FabSwingers.com forum: Rejection

By (user no longer on site) OP
38 weeks ago

I'm interested to know how often people get rejected on here and how they deal with it?

Are you rejected/blocked following a sent message or after photos are swapped?

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By *avexxMan
38 weeks ago

cheshire

dont worry about it op,,just move on,

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By (user no longer on site) OP
38 weeks ago

I'm cool about rejection

I'm just a nosey bugger and like hearing about other people's experiences

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

I don’t think I’ve ever got a positive reply from a first message (not on the forums). Usually nothing or it’s thanks but not my type

How do I deal with it? I charge it to the game

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By *ansoffateMan
38 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

I sacrifice a cute bunny rabbit.

Fuck me or the rabbit gets it.

No pressure.

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By *arley QuimWoman
38 weeks ago

Somewhere

Ah, doesn't bother me

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

I’m usually ok once I’ve punched my wall.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
38 weeks ago

"I don’t think I’ve ever got a positive reply from a first message (not on the forums). Usually nothing or it’s thanks but not my type

How do I deal with it? I charge it to the game"

I'm pretty much the same, on the occasions I've popped a message I'm my usually friendly self.

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By *issmorganWoman
38 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I'm not looking to meet at the min, so not really sending pics etc.

In the past I've been rejected a couple of times when I've swapped my face pic. I just shrug it off & move on though, we can't all fancy everyone can we?.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
38 weeks ago

"I’m usually ok once I’ve punched my wall. "

Ouch, I hope there plasterboard walls

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By *adyBugsWoman
38 weeks ago

cognito

A lot. Apparently I don’t have a nice face…oh well it’s the only one I’ve got

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
38 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

I'm not actively seeking, so the most I get is reciprocal rejection from someone I say no thanks to.

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By *lym4realCouple
38 weeks ago

plymouth

We just move on up !! We both know we are both a sandwich short of a picnic or even afew cans short of a 4 pack and so not everyones cup of earl grey either so we just go and talk to the trees !! but mostly we are surprised they've actually shown up though !

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By (user no longer on site) OP
38 weeks ago

"I sacrifice a cute bunny rabbit.

Fuck me or the rabbit gets it.

No pressure."

Going all Cameron Poe

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By *avexxMan
38 weeks ago

cheshire

"A lot. Apparently I don’t have a nice face…oh well it’s the only one I’ve got

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,, me too

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By *etal and KinkMan
38 weeks ago

Malice

I internalise it and let it build. Eventually I'll either melt into puddle of fear and self loathing, or I'll be FINE.

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

It’s just part of life move on and get on with it. No point blocking or getting nasty

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By (user no longer on site) OP
38 weeks ago

"It’s just part of life move on and get on with it. No point blocking or getting nasty "

Very true. We are never going to be everyone's cup of tea. It's a case of being true to yourself and finding that niche that likes you

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

Since I was stood up and ghosted by someone I have been talking to for months last night, I think this is the therapy thread for me.

They were listed on meet today and I have talked to them on and off for months. We made arrangements to meet somewhere of their choosing at a time they wanted and arrived early. Sent three messages from arrival, waited five minutes after the time and left. Checked messages, read but no reply and profile hidden.

Went to Asda and bought pork scratchings and rum. I recieved a random message from a black head profile which I presume is the troll so I let them know to avoid this deadbeat profile and sent a screenshot of the conversation. The blackhead didn't even ask who the deadbeat was.

Check to see if anyone else in the area is up for a meet since I brushed my teeth anyway. Nothing happening, so that was a waste of deodorant.

It's time to go back home and Muggle life once again. The other half is more annoyed than I am, but I brought her cream cake so she quickly forgot.

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

I rarely put myself in a position to be rejected, but it has happened. It doesn’t feel great. I give myself a minute and move on.

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By *EAT..85Woman
38 weeks ago

Nottingham

When I've sent messages of interest (not replying to a received message) I probably have a less than 50% success rate. I can't be everyone's cup of tea, and I don't really engage in sexy talk online which I think a lot of people think is the standard way here.

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By *eliWoman
38 weeks ago

I've not been rejected on here before. I think that's because I don't approach messages as wanting anything more than to talk to someone because they seem interesting. And I have a vagina. And I'm very cautious about messaging people. :D

I've never been blocked/deleted after sending a face pic or anything like that. It will happen one day. Might sting a little bit at first but I'll quickly move on from it.

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By *WINGStars23Couple
38 weeks ago

Northwest UK

Most of our rejections and no reply. We just move on, no worries.

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By *ot to giggleWoman
38 weeks ago

Coventry

"Since I was stood up and ghosted by someone I have been talking to for months last night, I think this is the therapy thread for me.

Check to see if anyone else in the area is up for a meet since I brushed my teeth anyway. Nothing happening, so that was a waste of deodorant.

It's time to go back home and Muggle life once again. The other half is more annoyed than I am, but I brought her cream cake so she quickly forgot.

I find there is a lot of ghosting - i think its because people become overwhelmed by the idea and rather than say so they just hide. I never go anywhere if i dont get a message at least an hour before - not worth getting ready for half the time.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
38 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

It’s all part of the fun OP.

If we all liked the same thing wouldn’t life be boring?

And I hate boring

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

"I've not been rejected on here before. I think that's because I don't approach messages as wanting anything more than to talk to someone because they seem interesting. And I have a vagina. And I'm very cautious about messaging people. :D

I've never been blocked/deleted after sending a face pic or anything like that. It will happen one day. Might sting a little bit at first but I'll quickly move on from it. "

Must be nice

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
38 weeks ago

little house on the praire

I've never really been rejected from here but in general life its never bothered me

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
38 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry

Rejection on here is just a perception, and a lens that we look at things through......its fucking fab at the end of the day.....a no is going to happen, thats life for you.....

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
38 weeks ago

Central

It must be expected as most people are not mutually compatible with most other people.

I move on and expect everyone to do the same

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By *TG3Man
38 weeks ago

Dorchester

Let the women look for you if you're worthy and your profile is the best it can be you'll get there in the end

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By *ife NinjaMan
38 weeks ago

Dunfermline

Goes with the territory. If you let it get to you, this isn't the website for you

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
38 weeks ago

Essex

It happens.

I usually sulk, whinge to a friend, go to sleep and wake up feeling better.

I have recently found an alternative therapy though

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By *ife NinjaMan
38 weeks ago

Dunfermline

"It happens.

I usually sulk, whinge to a friend, go to sleep and wake up feeling better.

I have recently found an alternative therapy though

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Nobody, in their right mind, would reject you

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By *avexxMan
38 weeks ago

cheshire

having a good cry gets it out of the system

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By *ucka39Man
38 weeks ago

Newcastle

I couch down and swiftly move in another direction

I just carry on being me, rejection doesn't have an effect on me we're not always compatible or competitive

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By *eliWoman
38 weeks ago

I've never been blocked/deleted after sending a face pic or anything like that. It will happen one day. Might sting a little bit at first but I'll quickly move on from it.

Must be nice

Ha! I'm going to reply seriously though.

I don't think it is nice. How I am. The caution, the self doubt, the not really living. Not going for things because at times I can be so convinced I would be rejected by anyone.

After some sad events recently it's made me more determined to say fuck it and go for it. Somewhere along the line someone won't like my face. And that's fine. Someone will like it. And I'll like theirs.

Going for something, actually trying, even if it doesn't work out, even if it temporarily hurts, it doesn't work out. You're trying. Putting yourself out there.

That, in my mind, is nice.

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By *WB85Man
38 weeks ago

Staffordshire

I've never been rejected, people just haven't had the time to reply yet lol

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By *ust want fun 888Man
38 weeks ago

nearby

"I'm interested to know how often people get rejected on here and how they deal with it?

Are you rejected/blocked following a sent message or after photos are swapped?"
have been blocked, instead of people may be saying, sorry not interested, rejected, I suppose is the same as not being replied to, so yes, but have come to expect it on this website

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

I get rejected quite a bit it is shitty but remembering your own self worth importantance try not to take it too personal after all we all have different wants and likes

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

I guess it all depends on the way it's done. Rejection is a part of life in particular When there is SO many men to women on here.....take a look at cams and it shows you everything you need to know.

I don't need external validation to be happy. I know what I am, what I have and what I can do.

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By *ACOLCouple
38 weeks ago

limerick

We got rejected back in December, we can't be everyone's cup of tea and although it sting we will survived

we actually gave that couple distance as one NO THANK YOU, is enough, don't get me wrong, they lovely people so if we see them we always say hello.

So it is all about accepting the simple NO and move on.

Lina.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
38 weeks ago

Leeds

If we are actively looking then we expect some rejection not everyone fancies everyone and that's ok.

Mrs

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By *hief_Of_AlwaysMan
38 weeks ago

The last house on the left…

95% of my messages get rejected, so it’s nothing to me nowadays. What really sucks is when you get ghosted

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
38 weeks ago

Reading

Well once I've stopped sobbing I'm fine.

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By *pank the MonkeyCouple
38 weeks ago

Fylde Coast

Rejection on sites such as these is like breathing...

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By *ealitybitesMan
38 weeks ago

Belfast

It's not something I've had to deal with on here.

I haven't sent a first contact message in more than 4 years so I can't comment on that.

I've had lots of conversations fizzle out over the years but none that were outright rejection.

In my years here I can honestly say I've turned down a hell of a lot more offers than I've accepted.

Less than 10 percent of my meets have gone beyond the initial coffee social and that has almost always been my choice.

Most of the people I've turned down have been very adult about it and respectful but some are maybe not used to hearing the word no and don't take it well at all.

The only abuse I've ever received here has been from people I've politely told I'm not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

Not been out right rejected on here.

I don't really cold message though so that's probably why.

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
38 weeks ago

The Continental

I generally don’t bother sending first messages, so no bother about them getting deleted.

Deleted or blocked after sending face pic’s? No big deal to me. I’m not naive enough to think that every chick here’s gonna fancy a go on me.

How do I deal with that rejection? I usually forget who it was, a few seconds after messages have been ignored/deleted. I simply move on.

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By *parkle1974Woman
38 weeks ago

Leeds

I deal with it like an adult. We aren't going to be everyone's cup of tea. Forget and move on x

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By *TG3Man
38 weeks ago

Dorchester

"I deal with it like an adult. We aren't going to be everyone's cup of tea. Forget and move on x"
I don't even like tea

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
38 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon

Anyone rejecting me clearly had impeccable taste and I can’t argue with that.

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
38 weeks ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

I don't put myself in a position to get rejected so it's never happened to me.

If it did then oh well, life goes on

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By *ymbunnyfitCouple
38 weeks ago

East Yorkshire

I've found that the majority of guys I turn down are really polite and nice about it. They take it really well and leave it with friendly messages witch is lovely. Sadly had to block couple who turned nasty xx shame as we're all just here for bit of fun and nice chat see where it goes x

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By *rozac_fairyCouple
38 weeks ago

Birmingham

We haven't been rejected yet, purely on the basis we've never used fab to look for private meets and have never sent the first message which isn't just asking why someone sent us a friends request/wink I suspect.

From our perspective though, Couples usually get highly abusive if you reject them, they'll start straight away with the insults because they didn't wanna fuck you anyway. I'd say 7/8 out of 10 will end that way. Ohhh they also get super pissed off if you ask if their husband can play alone, apparently it's rude to not read their profile... although they didn't read ours to realise we don't play with couples before messaging.

Single guys, some don't take no for an answer, it's almost like begging. When you point out their refusal to accept no as an answer and suggest they learn about consent, they'll often turn abusive. Most though, take it on the chin we've found and will thank you for replying anyway. Some we've gone on to just chatting online and we check in once in awhile.

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By *hrek101Man
38 weeks ago

Herts

Rejection Im very comfortable with,it's my friend,it's when I'm not rejected that I get flustered

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

There are billions of people on this planet.

You have been rejected by one or two of them.

You can pick up that rejection and hold it and carry it around, and allow it to grow within you.

Or you can put it down, hold some awareness around the fact that there are so many other potential people out there for you, and move on.

Not everyone in life will like you/fancy you/want to get to know you and that’s ok, because other people will.

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By *nythingoes2024Man
38 weeks ago

Coventry

Dealing with rejection is the normal on here for me I get more shocked if I get a reply. If I get a first message it's like all my christmasses and birthdays at once

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By *rixie_BlondeWoman
38 weeks ago

London (She/Her)

Rejection isn’t nice, and while some people on here have borderline psychopathic resilience others have the old neurospicy RSD.

I have to remind myself that I’ve inherited a dislike of rejection because of my hunter gather ancestors got rejected by their tribe then they would probably die. I, on the other hand, am not going to die. I don’t need to feel that dread, it’s no longer relevant. I’m going to eat chocolate and watch Baby Reindeer and all will be fine tomorrow.

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By *eductivepiercingsWoman
38 weeks ago

louth

You will be rejected 99/100 you're in the wrong place if you expect anything else.

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By *ilthycoupleabzCouple
38 weeks ago

Aberdeen

Well, I (we) don't really message anyone just randomly, so not really experienced rejection as such on here.

Personally I'm ok with it mostly because I accept I am never going to be attractive to everyone. Plus, I can be a bit much to deal with. Totally aware of that.

I would be sad if the fabbers I like to chatter too didn't want to anymore though.

MrsAbz

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By *cunnylassCouple
38 weeks ago

Exeter

Comfort eating is the way forward.Chips usually work.

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By *lfa RomeoMan
38 weeks ago

southeast , Herts, Beds

I normally go to bed a cry for a week

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By *layfullsamMan
38 weeks ago

Solihull

You’ve got to remember that if you’re never rejected in life you’re not pushing your boundaries enough.

Don’t take Rejection as a failure, the failure part is giving up.

Job hunting,asking someone out, we all get rejected.

It’s how you handle it that determines where you’ll end up.

Apparently sylvester Stallone was rejected literally hundreds of times in his dream to be an actor but he persevered

Ps and don’t take it personally, the odds on here are tough

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By (user no longer on site) OP
38 weeks ago

"You’ve got to remember that if you’re never rejected in life you’re not pushing your boundaries enough.

Don’t take Rejection as a failure, the failure part is giving up.

Job hunting,asking someone out, we all get rejected.

It’s how you handle it that determines where you’ll end up.

Apparently sylvester Stallone was rejected literally hundreds of times in his dream to be an actor but he persevered

Ps and don’t take it personally, the odds on here are tough

This is perfect

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By (user no longer on site) OP
38 weeks ago

Thanks for all of the comments so far, I apologise if I have replied to all

I hope this helps people who feel low when getting rejections.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
38 weeks ago

chichester

I get alot of rejections. Just simply smile and go again Just numbers ultimately

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By *hristopherd999Man
38 weeks ago

Brentwood

It's not nice and sometimes can hurt but that's life too, not just fab

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