FabSwingers.com forum: You've got a friend

By *eli OP Woman
37 weeks ago

Are you happy to meet people on a purely platonic basis from here or does there need to be sex involved?

If you're happy to meet platonically, have you found friendship from this site? Do you prioritise the sexual relationships over non-sexual?

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By *ondonMagicCouple
37 weeks ago

Durham

We’ve found some friends on this site that we’d never play with,they are amazing people they just aren’t our type. We love making new friends and going out with them for drinks etc but there doesn’t have to be sex involved

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By *icecouple561Couple
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37 weeks ago

East Sussex

Yes we are happy to meet platonically. I don't know if we prioritise sexual over platonic though because we've only met platonically once.

Circumstances prevent us travelling far so that limits us anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

I’ve found some friends. I’ve done platonic things. On Friday I had a curry to celebrate my birthday. Had a picnic last month with a friend. I’m down for friends.

I prioritise what I can manage physically and emotionally. Not prioritising sex right now for many reasons. I just need to get through this month and get back to a good headspace.

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By *mmaleiaWoman
37 weeks ago

Trowbridge

I’m just happy to meet new people, whether it’s for sex or not

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By *lik and PaulCouple
37 weeks ago

cahoots

We have had coffee and chats, together and individually when using who's near...it makes for an enjoyable break in the day.

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By *irebrand 1263Man
37 weeks ago

near you

I enjoy meeting people and chatting..if that's just friends then that's OK.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
37 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

I love my friends here. I don’t have le sex with all of them either

Genuinely. Fab has some amazing people and I’m proud to call some of them my friends

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By *illy IdolMan
37 weeks ago

Midlands

There's quite a few on here I'd happily meet for just a drink but I probably would prioritise meets with the potential for a bit of sexy time in the future.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"I love my friends here. I don’t have le sex with all of them either

Genuinely. Fab has some amazing people and I’m proud to call some of them my friends

Liar. You have sex with us all

at the same time

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By *ittlebirdWoman
37 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

"I love my friends here. I don’t have le sex with all of them either

Genuinely. Fab has some amazing people and I’m proud to call some of them my friends

Liar. You have sex with us all

at the same time

Shush. That’s a secret. Ps. Great curry

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"I love my friends here. I don’t have le sex with all of them either

Genuinely. Fab has some amazing people and I’m proud to call some of them my friends

Liar. You have sex with us all

at the same time

Shush. That’s a secret. Ps. Great curry

You should taste my curry actually

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By *ittlebirdWoman
37 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

"I love my friends here. I don’t have le sex with all of them either

Genuinely. Fab has some amazing people and I’m proud to call some of them my friends

Liar. You have sex with us all

at the same time

Shush. That’s a secret. Ps. Great curry

You should taste my curry actually

I have. Not quite as much as I would like

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"I love my friends here. I don’t have le sex with all of them either

Genuinely. Fab has some amazing people and I’m proud to call some of them my friends

Liar. You have sex with us all

at the same time

Shush. That’s a secret. Ps. Great curry

You should taste my curry actually

I have. Not quite as much as I would like

We’re doing it again then

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By *agnar1980Man
37 weeks ago

Poole

I’m happy with either. As long as the friends like to talk about sex that’s all I ask

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By *heGateKeeperMan
37 weeks ago

Stratford

The social side is super important to me and I love meeting new people and developing new connections. There are a few people on here I’ve not met yet that I’d love to meet socially and a few that I’ve met before that I’d love to meet again

I generally meet Fabbera socially every couple of months and that’s a nice sort of time frame for me with everything else going on

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By *hrek101Man
37 weeks ago

Herts

I would love friends from here but alas I don't think it likely

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By *ex LutherMan
37 weeks ago

Closer than you think

If the only thing that comes out of this is a new friend then I am happy with that for me

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By *rBobbMan
37 weeks ago

Birmingham

I think developing a friendship inside or outside the bedroom is important. I would love to connect with more people here some are just really nice people.

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By *eli OP Woman
37 weeks ago

"We’ve found some friends on this site that we’d never play with,they are amazing people they just aren’t our type. We love making new friends and going out with them for drinks etc but there doesn’t have to be sex involved

Aww that's really lovely! I think you can find people who aren't your type sexually but as friends? It can work very well.

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By *eli OP Woman
37 weeks ago

"Yes we are happy to meet platonically. I don't know if we prioritise sexual over platonic though because we've only met platonically once.

Circumstances prevent us travelling far so that limits us anyway "

Would you ever attend a social?

I think distance can be a big factor in who you spend time with - it doesn't mean the desire isn't there.

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By *hris-1980Man
37 weeks ago

Nr Tamworth

Having not physically meet anyone from FAB yet, I am happy to meet platonically and sexually, right now however I am probably prioritising platonic meets over sexual ones being new, I would like to get to know some people from this world and see if there is anything between us or just to get their views on the life etc.

I enjoy meeting new people and chatting especially if I find someone with similar interests to me as then things can really get interesting.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
37 weeks ago

East Sussex

"Yes we are happy to meet platonically. I don't know if we prioritise sexual over platonic though because we've only met platonically once.

Circumstances prevent us travelling far so that limits us anyway

Would you ever attend a social?

I think distance can be a big factor in who you spend time with - it doesn't mean the desire isn't there."

We've attended socials in the past and really enjoyed them.

I find that I feel faintly reluctant nowadays because I'm usually very much older than others at socials. That's on me I know

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By *ora the explorerWoman
37 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

Not really. Not anyone new. There’s a couple of people I’ve known a while from here that I’d like to meet for a drink if we were ever in the same area and I’ve a few friends made here over the years but not really looking for just friends, I don’t have the time anymore.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"Yes we are happy to meet platonically. I don't know if we prioritise sexual over platonic though because we've only met platonically once.

Circumstances prevent us travelling far so that limits us anyway

Would you ever attend a social?

I think distance can be a big factor in who you spend time with - it doesn't mean the desire isn't there.

We've attended socials in the past and really enjoyed them.

I find that I feel faintly reluctant nowadays because I'm usually very much older than others at socials. That's on me I know

I’m usually stick out at socials too

so we can all sit together

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
37 weeks ago

East Sussex

"Yes we are happy to meet platonically. I don't know if we prioritise sexual over platonic though because we've only met platonically once.

Circumstances prevent us travelling far so that limits us anyway

Would you ever attend a social?

I think distance can be a big factor in who you spend time with - it doesn't mean the desire isn't there.

We've attended socials in the past and really enjoyed them.

I find that I feel faintly reluctant nowadays because I'm usually very much older than others at socials. That's on me I know

I’m usually stick out at socials too

so we can all sit together

Spring and autumn

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
37 weeks ago

Next Door

I'm happy to meet people and see if a plantonic friendship grows.

I've found lots say they are happy for this but expect me to do the travelling. Effort on both parties

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By *eli OP Woman
37 weeks ago

"I’ve found some friends. I’ve done platonic things. On Friday I had a curry to celebrate my birthday. Had a picnic last month with a friend. I’m down for friends.

I prioritise what I can manage physically and emotionally. Not prioritising sex right now for many reasons. I just need to get through this month and get back to a good headspace. "

I hope you do get through this month okay Pickle

If someone wanted just a platonic friendship with you and said that - how would you respond?

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By *estYorkshireGentMan
37 weeks ago

Leeds

Yeah I’ve made some great friends through fab! Some with sex and some without. Met most at the social events or clubs

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
37 weeks ago

Over the last decade or so I have made a few dear friends through fab. The sex I can take or leave, but my fab friends make me smile every day, which means so much more.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
37 weeks ago

East Sussex

"I'm happy to meet people and see if a plantonic friendship grows.

I've found lots say they are happy for this but expect me to do the travelling. Effort on both parties"

Lots also say they're happy for this too but then add 'maybe more 'and immediately I'm wary

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Yep. I’m happy to meet anyone on a friendship basis. Friends get you through life and I’ve off coffee socials are great.

I’ve not found the elusive mate to get together regularly, and im not against the idea.

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By *eli OP Woman
37 weeks ago

"I love my friends here. I don’t have le sex with all of them either

Genuinely. Fab has some amazing people and I’m proud to call some of them my friends

You shouldn't be having sex with any of them. You're a forum user. We all know forum people never do anything remotely sexual, we just talk about it.

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
37 weeks ago

Next Door

"I'm happy to meet people and see if a plantonic friendship grows.

I've found lots say they are happy for this but expect me to do the travelling. Effort on both parties

Lots also say they're happy for this too but then add 'maybe more 'and immediately I'm wary "

Yes totally agree, I forgot that part.

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By *eli OP Woman
37 weeks ago

"There's quite a few on here I'd happily meet for just a drink but I probably would prioritise meets with the potential for a bit of sexy time in the future."

That's fair enough, after winning Arse of the Whatever you're going to be in high demand. Can't spread yourself too thinly.

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By *ensuallover1000Man
37 weeks ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

I needs the sexy sex stuff I do’s.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
37 weeks ago

Okehampton

I like meeting people that make me laugh and enjoy open and relaxed conversations. I’ve had many a social where it’s never gone further but I’ve kept in touch with those people (when I say kept in touch what I mean to say is that I am a pretty useless “friend” so I reply to their messages

, I always feel like I’m bothering people if I message first).

So yes, I’m happy to meet people platonically, but it has to be with someone I enjoy the company of, you can become a bit of a drama sponge on sites like this, where people come to you when they’re down or upset, but the minute they get back on their feet you get forgotten and that isn’t good for your own mental health.

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By *hrough the looking gla55Couple
37 weeks ago

Epsom

We’re happy to meet for just friends or friends with benefits. Just sex doesn’t really ring our bells and we’ve made some great friends through the scene so it’s working well so far

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
37 weeks ago

Leeds

Yes, it's nice to have people to chat with about this side of your life - I like meeting new swingers friends.

Mrs

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By *offiaCoolWoman
37 weeks ago

Kidsgrove

I have nin sexual friendships from here. Due to distance we only meet a couple of times a year.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
37 weeks ago

Kidsgrove

Non sexual

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"I’ve found some friends. I’ve done platonic things. On Friday I had a curry to celebrate my birthday. Had a picnic last month with a friend. I’m down for friends.

I prioritise what I can manage physically and emotionally. Not prioritising sex right now for many reasons. I just need to get through this month and get back to a good headspace.

I hope you do get through this month okay Pickle

If someone wanted just a platonic friendship with you and said that - how would you respond? "

I world respond with ‘ok.’

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"Yes we are happy to meet platonically. I don't know if we prioritise sexual over platonic though because we've only met platonically once.

Circumstances prevent us travelling far so that limits us anyway

Would you ever attend a social?

I think distance can be a big factor in who you spend time with - it doesn't mean the desire isn't there.

We've attended socials in the past and really enjoyed them.

I find that I feel faintly reluctant nowadays because I'm usually very much older than others at socials. That's on me I know

I’m usually stick out at socials too

so we can all sit together

Spring and autumn

Opposites attract

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By *icecouple561Couple
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37 weeks ago

East Sussex

"Yes we are happy to meet platonically. I don't know if we prioritise sexual over platonic though because we've only met platonically once.

Circumstances prevent us travelling far so that limits us anyway

Would you ever attend a social?

I think distance can be a big factor in who you spend time with - it doesn't mean the desire isn't there.

We've attended socials in the past and really enjoyed them.

I find that I feel faintly reluctant nowadays because I'm usually very much older than others at socials. That's on me I know

I’m usually stick out at socials too

so we can all sit together

Spring and autumn

Opposites attract

This is probably a whole other thread.

Do you feel that people older than you make assumptions about you did to your age and treat you differently because of that?

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By *illy IdolMan
37 weeks ago

Midlands

"There's quite a few on here I'd happily meet for just a drink but I probably would prioritise meets with the potential for a bit of sexy time in the future.

That's fair enough, after winning Arse of the Whatever you're going to be in high demand. Can't spread yourself too thinly. "

I'll make it my goal to attend a social this summer though. I can't have everyone thinking I'm an arrogant, cocky prick in person

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By *ad NannaWoman
37 weeks ago

East London

If we have something to do or talk about that makes it worth us meeting, I'm happy to have a purely platonic relationship.

I like days out and pub outings that don't have to end in sex.

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By *TG3Man
37 weeks ago

Dorchester

"Are you happy to meet people on a purely platonic basis from here or does there need to be sex involved?

If you're happy to meet platonically, have you found friendship from this site? Do you prioritise the sexual relationships over non-sexual?"
I have 2 friends i met on here, one i see quite a lot

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By *ad NannaWoman
37 weeks ago

East London

"If we have something to do or talk about that makes it worth us meeting, I'm happy to have a purely platonic relationship.

I like days out and pub outings that don't have to end in sex.

It's a first come first served basis for me.

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By *ad NannaWoman
37 weeks ago

East London

"If we have something to do or talk about that makes it worth us meeting, I'm happy to have a purely platonic relationship.

I like days out and pub outings that don't have to end in sex.

It's a first come first served basis for me.

I just lied. If someone offered a really nice platonic day out I think would be good for my wellbeing, I'd cancel any sex plans.

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By *partharmonyCouple
37 weeks ago

Ruislip

Yes totally. For us it's friends first. If leads to the bedroom then great, but that's not an objective. We've found more platonic friends through Fab than lovers.

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
37 weeks ago

The Continental

They’re the only friends I have, so yeah. No need for bumping uglies here.

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By *enStarrMan
37 weeks ago

Lancaster

I just like to meet new people tbh. The sex is optional.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
37 weeks ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

When I'm meeting socially to see if there is chemistry I always say if we are not compatible then I'd be happy to be friends because you've built up that friendship anyway before the social so why not!?

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"Are you happy to meet people on a purely platonic basis from here or does there need to be sex involved?

If you're happy to meet platonically, have you found friendship from this site? Do you prioritise the sexual relationships over non-sexual?"

Prefer making friendships first, if their isn't a friendship then their isn't any sex

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By *ne.eyed.willyMan
37 weeks ago

Ammanford

Always friends first. If it leads to more then fine.

Have made many friends over a few years here.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

I love the social side to here.

I am more than happy to meet platonically and just spend a few hours in nice company with good conversation, banter and craic.

If it develops into anything sexual with like minded folks then it will be with purely mutual consent but primarily, the foundations to nice friendships will have been established.

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By *eli OP Woman
37 weeks ago

"I would love friends from here but alas I don't think it likely "

Oh, why not?

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By *eli OP Woman
37 weeks ago

"I'm happy to meet people and see if a plantonic friendship grows.

I've found lots say they are happy for this but expect me to do the travelling. Effort on both parties"

I think that's what is important in friendship, where ever it's found. If it's all give on one side and that's not reciprocated, it's not really a friendship.

As far as maybe more goes? Yeah, if there's not that flirty energy etc it's a bit grim.

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
37 weeks ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

We'd happily meet people platonically, for us it's not all about le sex, that's an added bonus

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By *ot to giggleWoman
37 weeks ago

Coventry

i love the social side of it so much so that i have and am organising group socials - a group of like minded people the conversations and the flirting has been great fun.

But its also with a view to fun times with others too.

I have a telegram group of friends now, and people are so helpful to each other.

We doing a BBQ in July which will be great fun and another big party social in September - but from those other things have happened.

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By *till gameMan
37 weeks ago

Oldham

"Are you happy to meet people on a purely platonic basis from here or does there need to be sex involved?

If you're happy to meet platonically, have you found friendship from this site? Do you prioritise the sexual relationships over non-sexual?"

I met a couple about 20 years ago, we played a lot and socialised as well , even going on holiday together.

They don’t play anymore but we are still best of friends

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

I have a number of people on here that I meet platonically, they are good friends that I will meet for meals and walks - really happy with the relationships as they stand.

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By *ond Jimmy BondMan
37 weeks ago

London

This is tricky, there’s people that I really fancy but it’s one sided but we get on well. I’d find it difficulty to meet them and still have utterly filthy thoughts about them whilst discussing the weather etc. Then there’s people who I talk to and neither of us fancy each other and we can truly be friends

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By *eroLondonMan
37 weeks ago

Mayfair

I am happy to meet people on here on a platonic basis and indeed I quite often do in earnest. It's been part of my p+sitive and rewarding experience on here, the social scene - one-to-one libations or group socials. I have found a comfortable milieu of friends with whom I hang out, dine out with or do cultural 'stuff'.

It has to be balanced though: I'm not comfortable doing it at the detriment of fewer sexual meets. If I found myself having less sex and more socials then I would rethink my approach on here and reset the equilibrium...and perhaps prioritise the sex. With that said both friends and paramours get equal weighting on here; I don't prioritise one over the other.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
37 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

"I love my friends here. I don’t have le sex with all of them either

Genuinely. Fab has some amazing people and I’m proud to call some of them my friends

You shouldn't be having sex with any of them. You're a forum user. We all know forum people never do anything remotely sexual, we just talk about it.

Oh god yes. I never have le sex. Ever ever

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By *irthandgirthMan
37 weeks ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

I have made some great friends on here. I have had sex with some, not with others. It doesn't change my feelings towards them.

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By * and R cple4Couple
37 weeks ago

swansea

We've been on the scene for over 20 years and we have made a lot of friends, some of them have a totally different dynamic to us so their might be a d*unken kiss and some flirting but that's as far as it will ever go.

It's great having good friends in this lifestyle because you can have the type of conversations you can't have with vanilla friends.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
37 weeks ago

Wirral

I tried to meet people platonically at one point on here but it didn't really work out - I got stood up even more frequently than I do when meeting a potential partner!

I do have a couple of FWB that I would meet even if sex wasn't on the cards on that occasion, but I suspect if you removed the sexual element entirely the friendship bit wouldn't last very long.

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By *rishman75Man
37 weeks ago

Chessington/epsom

I've met some great people here a d love chatting with them .

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
37 weeks ago

your head

Sometimes I'm happy to have a social for the sake of meeting someone new and it not going any further. Have found that mostly though, it generally tries to be turned into more by the other party which puts me off.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

I am on this site because I do NOT want friends, I would not meet anyone just for a social.

I keep my sex life and my private life separate.

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By *avid 50Man
37 weeks ago

kendal

Often when chatting in the lounge you meet up with somebody who has many interests Similar to your own, I have several couples and singles that I have a friendship with that hasn’t ended up in sex. In fact if the sex side did take over that might end the friendship.

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By *offee27Man
37 weeks ago

Wiltshire

I'm happy to make friends on here as I don't really have any in real life.

But 1st I'm on here for us sex but not the most important

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By *ucka39Man
37 weeks ago

Newcastle

I've made some cracking friends even some after leaving the site, nothing sexual but able to talk about anything and laugh about it and turn them on when they need a hand

Am I able to have a normal social without anything sexual sure I don't constantly think about sex

Live life and prosper

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

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By *arry monk40Man
37 weeks ago

Telford

If people are like minded but too far away I keep in touch

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By *allandathleticMan
37 weeks ago

Asgard

Sure. Why not?

I'm sure there's potentially some really good friends on here.

However on reflection, friendships are made over time. And I'm not sure i have the patience of making new friends..

But I'll happily have a beer with anyone.

Mines a Guinness

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By *ell GwynnWoman
37 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

I've not been feeling very sexy of late, so by default, I prioritise my friends on here. I have a couple of very dear friends who I'd happily introduce my family to, so even if I do find my mojo again, the friends would still take priority.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
37 weeks ago

Reading

I do like having both but yes i would netty someone platonically. More so then i wouldn't have continuing meets with someone i didn't have some sort of friend connection with.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Platonic love that word.

Do I engage enough to warrant friendship oh no. It is drama free leave your shit at home and NSA.

I call it passing ships in the night not friends

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By *ansoffateMan
37 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

Fwiend!

I can wholeheartedly say it's always the person first, even if I have residual horniness going on. My sexual desire tends to develop after I have got to know someone intimately. I get an odd sensation sometimes, where I feel like I ought to find someone attractive, but the moment just doesn't occur. I can even feel guilty about it, as I can't find a reason that I don't.

I am not someone who has lots of friends, I find that overwhelming. I meet a lot of people in my work, so perhaps that's mechanic's car syndrome. My Neurodiversity can be a bit of an issue, as I can go AWOL, if I am peopled out or hyperfocused on something.

But yes I have made a few friends; two huggy friends and one has become a partner. Fab is an interesting place to find friends.

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By *eli OP Woman
37 weeks ago

"I like meeting people that make me laugh and enjoy open and relaxed conversations. I’ve had many a social where it’s never gone further but I’ve kept in touch with those people (when I say kept in touch what I mean to say is that I am a pretty useless “friend” so I reply to their messages

, I always feel like I’m bothering people if I message first).

I really doubt you are bothering people by messaging someone first! You should go for it, DD, people will probably be happy you've messaged first.

I think of those people mentioned in the latter paragraph as being fairweather friends, the hi and bye sort. Protecting your mental health is important, x

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By *ellinever70Woman
37 weeks ago

Ayrshire

There doesn't need to be sex involved, but I'm not looking to form ongoing platonic relationships with people from here

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

There’s a few people I’d love to meet up with just for a drink and a chat

I don’t have a lot of free time to meet people, though, so meeting people i actually want to have sex with would take priority over that.

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By *partan69Man
37 weeks ago

hyde

"There’s a few people I’d love to meet up with just for a drink and a chat

I don’t have a lot of free time to meet people, though, so meeting people i actually want to have sex with would take priority over that. "

Aww thanks shivs

Lmao

Yes I know not me ha ha

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By *eli OP Woman
37 weeks ago

"Yes totally. For us it's friends first. If leads to the bedroom then great, but that's not an objective. We've found more platonic friends through Fab than lovers."

Are you happy with it being that way or would you prefer more lovers than friends?

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By *ea monkeyMan
37 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

I do and I have met people from here on a platonic basis, it’s lovely to have friends that you can chat with, give support to and who just ‘get’ this.

Having said that, several friends are also people that I enjoy getting naked with too, not on a FWB basis but simply friends where it’s never off the table

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By *ongandharderMan
37 weeks ago

Rotherham

I'd be happy to meet platonically given the right environment/ communication

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By *ealitybitesMan
37 weeks ago

Belfast

I've met many people from here, knowing that sex was not going to be on the agenda long before meeting.

It's one of the reasons I've never asked for a facepic and on the few occasions I have shared one it has only been so we could recognise each other in the coffee shop.

Some of my best friends are people I've met through fab and even though they are no longer on the site for various reasons we are still close friends and have never had sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"Are you happy to meet people on a purely platonic basis from here or does there need to be sex involved?

If you're happy to meet platonically, have you found friendship from this site? Do you prioritise the sexual relationships over non-sexual?"

Whomever I’m fortunate to meet with I never presume sex is on the cards and I do enjoy just meeting for a chat and laugh anyway

if something comes of it great but if not “that’s life”

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By *rpeggioCouple
37 weeks ago

Baughurst

Totally happy to meet people with no expectations of sex. Actually, we have done it.

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By *enhamhoopMan
37 weeks ago

Denham

Depends on the person people but yep no problem was considering putting up an advert for a vanilla meet this Saturday to watch Eurovision somewhere

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By *niquemale17Man
37 weeks ago

Swindon

I'm more then happy to meet as friends with people on here I see it as a positive

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By *od ThrusterMan
37 weeks ago

Newport Pagnell

More than happy to meet with no sex, and have done so before.

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By *ll-Knight-longMan
37 weeks ago

Derby/Notts(Long Eaton)

I have been to a few socials especially when my FWB lived near Chester. We had camping socials with a few that became platonic friends & some that shared a few drinks at the pub. I have had play sessions in clubs where the fun and giggles & touching was good but we didn’t progress further. Don’t need to have penetrative sex to have fun

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By *imbo2007Man
37 weeks ago

Peterborough

Yeah always good making new connections be that sexual or no sexual

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By *nnCeeWoman
37 weeks ago

East of Eden, West of Hell

"(I am a pretty useless “friend” so I reply to their messages

, I always feel like I’m bothering people if I message first)."

This, always this...

I'd be happy to make "just friends" with people.

But it seems I can even get people to meet for a social, so not really doing too well... ah well

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"(I am a pretty useless “friend” so I reply to their messages

, I always feel like I’m bothering people if I message first).

This, always this...

I'd be happy to make "just friends" with people.

But it seems I can even get people to meet for a social, so not really doing too well... ah well"

You and me both but I have hope

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By *eli OP Woman
37 weeks ago

"(I am a pretty useless “friend” so I reply to their messages

, I always feel like I’m bothering people if I message first).

This, always this...

I'd be happy to make "just friends" with people.

But it seems I can even get people to meet for a social, so not really doing too well... ah well"

Oh En and Mr Fox. I have faith that you both will find those people.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"(I am a pretty useless “friend” so I reply to their messages

, I always feel like I’m bothering people if I message first).

This, always this...

I'd be happy to make "just friends" with people.

But it seems I can even get people to meet for a social, so not really doing too well... ah well

Oh En and Mr Fox. I have faith that you both will find those people.

Fingers crossed lovely

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By *inx000Couple
37 weeks ago

Manchester

Absolutely,doesn't always have to be about sex..have a few friends from fab that I've just met for socials and nothing more just a really good friendship.

But I feel if you meet someone that gets you and you both have a good vibe and great connection..act on it and embrace the sexual desires

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By *adyBugsWoman
37 weeks ago

cognito

What is this sex thing people are speaking of?!

I think I have some friends but I’m not really sure, maybe they are faking it…

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By *nnCeeWoman
37 weeks ago

East of Eden, West of Hell

"(I am a pretty useless “friend” so I reply to their messages

, I always feel like I’m bothering people if I message first).

This, always this...

I'd be happy to make "just friends" with people.

But it seems I can even get people to meet for a social, so not really doing too well... ah well

Oh En and Mr Fox. I have faith that you both will find those people.

Fingers crossed lovely

Thank you, gorgeous Meli xx

Fingers crossed over here too!

(Crossed even harder that fellas stop standing me up last minute too!)

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By *nnCeeWoman
37 weeks ago

East of Eden, West of Hell

"What is this sex thing people are speaking of?!

I think I have some friends but I’m not really sure, maybe they are faking it…

I'll be your fwend, if you want? No faking x

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
37 weeks ago

North West

Platonic is good. I definitely made platonic friends, as well as the sort where you might want to do the Sex with them. To be honest, the platonic type are more common.

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By *ildbillkidMan
37 weeks ago

where the road goes on forever

How about internet (friends) the whole trans- Atlantic thing, I've ( met) people on here, who if not friends then I'm friendly with

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By *adyBugsWoman
37 weeks ago

cognito

"What is this sex thing people are speaking of?!

I think I have some friends but I’m not really sure, maybe they are faking it…

I'll be your fwend, if you want? No faking x"

Hi new fwend

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By *entBarryUKMan
37 weeks ago

Ashford

Always happy to meet people socially and make new friends.

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By *entleman JayMan
37 weeks ago

Wakefield

I’ve met my best friends on here. Just friendship. No funny business.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

I have a few friends I met platonically. One, we’ve managed to meet up once a month over the past few years. We can spend hours together, and it’s like we’ve not had a day apart. Very intriguing person with delectable taste. They always choose the best places for our catch-ups.

Another friend I met off here has been there for me through really tough moments this past year. Makes me laugh often. We have a friendship that’s uniquely us. It’s as if we have been best friends for our entire lives. We can go months without catching up and it seems like it’s been days. We can get lost in one another in conversations and time passes too quickly. Someone I can always count on to be there for me not only in the happiest moments of life but also the most difficult.

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By *orksRockerMan
37 weeks ago

Bradford

I don't use FB and so this site to me, is for the social aspect. If it turns naughty, then great, if it doesn't, great too. I'm more laid back than most here. I've also found good friends who I see alot socially. Some where we were naughty and some not.

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By *OYFBWoman
37 weeks ago

Jersey (sometimes Notts)

Would be nice to make friends, but in my experience so far with the guys it’s sex or nothing.

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By *partharmonyCouple
37 weeks ago

Ruislip

"Yes totally. For us it's friends first. If leads to the bedroom then great, but that's not an objective. We've found more platonic friends through Fab than lovers.

Are you happy with it being that way or would you prefer more lovers than friends?"

We're happy with that. Nothing is pushed. There's always the possibility that friends become lovers somewhere down the line.

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By *JcuriousCouple
37 weeks ago

Derby

I mean with benefits is a bonus.

But we wouldn't mind making friends with people we wouldn't necessarily play with to go to clubs/events with socially.

Miss S x

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By *icketToRudeCouple
37 weeks ago

Wellingborough

We'd be happy with platonic. We're pretty new on our journey but loving it and of course looking for fun but, on the same account... we've already met one couple and would start to consider them as friends. It just means we can meet socially, enjoy each other's company and have an openness that means we can talk about anything

especially the lifestyle. And in turn, would be more than happy meeting others getting to know them and having more friends in the lifestyle. Any benefits a bonus

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