FabSwingers.com forum: Friend requests

By (user no longer on site) OP
43 weeks ago

Is it better to ask before sending or just send one?

After chatting that is.

I tend to say if they want to they can send one to me leave the ball in there court so to speak.

What's your thoughts?

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

I personally prefer to ask but that’s my personal etiquette

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By *ames_HertsMan
43 weeks ago

North Hertfordshire

A random friend request is a bit odd. You need to be chatting beforehand

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By *ang bang bangity bangCouple
43 weeks ago

Sunderland

I would ask even if chatting

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By *eroLondonMan
43 weeks ago

Mayfair

Having been on here for a few years now, I've 'collected' the sum total of about ten friends, all of which were incoming requests. I don't accept them on a whim, hence the low number.

I simply don't send friend requests, solicited or unsolicited.

Those who sent them asked me first. I'm susceptible to courtesy.

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By *inAndTonic21Couple
43 weeks ago

Merseyside

I prefer to ask but if chatted for a while and comfy then we do just consider it

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By *oldAndBoundlessMan
43 weeks ago

Bradford

"I would ask even if chatting "

I often do this

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

I only add those who I’ve met. Otherwise not into friend collecting.

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

Send and see

I accept friends requests

I don’t take offence

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

Send lots out, one is bound to accept. Law of averages in it.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
43 weeks ago

Leeds

I block most who send a friends request without chatting 1st.

Or wait until there offline nosey at their pics then unfriend again.

Mrs

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By *parkle1974Woman
43 weeks ago

Leeds

I only add those who I’ve met. Otherwise not into friend collecting. "

Me too x

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By *rBobbMan
43 weeks ago

Birmingham

I prefer to ask or wait to be invited. It's probably why I don't have many

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

Depends! I’m honestly not that bothered. Nobody has ta accept you if you send one, so it kinda has a built in safety mechanism either way. If more people sent them then more people would be friends and that can’t be a bad thing in my view?

If anybody wants to be my friend then why not have a go at sending one?

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

I don't get any

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By *ittlebirdWoman
43 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

"Having been on here for a few years now, I've 'collected' the sum total of about ten friends, all of which were incoming requests. I don't accept them on a whim, hence the low number.

I simply don't send friend requests, solicited or unsolicited.

Those who sent them asked me first. I'm susceptible to courtesy."

^^ he’s sassy

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By *wiggy2112Woman
43 weeks ago

some where in Yorkshire

If I get a friends request from someone I don’t know I usually wait till they go off line then add them as a friend, look at their pics then unfriend them haha … if I’m chatting to someone and they send a friend invite and have no pics, then I don’t accept them

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By *hatsWhatCoupleCouple
43 weeks ago

Northampton

Each to their own OP

We are only friends with people we are actually friends with, through meeting.

Judging by status updates, some people get massively offended by unsolicited friends requests.

We just delete (see above ref meeting) and get in with our day

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

"A random friend request is a bit odd. You need to be chatting beforehand "

Not odd on here at all...

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

What does a friend request mean.

You met in real life ..most think it's a free for all free access to pics

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
43 weeks ago

Central

I'd prefer to be asked first, as just having chatted isn't enough to mean I'll want it.

The huge volume of men who sent requests without ever having made any contact is like a virus here. Do you want to be viewed as similar to them?

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By *izandpaulCouple
43 weeks ago

merseyside

"Is it better to ask before sending or just send one?

After chatting that is.

I tend to say if they want to they can send one to me leave the ball in there court so to speak.

What's your thoughts?"

We only do friends with people we have actually met.

If we just get a random friends request, we delete and block.

A message with a request, we politely decline and message our reason why.

Most reply saying they understand, a few take offence.

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By *ularliWoman
43 weeks ago

Worcester

I only accept friend requests from people I plan to meet or have met.

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By *amie HantsWoman
43 weeks ago

Atlantis

I usually only send them to people I speak to.

I don’t always ask, they either accept it or they don’t

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
43 weeks ago

Sheffield

I think it’s always best to ask. Me personally I only have people as friends who I’ve met.

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By *nnCeeWoman
43 weeks ago

East of Eden, West of Hell

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By *nnCeeWoman
43 weeks ago

East of Eden, West of Hell

I view an unsolicited Friends Request as a hope to see pictures which are set to Friends Only.

There is, however a reason I've set them to Friends Only - I don't wish for everyone to see all my photos. Some are more explicit than others.

Therefore, the chancers can jog on.

Those on my Friends list are those I've actually met (or am very likely to).

If I wanted to send a request I would ask first.

But that's just my humble opinion.

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By *8warrenMan
43 weeks ago

I always ask the question before sending if I like a profile

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

I ask if I can add someone to my friends lists

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

I’ll accept random friend requests when the account is off line. Have a good snoop and then unfriend. Sorry, not sorry.

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By *rozac_fairyCouple
43 weeks ago

tamworth

We always ask about friends request, most are club/event accounts or people we've met whilst out, we don't really add people with no view of meeting.

I do find it strange how many friends requests we get from couples who then entirely blank us when we message them, you can't delete the request because they'll just keep sending them.

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

I got me the bestest, prettiest friend ever!!!

(she’s probably already unfriended me

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By *eroLondonMan
43 weeks ago

Mayfair

"Having been on here for a few years now, I've 'collected' the sum total of about ten friends, all of which were incoming requests. I don't accept them on a whim, hence the low number.

I simply don't send friend requests, solicited or unsolicited.

Those who sent them asked me first. I'm susceptible to courtesy.

^^ he’s sassy "

You need a smack, Le Petit Oiseau.

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

I would ask even if chatting

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
43 weeks ago

Reading

I ignore them if i haven't spoken to them before.

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

I always ask

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By *uenevereWoman
43 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

"I only accept friend requests from people I plan to meet or have met. "

This.

I'm not offended by random friend requests, I just think it's weird and ignore them.

Most people have certain photos in friends for a reason.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
43 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

"Having been on here for a few years now, I've 'collected' the sum total of about ten friends, all of which were incoming requests. I don't accept them on a whim, hence the low number.

I simply don't send friend requests, solicited or unsolicited.

Those who sent them asked me first. I'm susceptible to courtesy.

^^ he’s sassy

You need a smack, Le Petit Oiseau.

Yes please

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By *ucka39Man
43 weeks ago

Newcastle

Never asked never sent

I've let the lady decide when she feels comfortable and I've been happy to accept

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By *nly us 4448Couple
43 weeks ago

London

We state on our profile we don't accept random friends requests...(not that it gets taken any notice of) mainly by single guys. We've just had a wink, followed by a friends request... I just think well they not bothered to read profile and block. We add if we've met or been talking to for a while and plan to meet at somepoint.

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

Instant block if someone sends a friend request without messaging first. If someone asks in first message or after a couple then they'll get blocked. If friend request is sent after exchanging like 2 messages with them telling you they've sent it, they get blocked. If after 2 messages they send a friend request without saying anything I won't block them just delete. If they send again then I'll block. Only if after talking for a bit and over a few days will I accept if they send one, either telling me about it or not. I never send friend requests.

I don't care if it makes me seem a cunt, they only do it to see more pics like I don't have enough public as is

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