FabSwingers.com forum: The May edition for Mental Health

By (user no longer on site) OP
34 weeks ago

Whether it's just a space to say how your feeling, a post about how you've received help, a safe space to say 'I'm struggling' which is brave to do or just to read through to see your not alone

Use how you want to but be kind to one another please

We don't know what each others lives are like outside the screen of fab

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By (user no longer on site) OP
34 weeks ago

Mental Health Awareness Week 2024 will take place from the 13th to 19th of May

There's a green theme from the mental health ribbons

So maybe we take a pic, Green theme for the week and change our profile pic?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
34 weeks ago

There was a post but now its gone. I hope your OK mate

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By *ot to giggleWoman
34 weeks ago

Coventry

nice thread - heres to Mental Health week - we dont give ourselves enough time for our Mental Health. I recently walked out of a job because of the negative impact on my mental health and lack of support - and although it was a bit scary to do it I am in a much better place for doing so.

I have had a little bit of training in supporting mental health issues and my inbox is always open to anyone who would like to chat or needs a sounding board, sometimes just to see something outside your head is helpful.

Have a lovely day xx

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By *r Black 85Man
34 weeks ago

nottingham

Great thread OP

Hope to see more people on it

Mental Health is wealth

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
34 weeks ago

your head

I didn't know the dates for mental health awareness week, thank you. Living with anxiety is horrible sometimes. It's currently trying to kick my arse but I'll get through like I always do. Sending hugs to anyone who may need them

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

Love this thread.

I've just quit a job because of bullying both in person and online. Who'd have believed it possible at my age...

It was really affecting my mental health. I'm not nearly over it yet. I only quit 2 weeks ago. But hopefully stepping away from it will help me

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By *ansoffateMan
34 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

My MH has been quite good for a while but I get a few wobbles here and there which reminds me that it can feel like a house of cards at times.

I find it hard to seek support as services are so overstretched and most of the people around me rely upon me rather than the other way round.

I was quite saddened by the government position on MH recently. The whole 'sick note culture' and adding fuel to the stigma around MH.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
34 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"My MH has been quite good for a while but I get a few wobbles here and there which reminds me that it can feel like a house of cards at times.

I find it hard to seek support as services are so overstretched and most of the people around me rely upon me rather than the other way round.

I was quite saddened by the government position on MH recently. The whole 'sick note culture' and adding fuel to the stigma around MH."

Agreed. Makes me so mad.

Mrs TMN x

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

A lovely thread, I hope people find it a comfort/helpful

Doing actually really well at the moment, it has taken a lot of self work and therapy but I feel a lot better equipped to deal with my life

It hasn't been easy and I am sure there will be wobbles along the way but I am so glad I finally addressed my issues.

It is good to talk.

I would say talk to friends if one feels comfortable, but please remember they are not trained professionals trained to deal with whatever you want to tell them

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By (user no longer on site) OP
34 weeks ago

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
34 weeks ago

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"Love this thread.

I've just quit a job because of bullying both in person and online. Who'd have believed it possible at my age...

It was really affecting my mental health. I'm not nearly over it yet. I only quit 2 weeks ago. But hopefully stepping away from it will help me

I have been badly bullied at work too- by teachers who really should know better so i feel your pain.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
34 weeks ago

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By *arrus8t5Man
34 weeks ago

manchester

I never really struggled my mental health and found it hard to understand/empathise with people who talked about theirs. That was until a few years back.

I lost my Gf to cancer after a 7½ year battle.

For the last couple of years that I still had her and the year following I stopped feeling real. Like I'm an imposter living a life that isn't mine.

Things get easier every day but I'm not sure I'll shake this feeling.

Thank you for this thread, it really helps to write things down, I think. X

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By *issBellaWoman
34 weeks ago

Wales

Great thread OP

I hope it brings comfort to those that need it.

I'm just about climbing out of my lowest low it's taken me 2 years but I'm slowly finding pieces of myself again. I do still dip for short periods but I'm luckier than many, and I try to remember that

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By *adyBugsWoman
34 weeks ago

cognito

Thanks for this space. I’ve been feeling quite lonely this week. Maybe it’s the continuing shitty weather getting to me or I don’t know, something else maybe. I’ve been on my own a long time and I’m a bugger for not letting people in and telling them how I really feel…so here we are. Me in my raw, sad sack, glory. I’ve felt lonely this week and it’s shit. If anyone else feels this way too, I understand you and we can get past it because we always do. We are awesome.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
34 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon

"Love this thread.

I've just quit a job because of bullying both in person and online. Who'd have believed it possible at my age...

It was really affecting my mental health. I'm not nearly over it yet. I only quit 2 weeks ago. But hopefully stepping away from it will help me

I’ve been there. Was a relief when I got kicked out, was a decision I wanted to make but was too scared of my then boss.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
33 weeks ago

"Mental Health Awareness Week 2024 will take place from the 13th to 19th of May

There's a green theme from the mental health ribbons

So maybe we take a pic, Green theme for the week and change our profile pic?

Bumping as its next week.

If anyone is up for a green theme profile pic that would be great

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By *r Black 85Man
33 weeks ago

nottingham

Keep at it OP

Mental Health is something that should be at the forefront of people's minds every day.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
33 weeks ago

"Keep at it OP

Mental Health is something that should be at the forefront of people's minds every day. "

Thanks bud

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By *exycarlashane181Couple
33 weeks ago

Leamington Spa

"Whether it's just a space to say how your feeling, a post about how you've received help, a safe space to say 'I'm struggling' which is brave to do or just to read through to see your not alone

Use how you want to but be kind to one another please

We don't know what each others lives are like outside the screen of fab

Best post on here today. Well done

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By (user no longer on site) OP
33 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
32 weeks ago

Tomorrow's the start of Mental Health week 2024

Is anyone up for a green theme? I've got a green cami top that I can use for profile pic

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By (user no longer on site) OP
32 weeks ago

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By *issBellaWoman
32 weeks ago

Wales

"Tomorrow's the start of Mental Health week 2024

Is anyone up for a green theme? I've got a green cami top that I can use for profile pic

Lovely idea I'll switch mine now

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By (user no longer on site) OP
32 weeks ago

"Tomorrow's the start of Mental Health week 2024

Is anyone up for a green theme? I've got a green cami top that I can use for profile pic

Lovely idea I'll switch mine now

Ooft

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
32 weeks ago

Wherever

"Tomorrow's the start of Mental Health week 2024

Is anyone up for a green theme? I've got a green cami top that I can use for profile pic

I’ll be up, OP.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
32 weeks ago

"Tomorrow's the start of Mental Health week 2024

Is anyone up for a green theme? I've got a green cami top that I can use for profile pic

I’ll be up, OP.

Another ooft

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By (user no longer on site) OP
32 weeks ago

Bumping

This is a whole week

And I'm determined

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
32 weeks ago

Manchester-ish

Changed to a green set but will try to take a new one.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
32 weeks ago

"Changed to a green set but will try to take a new one.

Jx"

Oofty

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By *omRPMan
32 weeks ago

North Curry

"My MH has been quite good for a while but I get a few wobbles here and there which reminds me that it can feel like a house of cards at times.

I find it hard to seek support as services are so overstretched and most of the people around me rely upon me rather than the other way round.

I was quite saddened by the government position on MH recently. The whole 'sick note culture' and adding fuel to the stigma around MH."

I’m very similar, last year was a struggle and getting support was hard. Much harder than it should have been.

I’m in a much better and more stable state now and if anyone it struggling don’t be afraid to reach out.

I know if can be hard to talk about emotions, especially when things aren’t great. But, trust me, it is worth reaching out.

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By *ell GwynnWoman
32 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

Excellent thread!

I'm pretty stable right now, but have needed a lot of support due autistic burnout in the past.

18 months ago was particularly gruelling after my PIP award went to tribunal. It took months for me to be seen by CMHT, and even then they had no therapists available due to staffing issues, so I was given a key worker who merely went through my old DBT notes with me for 6 weeks. Eventually I found a local charity who provided subsidised counselling for 6 months. They were a godsend (literally, they're a Christian charity) and they helped me back onto an even keel.

I'm really concerned that future MH services will be cut further, which is terrifying considering my son is currently with CAMHS and will be passed over to adult services in two years.

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

I’m here. Struggling.

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By *lue Eyed JokerMan
32 weeks ago

Always on the move

Honestly? Mental health is in the gutter. Has been for years, but I just keep going. People rely on me.

Fab doesn't help sometimes I'll be honest. Gets FAR too snipey and not as inclusive as it thinks it is.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
32 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
32 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
32 weeks ago

After the last few days of some very strange threads that have blown my mind

I'm bumping for the last time.

I took a walk this morning in the cold air, haven't done that in a while and felt just a little positivity from it.

For those that know me that's a big thing

Let's try to have a good weekend

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By *idssissyTV/TS
32 weeks ago

Birmingham

Hope all who need it have people to talk to.

Back talking to the samaritans at the moment to try and understand why felt needed to rewrite my end note at 1am couple of weeks ago.

Trying to get out and about

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By *erfectlychaoticWoman
32 weeks ago

Aldershot

Most days are a battle in one form or another.

Seems a bit of vicious circle when it seems to be going well I get knocked down but I keep plodding along.

Just one foot in front of the other.

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago

I’m going to preface this by saying that you don’t need to worry about me.

- it’s been a long time since I’ve felt like this. And I feel like I can’t see the way out. And you know when it’s like the thoughts are louder than usual and you can’t drown them out and it’s just like non stop. I’m surrounded by people that I love and that love me and I feel like I don’t want to talk I just want to be alone. But I don’t want to be alone. And it feels like it’s so much easier to focus on people that don’t like you than people that do like you. So you feel even more alone.

It’s like- life just needs a pause button. And it’s also like- since I started feeling this way 8 or so years ago it has been the longest ever 8 years. And is the rest of my life going to be like this? Am I stuck with these issues and insecurities and things that stop me from feeling able to do anything?

I want to go away but I don’t want to let people down by disappearing. And I don’t want admin to pile up. And I don’t want to lose people. So I need a pause. Just to fucking breathe. And I know people get it. If you get it, I get it.

Don’t even get me started on the body image issues.

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago

"I’m going to preface this by saying that you don’t need to worry about me.

Don’t even get me started on the body image issues.

No I don’t want to talk about it. I just kinda want it to stop

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
31 weeks ago

Manchester-ish

I want it to stop for you too Pickle. Brains are shitty fuckers sometimes.

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By *rgasmatron1970Man
31 weeks ago

Bromley

I had a full breakdown in 2021 after many years of dealing with my inner demons ?? whilst going through my divorce. Glad to say I'm out of the Darkstar now.

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
31 weeks ago

your head

"I’m going to preface this by saying that you don’t need to worry about me.

Don’t even get me started on the body image issues.

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
31 weeks ago

your head

It's been a horrible week. It's been a pretty shitty month to be fair. I'm hoping there's a light at the end of the tunnel soon because I'm bored of crying and feeling like crap now but that doesn't rest with me, my body hates me and I have to wait for other people to figure it out. Until then I just have to push through.

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By *idssissyTV/TS
31 weeks ago

Birmingham

"I’m going to preface this by saying that you don’t need to worry about me.

Don’t even get me started on the body image issues.

A pause button would be wonderful

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
31 weeks ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

I'm still managing to put one foot in front of the other, that's about it, work and kids give me a reason to get up, other than that I just cocoon in my duvet right now.

But apparently I'm ok and just need to pull myself together

Tinder

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By *olly MistlehoeWoman
31 weeks ago

Somewhere

The voices in my head are louder than they've been for a long time. I'm not at the point where I need medication, I'm way luckier than some folk I know. But... Some days are right shite

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