FabSwingers.com forum: Would you be annoyed…..

By *issBehavexxx OP Woman
36 weeks ago

essex

I had a social with a guy over a week ago seemed a really lovely guy went to a pub for a couple of hours and chatted non stop. Anyways he invited me over a couple of days later but on the day he went silent so I thought oh well, obviously we didn’t get on as well as I thought.

Fast forward to a couple of days ago I receive a parking ticket, I didn’t realise I had to put my reg in the machine. Anyways spoke to the pub they said if I could get proof of the transaction then I should be able to get the fine written off. Only problem is he bought the drinks on his card so I sent a polite message asking if he could send me a shot of the transaction so I can appeal, after waiting a good few hours he replied and said sure. But nothing, I’m not gonna chase again but why are people so shitty at times

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By *offiaCoolWoman
36 weeks ago

Kidsgrove

He changed his mind. You contacted him and asked for his help with the parking fine, he did. Not sure if I would describe him as shitty.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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36 weeks ago

East Sussex

Did they mean the transaction for the parking ticket?

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

Ask again for a copy to prove you were customers, if nothing then unless they will accept a time and date you was in the pub nothing more you can do if he chooses not to send it over.

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By *issBehavexxx OP Woman
36 weeks ago

essex

"He changed his mind. You contacted him and asked for his help with the parking fine, he did. Not sure if I would describe him as shitty."

No he didn’t help me he just went quiet again

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By *offiaCoolWoman
36 weeks ago

Kidsgrove

"Did they mean the transaction for the parking ticket? "

Transaction of purchasing something in the pub I think, to prove she was a paying customer, therefore parking on their premises as a customer.

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By *issBehavexxx OP Woman
36 weeks ago

essex

"Did they mean the transaction for the parking ticket? "

No the transaction for drinks

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By *offiaCoolWoman
36 weeks ago

Kidsgrove

"He changed his mind. You contacted him and asked for his help with the parking fine, he did. Not sure if I would describe him as shitty.

No he didn’t help me he just went quiet again "

Oh, when you said he said sure, I misinterpreted that as he did send. My apologies

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By *issBehavexxx OP Woman
36 weeks ago

essex

"Ask again for a copy to prove you were customers, if nothing then unless they will accept a time and date you was in the pub nothing more you can do if he chooses not to send it over. "

I won’t ask again tbh I’ll just have to pay the £60

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By *emorefridaCouple
36 weeks ago

La la land

I think I would be hesitant to send copies of my bank transactions to be honest. Especially to someone I'd only met once.

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By *elloWoman
36 weeks ago

alpha centauri

Think I would be wary of sending the transaction details to someone.

but I would be nice and offer to contact the business on your behalf and try and get the ticket cancelled.

I would feel a bit miffed but as a driver it is your responsibility not theirs if you get a ticket.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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36 weeks ago

East Sussex

"I think I would be hesitant to send copies of my bank transactions to be honest. Especially to someone I'd only met once. "

Me too.

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By *weet LisaTV/TS
36 weeks ago

Crawley

It's dooshy, he sounds like a wanker.

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

You’d only need a cropped screen shot of transaction not his account details.

Either way, it’s shitty to ignore you in both scenarios.

Surely you’re on the premises cctv for proof?

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By *emorefridaCouple
36 weeks ago

La la land

"I think I would be hesitant to send copies of my bank transactions to be honest. Especially to someone I'd only met once. "

Plus my bank app does not allow screenshots, so I actually wouldn't be able to provide it, thinking about it.

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By *indaDILFlikeMan
36 weeks ago

wirral

"Think I would be wary of sending the transaction details to someone.

but I would be nice and offer to contact the business on your behalf and try and get the ticket cancelled.

I would feel a bit miffed but as a driver it is your responsibility not theirs if you get a ticket."

It's a shitty situation, but I agree with this to be completely honest.

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By *weet LisaTV/TS
36 weeks ago

Crawley

If he doesn't want to show his bank details he should say that instead of going quiet.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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36 weeks ago

East Sussex

Think about this from both points of view. Would anyone be happy to provide details of a bank transaction to someone they'd met only once via a swinging web site?

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By *eroLondonMan
36 weeks ago

Mayfair

"It's dooshy, he sounds like a wanker."

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I disagree.

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By *issBehavexxx OP Woman
36 weeks ago

essex

"You’d only need a cropped screen shot of transaction not his account details.

Either way, it’s shitty to ignore you in both scenarios.

Surely you’re on the premises cctv for proof?"

Yeah that’s all I wanted was a snippet no one in their right mind would send bank details.

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By *issBehavexxx OP Woman
36 weeks ago

essex

"Think I would be wary of sending the transaction details to someone.

but I would be nice and offer to contact the business on your behalf and try and get the ticket cancelled.

I would feel a bit miffed but as a driver it is your responsibility not theirs if you get a ticket.

It's a shitty situation, but I agree with this to be completely honest. "

Oh yeah I know it’s my fault but I only wanted a teeny bit of help. I mean they may not have accepted it anyways but it was worth a try.

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

"Think about this from both points of view. Would anyone be happy to provide details of a bank transaction to someone they'd met only once via a swinging web site?"

Yes cause you don’t need to show your account details!

If you can help someone out, be a good citizen regardless of the situation

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By *parkle1974Woman
36 weeks ago

Leeds

This is why I always buy my own drinks x

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By *issBehavexxx OP Woman
36 weeks ago

essex

"Think about this from both points of view. Would anyone be happy to provide details of a bank transaction to someone they'd met only once via a swinging web site?"

If it weren’t showing my actual bank details I would tbh but maybe others are more cautious I guess

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By *issBehavexxx OP Woman
36 weeks ago

essex

"It's dooshy, he sounds like a wanker."

Funny thing is he seemed like a really nice guy tbh

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By *issBehavexxx OP Woman
36 weeks ago

essex

"This is why I always buy my own drinks x"

We only had one tbh but now I wish I’d paid lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
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36 weeks ago

East Sussex

My banking app won't allow screenshots or copying transactions.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
36 weeks ago

Wherever

So much drama. I’d just pay the ticket and learn the lesson. Nothing to do with the guy, honestly.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
36 weeks ago

Central

It's poor form, as the parking operators are modern day scum/highway robbery.

I'd potentially chat with the pub, to see if they seem amenable to helping in any way.

Despite his lack of interest, I'd still request a discussion, so that he understands what you're requesting. He might mistakenly think you're after his purchasing card data to scam him. I'd probably resend the charge demand notice.

It's a lot of money and you in good faith both met there.

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By *TG3Man
36 weeks ago

Dorchester

"Think about this from both points of view. Would anyone be happy to provide details of a bank transaction to someone they'd met only once via a swinging web site?"
I wouldn't have paid by card but either way i wouldn't send bank details but i would have happily got in touch with the pub and said i was there

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By *ir SupremacyMan
36 weeks ago

Bolton

I would rather pay the fine than show a stranger my back details £60 or a lot of headache .

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By *issBehavexxx OP Woman
36 weeks ago

essex

"So much drama. I’d just pay the ticket and learn the lesson. Nothing to do with the guy, honestly."

Really? I didn’t dramatise it just asked what people thought. Forums are for alsorts so I thought! And of course I’ll pay it I have no choice.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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36 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Think about this from both points of view. Would anyone be happy to provide details of a bank transaction to someone they'd met only once via a swinging web site?

Yes cause you don’t need to show your account details!

If you can help someone out, be a good citizen regardless of the situation"

This.

And yes, bank apps don't allow screenshots but you can easily print a statement.

No confidentiality issues.

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By *issBehavexxx OP Woman
36 weeks ago

essex

"It's poor form, as the parking operators are modern day scum/highway robbery.

I'd potentially chat with the pub, to see if they seem amenable to helping in any way.

It's a lot of money and you in good faith both met there. "

Na I don’t think it’s worth it I’m not gonna bother him again he obviously doesn’t wanna talk

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By *TG3Man
36 weeks ago

Dorchester

"This is why I always buy my own drinks x"
can you buy mine as well please

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By *eroLondonMan
36 weeks ago

Mayfair

It's life and it's Fab, OP. I'm sorry to hear that you received a parking ticket and I would feel equally miffed and resentful. There are ways to obfuscate a credit card receipt or statement but I would also be hesitant to send a copy. It's not about being a good citizen or not. Perhaps he simply wishes to sever all ties with you for some unfathomable reason.

If it was me I would pay the fine - begrudgingly - but pay it nevertheless.

Also sorry to hear about your not-so-positive outcome but people are allowed to change their minds on here, to ghost or go into 'radio silence' mode. It happens to everyone. Even men have the right to exercise their prerogative (If your thread had been written by a man describing his experiences the responses here would have been less than favourable compared to a woman). Don't pester him; leave him be, move onto someone more amenable and agreeable.

Let's hope your next encounter is a p+sitive one!

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By *ornucopiaMan
36 weeks ago

Bexley

Pubs which work in league with parking companies in this sort of way need shaming and boycotting.

What happens if you paid cash, as a matter of interest?

The least the bar staff could do is mention the risk to customers at the time of their initial purchase.

I would be inclined to go into the pub at a quiet time, with the correspondence in your hand and have a word with them about the concept of good customer relations.

I hope it is not the parking firm which is notorious for not giving any leeway.

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By *aters139Man
36 weeks ago

Sheffield

"I had a social with a guy over a week ago seemed a really lovely guy went to a pub for a couple of hours and chatted non stop. Anyways he invited me over a couple of days later but on the day he went silent so I thought oh well, obviously we didn’t get on as well as I thought.

Can you just contact them and say you were mistaken the other party paid in cash so you've not got a record of it?

It's a long shot...but if it's a cash business it's believable... especially to save 60notes

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By *issBehavexxx OP Woman
36 weeks ago

essex

"It's life and it's Fab, OP. I'm sorry to hear that you received a parking ticket and I would feel equally miffed and resentful.

Let's hope your next encounter is a p+sitive one!

Oh yeah the not meeting again wasn’t an issue we’re all entitled to change our mind, I have before yet probably handled it better tbf, but I weren’t annoyed over that.

I’ll begrudgingly pay the ticket because I have to. Lesson learnt, must check parking fees next time I’m out.

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By *aters139Man
36 weeks ago

Sheffield

"It's life and it's Fab, OP. I'm sorry to hear that you received a parking ticket and I would feel equally miffed and resentful.

Let's hope your next encounter is a p+sitive one!

Oh yeah the not meeting again wasn’t an issue we’re all entitled to change our mind, I have before yet probably handled it better tbf, but I weren’t annoyed over that.

I’ll begrudgingly pay the ticket because I have to. Lesson learnt, must check parking fees next time I’m out. "

Look at my post above...I wouldn't give up so easily...how long at you are work for that 60quid...after tax..

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By *ags73Man
36 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

"My banking app won't allow screenshots or copying transactions. "

Mine either but can pdf latest statement.

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By *issBehavexxx OP Woman
36 weeks ago

essex

"Pubs which work in league with parking companies in this sort of way need shaming and boycotting.

What happens if you paid cash, as a matter of interest?

The least the bar staff could do is mention the risk to customers at the time of their initial purchase.

I would be inclined to go into the pub at a quiet time, with the correspondence in your hand and have a word with them about the concept of good customer relations.

I hope it is not the parking firm which is notorious for not giving any leeway. "

I think it is that parking firm from what I’ve seen in search sites. I should go back and see if there were signs up as I didn’t spot any tbh but then wasn’t paying much attention. Oh well

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By *imisugarWoman
36 weeks ago

Rugby

I'd be a bit annoyed if someone could help me relatively simply but didn't.

My banking app allows screenshots and I would have been able to edit my account details out to keep it secure.

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By *issBehavexxx OP Woman
36 weeks ago

essex

"It's life and it's Fab, OP. I'm sorry to hear that you received a parking ticket and I would feel equally miffed and resentful.

Let's hope your next encounter is a p+sitive one!

Oh yeah the not meeting again wasn’t an issue we’re all entitled to change our mind, I have before yet probably handled it better tbf, but I weren’t annoyed over that.

I’ll begrudgingly pay the ticket because I have to. Lesson learnt, must check parking fees next time I’m out.

Look at my post above...I wouldn't give up so easily...how long at you are work for that 60quid...after tax.."

Thank you. I’ll give it a go and see if I get anywhere. And yeah almost a days work for me

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By *ad NannaWoman
36 weeks ago

East London

"I think I would be hesitant to send copies of my bank transactions to be honest. Especially to someone I'd only met once.

Plus my bank app does not allow screenshots, so I actually wouldn't be able to provide it, thinking about it. "

Neither does mine but you can download specific parts of the statement, and then crop it as needed.

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By *awpleasureMan
36 weeks ago

Sutton Coldfield

I treat people how I like to be treated and ignoring you is not on. All he has to say is he cannot help you rather than radio silence.

As for the ticket, it'll be the managers discretion.

My elderly dad only popped into a wetherspoons to use their toilet. He waited to be served to ask where they were, then after being told they were upstairs,he had to wait for the key for the disabled toilets to be returned. By the time he used the toilet, took key back to bar and walked back to car, it was 16 minutes.

After he got a ticket through the post, I called the pub for him, explained and manager said he'd get it quashed.

No requirement of proof of presence. A proper manager who sorted it out.

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

If on private land it's not a fine it's an invoice

from a private parking company for use of the land.can fight them never goes to court google it. only council or police can issue a fine which has to be paid.

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By *lfa RomeoMan
36 weeks ago

southeast , Herts, Beds

How much was the fine for OP?

I'll gladly pay it for a date with you

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By *issBehavexxx OP Woman
36 weeks ago

essex

"I had a social with a guy over a week ago seemed a really lovely guy went to a pub for a couple of hours and chatted non stop.

How much was the fine for OP?

I'll gladly pay it for a date with you

lol you gonna fly me over to Cannes too? Deal lol

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By *awpleasureMan
36 weeks ago

Sutton Coldfield

"I had a social with a guy over a week ago seemed a really lovely guy went to a pub for a couple of hours and chatted non stop.

How much was the fine for OP?

I'll gladly pay it for a date with you

lol you gonna fly me over to Cannes too? Deal lol"

Looks like it's all worked out well for you OP. As my nan used to say, if I fell off the roof of Lewis's. I'd land in a brand new suit.

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By *issBehavexxx OP Woman
36 weeks ago

essex

"I treat people how I like to be treated and ignoring you is not on. All he has to say is he cannot help you rather than radio silence.

No requirement of proof of presence. A proper manager who sorted it out. "

Maybe I’ll try to pop in there next week and speak face to face with someone. I did think that a manager could probably sort it.

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By *ags73Man
36 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

"I treat people how I like to be treated and ignoring you is not on. All he has to say is he cannot help you rather than radio silence.

No requirement of proof of presence. A proper manager who sorted it out.

Maybe I’ll try to pop in there next week and speak face to face with someone. I did think that a manager could probably sort it. "

Lay it on and say you had a really bad date and guy won’t give you the details to make the charge go away etc etc.

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By *cottish guy 555Man
36 weeks ago

London

I had something similar where a friend had paid. I dealt directly with the pub and explained. They got the fine cancelled. I'd give it another go.

Best of luck.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
36 weeks ago

Leeds

Is there not cctv of you drink in the pub ?

The mr

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By *icecouple561Couple
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36 weeks ago

East Sussex

Didn't the machine prompt you to put your registration in?

Have you got a record of your transaction paying for parking?

Was it an app based parking system or pay at the machine?

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By *ot to giggleWoman
36 weeks ago

Coventry

"Think about this from both points of view. Would anyone be happy to provide details of a bank transaction to someone they'd met only once via a swinging web site?

Yes cause you don’t need to show your account details!

If you can help someone out, be a good citizen regardless of the situation

This.

And yes, bank apps don't allow screenshots but you can easily print a statement.

No confidentiality issues. "

i couldnt easily print a statement to be fair, i dont have a working printer at home.

i had a fine from a meet that i just paid - and i had a fine at another and the guy kindly paid as he said he had mis informed me on what to put in for the ticket (i was having a ditzy moment)

both were ok - obviously someone else paying is better, but it happens.

I also know a guy i chat to , we met and he got a ticket for going over the parking hours - well i never knew, prehaps i need to talk less

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By *ir SupremacyMan
36 weeks ago

Bolton

You have to pay to view the CCTV and you have to apply under GDPR laws (Data protection Act ) sorry to be boring about it but it's the law in Public Space Surveillance anyway hope you get it sorted .

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By *ot to giggleWoman
36 weeks ago

Coventry

"I treat people how I like to be treated and ignoring you is not on. All he has to say is he cannot help you rather than radio silence.

No requirement of proof of presence. A proper manager who sorted it out.

Maybe I’ll try to pop in there next week and speak face to face with someone. I did think that a manager could probably sort it. "

watch the time limit on it - i would think the £60 would only hold if you pay within a set period of days and then it rises to £100 -

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By *emorefridaCouple
36 weeks ago

La la land

"I think I would be hesitant to send copies of my bank transactions to be honest. Especially to someone I'd only met once.

Plus my bank app does not allow screenshots, so I actually wouldn't be able to provide it, thinking about it.

Neither does mine but you can download specific parts of the statement, and then crop it as needed.

I'd still be cautious in all honesty. I wouldn't necessarily want a stranger know what I spent my money on. Or identify where I worked for example.

And would a parking fine company really accept one line off a bank statement as proof? I highly doubt it the way they operate.

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By *ir SupremacyMan
36 weeks ago

Bolton

It's a set fee by the company and cctv is held for 28 days and maybe longer before its over written by the hardrive good luck .

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By *awpleasureMan
36 weeks ago

Sutton Coldfield

"Didn't the machine prompt you to put your registration in?

Have you got a record of your transaction paying for parking?

Was it an app based parking system or pay at the machine?

Am guessing it's one of those screens inside the pub where you put your registration in. If you don't see the screen or realise they have one, they are easily missed tbh.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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36 weeks ago

East Sussex

"Didn't the machine prompt you to put your registration in?

Have you got a record of your transaction paying for parking?

Was it an app based parking system or pay at the machine?

Am guessing it's one of those screens inside the pub where you put your registration in. If you don't see the screen or realise they have one, they are easily missed tbh. "

Ah right. I'm just trying to think of alternatives for querying the fine.

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By *cottish guy 555Man
36 weeks ago

London

Some pubs have them behind the bar and you are reliant on the member of staff putting it in.

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By *eesside50Man
36 weeks ago

Stockton-On-Tees

Very much his loss.

Maybe his wife or gf decided to take him away.

Hope you find what your looking for xx

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By *ddie1966Man
36 weeks ago

Paper Town Central, Essex.

It socks being ghosted, I know, and to also get a parking fine double socks.

This sounds like a lose all round.

His loss for not seeing you again.

Your financial loss, and finally, the pubs loss of your business in the future.

I don't think there's anything you can do except put it down to experience.

Sending big commissary hugs your way.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
36 weeks ago

Hampshire/Dorset

That's really shitty, he could quite easily have sent proof, with no personal details.

I always offer to give people permits if we're meeting local to me, to avoid them getting a ticket.

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By *essTTWoman
36 weeks ago

Birmingham

"He changed his mind. You contacted him and asked for his help with the parking fine, he did. Not sure if I would describe him as shitty."

He didn't help, he said he would and then didn't.

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By *ucka39Man
36 weeks ago

Newcastle

Is the pub not able to provide evidence via CCTV as it's outside and in

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By *awty nannaWoman
36 weeks ago

sheffield

"Pubs which work in league with parking companies in this sort of way need shaming and boycotting.

What happens if you paid

cash, as a matter of

interest?......

Our local pub has one of the screens inside in which to put your registration, at the side of the bar, A friend got a fine for parking 5 mins whilst he dropped someone in the pub car park... madness ....

The least the bar staff could do is mention the risk to customers at the time of their initial purchase.

I would be inclined to go into the pub at a quiet time, with the correspondence in your hand and have a word with them about the concept of good customer relations.

I hope it is not the parking firm which is notorious for not giving any leeway.

I think it is that parking firm from what I’ve seen in search sites. I should go back and see if there were signs up as I didn’t spot any tbh but then wasn’t paying much attention. Oh well

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

I wouldn’t be annoyed with anyone but myself. Lots of pubs have a screen to enter your reg these days. It’s not his fault you earned yourself a ticket like everyone else who receives a ticket there. I wouldn’t give a stranger anything private about me, not even a receipt, there are too many people around these days especially on fab who want to fuck guys over and hold them to ransom over what might seem like innocent personal info. I’d put it down to being a lesson learned the hard way

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

Life is full of lessons. This one is "read the signs". In more ways than one.

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