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By (user no longer on site) OP   
39 weeks ago

Anyone actually have any luck on this site? Or do you even get a reply that leads to a conversation let alone a meet up

I find a lot of people mainly women use it to just get attention and validation which is pretty really

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod

39 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Anyone actually have any luck on this site? Or do you even get a reply that leads to a conversation let alone a meet up

I find a lot of people mainly women use it to just get attention and validation which is pretty really "

On any online contact site you make your own 'luck'.

Do people get replies? Yes. Some do.

Do people get meets? Yep. Some do.

There's generally a reason, often several, as to why some people have more luck than others. Good profiles, interesting visuals, engaging messages, good conversational skills and an ability to attract attention.

Plus patience, respect, a positive attitude and zero expectations.

Do some people use the site just to get validation and an ego boost? Possibly. But equally others expect sex on a plate with little effort.

Both are often likely to find themselves disappointed.

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By *ularliWoman
39 weeks ago

Worcester


"Anyone actually have any luck on this site? Or do you even get a reply that leads to a conversation let alone a meet up

I find a lot of people mainly women use it to just get attention and validation which is pretty really "

Everyone wants attention of some sort on here, including men.

I think the issue is there are way more men on here than women so it’ll always be difficult for guys to stand out.

Also a good profile with a range of different photos helps.

I’m not here to meet. I came back for the forums but if I meet someone I like then I will have fun with them.

You need to have good conversational skills and not expect every woman you speak to to engage in horny chat or expect her to drop her knickers for you or be ready for a meet now.

Just enjoy your time on here getting to know people and expect nothing.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod

39 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

OP I clicked the green arrow and noticed you'd asked the question before.

Did you take on board some of the views and advice previously given, because there were a lot of good points made in your previous posts, especially in response to your views on attention and validation.

It might help to go back and read some of them again.

Good luck.

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By *weet LisaTV/TS
39 weeks ago

Crawley

It sounds awful, like view whoring.

You won't catch me doing anything like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

I’ve found a friend or 2.

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By *obilebottomMan
39 weeks ago

All over

The secret to it is to play hard to get of course. You will not be able to cope with the attention. . You can also take on board the good advice you have been given on this and previous occassions. All the best.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
39 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Just because someone hasn't found your message interesting and engaging, or simply doesn't fancy you, doesn't mean they're not happy to meet those that do appeal.

It's not really about luck. It's not like if you get the timing right they're just gonna take the first thing that appears in their inbox regardless of content.

Good luck OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago


"The secret to it is to play hard to get of course. You will not be able to cope with the attention. . You can also take on board the good advice you have been given on this and previous occassions. All the best. "

exactly. Block everyone, and you will be fighting them off with sticks.

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

The site isn't the problem, plenty of people find what they want.

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

You have 2 verifications

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By *r-8-BBCMan
39 weeks ago

LONDON


"Anyone actually have any luck on this site? Or do you even get a reply that leads to a conversation let alone a meet up

I find a lot of people mainly women use it to just get attention and validation which is pretty really "

Yes I do, it's going great for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

The women are genuine and here for genuine reasons. They just don’t message me back because they clearly have terrible taste in men

In all seriousness- I gave up with the messaging thing. Sorry you’re feeling deflated OP but don’t take shit serious.

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
39 weeks ago

Southampton


"I’ve found a friend or 2. "

You've got a friend in me ... damnit I've given myself an earworm this morning

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By *imisugarWoman
39 weeks ago

Rugby


"Anyone actually have any luck on this site? Or do you even get a reply that leads to a conversation let alone a meet up

I find a lot of people mainly women use it to just get attention and validation which is pretty really "

Yes plenty of people do.

Potentially this thread won't go the way you hoped as that's quite the blanket statement women are mainly on here to seek validation.

Comes across a bit of an entitled attitude which may have the opposite effect of what be you were actually seeking.

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By *ucka39Man
39 weeks ago

Newcastle

Sure I get replies and meets so I must be doing something right or have super powers

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By *ellhungvweMan
39 weeks ago

Cheltenham

It’s terrible. Can’t find what I want and keep getting told no. Oh wait, that was trying to find a home delivery time I want on Tescos. This site is fine - no problems here

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By *parkle1974Woman
39 weeks ago

Leeds

Even women with no pics get meets

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By *weet LisaTV/TS
39 weeks ago

Crawley


"Anyone actually have any luck on this site? Or do you even get a reply that leads to a conversation let alone a meet up

I find a lot of people mainly women use it to just get attention and validation which is pretty really "

It doesn't make sense at the end. Can you give us that last word again OP? Thanks.

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By *irthandgirthMan
39 weeks ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

Sorry OP, something must be broken your end. I think you are the only guy not wading through seas, nay oceans of fanny on here.

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By *weet LisaTV/TS
39 weeks ago

Crawley

The last word in the OP might be fine but there's a word or words missing before it.

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By *riel13Woman
39 weeks ago

Northampton

I only reply to people I am attracted to, unless I state otherwise when replying... If I can't see you, it's best to assume I am not interested in meeting you.... It's extremely rare these days that I find anyone I might be interested in and I usually message them first... And we are all here looking for attention, no?

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By *TG3Man
39 weeks ago

Dorchester


"Anyone actually have any luck on this site? Or do you even get a reply that leads to a conversation let alone a meet up

I find a lot of people mainly women use it to just get attention and validation which is pretty really "

Its tough for guys here women get the pick of the bunch, sorry.

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By *aters139Man
39 weeks ago

Sheffield

It's simple.

Be a friend not a tail end....Ooo that rhymes!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
39 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

I’m just here for the attention and validation

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By *mber and FireCouple
39 weeks ago

Carmarthenshire

Can't say I'm surprised by your views of women in this post, given the views of women in others.

Perhaps reflect on that fact, and that what you're doing might be keeping them from actually engaging with you in any meaningful way.

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By *r TriomanMan
39 weeks ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

OP, even though I haven't had any luck on here for nearly a year, I have met people in this past on Fab and I'm sure without any doubt, I'll meet Fab folk in the future, it just takes time.

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By *partharmonyCouple
39 weeks ago

Ruislip

We have more luck than we have time for. We're getting very lucky next weekend if things go according to plan.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
39 weeks ago

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There's fab meets happening every single day. Never assume that just because it isn't working for you, that it doesn't for others.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
39 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon


"

I find a lot of people mainly women use it to just get attention and validation which is pretty really "

This reads as you’re not getting what you want so other people must be disingenuous. If you really feel that way why bother being on here?

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By *ansoffateMan
39 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

I think I've had a fairly wide spectrum of luck on this site. I'm sure some just want attention as you say. I'm also sure that's an over-simplification in many instances.

Every mawga plantain have it buyer and all that.

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By *weet LisaTV/TS
39 weeks ago

Crawley

Glowupdoll raises a good point.

The OP, though ambiguous at the end, does read as butt hurt.

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By *allandathleticMan
39 weeks ago

Asgard

Luck by its very definition may be the reason your struggling OP.

Noun, success or failure apparently brought by chance rather than through one's own actions.

Why choose chance over being someone whos engaging. Funny. Smart. Polite. Respectful.

You can choose to NOT be all of those things and allow "luck" or "chance" to guide you.

Or

You can take definitive action to broadcast a genuine personality and no longer rely on luck alone.

*I've probably gone into this far more deeper than I should.*

Just be the best version of you.

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
39 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
39 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry


"Anyone actually have any luck on this site? Or do you even get a reply that leads to a conversation let alone a meet up

I find a lot of people mainly women use it to just get attention and validation which is pretty really "

Woe is me, love the final paragraph and the undercurrent of projection that's apparent, and such a lively sweeping statement as to why others use the site. Your good to be able to be other people, strange that as I thought other people have already been taken...

Mr

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By *2000ManMan
39 weeks ago

Worthing

I like to think of fab as a social club. Make friends and have a chat about a wide range of topics. Anything else is a bonus.

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By *lym4realCouple
39 weeks ago

plymouth

Yep some do actually meet up ! and we do and have and always going to get all sorts on a site like this though and attracts all sorts who are into all sorts aswell and all part of the fun and frolics ! and depends on what kind of meet you want though and the odd's of getting that kind of meet ?

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By *rHotNottsMan
39 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I have no luck whatsoever , it ain’t bingo is it.

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By *eroLondonMan
39 weeks ago

Mayfair


"Anyone actually have any luck on this site?"
Yes.
"Or do you even get a reply that leads to a conversation let alone a meet up"
Yes.


"I find a lot of people mainly women use it to just get attention and validation which is pretty really "
I love pretty women and all that they have to offer. Well, 'most' not "all".

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
39 weeks ago

Central

When people have lots of choice, they are going to look and chat with lots of people of course. They don't care about the failures who don't make the grade for them.

How the failures deal with their failure is their business. You can whine all you like but nobody can stop you having unrealistic expectations but you, yourself.

Play the fact that others saw you and discarded you into whatever sad fantasies about Fab life that you want to, such as desperate people hungry for your adulation, etc. But you're yesterday's news, blowing around the gutter and you're forgotten and of no value.

Only you can make meaning from your life. Why wouldn't you make it something of positive value? If you're getting lots of sex elsewhere but none in Fab, you know where to go, if you can't make it work for you.

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By *ot to giggleWoman
39 weeks ago

Coventry


"I’ve found a friend or 2.

You've got a friend in me ... damnit I've given myself an earworm this morning "

yea and me now thanks

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By *rill PhilMan
39 weeks ago

Crediton

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By *aabmanMan
39 weeks ago

bognor regis

I guess I have been lucky. Have had some great meets with people I still see regularly and have had some great long term messaging with lovely friendly people. Lot of it is pure luck of the draw as I don't consider myself particularly good looking or charismatic

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
39 weeks ago

wonderland.

You make your own luck on this site, I had some great times and made some amazing friends on here as a single guy, but I went to clubs and socials, Fab is a very small part of it.

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By *rill PhilMan
39 weeks ago

Crediton

I have been on and off this site for over 13 years and it is only in the last couple of months that I have started to have conversations with people on here. This is in no small part due to me getting involved in the forum a bit more.

I did also ask the forum for advice on my profile, I know that that is a boring topic of conversation that many people are tired of having but, through doing that I started talking to three people who I still have semi-regular conversations with.

Have I had any meets from the site? No. Not directly.

Would I like to meet people? Of course!

I would however suggest that a really good way to instantly put women off, is to bitch and moan about not getting any attention in the forums while also complaining that women just want attention.

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By *ot to giggleWoman
39 weeks ago

Coventry


"I’m just here for the attention and validation "

i'm with Nora on this one attention and validation required please

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By *TG3Man
39 weeks ago

Dorchester


"I’m just here for the attention and validation

i'm with Nora on this one attention and validation required please "

I validate you

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By *ot to giggleWoman
39 weeks ago

Coventry


"I’m just here for the attention and validation

i'm with Nora on this one attention and validation required please I validate you "

how much attention does that come with? im fussy you know

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By *TG3Man
39 weeks ago

Dorchester


"I’m just here for the attention and validation

i'm with Nora on this one attention and validation required please I validate you

how much attention does that come with? im fussy you know "

I've got scissors for the string vest

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By *ot to giggleWoman
39 weeks ago

Coventry


"I’m just here for the attention and validation

i'm with Nora on this one attention and validation required please I validate you

how much attention does that come with? im fussy you know I've got scissors for the string vest "

you can eat your way through its strawberry laces

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
39 weeks ago

Manchester(ish).


"I have been on and off this site for over 13 years and it is only in the last couple of months that I have started to have conversations with people on here. This is in no small part due to me getting involved in the forum a bit more.

I did also ask the forum for advice on my profile, I know that that is a boring topic of conversation that many people are tired of having but, through doing that I started talking to three people who I still have semi-regular conversations with.

Have I had any meets from the site? No. Not directly.

Would I like to meet people? Of course!

I would however suggest that a really good way to instantly put women off, is to bitch and moan about not getting any attention in the forums while also complaining that women just want attention.

"

OP, the last paragraph from Brill Phil, is the best thing you'll read today.

Yes it's tough here, but moaning won't help. Instead try and get involved with people, see where it leads.

Good luck.

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By *TG3Man
39 weeks ago

Dorchester


"I’m just here for the attention and validation

i'm with Nora on this one attention and validation required please I validate you

how much attention does that come with? im fussy you know I've got scissors for the string vest

you can eat your way through its strawberry laces"

I knew that

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By *rill PhilMan
39 weeks ago

Crediton


"I have been on and off this site for over 13 years and it is only in the last couple of months that I have started to have conversations with people on here. This is in no small part due to me getting involved in the forum a bit more.

I did also ask the forum for advice on my profile, I know that that is a boring topic of conversation that many people are tired of having but, through doing that I started talking to three people who I still have semi-regular conversations with.

Have I had any meets from the site? No. Not directly.

Would I like to meet people? Of course!

I would however suggest that a really good way to instantly put women off, is to bitch and moan about not getting any attention in the forums while also complaining that women just want attention.

OP, the last paragraph from Brill Phil, is the best thing you'll read today.

Yes it's tough here, but moaning won't help. Instead try and get involved with people, see where it leads.

Good luck. "

Pretty chuffed with that response Sinister. It's not often that anyone says that something I wrote is the best thing they'll read today!

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By *ools and the brainCouple
39 weeks ago

couple, us we him her.

I don't have any issues,but then I am gorgeous

Mr sexy brain

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By *elboy1978Man
39 weeks ago

Jarrow

I have sent plenty of messages hardly get any replies when I do it’s to say there not interested but I am still trying hopefully will get a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

Oh dear.

Lots of people use the site for different reasons.

You get out what you put in.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
39 weeks ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

I have found it to be pretty good over the years

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By *weet LisaTV/TS
39 weeks ago

Crawley

Because view whoring oh it would be so beneath me to do that kind of thing.

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By *aizyWoman
39 weeks ago

west midlands


"Because view whoring oh it would be so beneath me to do that kind of thing."

It would! Not the type of thing I'd expect from you at all!!

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By *weet LisaTV/TS
39 weeks ago

Crawley


"Because view whoring oh it would be so beneath me to do that kind of thing.

It would! Not the type of thing I'd expect from you at all!! "

I wouldn't dare, especially in a thread where the OP's so livid.

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