FabSwingers.com forum: Anybody else profile dead

By (user no longer on site) OP
37 weeks ago

Like only messages I get are from fellas and I can’t even get a reply I’m easy going and pretty good looking ngl finding it a little suprising

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By *lue Eyed JokerMan
37 weeks ago

Always on the move

Takes time mate. Especially if you don't have any veris. Women get literally 1000s of messages a day on here. We outnumber them in a HUGE way.

Get yourself to a club and meet people. Showd you're more genuine etc. That's what I have done with past profiles.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
37 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon

You e been on here a short time with a very limited profile (2 short sentences) so what were you expecting? Women will read your profile (or lack of) before your message so work on your profile first - it’s your shop window.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
37 weeks ago

Leeds

You've only been here 9 weeks, did you expect sex on tap?

How much effort are you putting into your messages? As much as your profile?

Mrs

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By *ittlebirdWoman
37 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

"Like only messages I get are from fellas and I can’t even get a reply I’m easy going and pretty good looking ngl finding it a little suprising "

You can block men from messaging with filters OP

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By *coobyBoobyDooWoman
37 weeks ago

Markfield

I’m glad you realise your profile is dead.

Liven it up a little.

We can’t give profile advice unless you ask for it, so unable to give pointers or I’ll get kicked off the forum but as others have said, it’s your shop window / personal ad along with messages so make your profile the best version of you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
37 weeks ago

Will add some more pics and info to the profile thanks just a. Little suprised I can’t even get a reply to intiate any conversation

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By *illan-KillashMan
37 weeks ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants

"Like only messages I get are from fellas and I can’t even get a reply I’m easy going and pretty good looking ngl finding it a little suprising "

What were your expectations when you joined?

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By *eiaorganaWoman
37 weeks ago

Dundee

"Like only messages I get are from fellas and I can’t even get a reply I’m easy going and pretty good looking ngl finding it a little suprising "

You've made no effort with your profile so I'm unclear why you're surprised. Zero effort equals zero reward

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By *eroLondonMan
37 weeks ago

Mayfair

I'm still trying to work out what an "ngl" is. Please don't tell me it's an abbreviated form of "Nigel".

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By *rozac_fairyCouple
37 weeks ago

Birmingham

"ngl finding it a little suprising "

What is surprising you?

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By *rozac_fairyCouple
37 weeks ago

Birmingham

"I'm still trying to work out what an "ngl" is. Please don't tell me it's an abbreviated form of "Nigel".

Not gonna lie

NGL

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By (user no longer on site) OP
37 weeks ago

Just expected a few winks or reply when trying to initiate conversation that was all

honestly don’t actually think I’ve had one reply and I’ve probably sent 30 messages pretty brief just saying something like hi you look amazing would love to swap a few messages and find out a little more about u if poss

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
37 weeks ago

The Continental

Fab is brutal for the solo man. Outnumbering women by many. Patience, patience, and a bit more patience.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

OP, make the search function on the forums your friend

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By *lue Eyed JokerMan
37 weeks ago

Always on the move

Brief messages won't do you any favours either pal. Like I said, women get 1000s of messages a day. Unless you do/say something to stand out, you're just another inbox notification

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By (user no longer on site) OP
37 weeks ago

Thanks everyone will take it all on board see if it improves

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By *partharmonyCouple
37 weeks ago

Ruislip

"Will add some more pics and info to the profile thanks just a. Little suprised I can’t even get a reply to intiate any conversation "

Your expectations are too high for what your minimal profile can achieve then. Do you put more effort into your messages? What do you say to people in a first message?

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By *esthetic21Man
37 weeks ago

Birmingham/Bristol

"Like only messages I get are from fellas and I can’t even get a reply I’m easy going and pretty good looking ngl finding it a little suprising "
don't worry been on here years and not met anyone. But I could go on tinder and meet someone within a few days. Go figure

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By *illan-KillashMan
37 weeks ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants

"Just expected a few winks or reply when trying to initiate conversation that was all

In Fab terms 9 weeks is little more than a second.

It takes time and conversation to establish the attraction, connection, trust and desire needed to meet, let alone become intimate.

Lower your expectations. And again. And again.

Use all of the tools Fab gives you, an interesting biog & picture gallery would be a good starting point, messaging, the forums, group socials and clubs.

You've got to put the time and effort in.

Just being a good looking guy is nowhere near enough.

*This concludes my Ted Talk

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By (user no longer on site) OP
37 weeks ago

"Like only messages I get are from fellas and I can’t even get a reply I’m easy going and pretty good looking ngl finding it a little suprising don't worry been on here years and not met anyone. But I could go on tinder and meet someone within a few days. Go figure "

See this is exactly what I’m finding

Clearly as a single male a profile is pretty pointless

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By (user no longer on site) OP
37 weeks ago

There just a hello with a compliment and asking if there interested in swapping a few messages don’t really think a first message needs much more

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Being good living doesn’t mean shit if you’re not an exceptional male.

If you want to get laid, the forums are the place to be. Everyone is shagging everyone. People care more about personality than looks. It’s great.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
37 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon

If it’s so tough for single straight men on here why bother? I just don’t get it.

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By *veenBeeTV/TS
37 weeks ago

Winchester

And 1 more thing: don't use screenshot

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"If it’s so tough for single straight men on here why bother? I just don’t get it. "

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
37 weeks ago

Central

Single men are in abundance, so it's about having the fortune to find the right people to be attractive to. You can visit clubs and socials, to increase the numbers of others who you're engaging with.

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By *empest2KMan
37 weeks ago

Derby

"And 1 more thing: don't use screenshot "

^100% agree with this

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By *ortyairCouple
37 weeks ago

Wallasey

"There just a hello with a compliment and asking if there interested in swapping a few messages don’t really think a first message needs much more "
That's the problem right there, it's not what you think that's the matter. It's what the people you are sending a short opening message too.

There are profiles on here that get tons of messages a day. You need to make yours stand out. First impressions really do matter on here. Competition is fierce and if it looks like you can't be bothered to make much of an effort in your opening message why should they when replying. In fact it's probably easier to ignore, with the rest of the one line openings and spend time on someone's message that looks as if it might go somewhere.

Mrs x

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By *illan-KillashMan
37 weeks ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants

See this is exactly what I’m finding

Clearly as a single male a profile is pretty pointless

Your target audience looks at profiles, reads the biog and looks at the pictures.

A profile is as far from useless as you'll get.

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By *nkedguy777Man
37 weeks ago

Manchester

Yes my profile is definitely dead,I just can't seem to get any fun unfortunately,i send quite a few polite, respectful messages but sadly don't get any replies

I'll keep trying

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By *allandathleticMan
37 weeks ago

Asgard

Why, why, why, Delilah?

Hes missing the secret. You know, the one where you open a Fab account and all your sexual fantasies and kinks are catered for. With women literally smashing your inbox in (pardon the pun

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Shhhhhhhh don't reveal the secret.

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By *r X46Man
37 weeks ago

Liverpool

Just use a pic of Brad Pitt for your profile and hope she doesn't notice when you turn up for your meet.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
37 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

Have a look at some of the profiles of men on the forum OP. You might get some hints and tips.

Just don’t follow the shacket trend set by Willy… it’ll never last

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By *allandathleticMan
37 weeks ago

Asgard

"Have a look at some of the profiles of men on the forum OP. You might get some hints and tips.

Just don’t follow the shacket trend set by Willy… it’ll never last

Don't look at mine it's a load of

S h i- shite.

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By *TG3Man
37 weeks ago

Dorchester

"Like only messages I get are from fellas and I can’t even get a reply I’m easy going and pretty good looking ngl finding it a little suprising "
not sure what you're doing wrong but guess you're approaching the site as a sex site and you can't approach it like that be polite make friends then you get meets

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By *angOnBunnyCouple
37 weeks ago

Ipswich

9 weeks, no information and nothing that would entice us. Also, seems you don't really know what the lifestyle is about and are expecting sex on tap.

No effort in, nothing out

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By *ot to giggleWoman
37 weeks ago

Coventry

"Just expected a few winks or reply when trying to initiate conversation that was all

But as said theres nothing to see on yours!

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

When you started this thread, OP, what did you expect?

I’m sorry if it’s disappointed but you know about the lounge now

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By *allandathleticMan
37 weeks ago

Asgard

OP. Perhaps make a new thread asking for profile advice

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
37 weeks ago

Southampton

Mine is very much alive and kicking

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By *iscean_dreamMan
37 weeks ago

Llanelli

Lack of effort on your profile isn't helping you at all, put some effort in and go to social events. It takes years to build a good image here but you can also ruin it very quickly by complaining about getting nowhere

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By *empest2KMan
37 weeks ago

Derby

In my experience, as a guy with a ‘single guy’ profile, Fab is a marathon, not a sprint. It took me a long time to get traction with people, although I found that networking at clubs and getting myself recognised helped me massively — it's about finding your own USP and proverbially ‘planting seeds’ in people's minds to make you stand out (in a good way). And that's what I've done and I'm now having a good, fun time!

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
37 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon

"When you started this thread, OP, what did you expect?

I’m sorry if it’s disappointed but you know about the lounge now"

It is the way*

* and why I’m too scared to ask for profile advice.

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By *ady SuzieXXXWoman
37 weeks ago

Chichester

"Will add some more pics and info to the profile thanks just a. Little suprised I can’t even get a reply to intiate any conversation "
Also something under Interests so as people know whether you are compatible with them or not.

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By *icketToRudeCouple
37 weeks ago

Wellingborough

"Profile dead"

I thought this was going to be a thread about becoming dead to the empty, boring and mindless profiles... a bit like being "nose blind"

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By *JcuriousCouple
37 weeks ago

Derby

"I'm still trying to work out what an "ngl" is. Please don't tell me it's an abbreviated form of "Nigel".

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By (user no longer on site) OP
37 weeks ago

Thanks

Gonna hang out in the lounge see what happens ??

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By *rixie_BlondeWoman
37 weeks ago

London (She/Her)

Hey OP, as a single fem if you messaged me I would do what everyone is saying and look at your profile first. You’re right, you’re attractive and you don’t have just dick pics (hurray!) so you have that in your favour but you haven’t selected interests and you haven’t really used the bio section.

Rightly or wrongly, I’d conclude you were someone who felt they didn’t need to make an effort - and that would mean you could be unpleasant in messages, actively difficult when hanging out with and either a terrible lay and/or a dangerous person to get naked with.

My inferences are all big inferences, but your profile leaves a vacuum and so I fill that vacuum with past experiences from attractive guys who also made no effort. What they were like becomes my understanding for what you are like. So I move on and talk to a different hot guy whose profile made me giggle.

The way to stop me making these inferences is to stop there from being a vacuum. Use your profile - and first message - as your sales pitch to show me how fun and safe you are

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"When you started this thread, OP, what did you expect?

I’m sorry if it’s disappointed but you know about the lounge now

It is the way*

* and why I’m too scared to ask for profile advice. "

Don’t be afraid. In fact I might ask for some today

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By *mmaleiaWoman
37 weeks ago

Trowbridge

Post on the forums, get yourself noticed, get to a social, a club, you’ll start getting regular faces you’ll know at places, don’t expect too much, I didn’t get a meet til I’d been here 4 months

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
37 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon

"When you started this thread, OP, what did you expect?

I’m sorry if it’s disappointed but you know about the lounge now

It is the way*

* and why I’m too scared to ask for profile advice.

Don’t be afraid. In fact I might ask for some today

I would but a thread just to get told I need to add a comma is a bit overkill.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
37 weeks ago

Reading

You are good looking so stick with it.

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
37 weeks ago

Sheffield

There’s always a decent amount of single guys to any events I go to.

People rely on fab far too much in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

I’ve had about 2 or 3 messages out of the blue where people have found my profile from looking. Did they lead to anything? Nope.

My profile is a dead is dead, can be, as he’s probably many single males profiles…

Welcome to Fab, OP

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
37 weeks ago

Southampton

"I’ve had about 2 or 3 messages out of the blue where people have found my profile from looking. Did they lead to anything? Nope.

My profile is a dead is dead, can be, as he’s probably many single males profiles…

Welcome to Fab, OP

Piffle ...

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By *illan-KillashMan
37 weeks ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants

"I’ve had about 2 or 3 messages out of the blue where people have found my profile from looking. Did they lead to anything? Nope.

My profile is a dead is dead, can be, as he’s probably many single males profiles…

Welcome to Fab, OP

Pint.

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By *lder.Woman
37 weeks ago

Not Local

I've not had one single message.

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By *agerMorganMan
37 weeks ago

Canvey Island

I haven’t had a single message, but then I’ve not exactly “put myself” out there. It is what it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Not even one view today…

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By *WB85Man
37 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Welcome to the swinging community.

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
37 weeks ago

Southampton

"Not even one view today…

Are you sure??

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
37 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon

"Not even one view today…

Women tend to view in

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By *ittlebirdWoman
37 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

"Not even one view today…

I’ve viewed you 96.8 times… in ninja

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By *eadinthecloudsMan
37 weeks ago

Manchester

I have multiple sentences. And photos. It’s hardly a party in my inbox mate.

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By *rBobbMan
37 weeks ago

Birmingham

I have had a couple and that's good for me

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By *ovetoedgeMan
37 weeks ago

Dunstable

9 weeks? You'll be lucky if you get any contact in 9 months. Some photos are always helpful.

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