FabSwingers.com forum: Preference

By (user no longer on site) OP
36 weeks ago

Do you feel a bit of way when you find the perfect profile but in their bio they say “Only black men” or “White men only”

I guess this also extends to if men have body type preferences?

Do you just keep it moving or ignore and message anyway? ??

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By *ora the explorerWoman
36 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

No I wouldn’t message. People state preferences for a reason. Why would I message someone who has a preference for slim or gym fit.

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By *naswingdressWoman
36 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

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By *stwo2023Couple
36 weeks ago

Worcester

Do you think non BBW feel that way when stumbling upon your profile? How do you feel about that?

Evie

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
36 weeks ago

The Continental

Just move on.

Why would I message someone that had excluded me in some way? That be pointless.

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By *naswingdressWoman
36 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

No, I don't message people if it's clear I don't meet their criteria. Why would I?

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
36 weeks ago

Reading

Why do people insist on messaging people who don't fit the profile? Such a waste of everyone's time. You can have whatever view you want of preferences but you are unlikely to change their minds with your message.

People write profiles for a reason and just because some men don't bother reading it or think it doesnt apply to then is the reason that those men send so many messages and get no response. Its like applying for a job as a doctor without a medical degree. Sorry to break it to you sunshine but you ain't that special.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
36 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

How is it a perfect profile if it has a statement that puts you off?

If I don't fit someone's preferences there's no point in us communicating.

If I don't like the way someone puts across their preferences I also don't bother

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By (user no longer on site) OP
36 weeks ago

"Do you think non BBW feel that way when stumbling upon your profile? How do you feel about that?

Evie "
I hear you, my profile does say curvy women are my favourite but it doesn’t mean I won’t meet anyone else.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
36 weeks ago

"Why do people insist on messaging people who don't fit the profile? Such a waste of everyone's time. You can have whatever view you want of preferences but you are unlikely to change their minds with your message.

People write profiles for a reason and just because some men don't bother reading it or think it doesnt apply to then is the reason that those men send so many messages and get no response. It’s like applying for a job as a doctor without a medical degree. Sorry to break it to you sunshine but you ain't that special."
Lol, just trying to spark debate. I’m not special at all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
36 weeks ago

"How is it a perfect profile if it has a statement that puts you off?

If I don't fit someone's preferences there's no point in us communicating.

If I don't like the way someone puts across their preferences I also don't bother

I agree 100%, I just keep it moving personally.

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By *illy IdolMan
36 weeks ago

Midlands

"No I wouldn’t message. People state preferences for a reason. Why would I message someone who has a preference for slim or gym fit."

@Meli, this is what I was talking about regarding preferences.

I'd consider you Nora as slim. Do you not?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
36 weeks ago

"Just move on.

Why would I message someone that had excluded me in some way? That be pointless."

Yeah I agree. I like to go where I’m wanted

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By *naswingdressWoman
36 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

People write profiles for a reason and just because some men don't bother reading it or think it doesnt apply to then is the reason that those men send so many messages and get no response. It’s like applying for a job as a doctor without a medical degree. Sorry to break it to you sunshine but you ain't that special. Lol, just trying to spark debate. I’m not special at all. "

Debate about whether people should have preferences?

Debate about whether people should be clear about what they want on their profile or if there should be limits on that?

Debate about whether you should ignore people's stated preferences?

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By *allySlinkyWoman
36 weeks ago

Leeds

"Do you think non BBW feel that way when stumbling upon your profile? How do you feel about that?

Evie I hear you, my profile does say curvy women are my favourite but it doesn’t mean I won’t meet anyone else. "

I wouldn't click on your profile to see that as I would think from your name that I'm not your preference.

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By *naswingdressWoman
36 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Do you think non BBW feel that way when stumbling upon your profile? How do you feel about that?

Evie I hear you, my profile does say curvy women are my favourite but it doesn’t mean I won’t meet anyone else.

I wouldn't click on your profile to see that as I would think from your name that I'm not your preference. "

Indeed

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By *estYorkshireGentMan
36 weeks ago

Leeds

I just keep on moving if it says on their profile that I’m not their preference.

I will usually drop a wink and I assume if there’s any interest on their side they might wink back and then I’d message.

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By *issBellaWoman
36 weeks ago

Wales

Move on, plenty more fish

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

Hubby is bi and only plays with bigger people but that gets outright ingored multiple times a day.

Also our preference for club meets is mostly ignored as well.

Personally we wouldn't waste ours and their time by ignoring preferences.

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
36 weeks ago

The Continental

"Move on, plenty more fish

That some kinda new kink?

I don’t wanna meet fish.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
36 weeks ago

"Do you think non BBW feel that way when stumbling upon your profile? How do you feel about that?

Evie I hear you, my profile does say curvy women are my favourite but it doesn’t mean I won’t meet anyone else.

I wouldn't click on your profile to see that as I would think from your name that I'm not your preference. "

Maybe I should change my name to better my odds ??

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By *naswingdressWoman
36 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Do you think non BBW feel that way when stumbling upon your profile? How do you feel about that?

Evie I hear you, my profile does say curvy women are my favourite but it doesn’t mean I won’t meet anyone else.

I wouldn't click on your profile to see that as I would think from your name that I'm not your preference.

Maybe I should change my name to better my odds ??"

Names are always a trade off. That's up to you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
36 weeks ago

"I just keep on moving if it says on their profile that I’m not their preference.

I will usually drop a wink and I assume if there’s any interest on their side they might wink back and then I’d message. "

Great shout. Thanks

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By *allandathleticMan
36 weeks ago

Asgard

"Do you think non BBW feel that way when stumbling upon your profile? How do you feel about that?

Evie I hear you, my profile does say curvy women are my favourite but it doesn’t mean I won’t meet anyone else.

I wouldn't click on your profile to see that as I would think from your name that I'm not your preference. "

Just to clarify this point

I AM tall and athletic

I'm not looking for tall and athletic. I can find me in the mirror any time.

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By *ornucopiaMan
36 weeks ago

Bexley

I find that hinting at my preference is less likely to upset people who lie outside my preference range.

Saying 'No ...' is more likely to cause offence than saying who you prefer to meet.

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By *partharmonyCouple
36 weeks ago

Ruislip

Their preferences are important to them like yours are to you. A perfect profile for you doesn't mean you have the perfect profile for them. Your preferences do not override theirs and getting upset about will get you nowhere.

Move on and find somebody you are compatible with.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
36 weeks ago

"Do you think non BBW feel that way when stumbling upon your profile? How do you feel about that?

Evie I hear you, my profile does say curvy women are my favourite but it doesn’t mean I won’t meet anyone else.

I wouldn't click on your profile to see that as I would think from your name that I'm not your preference.

Just to clarify this point

I AM tall and athletic

I'm not looking for tall and athletic. I can find me in the mirror any time.

Love this. ??????

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By *rBobbMan
36 weeks ago

Birmingham

I am out of a lot of people's age range and I always try to respect that.

I will only mail people outside of this if there is a bit of fun in the forum.

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By *ornucopiaMan
36 weeks ago

Bexley

"Do you feel a bit of way when you find the perfect profile ..."

I certainly like to feel a bit of 'Way, hey , hey!'. Preferably a bit in each hand simultaneously.

Perhaps I ought to include that in my profile statement!

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By *issmorganWoman
36 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I wouldn't message someone who had stated a preference for slim ladies or younger women,as that's not what I am or what they're after.

I appreciate it can be frustrating, but it irks me when people don't respect my preferences ie change their age, so I wouldn't do it to others.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
36 weeks ago

Leeds

Doesn't bother me in the slightest I just move on and scroll past.

Mrs

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By *hunky GentMan
36 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

NEXTTTTTT

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
36 weeks ago

Central

There are many things that individuals like and prefer. And they will know themselves better than others do. So if you're not a match, you move on.

Most people are not mutually compatible with most other people. It's just a fact of life

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By *ilthycoupleabzCouple
36 weeks ago

Aberdeen

No, wouldn't message them or make contact if they stated different preferences to what I am.

If they contacted us/me and I saw they had other preferences it would also be a no thanks.

No point in wasting anyones time, plenty of people out there who can match each others preferred type

MrsAbz

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

It’s not my profile so it doesn’t bother me. I read a profile then, do like it, do I want to make contact or fab a pic? Yes or no, next… Happy Days!

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

A profile that states ‘white men only’ is, and I say this with a lot of confidence, not the kind of person I’d want to meet for sex. I’m not interested in being anyone’s exception or any other rubbish.

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

I’m so petty that I once fabbed pics and then saw that they said ‘no Black or Asian men’ and so I unfabbed all the pics and went on about my day.

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By *naswingdressWoman
36 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"A profile that states ‘white men only’ is, and I say this with a lot of confidence, not the kind of person I’d want to meet for sex. I’m not interested in being anyone’s exception or any other rubbish.

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By *aizyWoman
36 weeks ago

west midlands

"Do you think non BBW feel that way when stumbling upon your profile? How do you feel about that?

Evie I hear you, my profile does say curvy women are my favourite but it doesn’t mean I won’t meet anyone else.

I wouldn't click on your profile to see that as I would think from your name that I'm not your preference. "

Same.

To answer your question OP, it doesn't bother me if someone states their prefrences, if I don't think I fit them I just move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

If someone literally writes a preference which I don’t fit into, I will absolutely not messaged them. Fact.

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By *ags73Man
36 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

"If someone literally writes a preference which I don’t fit into, I will absolutely not messaged them. Fact. "

I do same, even if it seems daft or a minor thing.

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By *ilthycoupleabzCouple
36 weeks ago

Aberdeen

"If someone literally writes a preference which I don’t fit into, I will absolutely not messaged them. Fact. "

But would you reply/engage with them if they messaged you?

MrsAbz

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

Move on

no point trying with someone who you don’t fit most of the time

you could always try your fortune but be prepared and accepting of rejection

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

"If someone literally writes a preference which I don’t fit into, I will absolutely not messaged them. Fact.

But would you reply/engage with them if they messaged you?

MrsAbz "

Absolutely. And I could use a few forum people as examples.

We can all get along easily. In fact, I’d hazard a guess some peaple drop their preferences every now and again because they like someone. Just a hunch.

A preference tick limits possibilities, I don’t like them, but I respect those that use them.

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

"If someone literally writes a preference which I don’t fit into, I will absolutely not messaged them. Fact.

I do same, even if it seems daft or a minor thing. "
Height is the most popular I see.

And then the black guys only, Is something I can never change also.

Clean shaven only … do they mean facial… or down below. I can’t be assed asking, so I move one.

Must be exceptional…. That’s the biggest vague fishing hook I’ve ever read….. I move on as it’s clearly a preference set to confuse me.

If you haven’t guessed, I haven’t messaged many.

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By *ags73Man
36 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

"If someone literally writes a preference which I don’t fit into, I will absolutely not messaged them. Fact.

I do same, even if it seems daft or a minor thing. Height is the most popular I see.

And then the black guys only, Is something I can never change also.

Clean shaven only … do they mean facial… or down below. I can’t be assed asking, so I move one.

Must be exceptional…. That’s the biggest vague fishing hook I’ve ever read….. I move on as it’s clearly a preference set to confuse me.

If you haven’t guessed, I haven’t messaged many. "

Swerved all of those.

Exceptional I assume to mean gym fit with a giant whanger

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By *ot to giggleWoman
36 weeks ago

Coventry

"Move on, plenty more fish

That some kinda new kink?

I don’t wanna meet fish.

your safe its a different site i think

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By *ittlebirdWoman
36 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

Im definitely a Littlebird

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By *rBobbMan
36 weeks ago

Birmingham

"Im definitely a Littlebird

You most certainly are

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By *ot to giggleWoman
36 weeks ago

Coventry

i would of thought that if someone puts a preference it would give you a clue - maybe the work preference kinda hints that! why message to get a rejection?

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

I understand. Sex is a fluid thing. No need to parse.

Some women prefer BBC. Some prefer tall, blond, hairless rugby players, some prefer hairy beardy geeks.

We can't help but but we're attracted to.

I steer from middle-aged BBW moms.

No one wants a mess.

We all want to make a connection.

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

I understand. Sex is a fluid thing. No need to parse.

Some women prefer BBC. Some prefer tall, blond, hairless rugby players, some prefer hairy beardy geeks.

We can't help but but we're attracted to.

I steer from middle-aged BBW moms.

No one wants a mess.

We all want to make a connection. "

You do you.

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By *eedsLocal2040Man
36 weeks ago

Leeds

Move on

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By *ora the explorerWoman
36 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

To be honest Steve I wouldn’t either. Male or female. Anyone who states that or no Asians etc wouldn’t be my kind of person. I know it’s different but even the no tories or no lefties makes me think what a nob.

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36 weeks ago

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36 weeks ago

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By *ullsfan77Man
36 weeks ago

Torquay

I read the profile carefully and hopefully I would be kind of what they are looking for. If it’s “gym fit and hung like a horse” then I don’t bother.

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By *ilthycoupleabzCouple
36 weeks ago

Aberdeen

"If someone literally writes a preference which I don’t fit into, I will absolutely not messaged them. Fact.

But would you reply/engage with them if they messaged you?

MrsAbz

Absolutely. And I could use a few forum people as examples.

We can all get along easily. In fact, I’d hazard a guess some peaple drop their preferences every now and again because they like someone. Just a hunch.

A preference tick limits possibilities, I don’t like them, but I respect those that use them. "

Yes, I agree everyone can get along regardless of preference (obviously not offence ones) and it would never stop me from chattering away with someone on the forum or im messages etc but I wouldn't progress that any further than friends (with no benefits).

Which I think is maybe a strong stand but it is the one that I feel most comfortable with.

MrsAbz

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By *ornucopiaMan
36 weeks ago

Bexley

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Clean shaven only … do they mean facial… or down below...

I don't insist that women shave before I kiss THEM!

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