FabSwingers.com forum: How do you end relationships/ situationships/ fwbs etc.

By (user no longer on site) OP
34 weeks ago

What do you say?

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

Welcome to Dumpsville.

Population: You.

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By *ot to giggleWoman
34 weeks ago

Coventry

i have had 2 fwb's , one i just stopped being available and it fizzled out - the other was a lot younger and told him to go find a proper g/f -

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By *ot to giggleWoman
34 weeks ago

Coventry

"What do you say?"

why do you want to stop - try honesty?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
34 weeks ago

"i have had 2 fwb's , one i just stopped being available and it fizzled out - the other was a lot younger and told him to go find a proper g/f - "
why did you tell him to do that?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
34 weeks ago

"What do you say?

why do you want to stop - try honesty?"

This isn’t about me. Just random posting. You’ll get used to it

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
34 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Uh.

Usually there's been conversations and attempts made to resolve issues before it reaches that point.

But it's usually just a case of saying that this isn't going to work for me any more, and I'm grateful for the time we've had when it comes to that last one.

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

"What do you say?"

I don't, I'm a sucker for the sad eyes and quivering bottom lip and so cannot escape. The alternative is being stalked with the fear of what might happen (like Joyce McKinney and the manacled Mormon missionary - though maybe that's some people's idea of heaven!

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By *ell GwynnWoman
34 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

I just say that it's not working for me, for whatever reason. I'd rather people were direct and honest if they were ending things with me, and I very much go by "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you".

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
34 weeks ago

The Continental

I’m brutal, and can’t be doing with the whole long winded dance around it.

I’ve simply told them I don’t wanna be with them any more, and have moved out the same night. Why drag out the inevitable.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
34 weeks ago

Reading

You tell the truth. In the end its the kinder thing to do.

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By *ad NannaWoman
34 weeks ago

East London

On the only occasion I ended a relationship I told him outright that I didn't want to go out with him any more.

In adult life I've either been ghosted or it's fizzled out naturally.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
34 weeks ago

"On the only occasion I ended a relationship I told him outright that I didn't want to go out with him any more.

In adult life I've either been ghosted or it's fizzled out naturally.

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that’s sad

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By *emonbuttercreamWoman
34 weeks ago

Birmingham

I usually film myself violently fucking my asshole with a soft defrosted fish finger and then send it to them HD quality and that usually scares them away so I don't have to be the bad guy who ended the relationship.

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By *icolasHidalgoDeCorazonMan
34 weeks ago

St Leonards

"I usually film myself violently fucking my asshole with a soft defrosted fish finger and then send it to them HD quality and that usually scares them away so I don't have to be the bad guy who ended the relationship."

Are you open to proposals of marriage?

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By *ittlebirdWoman
34 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

I tell them outright. It feels harsh but it’s better than the alternative in my opinion

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By *lirtyfun123Woman
34 weeks ago

essex

I’m absolutely terrible at ending relationships because I suffer terribly with guilt. I stayed married for years because I just couldn’t bear hurting him.

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By *redwilma666Couple
34 weeks ago

Kilbirnie

Buggar off usually works

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By *ittlebirdWoman
34 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

"Welcome to Dumpsville.

Population: You."

You forgot to add bye

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By *ourtney CocksWoman
34 weeks ago

Cardiff

I let it fizzle out make excuses I can’t meet it’s taken 5 months but think he’s finally taken the hint

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By *icecouple561Couple
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34 weeks ago

East Sussex

A guy we had seen a couple of times simply messaged to say that he'd met someone and wouldn't be able to see us again.

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By *ormalfornorfolkMan
34 weeks ago

Norwich

Isn’t that extremely difficult?

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By *ormalfornorfolkMan
34 weeks ago

Norwich

I just leave and never come back.

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By *ot to giggleWoman
34 weeks ago

Coventry

"i have had 2 fwb's , one i just stopped being available and it fizzled out - the other was a lot younger and told him to go find a proper g/f - why did you tell him to do that? "

because he wanted babies and a family - he was married with a kid on the way 6 months later

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By *ansoffateMan
34 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

Ta t'ra

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

I can never tell when enough is enough

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

Just ghost them. They get the hint.

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By *ad NannaWoman
34 weeks ago

East London

"On the only occasion I ended a relationship I told him outright that I didn't want to go out with him any more.

In adult life I've either been ghosted or it's fizzled out naturally.

that’s sad

I'm not really one for relationships, to be honest. I've only had one romantic relationship that meant anything to me.

I've only cried over one man's treatment of me.

I remember the good times with lovers, rather than mourn over losing them.

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By *ad NannaWoman
34 weeks ago

East London

"Just ghost them. They get the hint."

Works with me.

If they stop messaging, I can kind of work out they aren't interested any more.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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34 weeks ago

East Sussex

"Just ghost them. They get the hint.

Works with me.

If they stop messaging, I can kind of work out they aren't interested any more.

Works for us too, we soon get the hint

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By *mmaleiaWoman
34 weeks ago

Trowbridge

Say it’s not doing it for me anymore

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By *heGateKeeperMan
34 weeks ago

Stratford

I buy Littlebird a drink and get her to do it for me

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By *ittlebirdWoman
34 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

"I buy Littlebird a drink and get her to do it for me

I’ll tell them bye for you…

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By *exxyyDy11Man
34 weeks ago

Darwen

Just be honest and say it isn't working anymore

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By *ermite12ukMan
34 weeks ago

Solihull and Brentwood

Isn’t that extremely difficult?"

Difficult? The breadcrumbs get fuckin everywhere.

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By *ivemealadybonerWoman
34 weeks ago

somewhere

Cut contact.

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By *a LunaWoman
34 weeks ago

South Wales

I say something along the lines of “I don’t love you anymore” or “this isn’t working for me anymore”.

I think I could do with a lesson in how to break up with someone in a less hurtful way?

I have learnt never to say “we need a break” because it’s the same conclusion as above but with a slight delay that causes nowt but angst.

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

Eat lots of Jerusalem Artichokes. They’ll soon dump you….

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By *emonbuttercreamWoman
34 weeks ago

Birmingham

Isn’t that extremely difficult?"

You have no idea.

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By *ormalfornorfolkMan
34 weeks ago

Norwich

Isn’t that extremely difficult?

You have no idea. "

I mean, a frozen one, yes.

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By *viatrixWoman
34 weeks ago

Redhill

"Welcome to Dumpsville.

Population: You."

Hahahaha I think my last FWB situ ended like that. Problem is, I never got the memo!!!!

That made me proper lol in my self pity wallowing.

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By *orphia2003Woman
34 weeks ago

Tonypandy.

Massive arguments, ONS, things just fizzling out, moving to a different country and just simply explaining I wasn't happy.

I've used them all

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

I think I've seen your OF videos

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

Do a Reggie Perin, leave the clothes on the beach (oh and the phone sim card too).

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By *entBarryUKMan
34 weeks ago

Ashford

"Do a Reggie Perin, leave the clothes on the beach (oh and the phone sim card too)."

I'm doing this one. Brilliant.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
34 weeks ago

North West

"On the only occasion I ended a relationship I told him outright that I didn't want to go out with him any more.

In adult life I've either been ghosted or it's fizzled out naturally.

The last time I ended a proper relationship, I was 16. It was very much "this isn't going to work, you are too juvenile and we now have big responsibility."

FWB - ghosted/ignored by them. Ditto actual friends, apart from the one who got sniffy because my newly disabled self couldn't do certain stuff anymore. That ended explosively (I exploded).

I've started to contemplate whether it's necessary to interact with other humans or whether Mr KC actually has it all correct.

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By *uctifanoWoman
34 weeks ago

Glasgow

"Welcome to Dumpsville.

Population: You."

Harsh … but buckled

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By *issBellaWoman
34 weeks ago

Wales

It's just not working, bye

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By *ardfun10Man
34 weeks ago

banbury

It’s not you it’s me lol

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By *xperimentingnewbiesCouple
33 weeks ago

Hampshire

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By *xperimentingnewbiesCouple
33 weeks ago

Hampshire

" I have learnt never to say “we need a break” because it’s the same conclusion as above but with a slight delay that causes nowt but angst. "

Needed to hear this - was spun that exact line of ‘we should take a break’ fairly recently….and you’re right ultimately I guess it’s them actually ending it completely. Feeling pretty foolish now for thinking that it was anything but it ending for good!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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33 weeks ago

East Sussex

"On the only occasion I ended a relationship I told him outright that I didn't want to go out with him any more.

In adult life I've either been ghosted or it's fizzled out naturally.

The last time I ended a proper relationship, I was 16. It was very much "this isn't going to work, you are too juvenile and we now have big responsibility."

FWB - ghosted/ignored by them. Ditto actual friends, apart from the one who got sniffy because my newly disabled self couldn't do certain stuff anymore. That ended explosively (I exploded).

I've started to contemplate whether it's necessary to interact with other humans or whether Mr KC actually has it all correct. "

Me too

I think almost all relationships are transient and temporary. Only very rare and special ones endure. Loyalty to friends and family is encouraged of course but nobody tells you that flogging a dead horse is a big waste of time.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
33 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"I just say that it's not working for me, for whatever reason. I'd rather people were direct and honest if they were ending things with me, and I very much go by "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you"."

Defo this! I’m crap at hints and game playing.

Mrs TMN x

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
33 weeks ago

Wherever

I don’t, it just organically fizzles out. Usually when they find someone better/more available/exciting.

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

Marriage/ relationship I will have usually tried to make things work with previous conversations etc so by the time I know things need to end its shouldn't be a shock when I have ended things..... sometimes it is if they haven't been listening.

For FWB .... well again I am honest, say its not working for me and I don't want to see them in that way again. Have tried to stay friends with a couple of previous fwb .... but have had to repeat the boundary of not having sex with them as they tried it on.

With a hook up I've met once or even a few times ... again just say don't want to do it again.

If people ask for reasons I generally try to be kind .... unless they've been a thunderous c*nt to me in which case I will be brutal.

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By *rBobbMan
33 weeks ago

Birmingham

My ex was quite brutal and openly told me she was "trading me in for a younger model".

Looking back at it now I actually appreciated the way she did it. It was out of the blue but all over very quickly.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
33 weeks ago

Wirral

My last FWB from here told me he'd met someone and wasn't looking to continue swinging.

I appreciated the phone call; after the fun we'd had it was great to be able to end it with good feeling and positivity rather than leave it dragging on.

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By *ortyairCouple
33 weeks ago

Wallasey

Only had one relationship in the last 36 years and still going strong, so not able to offer any advice here.

Mrs x

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