FabSwingers.com forum: Fat person in your gym

By (user no longer on site) OP
36 weeks ago

Thoughts? Concerns? Disgust? Acceptance? Cheerleading?

Remember... the "morbidly obese" share locker rooms, pools, classes, saunas..

If you see one of us... what's your reaction?

Just a quick poll. Shut it down of you don't like it.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
36 weeks ago

North West

I'm one of the obese people in the gym. I don't take any notice. I do my thing, talk to my PT, joke with the mahoosively jacked dude who once made a potentially inappropriate joke without realising it, and it was quite hilarious. So yeah.

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By *outhwesthotwifeWoman
36 weeks ago

southwest

Always welcome and I'm silently cheering them on .... wasn't that long ago I was the fat person in the gym. Still amongst the larger ladies, difference is I'm fitter now...

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
36 weeks ago

Maidstone

Erm I don't think anyone cares. *shrugs* I sometimes wonder if I'm the odd one for not thinking about stuff in great depth.

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

I’d rather see someone in the gym than sat on a sofa making excuses why they are not at the gym.

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By *aters139Man
36 weeks ago

Sheffield

"Thoughts? Concerns? Disgust? Acceptance? Cheerleading?

Remember... the "morbidly obese" share locker rooms, pools, classes, saunas..

If you see one of us... what's your reaction?

Just a quick poll. Shut it down of you don't like it."

As long as you ain't trying to make a video I don't care less,

I know what an effort is it to even bother, I dont get the 'judgement' they are trying to better themselves like everyone else there.

As for sharing spaces...if a person doesn't like it, they should be the one to leave.

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By *ullsfan77Man
36 weeks ago

Torquay

Should not be a problem. I am on the larger side and go swimming where I can. If other people don’t like it, tough.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
36 weeks ago

Wirral

I'm guessing it'll depend on the gym and the clientele.

Thankfully my normal one is a bit of a dump so nobody who goes there when I'm there really gives a damn about what anyone else is looking like.

I drag my flabby self into the pool in my swimsuit and don't get a second glance - if anyone feels any kind of way about it they don't make it obvious.

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

No thoughts of disgust, or otherwise negativity.

There was a lady who was classed as large in size in my yoga class a few years ago. She could do poses that I, half her size, couldn’t. Goes to show size alone isn’t the full picture in a gym.

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By *he-Naughtiest-ShowmanMan
36 weeks ago

Liverpool

I agree with scarlet I don't think anyone really notices. Most people go to the gym for themselves not others. If your trying to better your life then that's a huge positive in my eyes though

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By *hucky12Man
36 weeks ago

accrington

"Thoughts? Concerns? Disgust? Acceptance? Cheerleading?

Remember... the "morbidly obese" share locker rooms, pools, classes, saunas..

If you see one of us... what's your reaction?

Just a quick poll. Shut it down of you don't like it."

Interested in this one

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By *rBobbMan
36 weeks ago

Birmingham

I work in a gym and we are there for everyone. Size is not and never will be a problem. Everyone is welcome.

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By *ou4funCouple
36 weeks ago

farnborough

As a chubby man I use to struggle

But now I don't care I keep going

I do my thing

Anybody who step foot in to a gym

Always belongs and fair play for get up and doing something towards your goals

I just wish I had start in my 20s not my fortys lol

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

Genuinely I’m happy for whomever

I see people jogging and say to myself “you go girl”

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By *ellhungvweMan
36 weeks ago

Cheltenham

I don’t care who is in the gym - just pleased that they decided to turn up that day and do what ever it is they want to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

Over many years I was in gym I genuinely never witnessed gym fit people mocking or staring at over weight or super skinny people. If anything, they would be pleased to see them there. I know I was always pleased to see them there. Do not let your own fears and misconceptions keep you out the gym, it is in your head only not the reality

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By *ngels and DevilsCouple
36 weeks ago

The South West

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

"Erm I don't think anyone cares. *shrugs* I sometimes wonder if I'm the odd one for not thinking about stuff in great depth. "

Yeah you’re a weirdo

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By *ngels and DevilsCouple
36 weeks ago

The South West

Respect to anyone in the gym. Everyone in there’s trying to improve their health. Whatever they do in there is better than sitting home and not trying.

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By *ilthycoupleabzCouple
36 weeks ago

Aberdeen

If I think anything its "hope you have a good workout".

Exercise should be for everyone of any size.

No one has any right to judge.

MrsAbz

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

With the greatest of respect... I really couldn't give a shit. I'm there to do my own thing.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
36 weeks ago

North West

Tbf i hope no-one is going to openly admit to pointing and laughing at overweight people in the gym

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By *arley QuimWoman
36 weeks ago

Somewhere

"Tbf i hope no-one is going to openly admit to pointing and laughing at overweight people in the gym

Or openly point and laugh at overweight people in the gym. Quick route to being chucked out that is.

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By *rBobbMan
36 weeks ago

Birmingham

"Tbf i hope no-one is going to openly admit to pointing and laughing at overweight people in the gym

Sadly I have seen this happen and banned the culprits concerned.

99% of people are all supportive of everyone training, no matter at what level they are.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
36 weeks ago

North West

"Tbf i hope no-one is going to openly admit to pointing and laughing at overweight people in the gym

Sadly I have seen this happen and banned the culprits concerned.

99% of people are all supportive of everyone training, no matter at what level they are."

I'm sure it happens (unfortunately). I just wouldn't expect the perps to be loud and proud about it here. Though, knowing what people do admit to, I'm probably being naïve

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By *avexxMan
36 weeks ago

cheshire

it wouldnt bother me in the slightest good on them i say we all have to start somewhere,,when your working out you dont pay any attention to anybody

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By *eliWoman
36 weeks ago

I'm the fat person at the gym. Possibly not the biggest any more but I'm still fat.

I've never had negative comments. Looks. Anything like that.

Most of the time people are busy focusing on what they're doing. When they're not? Well those are the times I've had lovely people stepping in and giving me advice, support and once when I went in and started crying mid workout, giving me tissues. A smoothie. Space to talk.

I'm trying to get back in to it now and yeah sure, I have moments of thinking ah fuck I'm too big for this and then I realise that's nonsense. Others don't think that either.

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By *rBobbMan
36 weeks ago

Birmingham

"Tbf i hope no-one is going to openly admit to pointing and laughing at overweight people in the gym

Sadly I have seen this happen and banned the culprits concerned.

99% of people are all supportive of everyone training, no matter at what level they are.

I'm sure it happens (unfortunately). I just wouldn't expect the perps to be loud and proud about it here. Though, knowing what people do admit to, I'm probably being naïve

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By *avexxMan
36 weeks ago

cheshire

"I'm the fat person at the gym. Possibly not the biggest any more but I'm still fat.

I've never had negative comments. Looks. Anything like that.

I'm trying to get back in to it now and yeah sure, I have moments of thinking ah fuck I'm too big for this and then I realise that's nonsense. Others don't think that either."

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By *ittlebirdWoman
36 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

I’m the fat person who needs to get to the gym….

I applaud everyone who keeps fit and must find some motivation.

If anyone makes fun of someone because of their size then tbh I would just do my best Les Grossman to them.

Be kind. Always

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By *BootyfulDayWoman
36 weeks ago

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I’m 90% of the time more just worried about what I’m doing and how silly I probably look

but no, anyone who goes to the gym, no matter their size, is putting in the effort and hats off to them!

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
36 weeks ago

North West

For the first 4yrs back at the gym (as a wheelie rather than AB), I wore a baggy t-shirt because I was really self conscious. After a chat with my PT, I started wearing a sports crop top thingy and guess what? No-one really seems to have noticed. One person (a man) complimented it (in a nice way). So now I've ditched the baggy t-shirt.

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

I've never been a member of a gym.

(There was one I could use for free a few years ago and I never used it..)

I never used the ones in hotels either. But I take resistance bands to exercise in the room.

I have a makeshift gym the garage with ab machine, treadmill, weights...and have pull up bars in other rooms etc.

(I like going on long hikes)

I have an inversion table that I like to hang upside down on for a while..

-like dracula.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
36 weeks ago

couple, us we him her.

In my 40 year's as a gym user I've never ridiculed anyone as described by the OP, I've always been complimentary that they are actually trying to get healthy good for anyone who has made the effort

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By *ackdaw52Man
36 weeks ago

Chesterfield

The gym is supposed to be for everyone.

I'm quietly impressed by the really unfit people who give 100%, rather than the fit ones who just phone it in.

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

If I were a gym member I don't think I'd be bothered by anyone in there, as others have expressed.

I could only imagine someone really stupid/ arrogant would make something of it.

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By *ucka39Man
36 weeks ago

Newcastle

I think it's wonderful that they have found the strength to get themselves to the gym and grab the goals they are looking for

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

Fat person in your gym.

Tra-la-la-la-la.

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By *rixie_BlondeWoman
36 weeks ago

London (She/Her)

I used to be a fairly regular gym goer (2-3 times a week) and would be polite and say hi to people but keep to myself. Then one day a guy very overtly hit on me and all the gym staff came to congratulate and encourage me as though I were a child, and I realised they saw me as an object of pity and didn’t go back

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By *ornucopiaMan
36 weeks ago

Bexley

Thankfully, I don't go anywhere near gyms, other than when driving past one each time I go through Crayford.

Full of exhibitionists going for the benches near the windows.

Think I would have noticed anyone extra large, while I was waiting for the traffic lights to change, but no, not so far.

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By *ymbunnyfitCouple
36 weeks ago

East Yorkshire

Been in industry for years now and it's a place everyone should feel relaxed and comfortable. We're all on our own journeys and nobody should judge anyone who's putting the work in xx

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By *tylebender03Man
36 weeks ago

Manchester

I’m not judgemental, the gym is for everyone, respect for trying to get in shape

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
36 weeks ago

My boudoir - S Wales

"I’d rather see someone in the gym than sat on a sofa making excuses why they are not at the gym. "

Damn. That was personal.

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By *eiaorganaWoman
36 weeks ago

Dundee

"Erm I don't think anyone cares. *shrugs* I sometimes wonder if I'm the odd one for not thinking about stuff in great depth. "

You're not, I also went 'huh?!'

I'm one of the fat ones at the gym, zero fucks given

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By *rBobbMan
36 weeks ago

Birmingham

"Been in industry for years now and it's a place everyone should feel relaxed and comfortable. We're all on our own journeys and nobody should judge anyone who's putting the work in xx "

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By *ittlebirdWoman
36 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

"Fat person in your gym.

Tra-la-la-la-la."

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By *ornucopiaMan
36 weeks ago

Bexley

I've always had a thing about wanting to meet 'the' church goer, rather than just 'a' churchgoer.

Can't say, though, that I feel the same about meeting anyone who goes to a gym.

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

Nobody is looking at anyone or taking any notice of us most of the time, as much as some people might like them to…

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By *rill PhilMan
36 weeks ago

Crediton

I have on occasion seen people react negatively to obese people in the gym.

I really don't understand that attitude though because, those people are obviously trying to lose some weight and get healthy.

If you are disgusted by obese people why would you feel negatively about them trying to lose weight?

I would argue that I would argue that obese people have more need, and therefore more right than anyone else to be in the gym!

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By *rill PhilMan
36 weeks ago

Crediton

I personally do not go to the gym (as much as I'd like to lose my disgusting belly!) because I can't stand the noise or the smell!

I get my exercise playing drums or being forced to do choreographed dancing for musicals.

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By *ang bang bangity bangCouple
36 weeks ago

Sunderland

Cheering them on.

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By *ausagepartyMan
36 weeks ago

Bridgend/ RCT

Well done to them I'm not fat and I don't have it in me to get my self down the gym it's hard work enough don't worry about anyone judging

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By *partharmonyCouple
36 weeks ago

Ruislip

I'm not sure why I'd think anything in particular. All sorts of people use the gym. Why shouldn't they?

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

I’m one of the bigger ladies and I go to the gym for me not for anybody’s acceptance. I see other ladies similar size and I’m silently cheering them on. Anyone who decides to leave the comfort of their sofa to workout has my respect irrespective of size.

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By *ixieAndHerKingCouple
36 weeks ago

Debauchery

They’re taking steps in a healthier direction and should be applauded. I have more issue with the Instagramers who set up tripod and do one set before moving on to their next filming position.

The more people going in the right health direction the better!

Hades

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By *esthetic21Man
36 weeks ago

Birmingham/Bristol

I treat everyone the same until i get to know them regardless of their weight sex skin colur sexuality ect

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

I don't usually notice anyone else in the gym as I'm concentrating on what I'm doing and worrying about how I look, if I'm doing it right, checking my hr, etc, etc.

I am in awe of runners with larger bodies though. I love watching them finish a race or Parkrun. So much determination and grit.

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

As a coach in a gym I don't care what anyone looks like. All I ask is they give me all the effort they can. Some days they will have the energy to give 110% other days it will only be 70%. If that's the best they can do that day.....awesome. takes a lot of guts to walk into a gym.

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By *antasycouple31Couple
36 weeks ago

Between Pontarddulias and Gorseinon

Trying to pluck up the courage to get back in the gym myself. Nobody really cares but it doesn’t really make it much easier.

Always wanted to have a go at all the weight lifting side of things but thinking I’ll look like an idiot doing it so always stayed clear.

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By *he Melanin DaddyMan
36 weeks ago

Manchester

A “fat person” is a human being just like all of regardless of body shapes.

They’re taking steps into being healthy, they should be encouraged instead of mocked.

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
36 weeks ago

Manchester(ish).

Happy for everyone, to be in a gym.

As a competitive lifter, I see folks of all shapes and sizes doing their thing and I welcome that.

My only proviso is people are taught how to use equipment before they get going on their fitness journey.

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By *ellhungvweMan
36 weeks ago

Cheltenham

"Trying to pluck up the courage to get back in the gym myself. Nobody really cares but it doesn’t really make it much easier.

Always wanted to have a go at all the weight lifting side of things but thinking I’ll look like an idiot doing it so always stayed clear. "

Get a good coach and you will be fine. They will start you light and make sure your form is good and then you can work up from there at your own pace.

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By *iss LovelyWoman
36 weeks ago

Here and There

I’m a fat person who (albeit not currently) goes to the gym.

It took me years to go because I felt so embarrassed. Quickly really no one gives a toss, they’re doing their own thing. It makes no difference to me who’s there. Fat, thin or otherwise.

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By *emonbuttercreamWoman
36 weeks ago

Birmingham

As someone who has been overweight, I do think it's more of a problem with yourself rather than anyone else. I felt pretty shitty when I was bigger, and I assumed everyone else looked at me the same way I looked at myself. But that's very rarely what happens. So yeah, I don't think many people care. And if they do, they are not the type of people worth getting upset over.

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By *orl1971Couple
36 weeks ago

Glasgow

Always think ‘well done you’ to anyone who is putting in the effort to get fitter and healthier. It can be a tough thing to start but in time it becomes a habit and you feel much better for it.

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By *antasycouple31Couple
36 weeks ago

Between Pontarddulias and Gorseinon

"Trying to pluck up the courage to get back in the gym myself. Nobody really cares but it doesn’t really make it much easier.

Always wanted to have a go at all the weight lifting side of things but thinking I’ll look like an idiot doing it so always stayed clear.

Get a good coach and you will be fine. They will start you light and make sure your form is good and then you can work up from there at your own pace."

Wouldn’t even know where to start finding a coach, don’t really get how it all works from that side of things lol.

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By *ags73Man
36 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

I don’t wanna. Hated being the big guy in baggy clothes trying to quietly go between the things when I’ve did it before

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
36 weeks ago

East Sussex

I went to the gym once for six weeks to try and help a back problem. I only remember one person, a very elderly man who was helped in by two people and loaded on to a rowing machine. I thought the poor chap might expire. I didn't really notice anybody else or what they looked like

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
36 weeks ago

Manchester(ish).

"Trying to pluck up the courage to get back in the gym myself. Nobody really cares but it doesn’t really make it much easier.

Always wanted to have a go at all the weight lifting side of things but thinking I’ll look like an idiot doing it so always stayed clear.

Get a good coach and you will be fine. They will start you light and make sure your form is good and then you can work up from there at your own pace.

Wouldn’t even know where to start finding a coach, don’t really get how it all works from that side of things lol. "

What do you want to know. Feel free to pm me.

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By *heGateKeeperMan
36 weeks ago

Stratford

"I'm one of the obese people in the gym. I don't take any notice. I do my thing, talk to my PT, joke with the mahoosively jacked dude who once made a potentially inappropriate joke without realising it, and it was quite hilarious. So yeah."

We all wanna hear the joke

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By *cflirtyMan
36 weeks ago

Hampshire

I'm one of the larger guys in my local gym, I go and do my thing, I don't lose loads but have a lot more energy now.I have never experienced any negative vibes, but then wexall go for the same reason! .... we want to

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By *erry bull1Man
36 weeks ago

doncaster

It doesn’t matter what your body mass is or what gender you are ,

Everyone deserves the right to use a gym for whatever reasons without being ridicule . Just remember there are a lot of people with health issues that cause them to be overweight and rather than be critical , welcome them and give them assistance

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
36 weeks ago

North West

We all wanna hear the joke

Gonna potentially out myself here, but it went something like this:

*Dude picks up my PT and puts him in a headlock*

Me: I think I heard something crunch *whilst laughing*

Dude: It's fine, so long as he can get up and walk.

PT looks at me. I look at him. Both suppressing hysterics.

Dude: Looks at me, sitting in my wheelchair.

*Dude's realisation face*

It was very funny

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
36 weeks ago

Central

We're all different there, for different reasons. I applaud anyone who gets themselves to the gym, which is hard to do. Everyone is welcome. And we can learn from each other.

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
36 weeks ago

London

I don't care at all what kind of bodies other people have at the gym. Makes zero difference to my life!

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

There are people with a "normal" bmi that are unfit.

There is people with a overweight bmi that are fit.

I read somewhere the risk of death is greater for unfit people of normal weight than it is for fit people who are in the overweight range.

I generally don't think anyone of anyone in the gym, (I usually have my headphones on just trying to get my work out done and get out of there).

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

That's why BMI is a poor way to judge by. It's originally from early 1800's I think and although the charts have been updated I think it's an outdated way to do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

"That's why BMI is a poor way to judge by. It's originally from early 1800's I think and although the charts have been updated I think it's an outdated way to do it."

Definitely!

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
36 weeks ago

chichester

I don’t think anything as they are just otter gym users going about their business

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

"I’d rather see someone in the gym than sat on a sofa making excuses why they are not at the gym. "

My excuse is I'm too busy enjoying my kebabs.

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By *mileyculturebelfastMan
36 weeks ago

belfast

I don't care. I go to train. No interest in other people.

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
36 weeks ago

Glasgow

BMI is basically a load of nonsense! It’s not being used the way it was intended and is poorly formulated even for that.

There’s also “TOFI”’s - thin outside fat inside, I knew someone like that thin, apparently fit dropped dead of a heart attack at 47 cos they ate way too much fatty rubbish, they thought they were ok as they ran/exercised off the calories but calories are only part of the story, his cholesterol was insane!

Back to the original question.

I’m another fatty in the gym, self conscious yea but following a diabetes diagnosis last year knew I needed to make changes. Not easy.

Mostly it’s been a positive experience excepting the wee stalker I acquired at one point (following me to each machine and kept trying to strike up flirty conversation, I complained to staff and it was dealt with) and the older but slimmer guy who frankly DID look at me as if I didn’t belong and who tried to bump me off a machine mid reps.

It is rather amusing in my yoga class to see the surprise of slimmer newer participants at my flexibility and balance, but I’ve been doing yoga on and off for years.

If any of the “pros” on the thread would be happy to answer a question I’d be grateful

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

I'm full of admiration - we all start somewhere.

Walking into any new place takes courage and the hardest step is usually the first one through the door

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By *dquestCouple
36 weeks ago

Peterborough

Work it sister!

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By *orace99Man
36 weeks ago

York

I think it's great to see.

They obviously want to make a change in their lives

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By *ornucopiaMan
36 weeks ago

Bexley

"I don’t think anything as they are just otter gym users going about their business "

Beavering away at their exercises?

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By *stwo2023Couple
36 weeks ago

Worcester

That reminds me ...I'm late for the gym!!

I'm the fattest one there and no one cares. I love my gym.

Evie

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By *-jonMan
36 weeks ago

London

"Thoughts? Concerns? Disgust? Acceptance? Cheerleading?

Remember... the "morbidly obese" share locker rooms, pools, classes, saunas..

If you see one of us... what's your reaction?

Just a quick poll. Shut it down of you don't like it."

One hundred per cent support and encouragement. Go get it, and do you!

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

"Thoughts? Concerns? Disgust? Acceptance? Cheerleading?

Remember... the "morbidly obese" share locker rooms, pools, classes, saunas..

If you see one of us... what's your reaction?

Just a quick poll. Shut it down of you don't like it.

One hundred per cent support and encouragement. Go get it, and do you!"

Bro, is your name a reference to the Key and Peele skit

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36 weeks ago

"Thoughts? Concerns? Disgust? Acceptance? Cheerleading?

Remember... the "morbidly obese" share locker rooms, pools, classes, saunas..

If you see one of us... what's your reaction?

Just a quick poll. Shut it down of you don't like it."

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

"Thoughts? Concerns? Disgust? Acceptance? Cheerleading?

Remember... the "morbidly obese" share locker rooms, pools, classes, saunas..

If you see one of us... what's your reaction?

Just a quick poll. Shut it down of you don't like it."

Good on you is what I say. More respect for them there to achieve a goal rather than the size 8 who go there to show off and be on their phones the whole time

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By *xydadbodMan
36 weeks ago

Milton keynes

I'll always encourage people regardless but then, I've never set foot in a gym before.. all my workouts done at home so I'm comfortable then, so I can go as hard or slow as I want and do my own thing really

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By *heelerMan
36 weeks ago

Northants

"Thoughts? Concerns? Disgust? Acceptance? Cheerleading?

Remember... the "morbidly obese" share locker rooms, pools, classes, saunas..

If you see one of us... what's your reaction?

Just a quick poll. Shut it down of you don't like it."

I applaud them for making the effort and working to make their life better.

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By *reespirit_1100Man
36 weeks ago

PRESTON

Adoration and cheering them on. The hardest step is always the first one. Coming to gym shows conviction. Should never judge as we have idea about their life choices past or circumstances or health. So good for them and equally they shouldn't care what others think. No one goes to the gym to be judged

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By *ardfun10Man
36 weeks ago

banbury

I’m a cheerleader

You do what you want for you

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By *inAndTonic21Couple
36 weeks ago

Merseyside

I admire anyone who makes the effort to go to they. Not everyone is ripped and toned!

The only thing that gets my attention and annoys me is selfishness like being super noisy or not cleaning the machines after use xx

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By *neforutoMan
36 weeks ago

Fantasy land in the SW

Love all shapes and sizes, I go to the gym a) for myself and b) to enjoy watching others working out regardless of their abilities, size or shape. The fluidity of the motion when done properly is awesome to see.

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By *antam AvershiresMan
36 weeks ago

Falme

Ad a larger guy I actually do get a lot of negative comments at my gym.

Anytime I'm near the end of a set someone always says "come on, just 2 more reps you fat cunt".

Never been able to catch the person saying it but hear it loud and clear.

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By *ink vixenCouple
36 weeks ago

Medway

Gyms need to get a few benches installed especially for people to sit whilst scrolling their phones.

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By *a LunaWoman
36 weeks ago

South Wales

As a fat chick who used to go to the gym I never noticed anyone judging. Folk were always too busy doing their own thing or watching the tv monitor or listening to their headphones.

They noticed the stunning gals with the perfect figure, and stared at them, but I was largely ignored (thankfully!)

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By *reggSausageMan
36 weeks ago

derby

If you are in the gym then you have succeeded, most people have goals but don’t even show up for any of it, overweight? Keep going, want to be fitter ? Turn up, we salute all of you

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
36 weeks ago

The Continental

"Ad a larger guy I actually do get a lot of negative comments at my gym.

Anytime I'm near the end of a set someone always says "come on, just 2 more reps you fat cunt".

Never been able to catch the person saying it but hear it loud and clear.

The answer to that is to shout out loud…..

“Yes I may be a fat cunt, but I’m working harder to not be a fat cunt. You on the other hand, are just a cunt, and no amount of work you do here will change that you’re a cunt!”

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

Neither if us have been judged in the gym. In face much the opposite the gym heads were always willing to spot or help keep form when I lifted and the ladies were always friendly to J.

In turn we aren't gonna judge a bodybuilder in Greggs lol

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By *otsossieMan
36 weeks ago

Chesterfield

"Gyms need to get a few benches installed especially for people to sit whilst scrolling their phones. "

Drives me mad but apparently they are resting between reps.

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By *rpeggioCouple
36 weeks ago

Baughurst

Secretly I cheer for them for taking steps to get fitter (health wise) and being brave not to care about how different body shapes and sizes in the gym may look at them or think of them. Mental Applause.

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

"Gyms need to get a few benches installed especially for people to sit whilst scrolling their phones.

Drives me mad but apparently they are resting between reps.

Exactly, who on earth would rest for a long period of time for a compound exercise where they would mostly be working on strength when you can just rest for 30 seconds and go again to prove that you truly haven't pushed yourself in your last set?

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By *ou only live onceMan
36 weeks ago

London

The gym belongs to everyone.

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By *ex LutherMan
36 weeks ago

Closer than you think

If they’re there to better themselves then they’ll have all my support and if need be advice, I would never want anyone to be excluded from the gym or feel unwelcome.

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By *stwo2023Couple
36 weeks ago

Worcester

"That reminds me ...I'm late for the gym!!

I'm the fattest one there and no one cares. I love my gym.

Evie "

Well I went for 2 hours. Did half an hour of prehab stretching then some deadlifts then just tarted about doing more stretches as I didn't like the look of the rest of the session

Will try to go to another gym over the weekend and get some squats in maybe. My gym is closed until Tuesday now. It's not a commercial gym before anyone questions it

Evie

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By *stwo2023Couple
36 weeks ago

Worcester

"If they’re there to better themselves then they’ll have all my support and if need be advice, I would never want anyone to be excluded from the gym or feel unwelcome."

What of they're just there to maintain themselves? Why do they have to be bettering themselves?

Evie

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By *oody89Man
36 weeks ago

melton mowbray

It’s a positive thing if anyone is in the gym.. I respect them

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By *ex LutherMan
36 weeks ago

Closer than you think

"If they’re there to better themselves then they’ll have all my support and if need be advice, I would never want anyone to be excluded from the gym or feel unwelcome.

What of they're just there to maintain themselves? Why do they have to be bettering themselves?

Evie "

Hi Evie, Ok perhaps the wrong word there

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By *uckurcumMan
36 weeks ago

Bishop Auckland

It shouldn't make any difference,and let's remember just because you look in good shape etc doesn't mean your "medically" fit n healthy ..I've known people with excellent health stats whose size would surprise you...

I'd rather see people with issues of any description in a gym then the sudden onslaught of designer clad social media pouting,gravy coloured lets chat and hog machines /.weights screening numpties !

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

We are different and equality reminds me we treat people the same regardless

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By *host63Man
36 weeks ago

Bedfont Feltham

I have been I. Gyms for years snd never once have I seen sn obese person being mocked in a gym We are mostly too busy working on our own self improvement.

Second thought on seeing it is good for you and encourage and help if asked.

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By *loria JamesTV/TS
36 weeks ago

Durham

I think "good for you" they are obviously trying to lose weight and making an effort.

Its people who sit on their phones or girls in full makeup that bug me x

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By *ulie RobertsTV/TS
36 weeks ago

Southampton

What’s a gym?

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By *ischaTV/TS
36 weeks ago

Sheffield

All shapes and sizes as well as ages in my gym, various levels of fitness….puff, pant….everyone welcome

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By *eadinthecloudsMan
36 weeks ago

Manchester

What’s the point of a gym if not to help people improve their health?

I’d never judge anyone for being in a gym.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
36 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

I think fucking good on you. And me! For doing it. Same when I see a large person jogging. Big respect. I couldn’t jog.

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By *naswingdressWoman
36 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

At most I think something like "I hope no one is a jerk to you". People are people, it's not my business. If I see them repeatedly, it'd be like "oh, it's that person who was wearing a red shirt last time"

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By *eyond PurityCouple
36 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

Everyone is on different programs in the gym - someone may be coming back from injury or an illness or just starting out.

I don’t think anything of other people as it’s great for whatever part of their journey they are on.

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By *heGateKeeperMan
36 weeks ago

Stratford

We all wanna hear the joke

Gonna potentially out myself here, but it went something like this:

*Dude picks up my PT and puts him in a headlock*

Me: I think I heard something crunch *whilst laughing*

Dude: It's fine, so long as he can get up and walk.

PT looks at me. I look at him. Both suppressing hysterics.

Dude: Looks at me, sitting in my wheelchair.

*Dude's realisation face*

It was very funny

Absolutely should have picked you up for bantz

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By *hrek101Man
36 weeks ago

Herts

Better than sitting on the sofa. Personally who gives a shit what shape you are, yout in the gym trying to be better.

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

Anyone remember the lady pole dancer on bgt.

She showed everyone size does not matter any size fits all.

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

"If they’re there to better themselves then they’ll have all my support and if need be advice, I would never want anyone to be excluded from the gym or feel unwelcome.

What of they're just there to maintain themselves? Why do they have to be bettering themselves?

Evie "

Exactly. No one needs to better themselves. Be happy with what you are.

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

"I work in a gym and we are there for everyone. Size is not and never will be a problem. Everyone is welcome."

Body shape...one shape fits all.

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By *oxesMan
36 weeks ago

Southend, Essex

"Thoughts? Concerns? Disgust? Acceptance? Cheerleading?

Remember... the "morbidly obese" share locker rooms, pools, classes, saunas..

If you see one of us... what's your reaction?

Just a quick poll. Shut it down of you don't like it."

Don't think anyone really cares if an obese person is using a gym or using a pool. Because its ultra normal to see fat people at a gym or swimming pool.

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By *oxesMan
36 weeks ago

Southend, Essex

"If they’re there to better themselves then they’ll have all my support and if need be advice, I would never want anyone to be excluded from the gym or feel unwelcome.

What of they're just there to maintain themselves? Why do they have to be bettering themselves?

Evie

Exactly. No one needs to better themselves. Be happy with what you are."

Depends on the situation. If you are massively underweight or overweight then you may have medical complications caused by those conditions which in the modern world is completely avoidable in vast majority of cases.

For obesity by losing the weight some people are performing act of love for their bodies. Which can only really come from a point of acceptance. Bettering themselves so there medical complications or chance of medical complications are either reduced or non exsistent.

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By *naswingdressWoman
36 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"If they’re there to better themselves then they’ll have all my support and if need be advice, I would never want anyone to be excluded from the gym or feel unwelcome.

What of they're just there to maintain themselves? Why do they have to be bettering themselves?

Evie

Exactly. No one needs to better themselves. Be happy with what you are.

I think everyone knows that being a normal weight is optimal for human bodies. Nobody's that stupid.

Yet society tends to assume people outside those parameters are that stupid or incompetent.

Given how many people are outside those parameters, and how obvious it is, it's perhaps worth noting that there are other factors at play - poverty, psychological issues, etc.

I think those who have less problems and more advantages in life like to think they're somehow superior to those who are not. A bit like children who play video games in god mode and crow about how they're the best at all the video games, when they're friends are playing it on extra hard.

Congratulations, people with privilege. You won the genetic lottery and/ or were pushed out of a vagina that afforded you benefits other people don't have. Would you like a participation trophy?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
36 weeks ago

Wow. I'm amazed at all the responses. Thanks for posting, everyone!

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By *ames_HertsMan
36 weeks ago

North Hertfordshire

Anyone getting out of their busy lives to exercise should be applauded

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

If they are in the gym they are trying so well done to them,

Going in the gym even for someone who slightly overweight can be really daunting

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

"I think everyone knows that being a normal weight is optimal for human bodies. Nobody's that stupid."

Not sure you'd get agreement on what 'normal' is, particularly as normal now is overweight.

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By *exxyyDy11Man
36 weeks ago

Darwen

Good on them I say. We all started somewhere. A few newbies at my gym have asked me for advice. My advice is form is everything. Don't lift stupid, lift smart and watch your back

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By *iddle ManMan
36 weeks ago

Walsall

Nothing but joy for them, takes a huge amount of courage and everyone's journey starts somewhere.

I remember one lady, starting and seeing her progress over a year or so, I always wanted to tell her how well she had done but didn't want to seem like a gym creep.

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By *J StathamMan
36 weeks ago

Manchester

Me and my gym guys were talking about this the other day and we love nothing more than seeing it.

We were talking about it because there was a fairly large couple in the gym and they caught us looking at them, we were talking about how amazing it was that they were in there giving it their all. But I imagine they think that we may have been saying mean or unpleasant things about them.

I hope to see them in there more often because it's a massive inspiration to all regardless of where they are at in their fitness journey

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By *exxyyDy11Man
36 weeks ago

Darwen

"Me and my gym guys were talking about this the other day and we love nothing more than seeing it.

I hope to see them in there more often because it's a massive inspiration to all regardless of where they are at in their fitness journey "

Gym can be a daunting experience for newbies

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By *hagTonightMan
36 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

I wouldnt take a notice, we are all in there for the same reason, to workout and reaching our goal

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By *stwo2023Couple
36 weeks ago

Worcester

Your own head is your worst enemy in a gym but you only have to look on social media to know we don't make this shit up. People being videoed and posted online by 'influencers' for clout and likes. Not just overweight people to be fair. A few big accounts (in terms of physique and followers) are starting to call it out and call for a ban on videoing in gyms.

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By *lmost TouchingMan
36 weeks ago

Wherever I lay my hat.

"I’d rather see someone in the gym than sat on a sofa making excuses why they are not at the gym. "

Woody B is on the money!

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By *nnCeeWoman
36 weeks ago

East of Eden, West of Hell

"Fat person in your gym.

Tra-la-la-la-la."

Every time I see the thread, this goes through my head now, cheers Pete

I'm the fatty who SHOULD be in the gym.

I used to go, and thought people were looking at me and judging me then. But I also realise that's pretty self-centred and also more than likely pretty untrue, but when you have ridiculous anxiety from being badly bullied for a very long time, it's stuck to the very core of my self-hatred/belief system.

I think people do pass judgements but nothing that sticks, or stays, and for no longer than a second. But only because as humans that's what our brain instinctively do. (To keep us safe from "danger")

Whoever I see on their way to/from a gym, or running on the road/pavement, I silently applaud them, whoever they are, because they're doing better than I am.

Anyone that DOES go, please may you give me a bit of your 'get up and go' so I can indeed get up and go!!

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By *nnCeeWoman
36 weeks ago

East of Eden, West of Hell

"Me and my gym guys were talking about this the other day and we love nothing more than seeing it.

I hope to see them in there more often because it's a massive inspiration to all regardless of where they are at in their fitness journey "

Perhaps one of you could quietly approach them and tell them you think they're awesome? If any of you are qualified at all, offer some help or pointers, if they so desire.

In fairness, if you see someone regularly, smile, say hi, ask them if they're having a good day, or just say "alright?!"

A kind word sometimes goes so much further than you ever think it could. *shrug*

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By *ex HolesMan
36 weeks ago

Up North

The fat person in my gym loves all of the machines and they’re all the vending ones

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By *amyam5627Man
36 weeks ago

Swadlincote

There’s a few overweight / obese people who use my gym (it’s a spit and sawdust type bodybuilding one), to be honest it bothers none of the people training there.

I say good luck to them and at least they are trying to keep fit.

One of the big girls has actually trained alongside me, I tried to help her out with how to do stuff properly and encourage her as she encouraged me (she was on light weights and I was on heavy).

Some of the powerlifting guys and girls could technically be classed as obese, however I wouldn’t say anything to them as they could snap me in two

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
36 weeks ago

North West

"The fat person in my gym loves all of the machines and they’re all the vending ones "

I didn't know you had a vending machine in your garage

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By *LiamMan
36 weeks ago

Midlands

Treat them like every other person in there. Mind your own buisness and achieve your own goals

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By *ldgeezermeMan
36 weeks ago

Throckley

Who's going to admit to being disgusted etc?

Might as well have a thread:

"Who likes child abusers"

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
36 weeks ago

About 3 feet away from the fence

Disgust would be a bizarre reaction to someone who is overweight, using the gym presumably to try and lose weight.

Everyone has to start somewhere.

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By *arrus8t5Man
36 weeks ago

manchester

I've had this talk with quite a few gym friends and we all seem to have the same view.

The majority of people attending gyms are there because they have issues with their own bodies and its very unlikely that anybody is even looking at you let alone judging you.

Some of the nicest, most helpful people I've met were from the gym.

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

Acceptance of course...!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
36 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross

"The fat person in my gym loves all of the machines and they’re all the vending ones "

... oh him! he's usually got his hand stuck up the rear dispenser

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

Everyone’s got to start somewhere and I think it’s great that they’ve made the decision to step into a gym which might be far outside their comfort zone, I really can’t understand people that would laugh or make fun of them

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
36 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross

Someone I worked with years ago REFUSED to divulge her weight during a discussion about everyone.

We could all see her body form and putting a number on it wouldn't have made any difference.

Only she knew her reason for not wanting to share.

Instead of asking what others would think and feel , it may be best for a person who isn't happy with their body to concentrate on what they think about issues around gym attendance themselves and not concern themselves too much about what others 'might' be thinking.

For what it's worth - I feel there is not a lot of deep reflection/honesty on this thread. A lot of politeness yes but honesty no.

I can't pretend I don't see what is different about people , be that their body shape, disability , race , age.

I see obesity. I don't feel disgust but I see it.

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By *asha86Couple
36 weeks ago

walsall

"Thoughts? Concerns? Disgust? Acceptance? Cheerleading?

Remember... the "morbidly obese" share locker rooms, pools, classes, saunas..

If you see one of us... what's your reaction?

Just a quick poll. Shut it down of you don't like it."

Doesn't bother me in the slightest and nor should it! I think to myself fair play to the person i cant fault them!

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By *nnandElleCouple
36 weeks ago

Brackley

I just think, "good for you" - then I realise it's me in a mirror, but still think "good for you"

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By *andsomeunitMan
36 weeks ago

Birmingham

So, I'm fat, obese, whatever you want to call it, and I absolutely detest the gym.

As a fat person who has been to the gym before, it takes a lot. It is mentally daunting as well as physically daunting to take that step and go through them doors and to think that you're being watched while working out, possibly judged, even though some of the comments on this thread say, good for them, you know, this, that, the other.

You still feel as a bigger person, or I used to feel as a bigger person, that I was judged while working out, even though a majority of people don't. They don't look at you as a size in the gym. They look at you as a person trying to do something about it.

So, if I do go to a gym in the future, and I see a person who is fat, obese, overweight, whatever you want to call it, I just look at them and in my head commend them and go, fantastic, you're doing something about it.

And me personally, gyms aren't for me. In the last seven months, I've lost nearly six stone just by doing stuff in my garden and dieting properly, watching what I eat, things like that. So, are gyms for me? No.

Are gyms for bigger people, obese people, fat people? I hate the word obese.

In general, they're for everyone, gyms are. And anybody who goes in there, I absolutely commend. So, a fat person in the gym for me, is just fair play for getting your life together, having the confidence to walk through that door, get on that machine and do something about something that is potentially crippling you in life. To me, that's commendable.

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By *octor ProdMan
36 weeks ago

working Overseas

Anyone who has negative views of another based on that persons body are the problem

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By *emorefridaCouple
36 weeks ago

La la land

I've watched this thread and it is coming across a bit fake to me.

I don't notice others in the gym, seems a bit unrealistic. Maybe when you're in a middle of a set I would agree. But what about the time in-between them or when you're walking from the floor to the changing rooms? You do notice the people around you, from the person who is overweight to the figure you admire. If you didn't notice people you'd be constantly walking into them.

And a many have said fair play to the overweight people for attending the gym. It's kind of a bit patronising isn't it? Do you think that of someone who isn't overweight? And even if you think good for you, it is because you think good for them for trying to loose weight? Or is it oh my gosh look how much they've lifted I couldn't lift that much, good for them?

Not every big person goes to the gym to loose weight, some of us do it for our mental health, to feel stronger in our own bodies.

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By *pank the MonkeyCouple
36 weeks ago

Fylde Coast

When you go to the gym it's worth remembering this:

You are there for you and no one else. Its a gym not a beauty contest or a fashion parade. The only person you have to impress is yourself and the only competition you are in is with you. And every step you take matters..

Go for you.

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By *partan69Man
36 weeks ago

hyde

I've piled weight on over the last couple of years, currently 126 kg , to embarrassed to go to a gym and swimming isn't even a consideration

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

I would be that fat person

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By *rispyDuckMan
36 weeks ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

"Thoughts? Concerns? Disgust? Acceptance? Cheerleading?

Remember... the "morbidly obese" share locker rooms, pools, classes, saunas..

If you see one of us... what's your reaction?

Just a quick poll. Shut it down of you don't like it."

I have love & respect for a person who identifies a problem & actively does something to resolve it

than just sit in self pity, moan or make excuses (with a few exceptions ofcourse lol).

I’m not 1 to go round cheering someone on (can be seen as patronising) but would give them an approving nod

& let us crack on with the hard work ahead

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By *pank the MonkeyCouple
36 weeks ago

Fylde Coast

"I've piled weight on over the last couple of years, currently 126 kg , to embarrassed to go to a gym and swimming isn't even a consideration "

Then go for a walk twice a day.. start small and go from there.. the only person stopping you is you...

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By *ulcanriderMan
36 weeks ago

Northampton

"Thoughts? Concerns? Disgust? Acceptance? Cheerleading?

Remember... the "morbidly obese" share locker rooms, pools, classes, saunas..

If you see one of us... what's your reaction?

Just a quick poll. Shut it down of you don't like it."

I dont have any reaction, we are all there to excersise

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
36 weeks ago

wonderland.

One of the reasons as a bigger lady that I dislike the gym so much is the way I've been commented on like I'm not there..sniggered at and made to feel bad.

I was never going to be one of those people that enjoyed the gym... but it's never somewhere I look forward to going to

Swimming isn't quite as bad as I go.. get in the water and can't see or hear others

Cali

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By *andsomeunitMan
36 weeks ago

Birmingham

"I've watched this thread and it is coming across a bit fake to me.

Not every big person goes to the gym to loose weight, some of us do it for our mental health, to feel stronger in our own bodies. "

I have to agree.

While it's true that during intense sets, focus narrows, in between sets or transitions, we naturally observe our surroundings. Acknowledging people of all body types at the gym should stem from genuine respect, not condescension. Everyone has their reasons for being there, whether it's for physical health, mental well-being, or personal strength.

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By *rispyDuckMan
36 weeks ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

"When you go to the gym it's worth remembering this:

Go for you.

Well said

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By *pank the MonkeyCouple
36 weeks ago

Fylde Coast

"I've watched this thread and it is coming across a bit fake to me.

Not every big person goes to the gym to loose weight, some of us do it for our mental health, to feel stronger in our own bodies.

I have to agree.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
36 weeks ago

North West

"I've watched this thread and it is coming across a bit fake to me.

Not every big person goes to the gym to loose weight, some of us do it for our mental health, to feel stronger in our own bodies. "

*Applause for Frida*

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
36 weeks ago

North West

"I've piled weight on over the last couple of years, currently 126 kg , to embarrassed to go to a gym and swimming isn't even a consideration

Then go for a walk twice a day.. start small and go from there.. the only person stopping you is you..."

Going for a walk is not necessarily something everyone can do. There many be very legitimate reasons why "just go for a walk" isn't possible.

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By *pank the MonkeyCouple
36 weeks ago

Fylde Coast

"I've piled weight on over the last couple of years, currently 126 kg , to embarrassed to go to a gym and swimming isn't even a consideration

Then go for a walk twice a day.. start small and go from there.. the only person stopping you is you...

Going for a walk is not necessarily something everyone can do. There many be very legitimate reasons why "just go for a walk" isn't possible. "

You are quite right but he stated that he is embarrassed to go to the gym so I gave him an option. If he can't do that through any form of disability or restriction then there are other options that don't involve leaving the house

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By *indaDILFlikeMan
36 weeks ago

wirral

"Thoughts? Concerns? Disgust? Acceptance? Cheerleading?

Remember... the "morbidly obese" share locker rooms, pools, classes, saunas..

If you see one of us... what's your reaction?

Just a quick poll. Shut it down of you don't like it."

Every time I step in a new gym I get a bit nervous so I wouldn't judge anyone. Good for them!

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
36 weeks ago

North West

"I've piled weight on over the last couple of years, currently 126 kg , to embarrassed to go to a gym and swimming isn't even a consideration

Then go for a walk twice a day.. start small and go from there.. the only person stopping you is you...

Going for a walk is not necessarily something everyone can do. There many be very legitimate reasons why "just go for a walk" isn't possible.

I find it's best not to make specific suggestions, not knowing people's physical abilities or health status. I find it best to suggest they take advice from a healthcare professional. GP surgeries now have social prescribers who are able to get involved with things like recommending safe and appropriate physical activity.

I have lost count of the times I've been told on here "just go for a walk" and posters have doubled down when I've said that is completely impossible.

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By *urry BlokeMan
36 weeks ago

Stalybridge

I go to a council run gym

There are more people out of shape than in shape

Not that you really notice anyone beyond a passing glance anyway

I don't go to be looked at or accepted, I go to work on myself

I assume that others are there for that too

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By *undee2Man
36 weeks ago

Dundee

I walk 2-3 hours every day, usually up my local hills. It doesn't help with the weight but it does a huge amount for my general fitness, breathing (which I have struggled with for 60 years) and mental health.

I do have several friends and neighbours who have built their own gyms in converted shed. Partly for convenience, partly for long term cost and partly to save them from embarrassment in the early days.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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36 weeks ago

East Sussex

As I said. I honestly can't remember anybody I saw at the gym apart from the very old man. Obviously I noticed them at the time or as has been said I'd have bumped in to them but I don't think any of us should assume we impact on other people apart from very briefly.

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