There are so many organised begging gangs, it is big business. There are a couple of people I know who are genuinely homeless so will give them cash. Others I am judgemental. Rightly or wrongly, I do look at age, ethnicity (eastern Europe), clothes, shoes, cleanliness, haircuts etc as clues. In the main, I donate to Eagles Wings and Salvation Army." What if someone had just given them a new pair of trainers or coat? | |||
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"I mean I don't have the money to genuinely help them get off the street. I see a few begging around our way. I've put money in the pots before but it's not enough to have much impact. I don't think many of us could fund a home for someone. I honestly believe that the authorities are happy to accept a certain level of homelessness (while continuing to demonise them) otherwise accommodation would be available for people who need it. " We've had a big rise in the number of homeless people in the last few years. The inner London Boroughs had a drive to combat homelessness and they moved further out. | |||
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"I mean I don't have the money to genuinely help them get off the street. I see a few begging around our way. I've put money in the pots before but it's not enough to have much impact. I don't think many of us could fund a home for someone. I honestly believe that the authorities are happy to accept a certain level of homelessness (while continuing to demonise them) otherwise accommodation would be available for people who need it. We've had a big rise in the number of homeless people in the last few years. The inner London Boroughs had a drive to combat homelessness and they moved further out. " Yes the main way of dealing with homelessness seems to be to move people on rather than actually trying to get them housed. That and getting people to believe it's all their fault | |||
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"If they are a baghead, no. If they genuinely homeless, yeah. The mr " how can you say if they are genuinely homeless? a lot of homeless people are struggling with mental health issues, they require support and treatment which is not available to them. they can be either gender - giving money doesnt really help because they often just feed their addiction with it. I often bought hot drinks and food for people i have encountered. But also they can be overwhelming and frightening to people - my 18 yr old daughter was spoken to by a car park meter and it worried her - I totally understand that. It funny how during Covid space was found for these people - just saying!!! | |||
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"After a series of poor decisions, my son was homeless for about a year. His ‘inside knowledge’ changed my perception of homelessness entirely! “Do you know what the worst thing about being homeless is?” ….. hunger, cold, loneliness, fear, shame ….. “You’re invisible, when you’re homeless, you’re invisible to almost everyone else” His words, not mine. " i hope your son has been able to sort himself out - that is so true - i worked with an organisation that got funding for a while pre covid to see if we could support homeless with CAB into housing - it was really difficult, so many wrap around services were required and not available - then typically the funding was cut and we had to stop | |||
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"My immediate thought upon seeing a homeless woman is that she's probably on drugs. The safety net for women in society is such that it's almost impossible for a woman to end up homeless unless it's by choice." That is not true, much to my disgust my friend with mental health issues ended up homeless, she was driven out by a perverted landlord. She is vulnerable and in her 50s. She was told by council to sleep in her car and they would send outreach workers to check on her! She ended up sleeping in a park until an old acquaintance saw her and helped her. She was too embarrassed to tell me or other friends of her situation. | |||
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"My immediate thought upon seeing a homeless woman is that she's probably on drugs. The safety net for women in society is such that it's almost impossible for a woman to end up homeless unless it's by choice." You’re wrong on this. | |||
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"My immediate thought upon seeing a homeless woman is that she's probably on drugs. The safety net for women in society is such that it's almost impossible for a woman to end up homeless unless it's by choice. You’re wrong on this. " How often do you see a homeless woman as opposed to a homeless man? | |||
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"There are so many organised begging gangs, it is big business. There are a couple of people I know who are genuinely homeless so will give them cash. Others I am judgemental. Rightly or wrongly, I do look at age, ethnicity (eastern Europe), clothes, shoes, cleanliness, haircuts etc as clues. In the main, I donate to Eagles Wings and Salvation Army." Out of curiosity, how do you know someone is of Eastern Europe ethnicity just by looking at them? | |||
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"My immediate thought upon seeing a homeless woman is that she's probably on drugs. The safety net for women in society is such that it's almost impossible for a woman to end up homeless unless it's by choice. You’re wrong on this. How often do you see a homeless woman as opposed to a homeless man?" In this area I'd say it's 25% women | |||
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"My immediate thought upon seeing a homeless woman is that she's probably on drugs. The safety net for women in society is such that it's almost impossible for a woman to end up homeless unless it's by choice. You’re wrong on this. How often do you see a homeless woman as opposed to a homeless man?" More than half of my service users are women. Just because you don’t see them doesn’t mean they don’t exist | |||
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"No more than I would help a man. Being kind isn’t gender specific to me. Saying that, I don’t give cash. Sometimes I’ll buy them some food or a drink, it really depends where I am and what I’m doing as to whether I will help. "  ditto | |||
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"There are so many organised begging gangs, it is big business. There are a couple of people I know who are genuinely homeless so will give them cash. Others I am judgemental. Rightly or wrongly, I do look at age, ethnicity (eastern Europe), clothes, shoes, cleanliness, haircuts etc as clues. In the main, I donate to Eagles Wings and Salvation Army. Out of curiosity, how do you know someone is of Eastern Europe ethnicity just by looking at them?" They may have eastern Europe facial features. Google them for further help. | |||
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"If they are a baghead, no. If they genuinely homeless, yeah. The mr " The thing is how do you tell? We're both in Leeds and I expect, like myself, you pop into town every now and then. It's sad to see so many people begging or just sitting quietly with a cup in front of them. As has been previously said, some are genuinely homeless. Other's are begging for drug money. It's a catch 22 situation. I'm not being political here so please don't gang up on me. But the government is paying in excess of £8 per week to look after illegal immigrants often in plush hotels. Would it do any harm to use some of that money (an absolute fortune) to help the genuinely needy and homeless people of the UK? | |||
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"There are so many organised begging gangs, it is big business. There are a couple of people I know who are genuinely homeless so will give them cash. Others I am judgemental. Rightly or wrongly, I do look at age, ethnicity (eastern Europe), clothes, shoes, cleanliness, haircuts etc as clues. In the main, I donate to Eagles Wings and Salvation Army. Out of curiosity, how do you know someone is of Eastern Europe ethnicity just by looking at them? They may have eastern Europe facial features. Google them for further help. " This tells me everything I need to know. Thank you for your input. | |||
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"My immediate thought upon seeing a homeless woman is that she's probably on drugs. The safety net for women in society is such that it's almost impossible for a woman to end up homeless unless it's by choice. You’re wrong on this. How often do you see a homeless woman as opposed to a homeless man? More than half of my service users are women. Just because you don’t see them doesn’t mean they don’t exist " Well according to the statistics from the source below, in 2022, 84% of all people reported to be sleeping rough on any given night are men. https://www.statista.com/statistics/382196/rough-sleepers-england-by-gender Of the 10,354 people reported to be sleeping rough in London during 2022/23, 8,172 were men (84%) https://www.statista.com/statistics/381373/london-homelessness-rough-sleepers-by-gender/ So although I take your point that the users of your particular service are mostly women, it's disproportionately so for whatever reason. That's kind of the point. Specialized services appear to have found & processed many of the homeless women before most people see them. It's not just about services, though. Socially, homeless men just do not have as many support networks. | |||
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"If they are a baghead, no. If they genuinely homeless, yeah. The mr The thing is how do you tell? We're both in Leeds and I expect, like myself, you pop into town every now and then. It's sad to see so many people begging or just sitting quietly with a cup in front of them. As has been previously said, some are genuinely homeless. Other's are begging for drug money. It's a catch 22 situation. I'm not being political here so please don't gang up on me. But the government is paying in excess of £8 per week to look after illegal immigrants often in plush hotels. Would it do any harm to use some of that money (an absolute fortune) to help the genuinely needy and homeless people of the UK? " Could not agree more it is a disgrace. No apology from me on that | |||
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"If they are a baghead, no. If they genuinely homeless, yeah. The mr That's interesting Mr. ( seriously ) Why not help a bag head ? Rats. The mr I'd love to dig deeper but it's off topic. Thanks for answering. I feel the same to be fair when I see people with white sliced bread in their basket. Bit harsh on someone just buying bread compared to someone who would sell their nan for a 10 bag. The mr " Bit harsh and judgemental on the addicted, when you do not the causes to the addiction in the first place. Addiction is not about the drugs.. Mr | |||
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"My immediate thought upon seeing a homeless woman is that she's probably on drugs. The safety net for women in society is such that it's almost impossible for a woman to end up homeless unless it's by choice. You’re wrong on this. How often do you see a homeless woman as opposed to a homeless man?" That doesn't prove much. On my observations alone i'd say I see far more homeless women now in Liverpool City Centre than I used to - it's not 50 / 50 but there are a lot of women. Maybe I should ask them why they CHOOSE this life. | |||
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"My immediate thought upon seeing a homeless woman is that she's probably on drugs. The safety net for women in society is such that it's almost impossible for a woman to end up homeless unless it's by choice. You’re wrong on this. How often do you see a homeless woman as opposed to a homeless man? That doesn't prove much. On my observations alone i'd say I see far more homeless women now in Liverpool City Centre than I used to - it's not 50 / 50 but there are a lot of women. Maybe I should ask them why they CHOOSE this life." Anecdote for anecdote, I'm very familiar with central Liverpool and I don't think I've seen a homeless woman yet. | |||
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"If they are a baghead, no. If they genuinely homeless, yeah. The mr That's interesting Mr. ( seriously ) Why not help a bag head ? Rats. The mr I'd love to dig deeper but it's off topic. Thanks for answering. I feel the same to be fair when I see people with white sliced bread in their basket. Bit harsh on someone just buying bread compared to someone who would sell their nan for a 10 bag. The mr Bit harsh and judgemental on the addicted, when you do not the causes to the addiction in the first place. Addiction is not about the drugs.. Mr " I’m not talking about addiction, I’m talking about homeless bagheads. Don’t care why they are a baghead they made that choice, they weren’t forced into it, no matter how bad your circumstances, everybody can say no. The mr | |||
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"If they are a baghead, no. If they genuinely homeless, yeah. The mr That's interesting Mr. ( seriously ) Why not help a bag head ? Rats. The mr I'd love to dig deeper but it's off topic. Thanks for answering. I feel the same to be fair when I see people with white sliced bread in their basket. Bit harsh on someone just buying bread compared to someone who would sell their nan for a 10 bag. The mr Bit harsh and judgemental on the addicted, when you do not the causes to the addiction in the first place. Addiction is not about the drugs.. Mr I’m not talking about addiction, I’m talking about homeless bagheads. Don’t care why they are a baghead they made that choice, they weren’t forced into it, no matter how bad your circumstances, everybody can say no. The mr " Some vulnerable people are forced or pressured into drug use by acquaintances or former abusive partners. It really is not as black and white as you just expressed | |||
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"If they are a baghead, no. If they genuinely homeless, yeah. The mr That's interesting Mr. ( seriously ) Why not help a bag head ? Rats. The mr I'd love to dig deeper but it's off topic. Thanks for answering. I feel the same to be fair when I see people with white sliced bread in their basket. Bit harsh on someone just buying bread compared to someone who would sell their nan for a 10 bag. The mr Bit harsh and judgemental on the addicted, when you do not the causes to the addiction in the first place. Addiction is not about the drugs.. Mr I’m not talking about addiction, I’m talking about homeless bagheads. Don’t care why they are a baghead they made that choice, they weren’t forced into it, no matter how bad your circumstances, everybody can say no. The mr Some vulnerable people are forced or pressured into drug use by acquaintances or former abusive partners. It really is not as black and white as you just expressed" Full of shit, I’ve been there, rock bottom, I’ve been offered smack many many times, no matter how bad my life got I would never touch that shit. The mr | |||
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"My immediate thought upon seeing a homeless woman is that she's probably on drugs. The safety net for women in society is such that it's almost impossible for a woman to end up homeless unless it's by choice. You’re wrong on this. How often do you see a homeless woman as opposed to a homeless man? That doesn't prove much. On my observations alone i'd say I see far more homeless women now in Liverpool City Centre than I used to - it's not 50 / 50 but there are a lot of women. Maybe I should ask them why they CHOOSE this life. Anecdote for anecdote, I'm very familiar with central Liverpool and I don't think I've seen a homeless woman yet." You asked. I answered. I see them often. Daily in fact. Substantiated anecdote is fine by me. | |||
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"If they are a baghead, no. If they genuinely homeless, yeah. The mr That's interesting Mr. ( seriously ) Why not help a bag head ? Rats. The mr I'd love to dig deeper but it's off topic. Thanks for answering. I feel the same to be fair when I see people with white sliced bread in their basket. Bit harsh on someone just buying bread compared to someone who would sell their nan for a 10 bag. The mr Bit harsh and judgemental on the addicted, when you do not the causes to the addiction in the first place. Addiction is not about the drugs.. Mr I’m not talking about addiction, I’m talking about homeless bagheads. Don’t care why they are a baghead they made that choice, they weren’t forced into it, no matter how bad your circumstances, everybody can say no. The mr Some vulnerable people are forced or pressured into drug use by acquaintances or former abusive partners. It really is not as black and white as you just expressed Full of shit, I’ve been there, rock bottom, I’ve been offered smack many many times, no matter how bad my life got I would never touch that shit. The mr " It really is not, I know of such cases myself and also one of my old neighbours was a homeless outreach worker, we used to speak about it all. Not all people are the same, people have different levels of mental strength, life experiences etc. Just because you are mentally strong, does not mean others are - such is the diversity of humans | |||
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"If they are a baghead, no. If they genuinely homeless, yeah. The mr That's interesting Mr. ( seriously ) Why not help a bag head ? Rats. The mr I'd love to dig deeper but it's off topic. Thanks for answering. I feel the same to be fair when I see people with white sliced bread in their basket. Bit harsh on someone just buying bread compared to someone who would sell their nan for a 10 bag. The mr Bit harsh and judgemental on the addicted, when you do not the causes to the addiction in the first place. Addiction is not about the drugs.. Mr I’m not talking about addiction, I’m talking about homeless bagheads. Don’t care why they are a baghead they made that choice, they weren’t forced into it, no matter how bad your circumstances, everybody can say no. The mr Some vulnerable people are forced or pressured into drug use by acquaintances or former abusive partners. It really is not as black and white as you just expressed" whilst this maybe true I would imagine that the numbers who have been "forced" is relatively low in comparison to using by choice. The circumstances of how someone gets to this point in their lives journey will differ from person to person and there's always going to be a small percentage who are there by choice and others whose mental health is severely damaged by trauma such as ex military or personal trauma, so I would never judge anyone in that situation all I can do is make an educated guess based on my OWN personal experience in working in homeless housing projects and seeing the amount who are drug addicts whose lives are so completely dominated by drug abuse that they cannot function in "normal" society. The funding available whilst it's considerable they just can't help everyone and it's only a select few who are lucky enough to get assistance and frankly many of those are unfortunately too far gone and many others who just fall through the cracks (no pun intended) in the system. The other thing that needs to be addressed is the complete and utter failure in the Thatcher lead care in the community program, where going back many years lot's of people who are sleeping rough would have been in an institution,these people cannot function on their own, whilst I think the care in the community is great in many respects as OBVIOUSLY not everyone is in need of hospitalisation clearly they just need love care and attention and access to correct services. However many will never be able to get this help and will ultimately end up alone and destitute. You factor in also people arriving illegally in this country and living illegally a number that's growing daily. There's just not enough support and help for everyone so I would imagine that a very small percentage of people who are in need of help will actually get it and those that do a percentage will end up back on the street. Like i said I try not to judge because "there by the grace of God go I" I left home at 15 and could have easily ended up on the street I was a functioning alcoholic at this age, luckily I found someone who is now my wife of many years. But thing's could have gone a very different way...... | |||
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"If they are a baghead, no. If they genuinely homeless, yeah. The mr That's interesting Mr. ( seriously ) Why not help a bag head ? Rats. The mr I'd love to dig deeper but it's off topic. Thanks for answering. I feel the same to be fair when I see people with white sliced bread in their basket. Bit harsh on someone just buying bread compared to someone who would sell their nan for a 10 bag. The mr Bit harsh and judgemental on the addicted, when you do not the causes to the addiction in the first place. Addiction is not about the drugs.. Mr I’m not talking about addiction, I’m talking about homeless bagheads. Don’t care why they are a baghead they made that choice, they weren’t forced into it, no matter how bad your circumstances, everybody can say no. The mr Some vulnerable people are forced or pressured into drug use by acquaintances or former abusive partners. It really is not as black and white as you just expressed Full of shit, I’ve been there, rock bottom, I’ve been offered smack many many times, no matter how bad my life got I would never touch that shit. The mr It really is not, I know of such cases myself and also one of my old neighbours was a homeless outreach worker, we used to speak about it all. Not all people are the same, people have different levels of mental strength, life experiences etc. Just because you are mentally strong, does not mean others are - such is the diversity of humans "Stop making excuses for other people’s poor decision, I lost friends to it, people I had the upmost respect for reduced to rats scurrying around in the gutter, every single one of them knew what they were taking when they stuck that shit in their arm, no one to blame but themselves. The mr | |||
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"If they are a baghead, no. If they genuinely homeless, yeah. The mr That's interesting Mr. ( seriously ) Why not help a bag head ? Rats. The mr I'd love to dig deeper but it's off topic. Thanks for answering. I feel the same to be fair when I see people with white sliced bread in their basket. Bit harsh on someone just buying bread compared to someone who would sell their nan for a 10 bag. The mr Bit harsh and judgemental on the addicted, when you do not the causes to the addiction in the first place. Addiction is not about the drugs.. Mr I’m not talking about addiction, I’m talking about homeless bagheads. Don’t care why they are a baghead they made that choice, they weren’t forced into it, no matter how bad your circumstances, everybody can say no. The mr Some vulnerable people are forced or pressured into drug use by acquaintances or former abusive partners. It really is not as black and white as you just expressed Full of shit, I’ve been there, rock bottom, I’ve been offered smack many many times, no matter how bad my life got I would never touch that shit. The mr It really is not, I know of such cases myself and also one of my old neighbours was a homeless outreach worker, we used to speak about it all. Not all people are the same, people have different levels of mental strength, life experiences etc. Just because you are mentally strong, does not mean others are - such is the diversity of humans
Stop making excuses for other people’s poor decision, I lost friends to it, people I had the upmost respect for reduced to rats scurrying around in the gutter, every single one of them knew what they were taking when they stuck that shit in their arm, no one to blame but themselves.
The mr "You are talking about addiction, the saddest thing is you don't even know that you are. Sorry for you loses, but no one ever said, today Matthew I'm going to be a smack head. Yes they chose to use in the first insistence....but then that control very quickly goes..... Mr | |||
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"If they are a baghead, no. If they genuinely homeless, yeah. The mr That's interesting Mr. ( seriously ) Why not help a bag head ? Rats. The mr I'd love to dig deeper but it's off topic. Thanks for answering. I feel the same to be fair when I see people with white sliced bread in their basket. Bit harsh on someone just buying bread compared to someone who would sell their nan for a 10 bag. The mr Bit harsh and judgemental on the addicted, when you do not the causes to the addiction in the first place. Addiction is not about the drugs.. Mr I’m not talking about addiction, I’m talking about homeless bagheads. Don’t care why they are a baghead they made that choice, they weren’t forced into it, no matter how bad your circumstances, everybody can say no. The mr Some vulnerable people are forced or pressured into drug use by acquaintances or former abusive partners. It really is not as black and white as you just expressed Full of shit, I’ve been there, rock bottom, I’ve been offered smack many many times, no matter how bad my life got I would never touch that shit. The mr It really is not, I know of such cases myself and also one of my old neighbours was a homeless outreach worker, we used to speak about it all. Not all people are the same, people have different levels of mental strength, life experiences etc. Just because you are mentally strong, does not mean others are - such is the diversity of humans
Stop making excuses for other people’s poor decision, I lost friends to it, people I had the upmost respect for reduced to rats scurrying around in the gutter, every single one of them knew what they were taking when they stuck that shit in their arm, no one to blame but themselves.
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You are talking about addiction, the saddest thing is you don't even know that you are.
Sorry for you loses, but no one ever said, today Matthew I'm going to be a smack head. Yes they chose to use in the first insistence....but then that control very quickly goes.....
Mr "My point exactly, everyone knows the consequences, two or three hits and that shits got you, yet they still decided to say yes knowing full well that their life is about to be ruined. Yes they may not wake up one morning and stay “ I fancy being a smackhead “ but they don’t do a lot to not be one either. The mr | |||
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"If you saw a homeless lady on the Street would you help her and how?? No. But I’d help a homeless bear. "Fuck bears  | |||
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"If they are a baghead, no. If they genuinely homeless, yeah. The mr That's interesting Mr. ( seriously ) Why not help a bag head ? Rats. The mr I'd love to dig deeper but it's off topic. Thanks for answering. I feel the same to be fair when I see people with white sliced bread in their basket. Bit harsh on someone just buying bread compared to someone who would sell their nan for a 10 bag. The mr Bit harsh and judgemental on the addicted, when you do not the causes to the addiction in the first place. Addiction is not about the drugs.. Mr I’m not talking about addiction, I’m talking about homeless bagheads. Don’t care why they are a baghead they made that choice, they weren’t forced into it, no matter how bad your circumstances, everybody can say no. The mr Some vulnerable people are forced or pressured into drug use by acquaintances or former abusive partners. It really is not as black and white as you just expressed Full of shit, I’ve been there, rock bottom, I’ve been offered smack many many times, no matter how bad my life got I would never touch that shit. The mr It really is not, I know of such cases myself and also one of my old neighbours was a homeless outreach worker, we used to speak about it all. Not all people are the same, people have different levels of mental strength, life experiences etc. Just because you are mentally strong, does not mean others are - such is the diversity of humans
Stop making excuses for other people’s poor decision, I lost friends to it, people I had the upmost respect for reduced to rats scurrying around in the gutter, every single one of them knew what they were taking when they stuck that shit in their arm, no one to blame but themselves.
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You are talking about addiction, the saddest thing is you don't even know that you are.
Sorry for you loses, but no one ever said, today Matthew I'm going to be a smack head. Yes they chose to use in the first insistence....but then that control very quickly goes.....
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My point exactly, everyone knows the consequences, two or three hits and that shits got you, yet they still decided to say yes knowing full well that their life is about to be ruined. Yes they may not wake up one morning and stay “ I fancy being a smackhead “ but they don’t do a lot to not be one either.
The mr "I dont agree, I'm sure they didn't sign up for the consequences that they recieved when they first used Heroin, I didnt sit there when I first used smack, and say to myself or know, that I'd lose the next 20 years of my life, destroying everything in my life and family's life.....but here we are one of those recovering bag heads who was a rat at one time....I didnt sign up for what was to come .... Mr | |||
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"There are so many organised begging gangs, it is big business. There are a couple of people I know who are genuinely homeless so will give them cash. Others I am judgemental. Rightly or wrongly, I do look at age, ethnicity (eastern Europe), clothes, shoes, cleanliness, haircuts etc as clues. In the main, I donate to Eagles Wings and Salvation Army. Out of curiosity, how do you know someone is of Eastern Europe ethnicity just by looking at them? They may have eastern Europe facial features. Google them for further help. " Only that I lived in eastern Europe for seven years and experienced a lot of the same techniques and picked up a few words and accents. As I said, rightly or wrongly and I do donate to local charities who do provide food and shelter daily. | |||
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