FabSwingers.com forum: Need advice

By *orcester-guy OP Man
37 weeks ago

Worcester

Hi everyone

New to fab. Sent message to all profiles F /couples around 20 mile radius. Waiting for something to happen. Active on forum.

So what else I can do. Is this OK to send a message again or just wait???

Been to xtasia but only in day time, for evening you need a invitation from F or couples to join (is that true)

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
37 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

If you've mailed every female and couple within 20 miles, what exactly were you saying that you think would warrant a response?

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By *agerMorganMan
37 weeks ago

Canvey Island

Just sit tight and if they don’t respond, don’t message again.

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By *issmorganWoman
37 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Don't send another message op, this is why I block people.

It just comes over as pushy.

What type of messages do you send people?.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
37 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon

Maybe it’s the any holes a goal attitude to spamming every F and Cpl in a 20 mile radius.

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
37 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry

"Hi everyone

New to fab. Sent message to all profiles F /couples around 20 mile radius. Waiting for something to happen. Active on forum.

So what else I can do. Is this OK to send a message again or just wait???

Been to xtasia but only in day time, for evening you need a invitation from F or couples to join (is that true) "

Nothing like carpet bombing and shock n awe tactics...

Fab is a game of numbers after all,

there are many ways to connect to people through fab, maybe look at doing organised socials....as a way to meet people in person

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By *eroLondonMan
37 weeks ago

Mayfair

"Hi everyone

New to fab. Sent message to all profiles F /couples around 20 mile radius. Waiting for something to happen. Active on forum.

So what else I can do. Is this OK to send a message again or just wait???

Been to xtasia but only in day time, for evening you need a invitation from F or couples to join (is that true) "

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If you have messaged practically everyone around your locale and beyond then I dread to think what exactly you are writing to them. Are all the messages verbatim?

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
37 weeks ago

Wherever

Your status update, some forum posts and such reek of desperation, maybe that’s why.

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By *orcester-guy OP Man
37 weeks ago

Worcester

"If you've mailed every female and couple within 20 miles, what exactly were you saying that you think would warrant a response?"

Sorry dear not asking for response just need a advice what else u can do start a conversation

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
37 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"If you've mailed every female and couple within 20 miles, what exactly were you saying that you think would warrant a response?

Sorry dear not asking for response just need a advice what else u can do start a conversation "

I'm asking what you're already doing to start a conversation.

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By *layfullsamMan
37 weeks ago

Solihull

Up it to 50 mile radius and offer free cake, that’s sure to get at least one response

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By *orcester-guy OP Man
37 weeks ago

Worcester

Thank u not going to send another message.

Nothing I normally introduce my self and why I m here.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
37 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"Thank u not going to send another message.

Nothing I normally introduce my self and why I m here. "

So, more like forwarding a profile than actually initiating an actual conversation?

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By *orcester-guy OP Man
37 weeks ago

Worcester

"If you've mailed every female and couple within 20 miles, what exactly were you saying that you think would warrant a response?

Sorry dear not asking for response just need a advice what else u can do start a conversation

I'm asking what you're already doing to start a conversation."

Simple intro about me and why I m here

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By *olgateSmileMan
37 weeks ago

Edinburgh / London

Having a quick look at your profile...

Us blokes are not in charge here. We don't get to make the rules. And women are rightly concerned about their safety.

You need to get yourself in situations where you can get verified. Having your verifications hidden and no verification summary is potentially a red flag, and with so many others to choose from, why would they consider you?

Also, your last line, so face pic shared until you respond. Tough. If you don't share a face pic on your initial message, you'll not get much in the way of a response.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"If you've mailed every female and couple within 20 miles, what exactly were you saying that you think would warrant a response?

Sorry dear not asking for response just need a advice what else u can do start a conversation

I'm asking what you're already doing to start a conversation.

Simple intro about me and why I m here"

Is it more or less the same intro for all messages?

What about their profile? What attracted you to it? Why do you think you’d be a good fit for their dynamic?

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
37 weeks ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

Good profile, go to socials, events and club nights. Be seen, chat network with active swingers in your area.

Add to that through online forums and chatrooms.

Build a network, gain trust and start your swinging journey.

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By *orcester-guy OP Man
37 weeks ago

Worcester

Normally share face pic whoever requested to send with message.

Because I m sending messages to locals so bit of safe side not sending to everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

You have a green tick OP, so you've either been verified by meet or by cam. However you're choosing not show the verification or the verification summary. This may also be a red flag to people.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
37 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

"If you've mailed every female and couple within 20 miles, what exactly were you saying that you think would warrant a response?

Sorry dear not asking for response just need a advice what else u can do start a conversation

I'm asking what you're already doing to start a conversation.

Simple intro about me and why I m here

Is it more or less the same intro for all messages?

What about their profile? What attracted you to it? Why do you think you’d be a good fit for their dynamic?"

^^ this 100%

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By *orcester-guy OP Man
37 weeks ago

Worcester

"If you've mailed every female and couple within 20 miles, what exactly were you saying that you think would warrant a response?

Sorry dear not asking for response just need a advice what else u can do start a conversation

I'm asking what you're already doing to start a conversation.

Simple intro about me and why I m here

Is it more or less the same intro for all messages?

What about their profile? What attracted you to it? Why do you think you’d be a good fit for their dynamic?"

I always read their profile nd add couple of lines as per interest

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By *ivemealadybonerWoman
37 weeks ago

somewhere

I mean you have been on here 5 weeks and already have a veri, I'd say you are already doing pretty well on that front, Rome wasn't built in a day, it's not wall to wall fanny unfortunately

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"Normally share face pic whoever requested to send with message.

Because I m sending messages to locals so bit of safe side not sending to everyone "

Unfortunately people want to see face pics straight away usually. If you're not willing to do this, it's going to hinder your chances.

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By *lack Orchid 0204Man
37 weeks ago

Leeds

If you get no response

my tip....

move house and repeat messaging to everyone in the new area..

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By *ittlebirdWoman
37 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

"I mean you have been on here 5 weeks and already have a veri, I'd say you are already doing pretty well on that front, Rome wasn't built in a day, it's not wall to wall fanny unfortunately"

Oh but it is… Fanny everywhere

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By *exxyyDy11Man
37 weeks ago

Darwen

Just be patient. You will get a reply and hopefully a meet. I have just messaged a couple, sent a face pic, I wasn't their type. It is what it is. No offence caused. You win some, you lose some on here.

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
37 weeks ago

Essex

Everyone in a 20 mile radius? That’s the fab equivalent of a junk mail leaflet drop.

Personally I’d rather a more exclusive restaurant, with reviews & great service.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
37 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

From what you sent me.

The lack of spelling or grammar will put people off. It looks like you can't be bothered to make an effort as opposed to simply being a matter of it not being a native tongue.

There's nothing there that is designed to connect with the individual. Women and couples get 100s of messages, most can easily tell the difference between and bland blanket message towards anyone who'll do and one actually directed at them that shows a genuine interest in something more than their available orifices.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"I mean you have been on here 5 weeks and already have a veri, I'd say you are already doing pretty well on that front, Rome wasn't built in a day, it's not wall to wall fanny unfortunately

Oh but it is… Fanny everywhere

But not on tap.... you've joined a swinging site, it's not a guaranteed sex site.. You need to find someone who wants to swing with you.... Can you not build something with your veri?

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By *adrqMan
37 weeks ago

monaghan

unless you have a sex change you can be the most honest man on this site the chances on this site for meet ups an fun are pretty low , ye you could get lucky but chances of getting hit by a bus on the irish sea are higher, Women have all the power on here ,

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By *orcester-guy OP Man
37 weeks ago

Worcester

"I mean you have been on here 5 weeks and already have a veri, I'd say you are already doing pretty well on that front, Rome wasn't built in a day, it's not wall to wall fanny unfortunately"

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
37 weeks ago

Reading

So you fit the profile of ALL the women abd they yours?

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By *orcester-guy OP Man
37 weeks ago

Worcester

"So you fit the profile of ALL the women abd they yours?"

I wish

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By *eroLondonMan
37 weeks ago

Mayfair

"...Us blokes are not in charge here. We don't get to make the rules. And women are rightly concerned about their safety"

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Gentle fellow, you can tar yourself and your chums with that proverbial brush, but not in my name. Women and men have equal footing and I'm in charge of my own destiny and experiences on here, without the sway or influence of the opposite sex.

Women's safety is paramount but no more and no less than their male counterparts.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
37 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

"I mean you have been on here 5 weeks and already have a veri, I'd say you are already doing pretty well on that front, Rome wasn't built in a day, it's not wall to wall fanny unfortunately

Oh but it is… Fanny everywhere

But not on tap.... you've joined a swinging site, it's not a guaranteed sex site.. You need to find someone who wants to swing with you.... Can you not build something with your veri? "

Absofuckinglutely.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
37 weeks ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Green arrow

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By *urve_your_enthusiasmWoman
37 weeks ago

Manchester

"Hi everyone

New to fab. Sent message to all profiles F /couples around 20 mile radius. Waiting for something to happen. Active on forum.

So what else I can do. Is this OK to send a message again or just wait???

Been to xtasia but only in day time, for evening you need a invitation from F or couples to join (is that true) "

To ALL women and couples within w0 miles? Can't have been anything personalised.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
37 weeks ago

Leeds

I am curious - how many messages have you sent ?

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
37 weeks ago

About 3 feet away from the fence

"Sent message to all profiles F /couples around 20 mile radius. "

1st piece of advice : Don't Do This

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By *ost SockMan
37 weeks ago

West Wales and Cardiff

"Sent message to all profiles F /couples around 20 mile radius.

1st piece of advice : Don't Do This

Yeah, that’s a disastrous approach.

I said it in another thread today, but I’ve always felt it’s best to only send a message if you get that intangible feeling that you and the other person(s) are on the same wavelength and can make a nice connection.

I’ve been on Fab thirteen years; I’ve probably sent less unsolicited messages to others than you in all those years (probably two/three a year)

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By *illy IdolMan
37 weeks ago

Midlands

When Andy Dufresne was having no look, he decided to send more letters. Send more messages would be my advice

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By *partharmonyCouple
37 weeks ago

Ruislip

If we received message that looked like it could be sent to everybody in a 20 mile radius, we would immediately delete it.

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By *TG3Man
37 weeks ago

Dorchester

Get a puppy and walk it on the beach don't put the lead on you'll get loads of women coming up to you

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By *TG3Man
37 weeks ago

Dorchester

"Get a puppy and walk it on the beach don't put the lead on you'll get loads of women coming up to you

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I should charge for tips like these

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By *ansoffateMan
37 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

Best to wait, very sensitive creatures these fabites. They'll venture out to the watering hole eventually

I'd say aim for the heart but that's often an ineffective shot, best to aim for the ass, it should slow them down a bit and you can track them.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

You sent message to ALL the women?

That’s commitment right there, I’d meet you just for achieving that.

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By *uenevereWoman
37 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

"So you fit the profile of ALL the women abd they yours?

I wish "

Since you literally message every single lady and couple, you must have sent exactly the same message to all of them.

This is pretty much guaranteed not to work.

It sounds like you will happily have sex with anyone. In which case, get yourself into town on a Friday or Saturday night... there's nearly always ladies equally keen to get laid.

Good luck OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Pls keep responses to the forum

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"Pls keep ALL responses to the forum

FIFY.

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
37 weeks ago

About 3 feet away from the fence

Btw, did you expect all the people you messaged to at least reply back with "thank we are not interested"?

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By *rBobbMan
37 weeks ago

Birmingham

Patients is key. Only message people that you are attracted to and that you think would be a good match for you. Just because they are local doesn't mean they will be your ideal swinging partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

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By *orcester-guy OP Man
37 weeks ago

Worcester

"Btw, did you expect all the people you messaged to at least reply back with "thank we are not interested"?

No I don't because it's their wish if they want to reply. I respect that now because they got 100 of messages everyday

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By *ou only live onceMan
37 weeks ago

London

You fancy every woman within a 20 mile radius?!? I'm doing this wrong...

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
37 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry

I know how you feel Op, I commented on your thread but you didn't respond back, shameful. Fancy not replying how's that fair...I took the time to write you. What should I? do any tips for me

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By *orcester-guy OP Man
37 weeks ago

Worcester

"Pls keep responses to the forum

Sorry for that I normally do but sometime it's better to reply in private so I don't start new thread.

Because I already had few nd my reputation is that I am desperate for something

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By *orcester-guy OP Man
37 weeks ago

Worcester

"I know how you feel Op, I commented on your thread but you didn't respond back, shameful. Fancy not replying how's that fair...I took the time to write you. What should I? do any tips for me

Mr "

I was like that before desperate for reply from everyone

But I understand now that I m not the only one here nd u can't force anyone u need to learn respect their wishes.

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
37 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry

"I know how you feel Op, I commented on your thread but you didn't respond back, shameful. Fancy not replying how's that fair...I took the time to write you. What should I? do any tips for me

I was like that before desperate for reply from everyone

But I understand now that I m not the only one here nd u can't force anyone u need to learn respect their wishes.

Sid, I'm not desperate and have never messaged every profile within 20 miles of me, even when i was a single man on here,

I see sarcasim is not your strong point

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
37 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry

"I know how you feel Op, I commented on your thread but you didn't respond back, shameful. Fancy not replying how's that fair...I took the time to write you. What should I? do any tips for me

I was like that before desperate for reply from everyone

But I understand now that I m not the only one here nd u can't force anyone u need to learn respect their wishes.

Sid, I'm not desperate and have never messaged every profile within 20 miles of me, even when i was a single man on here,

I see sarcasim is not your strong point

Mr "

Ooh I forgot Sid, your behaviour kinda smacks of desperation...

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By *exySiren01Woman
37 weeks ago

RCT

So every woman and couple in your area are your type or interested in what you are offering?....sounds to me more like any woman or couple will do for you just because they are a couple or woman!

Not the best approach to have on here OP

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By *orcester-guy OP Man
37 weeks ago

Worcester

"I know how you feel Op, I commented on your thread but you didn't respond back, shameful. Fancy not replying how's that fair...I took the time to write you. What should I? do any tips for me

I was like that before desperate for reply from everyone

But I understand now that I m not the only one here nd u can't force anyone u need to learn respect their wishes.

Sid, I'm not desperate and have never messaged every profile within 20 miles of me, even when i was a single man on here,

I see sarcasim is not your strong point

Ooh I forgot Sid, your behaviour kinda smacks of desperation..."

I know but u learn from Mistakes

When you start in these kind of platforms you think that you will get whatever u want.

With time u learn it's not about you it's about others.

So done few changes in my profile nd specially about me attitude towards fab. So happy Fabbing everyone

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By *orcester-guy OP Man
37 weeks ago

Worcester

"So every woman and couple in your area are your type or interested in what you are offering?....sounds to me more like any woman or couple will do for you just because they are a couple or woman!

Not the best approach to have on here OP"

Yeah that's true wrong approach

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By *elloWoman
37 weeks ago

alpha centauri

"If you've mailed every female and couple within 20 miles, what exactly were you saying that you think would warrant a response?

Sorry dear not asking for response just need a advice what else u can do start a conversation "

Pfft

. Made me spit my tea out, laughing.

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By *onnyGibbMan
37 weeks ago

Peterborough

"I mean you have been on here 5 weeks and already have a veri, I'd say you are already doing pretty well on that front, Rome wasn't built in a day, it's not wall to wall fanny unfortunately

Oh but it is… Fanny everywhere

Made me think of this line from Mindhorn, “you’ll have minge coming out your arse”

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"unless you have a sex change you can be the most honest man on this site the chances on this site for meet ups an fun are pretty low , ye you could get lucky but chances of getting hit by a bus on the irish sea are higher, Women have all the power on here ,"

Everyone in here has the power to say no thank you.... its called consent. As we are not sex workers and here for our own pleasure and motivations. I am very particular about who I meet ... that's my perogative. If you aren't getting meets ... take the advice given .... or tough stop moaning about it.

Its simple maths and men joining and expecting that they will be getting their dicks wet constantly on here.

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By *ivemealadybonerWoman
37 weeks ago

somewhere

Its simple maths and men joining and expecting that they will be getting their dicks wet constantly on here. "

Sex workers can say no too!

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By *irthandgirthMan
37 weeks ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

What do you need advice with?

Your profile or your approach?

This isn't your first thread on this topic. Have you taken previous advice?

As said, carpet bombing everyone within a 20 mile radius doesn't make anyone feel special or give the message you want an actual connection.

Your posts indicate a very lax approach to partner selection, which honestly, many find off-putting. Fab offers people the chance to be very selective in the partner(s) they wish to meet. Can you see the difference?

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By *rill PhilMan
37 weeks ago

Crediton

I've been on and off this site for over 10 years and I've never met anyone as a result.

So, be prepared for that reality and pump your breaks on the desperation front!

You say you've messaged every woman within 20 miles of you? That to me demonstrates desperation.

Generally, I'd say never send follow up messages. If you get a reply, great! But, if you don't, take the hint.

As others have said, there's no guarantee of sex here. If you think there is or should be, you're in the wrong place.

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By *rill PhilMan
37 weeks ago

Crediton

For example, I sent a message this morning to someone I have had vague conversations within the past. If she doesn't respond to me, I will leave it there in spite of the fact that we have spoken before

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
37 weeks ago

Central

You're very new and need patience. There are thousands of single men here and others are able to pick exactly who is right for them, based on how well the men sell themselves and if they are attractive to them. The focus must be on why each one of them is good and appropriate. And what they have to give.

In more rural areas, you may need to expand your range, including by visiting clubs and socials. But it's not easy and demands substantial graft, without any guarantees of anything, whatsoever. The internet is a tiny part of swinging. And women have free reign to find the right people.

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By *edeWoman
37 weeks ago

the abyss

Go to organised group socials, make connections that way

And don't send a copy and paste message - they are easy to spot and are likely to be ignored

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By *orcester-guy OP Man
37 weeks ago

Worcester

"Go to organised group socials, make connections that way

And don't send a copy and paste message - they are easy to spot and are likely to be ignored "

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By *orcester-guy OP Man
37 weeks ago

Worcester

"You're very new and need patience. There are thousands of single men here and others are able to pick exactly who is right for them, based on how well the men sell themselves and if they are attractive to them. The focus must be on why each one of them is good and appropriate. And what they have to give.

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