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By (user no longer on site) OP   
38 weeks ago

I know we are all looking for sexual stimuli & physical recreation but I have just seen a new member comment on the ‘weird/disgusting messages they have received despite being on here no more than 3 hours

SHOULD the postees of such messages be named & shamed and examples of the offending messages shown.

Thoughts?

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
38 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon

Name and shame is against site rules.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
38 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

It's against the rules to name and shame, or to directly post private conversations.

So uh, no

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By *parkle1974Woman
38 weeks ago

Leeds

Personally I think they should as it might get rid of a good number of people.....sadly fab does not allow it!

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
38 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Yeah.

Go for it!

Bastards

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
38 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon


"Personally I think they should as it might get rid of a good number of people.....sadly fab does not allow it! "

Thing is one persons weird and disgusting is someone else’s fetish.

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By *atin braTV/TS
38 weeks ago

bristol

the thing is ...ive had a few people block / delite but i dont think ive been overly wrong or disgusting but thoes people do so what im into they aint so in there mind it would be justifyd to do that ... if your well within the law of the land who can judge what is and isnt worthy of a name and shame

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

I am a weirdo and fetish magnet some of the messages I get. I do get it as I dress normal and have a vanilla mindset/ profile

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
38 weeks ago

Staffordshire


"Personally I think they should as it might get rid of a good number of people.....sadly fab does not allow it!

Thing is one persons weird and disgusting is someone else’s fetish. "

You promised you wouldn’t mention that ‘thing’ I asked you to do to me with the cactus

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By *parkle1974Woman
38 weeks ago

Leeds


"Personally I think they should as it might get rid of a good number of people.....sadly fab does not allow it!

Thing is one persons weird and disgusting is someone else’s fetish. "

That's a good point. I was thinking more of the abusive kind of messages x

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
38 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon


"Personally I think they should as it might get rid of a good number of people.....sadly fab does not allow it!

Thing is one persons weird and disgusting is someone else’s fetish.

You promised you wouldn’t mention that ‘thing’ I asked you to do to me with the cactus "

Oh a CACTUS duh! I read ‘lot of pricks’ didn’t think of plant based options sorry sugar

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By *enk15Man
38 weeks ago

Evesham

Nope. Would turn the forums into a pillory with people throwing rotten veg at the miscreants.

Plus, people lie and exaggerate.

The report button is there for a reason.

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By *parkle1974Woman
38 weeks ago

Leeds


"Nope. Would turn the forums into a pillory with people throwing rotten veg at the miscreants.

Plus, people lie and exaggerate.

The report button is there for a reason."

But if you could screenshot the message and post it.....there would be no lies x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
38 weeks ago

OR just examples?I had somebody send me a text within MINUTES of me joining & the poster assumed/hoped I was gay without any preferences listed on my profile….

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By *arley QuimWoman
38 weeks ago

Somewhere

Newbies tend to find the filters fast

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
38 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon


"OR just examples?I had somebody send me a text within MINUTES of me joining & the poster assumed/hoped I was gay without any preferences listed on my profile…."

Implying you think being gay is weird or disgusting? Is that what you mean?

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By *herrybakewellCouple
38 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Report button is there for this very reason.

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By *rixie_BlondeWoman
38 weeks ago

London (She/Her)

I’m getting A LOT of messages at the moment from one guy who’s asking when I last had a poo and if he can sniff my bum. I can’t decide if he’s a bona fide pervert or someone I’ve known trying to wind me up,

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

No. They should be reported.

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

No.

One persons disgusting is another person's romantic.

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago


"I’m getting A LOT of messages at the moment from one guy who’s asking when I last had a poo and if he can sniff my bum. I can’t decide if he’s a bona fide pervert or someone I’ve known trying to wind me up, "

Are you sure it's not your GP?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
38 weeks ago


"OR just examples?I had somebody send me a text within MINUTES of me joining & the poster assumed/hoped I was gay without any preferences listed on my profile….

Implying you think being gay is weird or disgusting? Is that what you mean? "

No….the assumption about my orientation from a complete stranger is what I found distasteful-the internet seems to give people permission to behave as they please & in a manner they could not in the real world….

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By *arley QuimWoman
38 weeks ago

Somewhere


"I’m getting A LOT of messages at the moment from one guy who’s asking when I last had a poo and if he can sniff my bum. I can’t decide if he’s a bona fide pervert or someone I’ve known trying to wind me up, "

I take it you've not blocked him then?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
38 weeks ago


"I’m getting A LOT of messages at the moment from one guy who’s asking when I last had a poo and if he can sniff my bum. I can’t decide if he’s a bona fide pervert or someone I’ve known trying to wind me up, "

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

I wondered what that smell was

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
38 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon


"OR just examples?I had somebody send me a text within MINUTES of me joining & the poster assumed/hoped I was gay without any preferences listed on my profile….

Implying you think being gay is weird or disgusting? Is that what you mean?

No….the assumption about my orientation from a complete stranger is what I found distasteful-the internet seems to give people permission to behave as they please & in a manner they could not in the real world…."

I get a lot of messages from people who aren’t what I’m looking for. Doesn’t make them weird or disgusting.

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By *atin braTV/TS
38 weeks ago

bristol


"OR just examples?I had somebody send me a text within MINUTES of me joining & the poster assumed/hoped I was gay without any preferences listed on my profile….

Implying you think being gay is weird or disgusting? Is that what you mean? "
its defo not disgusting but considering we only make up less than 5% of the worlds population it could quite easly falll into the wierd catagory please dont get me wrong i aint saying it is my kink is prob less than 0.5% hence y name and shame wouldnt be fair cus it literaly is in the eye of the be holder

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
38 weeks ago


"I’m getting A LOT of messages at the moment from one guy who’s asking when I last had a poo and if he can sniff my bum. I can’t decide if he’s a bona fide pervert or someone I’ve known trying to wind me up,

I take it you've not blocked him then? "

I love the user names on here….Harley Quim….

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By *rixie_BlondeWoman
38 weeks ago

London (She/Her)


"I’m getting A LOT of messages at the moment from one guy who’s asking when I last had a poo and if he can sniff my bum. I can’t decide if he’s a bona fide pervert or someone I’ve known trying to wind me up,

I take it you've not blocked him then? "

I didn’t for a while because I was sure it was someone spoofing me, but I did block him today. “Trixie ShittyStinkyBum” started to feel more like abuse than entertainment

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
38 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon


"OR just examples?I had somebody send me a text within MINUTES of me joining & the poster assumed/hoped I was gay without any preferences listed on my profile….

Implying you think being gay is weird or disgusting? Is that what you mean? its defo not disgusting but considering we only make up less than 5% of the worlds population it could quite easly falll into the wierd catagory please dont get me wrong i aint saying it is my kink is prob less than 0.5% hence y name and shame wouldnt be fair cus it literaly is in the eye of the be holder"

This is a big non sequitur tbh

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
38 weeks ago


"OR just examples?I had somebody send me a text within MINUTES of me joining & the poster assumed/hoped I was gay without any preferences listed on my profile….

Implying you think being gay is weird or disgusting? Is that what you mean?

No….the assumption about my orientation from a complete stranger is what I found distasteful-the internet seems to give people permission to behave as they please & in a manner they could not in the real world….

I get a lot of messages from people who aren’t what I’m looking for. Doesn’t make them weird or disgusting. "

I’m not saying or implying gay or homosexual is disgusting-just that people can be pretty thoughtless.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
38 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon


"OR just examples?I had somebody send me a text within MINUTES of me joining & the poster assumed/hoped I was gay without any preferences listed on my profile….

Implying you think being gay is weird or disgusting? Is that what you mean?

No….the assumption about my orientation from a complete stranger is what I found distasteful-the internet seems to give people permission to behave as they please & in a manner they could not in the real world….

I get a lot of messages from people who aren’t what I’m looking for. Doesn’t make them weird or disgusting.

I’m not saying or implying gay or homosexual is disgusting-just that people can be pretty thoughtless."

It’s quoted above in your own words as an example of a weird or disgusting example that a gay person contacted you.

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By *aizyWoman
38 weeks ago

west midlands


"I’m getting A LOT of messages at the moment from one guy who’s asking when I last had a poo and if he can sniff my bum. I can’t decide if he’s a bona fide pervert or someone I’ve known trying to wind me up,

I take it you've not blocked him then?

I didn’t for a while because I was sure it was someone spoofing me, but I did block him today. “Trixie ShittyStinkyBum” started to feel more like abuse than entertainment "

He sounds delightful!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
38 weeks ago


"I’m getting A LOT of messages at the moment from one guy who’s asking when I last had a poo and if he can sniff my bum. I can’t decide if he’s a bona fide pervert or someone I’ve known trying to wind me up,

I take it you've not blocked him then?

I didn’t for a while because I was sure it was someone spoofing me, but I did block him today. “Trixie ShittyStinkyBum” started to feel more like abuse than entertainment "

That’s what I mean-it’s clear you aren’t interested, never will interested but he feels entitled to send you messages out pique or hoping he’ll wear you down

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By *rixie_BlondeWoman
38 weeks ago

London (She/Her)


"I’m getting A LOT of messages at the moment from one guy who’s asking when I last had a poo and if he can sniff my bum. I can’t decide if he’s a bona fide pervert or someone I’ve known trying to wind me up,

Are you sure it's not your GP?"

What kind of a relationship do you have with your GP I think you’ve been groomed, report them

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By *arley QuimWoman
38 weeks ago

Somewhere


"I’m getting A LOT of messages at the moment from one guy who’s asking when I last had a poo and if he can sniff my bum. I can’t decide if he’s a bona fide pervert or someone I’ve known trying to wind me up,

I take it you've not blocked him then?

I didn’t for a while because I was sure it was someone spoofing me, but I did block him today. “Trixie ShittyStinkyBum” started to feel more like abuse than entertainment "

Yes, maybe don't get that printed on a t-shirt

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago


"OR just examples?I had somebody send me a text within MINUTES of me joining & the poster assumed/hoped I was gay without any preferences listed on my profile….

Implying you think being gay is weird or disgusting? Is that what you mean?

No….the assumption about my orientation from a complete stranger is what I found distasteful-the internet seems to give people permission to behave as they please & in a manner they could not in the real world….

I get a lot of messages from people who aren’t what I’m looking for. Doesn’t make them weird or disgusting.

I’m not saying or implying gay or homosexual is disgusting-just that people can be pretty thoughtless.

It’s quoted above in your own words as an example of a weird or disgusting example that a gay person contacted you. "

Gonna catch da ghay

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

A guy messaged me I was working nights was about 3am asked me do I think he can circumcise his own cock

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

Some people just like a reaction whether that be positive or negative. I've had people say some outright ludicrous things just to get a reply ha.

I just let people message how they want and block if its rude, gross or disrespectful in my opinion.

You could never stop people just being people anyway , were all here for different things even if you don't like how they approach.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
38 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon


"A guy messaged me I was working nights was about 3am asked me do I think he can circumcise his own cock "

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By *ice_couple2012Couple
38 weeks ago

Leicester

Abusive messages should certainly be reported to admin but you should also consider that some of the producers of these overtly unpleasant messages seem to get off on causing shock and disgust, and disseminating the messages so that more people share in the outrage will just amplify their pleasure. Don't give them the satisfaction of broadcasting your upset - just delete and block and move on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
38 weeks ago


"Abusive messages should certainly be reported to admin but you should also consider that some of the producers of these overtly unpleasant messages seem to get off on causing shock and disgust, and disseminating the messages so that more people share in the outrage will just amplify their pleasure. Don't give them the satisfaction of broadcasting your upset - just delete and block and move on."

Fair point….the frustrating thing is people like them create a toxic atmosphere for everyone else

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
38 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon


"Abusive messages should certainly be reported to admin but you should also consider that some of the producers of these overtly unpleasant messages seem to get off on causing shock and disgust, and disseminating the messages so that more people share in the outrage will just amplify their pleasure. Don't give them the satisfaction of broadcasting your upset - just delete and block and move on.

Fair point….the frustrating thing is people like them create a toxic atmosphere for everyone else "

But calling gay people disgusting isn’t creating a toxic environment?

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By *lder.Woman
38 weeks ago

Not Local

I like weird and disgusting. Where would I get my kicks.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
38 weeks ago

East Sussex

https://www.fabswingers.com/content/forum-rules

Here's a link to the forum rules. You'll see it says no naming and shaming and no publishing private messages. This is to safeguard all of us from false accusations.

Anyone receiving abusive messages should report to admin. I'll post how they deal with reports next.

If you're receiving messages from single men and you're not interested in meeting them use mail filters to stop them contacting you.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
38 weeks ago

East Sussex

Here is an explanation from Admin from another thread on how they deal with reports. ******Just a quick note. If people report others and we can verify that they have broken site rules, we always take action (either a first and final warning, partially suspended account, fully suspended, mixture of the above). Every single report sent via the REPORT link is reviewed. Clearly it's not in our interests to have people on here who are bad for the site. Equally we need to verify what has been reported and be fair to those who have been reported. Admin PS. we never provide feedback on what has happened. It's just not practical given that we get 100s of reports a day. Here is what the page says after a report has been submitted: -- Your feedback has been saved. A website admin will shortly review your feedback and take the necessary action. After reviewing the evidence available to us, we may disable an account, remove a user, disable certain aspects of that user's account or issue a warning. By leaving feedback you help improve the site for everyone who uses it. Thank you.******

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
38 weeks ago

East Sussex

As you've had advice on how to deal with this I'll close the thread

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