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By (user no longer on site) OP   
28 weeks ago

I’ve just come back on fab after a few years away and I am really struggling with it. Sent out a handful of messages and most of them either stay unopened or just get opened and ignored. In the real world women find me attractive all the time and don’t struggle at all what would a women expect to see in a first message that would catch your eye?

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By (user no longer on site)
28 weeks ago

Let me tell you something you already know, Rocky.

The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows. It's a very mean and nasty place, and I don't care how tough you are, it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it.

You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't about how hard you hit. It's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward; how much you can take and keep moving forward.

That's how winning is done!

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
28 weeks ago

Southampton


"I’ve just come back on fab after a few years away and I am really struggling with it. Sent out a handful of messages and most of them either stay unopened or just get opened and ignored. In the real world women find me attractive all the time and don’t struggle at all what would a women expect to see in a first message that would catch your eye? "

Patience is your friend Padawan... engage in the forums, get to socials etc .. good luck

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By *r John WickMan
28 weeks ago

The Continental

What catches one woman’s eye, may repulse the next. There’s no generic one size fits all way to guarantee responses.

Fab’s can be a brutal place for guys. My best tip would be to empty your sent messages folder. You can’t be disappointed or downhearted at whey you see there. Plus……replies then become a delightful surprise when they do occur.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
28 weeks ago

Reading

In real life people see more than your belt. Probably.

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By *viatrixWoman
28 weeks ago

Redhill

My suggestion would be more photos, OP.

Also your profile text is a bit bare and very self-centered. You’re looking for “loads of sex” you like “fast sex”, but what do you bring to the table? What do -you- have to offer in a Fab experience?

You seem to have the physique I am naturally attracted to, so some more photos would be great.

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By * and M lookingCouple
28 weeks ago

Worcester

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By * and M lookingCouple
28 weeks ago

Worcester


"Let me tell you something you already know, Rocky.

The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows. It's a very mean and nasty place, and I don't care how tough you are, it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it.

You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't about how hard you hit. It's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward; how much you can take and keep moving forward.

That's how winning is done!

"

Oh come on, you should know in todays snowflake world, winning is not allowed as they say it discourages the losers.

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By *eandmrsjones69Couple
28 weeks ago

Middle England

The generic answer is go to a club.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
28 weeks ago

Yes I get that and fill understand but not ready to put my face on a sex site incase someone I know sees me ha

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By *lik and PaulCouple
28 weeks ago

Flagrante


"I’ve just come back on fab after a few years away and I am really struggling with it. Sent out a handful of messages and most of them either stay unopened or just get opened and ignored. In the real world women find me attractive all the time and don’t struggle at all what would a women expect to see in a first message that would catch your eye? "

Reading this I would say stick with the real world...that's where we found each other.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
28 weeks ago

Been to LB as a guest and it’s not really my thing if I’m honest that’s probably quite controversial on here but loads of sweaty desperate blokes not for me

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By *luebell888Woman
28 weeks ago

Glasgowish


"In real life people see more than your belt. Probably."

Exactly.

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By *olf and RedCouple
28 weeks ago

Nr Cardiff or at Chams Darlaston

Try to get to a social, if you’re in the South East I imagine there’s lots there.

And I’m sure you use other online platforms, which can be easier. Or so I’m told.

Red

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By *ora the explorerWoman
28 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

Maybe try putting some more pics up. Don’t have to be your face.

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By *illy IdolMan
28 weeks ago

Midlands


"Maybe try putting some more pics up. Don’t have to be your face. "

Trust me, it doesn't work

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By *ora the explorerWoman
28 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts


"Maybe try putting some more pics up. Don’t have to be your face.

Trust me, it doesn't work"

I just wanna see more of him

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
28 weeks ago

Herts


"In the real world women find me attractive all the time and don’t struggle at all "

Which begs the question, why bother with fab if you’re successful offline?

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
28 weeks ago

Herts


"In the real world women find me attractive all the time and don’t struggle at all

Which begs the question, why bother with fab if you’re successful offline? "

And I am genuinely curious why you - or anyone in they situ - would choose to make things more difficult for themselves?

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By *rooperRedMan
28 weeks ago

Littlehampton

This place gives the impression that it's full of horny women who want nothing but hot sex now. But that's not the case. Women are outnumbered here something chronic. It's a buyer's market.

I learned eventually not to take my experience on here as truth. I am good looking, I am attractive, whatever this place says it's not the truth. You'll mail someone and get a reply only for them to say "Not really looking right now" only to have twenty veris the week after. You can't control what people choose.

If you want to do the "swinger lifestyle" find your nearest social and go down there. This place though, it's here to grind you down.

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By *ellhungvweMan
28 weeks ago

Cheltenham


"In the real world women find me attractive all the time and don’t struggle at all

Which begs the question, why bother with fab if you’re successful offline? "

Was thinking the same thing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
28 weeks ago

Well the answer to this is I am not looking for a relationship I am looking for NSA sex it’s not really something that you can advertise on your forehead. Isn’t that what most of us on here are looking for?

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By *ris GrayMan
28 weeks ago

Dorchester

Buy and puppy and take it for walks in the park women will flock to you I've got 7 now

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By *ora the explorerWoman
28 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts


"Well the answer to this is I am not looking for a relationship I am looking for NSA sex it’s not really something that you can advertise on your forehead. Isn’t that what most of us on here are looking for? "

Unfortunately yeah. Most are

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By *rooperRedMan
28 weeks ago

Littlehampton


"Well the answer to this is I am not looking for a relationship I am looking for NSA sex it’s not really something that you can advertise on your forehead. Isn’t that what most of us on here are looking for? "

It's what about 3 billion men on this planet are looking for...

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By *elloWoman
28 weeks ago

alpha centauri


"Buy and puppy and take it for walks in the park women will flock to you I've got 7 now "

You've got 7 !!! You're not meant to keep the women you meet in the park, throw them back after you've caught them

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By *ris GrayMan
28 weeks ago

Dorchester


"Buy and puppy and take it for walks in the park women will flock to you I've got 7 now

You've got 7 !!! You're not meant to keep the women you meet in the park, throw them back after you've caught them "

sorry it was an oversight got them piled up on bed in back room

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By *ris GrayMan
28 weeks ago

Dorchester


"Buy and puppy and take it for walks in the park women will flock to you I've got 7 now

You've got 7 !!! You're not meant to keep the women you meet in the park, throw them back after you've caught them sorry it was an oversight got them piled up on bed in back room "

writhing of course

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By *offiaCoolWoman
28 weeks ago

Kidsgrove


"Well the answer to this is I am not looking for a relationship I am looking for NSA sex it’s not really something that you can advertise on your forehead. Isn’t that what most of us on here are looking for? "

If you use reply and quote, people know who and what you are replying to

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By *elloWoman
28 weeks ago

alpha centauri


"Buy and puppy and take it for walks in the park women will flock to you I've got 7 now

You've got 7 !!! You're not meant to keep the women you meet in the park, throw them back after you've caught them sorry it was an oversight got them piled up on bed in back room writhing of course "

Zip Ties can be a struggle to get free from

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By *agondaMan
28 weeks ago

Witterings


"Buy and puppy and take it for walks in the park women will flock to you I've got 7 now

You've got 7 !!! You're not meant to keep the women you meet in the park, throw them back after you've caught them sorry it was an oversight got them piled up on bed in back room writhing of course

Zip Ties can be a struggle to get free from "

Yeah but isn’t that half the fun? ??

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By *ris GrayMan
28 weeks ago

Dorchester


"Buy and puppy and take it for walks in the park women will flock to you I've got 7 now

You've got 7 !!! You're not meant to keep the women you meet in the park, throw them back after you've caught them sorry it was an oversight got them piled up on bed in back room writhing of course

Zip Ties can be a struggle to get free from "

unless you have sharp teeth

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By *ony-JonesMan
28 weeks ago

Gillingham


"I’ve just come back on fab after a few years away and I am really struggling with it. Sent out a handful of messages and most of them either stay unopened or just get opened and ignored. In the real world women find me attractive all the time and don’t struggle at all what would a women expect to see in a first message that would catch your eye? "
The chances of meeting one women is difficult, 2 women almost same chance of winning the lottery, unless you look like Ronaldo and have a 10 inch cock, then you wouldn't be on here

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
28 weeks ago

Herts


"Well the answer to this is I am not looking for a relationship I am looking for NSA sex it’s not really something that you can advertise on your forehead. Isn’t that what most of us on here are looking for? "

I don’t think it is.

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By *elloWoman
28 weeks ago

alpha centauri


"I’ve just come back on fab after a few years away and I am really struggling with it. Sent out a handful of messages and most of them either stay unopened or just get opened and ignored. In the real world women find me attractive all the time and don’t struggle at all what would a women expect to see in a first message that would catch your eye? The chances of meeting one women is difficult, 2 women almost same chance of winning the lottery, unless you look like Ronaldo and have a 10 inch cock, then you wouldn't be on here "

Lol why do men think women want huge cocks? The vast majority of women would say they want average or just above average. And Ronaldo? I wouldn't even be able to pick him out in a crowd of 1.

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By (user no longer on site)
28 weeks ago


"……. In the real world women find me attractive all the time and don’t struggle at all ….. "

^ I liked this part. well done sticking that subtle boast in here.

Welcome back to fab op.

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By (user no longer on site)
28 weeks ago


"I’ve just come back on fab after a few years away and I am really struggling with it. Sent out a handful of messages and most of them either stay unopened or just get opened and ignored. In the real world women find me attractive all the time and don’t struggle at all what would a women expect to see in a first message that would catch your eye? "

Morning op.There are many threads about this.Simply it is what it is.

So get out into the real world Mr Attractive (your words) and find your playmates if Fab Swingers is not working.

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By (user no longer on site)
28 weeks ago


"I’ve just come back on fab after a few years away and I am really struggling with it. Sent out a handful of messages and most of them either stay unopened or just get opened and ignored. In the real world women find me attractive all the time and don’t struggle at all what would a women expect to see in a first message that would catch your eye? The chances of meeting one women is difficult, 2 women almost same chance of winning the lottery, unless you look like Ronaldo and have a 10 inch cock, then you wouldn't be on here

Lol why do men think women want huge cocks? The vast majority of women would say they want average or just above average. And Ronaldo? I wouldn't even be able to pick him out in a crowd of 1. "

Why do men think we want any peni I ask you

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By (user no longer on site)
28 weeks ago


"I’ve just come back on fab after a few years away and I am really struggling with it. Sent out a handful of messages and most of them either stay unopened or just get opened and ignored. In the real world women find me attractive all the time and don’t struggle at all what would a women expect to see in a first message that would catch your eye? "

Loads of cock pics ..

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
28 weeks ago

Herts


"……. In the real world women find me attractive all the time and don’t struggle at all …..

^ I liked this part. well done sticking that subtle boast in here.

Welcome back to fab op. "

I liked the bit delineating the real world and implying fab is not the real world. Truth lies therein.

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By *ris GrayMan
28 weeks ago

Dorchester

Can i just say i don't think that

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By *ris GrayMan
28 weeks ago

Dorchester


"I’ve just come back on fab after a few years away and I am really struggling with it. Sent out a handful of messages and most of them either stay unopened or just get opened and ignored. In the real world women find me attractive all the time and don’t struggle at all what would a women expect to see in a first message that would catch your eye? The chances of meeting one women is difficult, 2 women almost same chance of winning the lottery, unless you look like Ronaldo and have a 10 inch cock, then you wouldn't be on here

Lol why do men think women want huge cocks? The vast majority of women would say they want average or just above average. And Ronaldo? I wouldn't even be able to pick him out in a crowd of 1. "

He's the greatest footballer ever

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
28 weeks ago

Leeds

In real life people see more than a belt.

For me the message doesn't really matter, I'll look at the profile if I'm interested I'll reply if I'm not or there isn't much to go off I won't.

Mrs

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
28 weeks ago

Leeds


"I’ve just come back on fab after a few years away and I am really struggling with it. Sent out a handful of messages and most of them either stay unopened or just get opened and ignored. In the real world women find me attractive all the time and don’t struggle at all what would a women expect to see in a first message that would catch your eye? The chances of meeting one women is difficult, 2 women almost same chance of winning the lottery, unless you look like Ronaldo and have a 10 inch cock, then you wouldn't be on here "

I'd say the majority of women don't want a 10 inch cock.

I'm quite fond of my cervix.

Mrs

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By *ot to giggleWoman
28 weeks ago

Coventry


"Buy and puppy and take it for walks in the park women will flock to you I've got 7 now "

you never told me you had puppies !!!!!!!! im in

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By *lack Orchid 0204Man
28 weeks ago

Leeds


"I’ve just come back on fab after a few years away and I am really struggling with it. Sent out a handful of messages and most of them either stay unopened or just get opened and ignored. In the real world women find me attractive all the time and don’t struggle at all what would a women expect to see in a first message that would catch your eye? "

If you're having success in the real world why bother what does or doesn't happen on fab ?

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By *ot to giggleWoman
28 weeks ago

Coventry


"I’ve just come back on fab after a few years away and I am really struggling with it. Sent out a handful of messages and most of them either stay unopened or just get opened and ignored. In the real world women find me attractive all the time and don’t struggle at all what would a women expect to see in a first message that would catch your eye? "

your profile could do with a bit of work and some more pictures possibly, you dont need a face pic but your implying that someone else would send you one and if you trust them you would send yours - its a two way thing.

Its amazing who catches your imagination and gets you laughing and chatting, so there is no one thing fits all. If you want FAB to work for you I think you have to work for FAB.

no everyone gets to meet with people, its just doesnt work like that - you could get noticed more by joining in with threads on the forums, and or the chat/cam room, no you dont need to go on cam a lot just chat in the non directing rooms.

People can then see how annoying you really are and what a warped sense of humour you have and decide if they want to chat with you .. or leave, no good moaning about it - wont change things.

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By *ris GrayMan
28 weeks ago

Dorchester


"Buy and puppy and take it for walks in the park women will flock to you I've got 7 now

you never told me you had puppies !!!!!!!! im in "

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
28 weeks ago


"……. In the real world women find me attractive all the time and don’t struggle at all …..

^ I liked this part. well done sticking that subtle boast in here.

Welcome back to fab op.

I liked the bit delineating the real world and implying fab is not the real world. Truth lies therein.

"

This is why your offered a blue pill when you meet people on fab

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By *iss DevilWoman
28 weeks ago

Bedford


"In real life people see more than your belt. Probably."

Exactly this. In real life, people get the whole of you, not just your online persona.

Also, some might be passing you by as you cannot accommodate - usually it means the person is married/attached and playing away.

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By *inglepringlebedsukMan
28 weeks ago

Arlesey


"Let me tell you something you already know, Rocky.

The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows. It's a very mean and nasty place, and I don't care how tough you are, it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it.

You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't about how hard you hit. It's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward; how much you can take and keep moving forward.

That's how winning is done!

"

I was reading that thinking of his voice in the movie lol

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
28 weeks ago

Herts


"……. In the real world women find me attractive all the time and don’t struggle at all …..

^ I liked this part. well done sticking that subtle boast in here.

Welcome back to fab op.

I liked the bit delineating the real world and implying fab is not the real world. Truth lies therein.

This is why your offered a blue pill when you meet people on fab "

Thought that was viagra

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By (user no longer on site)
28 weeks ago


"Let me tell you something you already know, Rocky.

The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows. It's a very mean and nasty place, and I don't care how tough you are, it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it.

You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't about how hard you hit. It's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward; how much you can take and keep moving forward.

That's how winning is done!

"

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By *ora the explorerWoman
28 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts


"I’ve just come back on fab after a few years away and I am really struggling with it. Sent out a handful of messages and most of them either stay unopened or just get opened and ignored. In the real world women find me attractive all the time and don’t struggle at all what would a women expect to see in a first message that would catch your eye?

Morning op.There are many threads about this.Simply it is what it is.

So get out into the real world Mr Attractive (your words) and find your playmates if Fab Swingers is not working."

Why the sarcasm. If people don’t think they’re attractive they get told they should as they have no self esteem. If people do then they’re seen as arrogant. I don’t think he deserves some of the comments on here. It’s no wonder so many leave after posting on here.

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By *mber SkiesWoman
28 weeks ago

Cwmderi


"In real life people see more than your belt. Probably."

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By *EAT..85Woman
28 weeks ago

Nottingham

Sadly if your message got through to someone, then so did 100 other men's messages. Your one profile photo doesn't show me that you're decent looking and many women on here are jaded and dismissive by month 6 of thier fabbing journey!

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By (user no longer on site)
28 weeks ago


"……. In the real world women find me attractive all the time and don’t struggle at all …..

^ I liked this part. well done sticking that subtle boast in here.

Welcome back to fab op.

I liked the bit delineating the real world and implying fab is not the real world. Truth lies therein.

This is why your offered a blue pill when you meet people on fab

Thought that was viagra "

I was hoping it was a skittle.

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
28 weeks ago

Southampton


"……. In the real world women find me attractive all the time and don’t struggle at all …..

^ I liked this part. well done sticking that subtle boast in here.

Welcome back to fab op.

I liked the bit delineating the real world and implying fab is not the real world. Truth lies therein.

This is why your offered a blue pill when you meet people on fab

Thought that was viagra "

#notallbluepillsareviagra.....

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By *uenevereWoman
28 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

OP

The problem is that Fab isn't a hookup site, so finding a women (females is an off-putting description for many) to have sex with on here isn't easy.

You need to stand out from the crowd, show some personality and have more than one photo.

You say that you do well in the real world, so maybe try another club. They are all different, so don't let one experience put you off.

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
28 weeks ago

South West London


"Let me tell you something you already know, Rocky.

The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows. It's a very mean and nasty place, and I don't care how tough you are, it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it.

You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't about how hard you hit. It's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward; how much you can take and keep moving forward.

That's how winning is done!

"

Nice motivational speech from Rocky obviously

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By *ony MannMan
28 weeks ago

New York City New York USA


"I’ve just come back on fab after a few years away and I am really struggling with it. Sent out a handful of messages and most of them either stay unopened or just get opened and ignored. In the real world women find me attractive all the time and don’t struggle at all what would a women expect to see in a first message that would catch your eye? "

If you do well at card and lose on the roulette wheel play cards.

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