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By (user no longer on site) OP   
36 weeks ago

It looks fascinating and in some cases a work of art, even though I know I wouldn't enjoy it, I can appreciate the beauty.

What do others think?

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By *hoirCouple
36 weeks ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds

It looks nice but I don't have the control to do it gently enough.

C

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By *ondiego85Man
36 weeks ago

nottingham


"It looks fascinating and in some cases a work of art, even though I know I wouldn't enjoy it, I can appreciate the beauty.

What do others think? "

Don’t even know what that is

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By *ondiego85Man
36 weeks ago

nottingham

Oh I googled it. It’s…not my kind of thing. Just shit for perverts that need a psychiatrist more than they need a site to meet similar people

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By *undee2Man
36 weeks ago

Dundee

I would mention that Club Bacchus in Dundee do run classes from time to time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
36 weeks ago


"Oh I googled it. It’s…not my kind of thing. Just shit for perverts that need a psychiatrist more than they need a site to meet similar people "

Just because you don't like something doesn't mean other don't enjoy it. So stop trying to kink shame other people.

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By *ceicebabyMan
36 weeks ago

Huddersfield

Looks awesome but I wouldn’t know where to start or how to do it.

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By *inkedKuntsCouple
36 weeks ago

Sheffield

We adore it, to the point we did a lot of 1-1 lessons and then ended up, with the help of some very experience riggers, setting up a peer rope group.

There is some amazing riggers and bunnies on here too!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
36 weeks ago


"Looks awesome but I wouldn’t know where to start or how to do it."

I have seen some pictures on here and they do look awesome, I just don't think I have the patience for it. Or the dexterity.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
36 weeks ago

Reading

I dont have the patience

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By *ondiego85Man
36 weeks ago

nottingham


"Oh I googled it. It’s…not my kind of thing. Just shit for perverts that need a psychiatrist more than they need a site to meet similar people

Just because you don't like something doesn't mean other don't enjoy it. So stop trying to kink shame other people. "

Oh I’m not putting shame. In the same way I wouldn’t put shame on a person with schizophrenia, or an agoraphobic person.

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By *unchalMan
36 weeks ago

Dartford


"It looks fascinating and in some cases a work of art, even though I know I wouldn't enjoy it, I can appreciate the beauty.

What do others think? "

Looks amazing but not for me.

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By *entlemanrogueMan
36 weeks ago

Glasgow


"It looks fascinating and in some cases a work of art, even though I know I wouldn't enjoy it, I can appreciate the beauty.

What do others think? "

Why do you think uou wouldnt enjoy it?

Yoi can be the rigger or the bunny, both can be fun, or simply watching other practice can be pleasureable

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By *entlemanrogueMan
36 weeks ago

Glasgow


"Oh I googled it. It’s…not my kind of thing. Just shit for perverts that need a psychiatrist more than they need a site to meet similar people "

^ How to react like a judgemental, ill informed asshat, who has no taste or recognition of art

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By *ondiego85Man
36 weeks ago

nottingham


"Oh I googled it. It’s…not my kind of thing. Just shit for perverts that need a psychiatrist more than they need a site to meet similar people

^ How to react like a judgemental, ill informed asshat, who has no taste or recognition of art"

Tying up people is considered art?

And I thought bansky was a bit overrated.

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By *ags73Man
36 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

Dunno, I’m not sure I could be the one that ties but whether I’d be a suitable victim for someone to practice than I don’t know. Looks like it needs time and patience

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
36 weeks ago


"It looks fascinating and in some cases a work of art, even though I know I wouldn't enjoy it, I can appreciate the beauty.

What do others think?

Why do you think uou wouldnt enjoy it?

Yoi can be the rigger or the bunny, both can be fun, or simply watching other practice can be pleasureable"

I think I would be better as a rigger, more than a bunny.

It does look very interesting.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
36 weeks ago

Wherever

I’m fascinated by this and definitely something I’d like to try.

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By *inxybWoman
36 weeks ago

Durham

It intrigues me, never had any opportunity to explore it though! Some I’ve seen look so artistic

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By *offiaCoolWoman
36 weeks ago

Kidsgrove


"Oh I googled it. It’s…not my kind of thing. Just shit for perverts that need a psychiatrist more than they need a site to meet similar people "

This is a site for people finding like minded people. People who enjoy shibari, find other like minded people who enjoy it too. It is not shit, nor does it require a psychiatrist. It does require a level of understanding that some people don't have, they open their mouth without engaging their brain, trying to sound smart.

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By *anae21Woman
36 weeks ago

Nearer than you think

I'd love to be the recipient. Had some lovers try, but I'm afraid their knot skills were not boy- scout standard.

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By *rs Myvanwy Scarlet-BlackTV/TS
36 weeks ago

hot wife

It's on my to do list but finding someone who is qualified in it is the problem as if not done right damage can be done

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By *inkedKuntsCouple
36 weeks ago

Sheffield


"It's on my to do list but finding someone who is qualified in it is the problem as if not done right damage can be done "

Theres peer rope groups or organised events with very experience riggers up and down the country most weekends. Won't see them advertised on here but if you use that FETish LIFEstyle website the event calendar on there has most of them listed.

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By *rs Myvanwy Scarlet-BlackTV/TS
36 weeks ago

hot wife


"It's on my to do list but finding someone who is qualified in it is the problem as if not done right damage can be done

Theres peer rope groups or organised events with very experience riggers up and down the country most weekends. Won't see them advertised on here but if you use that FETish LIFEstyle website the event calendar on there has most of them listed. "

yes I've seen them but as with most things these day work all ways seems to get in the way as weekends are like rocking horse s..t in retail

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By *ondiego85Man
36 weeks ago

nottingham


"Oh I googled it. It’s…not my kind of thing. Just shit for perverts that need a psychiatrist more than they need a site to meet similar people

This is a site for people finding like minded people. People who enjoy shibari, find other like minded people who enjoy it too. It is not shit, nor does it require a psychiatrist. It does require a level of understanding that some people don't have, they open their mouth without engaging their brain, trying to sound smart."

Yes. Tying people up. Sure.

I’m not trying to sound smart. I assure you I am. It’s impressive how many people were offended by my opinion, but c’est La vie

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By *mber and FireCouple
36 weeks ago

Carmarthenshire


"Oh I googled it. It’s…not my kind of thing. Just shit for perverts that need a psychiatrist more than they need a site to meet similar people

This is a site for people finding like minded people. People who enjoy shibari, find other like minded people who enjoy it too. It is not shit, nor does it require a psychiatrist. It does require a level of understanding that some people don't have, they open their mouth without engaging their brain, trying to sound smart.

Yes. Tying people up. Sure.

I’m not trying to sound smart. I assure you I am. It’s impressive how many people were offended by my opinion, but c’est La vie "

Suggesting people with kinks that aren't you're thing have a mental illness - what's to be offended by?

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By *laytonAMan
36 weeks ago

Newport

Love doing it, not done suspension yet, so would like to try that with a partner. Takes practice mind to make it look neat and even, I did a course on basics and rest is Imagination

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By *rs Myvanwy Scarlet-BlackTV/TS
36 weeks ago

hot wife


"Love doing it, not done suspension yet, so would like to try that with a partner. Takes practice mind to make it look neat and even, I did a course on basics and rest is Imagination "

Yet another kink play on my list be it the basic suspension play held in the air by a hoist all holes on show open ready an tied up or the more advanced with hooks in the body and suspended by them alone

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By *irthandgirthMan
36 weeks ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

I love the aesthetics of it and have a bunch of ropes and get to practice occasionally. I stop short of the hog tie or suspension, but I love making an outfit from it like a Hishi Karada , or a soft collar

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By *ot to giggleWoman
36 weeks ago

Coventry


"Oh I googled it. It’s…not my kind of thing. Just shit for perverts that need a psychiatrist more than they need a site to meet similar people

This is a site for people finding like minded people. People who enjoy shibari, find other like minded people who enjoy it too. It is not shit, nor does it require a psychiatrist. It does require a level of understanding that some people don't have, they open their mouth without engaging their brain, trying to sound smart.

Yes. Tying people up. Sure.

I’m not trying to sound smart. I assure you I am. It’s impressive how many people were offended by my opinion, but c’est La vie "

maybe they are more open minded to other things other people like to do - and not into Kink shaming ?? we all have our choices - you chose what you put on your profile!

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By *ot to giggleWoman
36 weeks ago

Coventry


"I love the aesthetics of it and have a bunch of ropes and get to practice occasionally. I stop short of the hog tie or suspension, but I love making an outfit from it like a Hishi Karada , or a soft collar "

was looking at some pics at the weekend of someone who does this, she had a spiders web with someone in the middle and a lot of others, its fascinating, takes ages to get some of the things done

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By *ularliWoman
36 weeks ago

Worcester

I’ve always wanted to try it but I don’t have the body for it to look appealing.

I watched a demo of it at a club once and found it really interesting

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By *adgerMan
36 weeks ago

york


"It looks fascinating and in some cases a work of art, even though I know I wouldn't enjoy it, I can appreciate the beauty.

What do others think? "

I think it’s absolutely stunning… real works of art… a humble beginner but looking forward to my first rope jam later this year

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By *mf123Man
36 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

I dont do drugs

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By *rs Myvanwy Scarlet-BlackTV/TS
36 weeks ago

hot wife


"I dont do drugs"
you must be high as fuck at the moment to think this is about drugs ??

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By *arnayguyMan
36 weeks ago

Durham Tees

Knot for me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
36 weeks ago

Hajime Kinoko art is fascinating,

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By *angria_girlukWoman
36 weeks ago

LUTON

Love it. Well the beauty of it.

I have tried to find a rigger and a partner and I took classes, but he doesn't have the finesse for this.

But there are rough and soft rope and it can be sensual.

Someday I'll find my rigger and I'll be a happy bunny.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
36 weeks ago


"It looks fascinating and in some cases a work of art, even though I know I wouldn't enjoy it, I can appreciate the beauty.

What do others think?

I think it’s absolutely stunning… real works of art… a humble beginner but looking forward to my first rope jam later this year"

I would have two left hands and wouldn't know where to start. I hope you enjoy your experience. X

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By *irthandgirthMan
36 weeks ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster


"I’ve always wanted to try it but I don’t have the body for it to look appealing.

I watched a demo of it at a club once and found it really interesting "

You don't have to go fully naked, or do full body stuff. There are some pretty hip harness ties that would look great on you

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By *irthandgirthMan
36 weeks ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster


"It looks fascinating and in some cases a work of art, even though I know I wouldn't enjoy it, I can appreciate the beauty.

What do others think?

I think it’s absolutely stunning… real works of art… a humble beginner but looking forward to my first rope jam later this year"

I got a second hand tailors dummy to practice on. Only good for torso stuff but gets you used to pulling rope, tension and knots.

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By *angria_girlukWoman
36 weeks ago

LUTON


"It looks fascinating and in some cases a work of art, even though I know I wouldn't enjoy it, I can appreciate the beauty.

What do others think?

I think it’s absolutely stunning… real works of art… a humble beginner but looking forward to my first rope jam later this year

I got a second hand tailors dummy to practice on. Only good for torso stuff but gets you used to pulling rope, tension and knots. "

That's an awesome idea

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By *irthandgirthMan
36 weeks ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster


"It looks fascinating and in some cases a work of art, even though I know I wouldn't enjoy it, I can appreciate the beauty.

What do others think?

I think it’s absolutely stunning… real works of art… a humble beginner but looking forward to my first rope jam later this year

I got a second hand tailors dummy to practice on. Only good for torso stuff but gets you used to pulling rope, tension and knots.

That's an awesome idea"

I'm sometimes useful

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By *he_turtle_movesMan
36 weeks ago

york

Love it, but I sometimes get carried away with making everything look perfect and forget the model is getting bored now

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By *ularliWoman
36 weeks ago

Worcester


"I’ve always wanted to try it but I don’t have the body for it to look appealing.

I watched a demo of it at a club once and found it really interesting

You don't have to go fully naked, or do full body stuff. There are some pretty hip harness ties that would look great on you "

Thank you, I’ll look it up

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By *onestjohn1962Man
36 weeks ago

Sheffield

With Shibari you’re creating a work of art, and naughty fun is very much secondary.

I appreciate the craftsmanship but I find it dull. If I restrain someone I take a more practical rather than pretty approach.

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By *adyBugsWoman
36 weeks ago

cognito

It can be so pretty.

I’ve not been tangled in rope for ages

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By *onestjohn1962Man
36 weeks ago

Sheffield


"Love it, but I sometimes get carried away with making everything look perfect and forget the model is getting bored now "

Agree with this !

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By *he Silver FuxMan
36 weeks ago

Uttoxeter


"I dont have the patience "

^ this right here. I get impatient with a tangled rope when I’m rock climbing

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By *ang average kinkMan
36 weeks ago

Farnborough


"It looks fascinating and in some cases a work of art, even though I know I wouldn't enjoy it, I can appreciate the beauty.

What do others think? "

I agree on some of it looking like art work. Must take some time to learn it proficiently

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By *he Silver FuxMan
36 weeks ago

Uttoxeter


"Knot for me. "

Ooo, you fucker

“Are you able to help with this rope?”

“No, I’m a frayed knot”

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By *ondiego85Man
36 weeks ago

nottingham


"Oh I googled it. It’s…not my kind of thing. Just shit for perverts that need a psychiatrist more than they need a site to meet similar people

This is a site for people finding like minded people. People who enjoy shibari, find other like minded people who enjoy it too. It is not shit, nor does it require a psychiatrist. It does require a level of understanding that some people don't have, they open their mouth without engaging their brain, trying to sound smart.

Yes. Tying people up. Sure.

I’m not trying to sound smart. I assure you I am. It’s impressive how many people were offended by my opinion, but c’est La vie

maybe they are more open minded to other things other people like to do - and not into Kink shaming ?? we all have our choices - you chose what you put on your profile!"

I just don’t pretend my kinks are art.

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By *rixie_BlondeWoman
36 weeks ago

London (She/Her)

Yes, I would love to be a bunny but I haven’t been able to make it happen yet. It will happen one day though, I’m sure

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By *entlemanrogueMan
36 weeks ago

Glasgow


"Oh I googled it. It’s…not my kind of thing. Just shit for perverts that need a psychiatrist more than they need a site to meet similar people

This is a site for people finding like minded people. People who enjoy shibari, find other like minded people who enjoy it too. It is not shit, nor does it require a psychiatrist. It does require a level of understanding that some people don't have, they open their mouth without engaging their brain, trying to sound smart.

Yes. Tying people up. Sure.

I’m not trying to sound smart. I assure you I am. It’s impressive how many people were offended by my opinion, but c’est La vie "

No you were simply rude, judgemental and dismissivr.

If you had said, oh i googled it, not my thing, fair play, but you acted the c*nt 100%

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By *ags73Man
36 weeks ago

glasgow-ish


"Knot for me.

Ooo, you fucker

“Are you able to help with this rope?”

“No, I’m a frayed knot”"

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By *ularliWoman
36 weeks ago

Worcester


"Oh I googled it. It’s…not my kind of thing. Just shit for perverts that need a psychiatrist more than they need a site to meet similar people "

I don’t see how it’s for perverts. Done right it’s a work of art.

A simple no thanks, not for me would have been fine

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By *irthandgirthMan
36 weeks ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster


"Oh I googled it. It’s…not my kind of thing. Just shit for perverts that need a psychiatrist more than they need a site to meet similar people

This is a site for people finding like minded people. People who enjoy shibari, find other like minded people who enjoy it too. It is not shit, nor does it require a psychiatrist. It does require a level of understanding that some people don't have, they open their mouth without engaging their brain, trying to sound smart.

Yes. Tying people up. Sure.

I’m not trying to sound smart. I assure you I am. It’s impressive how many people were offended by my opinion, but c’est La vie

maybe they are more open minded to other things other people like to do - and not into Kink shaming ?? we all have our choices - you chose what you put on your profile!

I just don’t pretend my kinks are art."

I like to do it for the aesthetic. I don't get off on it, so I wouldn't class it as a kink. Its quite calming to do.

And it absolutely can be art if it is done well.

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By *ondiego85Man
36 weeks ago

nottingham


"Oh I googled it. It’s…not my kind of thing. Just shit for perverts that need a psychiatrist more than they need a site to meet similar people

This is a site for people finding like minded people. People who enjoy shibari, find other like minded people who enjoy it too. It is not shit, nor does it require a psychiatrist. It does require a level of understanding that some people don't have, they open their mouth without engaging their brain, trying to sound smart.

Yes. Tying people up. Sure.

I’m not trying to sound smart. I assure you I am. It’s impressive how many people were offended by my opinion, but c’est La vie

No you were simply rude, judgemental and dismissivr.

If you had said, oh i googled it, not my thing, fair play, but you acted the c*nt 100%"

Oh dear. Sensitive people. Ok, enjoy your kink. It’s just not for me.

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By *irthandgirthMan
36 weeks ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster


"Oh I googled it. It’s…not my kind of thing. Just shit for perverts that need a psychiatrist more than they need a site to meet similar people

This is a site for people finding like minded people. People who enjoy shibari, find other like minded people who enjoy it too. It is not shit, nor does it require a psychiatrist. It does require a level of understanding that some people don't have, they open their mouth without engaging their brain, trying to sound smart.

Yes. Tying people up. Sure.

I’m not trying to sound smart. I assure you I am. It’s impressive how many people were offended by my opinion, but c’est La vie

No you were simply rude, judgemental and dismissivr.

If you had said, oh i googled it, not my thing, fair play, but you acted the c*nt 100%

Oh dear. Sensitive people. Ok, enjoy your kink. It’s just not for me."

That's all you had to say the first time.

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By *ondiego85Man
36 weeks ago

nottingham


"Oh I googled it. It’s…not my kind of thing. Just shit for perverts that need a psychiatrist more than they need a site to meet similar people

This is a site for people finding like minded people. People who enjoy shibari, find other like minded people who enjoy it too. It is not shit, nor does it require a psychiatrist. It does require a level of understanding that some people don't have, they open their mouth without engaging their brain, trying to sound smart.

Yes. Tying people up. Sure.

I’m not trying to sound smart. I assure you I am. It’s impressive how many people were offended by my opinion, but c’est La vie

No you were simply rude, judgemental and dismissivr.

If you had said, oh i googled it, not my thing, fair play, but you acted the c*nt 100%

Oh dear. Sensitive people. Ok, enjoy your kink. It’s just not for me.

That's all you had to say the first time."

I still think it’s borderline psychiatric, though. Sorry

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
36 weeks ago


"Oh I googled it. It’s…not my kind of thing. Just shit for perverts that need a psychiatrist more than they need a site to meet similar people

This is a site for people finding like minded people. People who enjoy shibari, find other like minded people who enjoy it too. It is not shit, nor does it require a psychiatrist. It does require a level of understanding that some people don't have, they open their mouth without engaging their brain, trying to sound smart.

Yes. Tying people up. Sure.

I’m not trying to sound smart. I assure you I am. It’s impressive how many people were offended by my opinion, but c’est La vie

No you were simply rude, judgemental and dismissivr.

If you had said, oh i googled it, not my thing, fair play, but you acted the c*nt 100%

Oh dear. Sensitive people. Ok, enjoy your kink. It’s just not for me.

That's all you had to say the first time.

I still think it’s borderline psychiatric, though. Sorry"

How?

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By *_Mr.K_xMan
36 weeks ago

North Worcestershire

It's something I practice with the right person. There's different ways to look at Shibari.. in itself, it can be an artform. But I like to get the fine balance by incorporating by Shibari rope skills into the bedroom just to add that '20%' more spice to things... rather than just regular rope tying (which let's be honest, many people have tried and muddied through it) but I've been told that ladies like a man who knows what he's doing and being proficient in a few different types of knots can be a real game change in the bedroom.

It's each to their own and every kink is as valid as everyone else's. I find it fascinating in every aspect

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By *ripfillMan
36 weeks ago

Paris, New York, Hong Kong and Havant

It is without doubt a very special kink - to be a rigger takes an awful lot of knowledge and skill

It’s transcendental state to be achieved with out long term ill effects.

It’s an art form

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By *naswingdressWoman
36 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

I think it looks beautiful. I lack the patience for it, but I appreciate it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
36 weeks ago

Thank you all for your feedback.

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By *aiseiMan
36 weeks ago

Birmingham

I can appreciate the skill involved, but it does nothing whatsoever for me.

But then the vast majority of ‘kinks’ don’t either.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
36 weeks ago

Wirral

I loved being encased in such beautiful, intricate rope patterns.

I didn't find it at all arousing but I adored the experience and I loved how it looked. It's one of the few times I really enjoyed looking at my body - it really helped me at a time I was struggling with self-image.

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By *ogamuffinMan
36 weeks ago

slough

would definitely like to try it on someone once atleast.

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By *issBellaWoman
36 weeks ago

Wales

Looks very artsy but I'm wondering how long you have to be sat still to get it all so beautifully placed. I've barely got time for a quickke and these days

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By *inkedKuntsCouple
36 weeks ago

Sheffield


"Looks very artsy but I'm wondering how long you have to be sat still to get it all so beautifully placed. I've barely got time for a quickke and these days "

It all depends what your doing. The placement and the wraps laying flat will happen naturally as people get good at it. We can do a basic chest harness, a couple of foto's in such a way you can be suspended from them in say, less than 10 minutes. We could do a one rope take down and have you tied up in less than a minute for floor play. If we want to go up to a 3 rope TK I could be doing that for say 10 minutes before starting on any other ties to incorporate in.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
36 weeks ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines


"Oh I googled it. It’s…not my kind of thing. Just shit for perverts that need a psychiatrist more than they need a site to meet similar people "
I take exception to that remark.

It is actually a skill required art form. Shibari translates to The art of Japanese rope binding.

It can be aesthetic and functional it can be used for sexual purpose and it can also be painful.

There is a lot of technical stuff to learn, not just the rope side, but the human body, where the nerves are, pressure points, potential injury.

Once you move on from floor work, the technical side of it becomes even more important for suspension.

Just because it isn't your thing, don't knock other people because they enjoy tying or being tied

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By *irthandgirthMan
36 weeks ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster


"Oh I googled it. It’s…not my kind of thing. Just shit for perverts that need a psychiatrist more than they need a site to meet similar people I take exception to that remark.

It is actually a skill required art form. Shibari translates to The art of Japanese rope binding.

It can be aesthetic and functional it can be used for sexual purpose and it can also be painful.

There is a lot of technical stuff to learn, not just the rope side, but the human body, where the nerves are, pressure points, potential injury.

Once you move on from floor work, the technical side of it becomes even more important for suspension.

Just because it isn't your thing, don't knock other people because they enjoy tying or being tied

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Like many Japanese practices, shibari bridges the art (do) and craft (jutsu). As part of my martial arts I became proficient in the sub specialisms of kusari fudo (chain weapon - though we used rope for safety) and hojojutsu (military/police use of rope as restraint methods). There is a lot of crossover- especially the knowledge of anatomy and physiology, biomechanics, leverage and pressure. Its far more involved than just tying some knots.

On the non-physical side it requires a tremendous amount of trust,communication and cooperation. If someone can't handle this side, it probably isn't for them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
36 weeks ago

I apologise for starting off what I thought would be an appreciation thered, in that you can admire something without necessary participating.

It has not turned out that way, I am truly sorry about that.

I will add that I still think it's a work of art and it takes skill to do, which I personally admire.

Hugs xx

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By *irthandgirthMan
36 weeks ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster


"I apologise for starting off what I thought would be an appreciation thered, in that you can admire something without necessary participating.

It has not turned out that way, I am truly sorry about that.

I will add that I still think it's a work of art and it takes skill to do, which I personally admire.

Hugs xx"

There are many who do appreciate it on here. I think the more you know, the more you can appreciate it.

There are some who like the look of it, and some who just can't get it.. which is fine.

When you start a thread like this you can always expect differing points of view. It's the nature of the forums. Everyone's views are valid. Some may be more or less informed. And some views are expressed more eloquently or kindly.

This is a great discussion. I'm sure some people have taken positives from it

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By *naswingdressWoman
36 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I apologise for starting off what I thought would be an appreciation thered, in that you can admire something without necessary participating.

It has not turned out that way, I am truly sorry about that.

I will add that I still think it's a work of art and it takes skill to do, which I personally admire.

Hugs xx"

You've got nothing to apologise for x

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By *gent CoulsonMan
36 weeks ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines


"I apologise for starting off what I thought would be an appreciation thered, in that you can admire something without necessary participating.

It has not turned out that way, I am truly sorry about that.

I will add that I still think it's a work of art and it takes skill to do, which I personally admire.

Hugs xx"

You have absolutely nothing to apologise for, I was the on individuals comment that I took exception to.

I have spent many frustrating and rewarding hours learning my craft, being able to perform it as safely as is possible with something that is to all intent and purpose a potentially dangerous edge play

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By *hoirCouple
36 weeks ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds


"Oh I googled it. It’s…not my kind of thing. Just shit for perverts that need a psychiatrist more than they need a site to meet similar people

This is a site for people finding like minded people. People who enjoy shibari, find other like minded people who enjoy it too. It is not shit, nor does it require a psychiatrist. It does require a level of understanding that some people don't have, they open their mouth without engaging their brain, trying to sound smart.

Yes. Tying people up. Sure.

I’m not trying to sound smart. I assure you I am. It’s impressive how many people were offended by my opinion, but c’est La vie

No you were simply rude, judgemental and dismissivr.

If you had said, oh i googled it, not my thing, fair play, but you acted the c*nt 100%

Oh dear. Sensitive people. Ok, enjoy your kink. It’s just not for me.

That's all you had to say the first time.

I still think it’s borderline psychiatric, though. Sorry"

Shibari is literally recognised as rooe art.

So even you are close-minded to kink shame or you are insensitive to other cultures.

Pick one as there is no alternative. You should know this though because you say you are smart so you understand the nuance used by yourself.

C

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By *hoirCouple
36 weeks ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds


"I apologise for starting off what I thought would be an appreciation thered, in that you can admire something without necessary participating.

It has not turned out that way, I am truly sorry about that.

I will add that I still think it's a work of art and it takes skill to do, which I personally admire.

Hugs xx"

You did nothing wrong.

C

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By *ensualMan
34 weeks ago

Sutton

My definition of Shibari although some use "Kinbaku" is that it is

"An erotic sadomasochistic activity in a Japanese style."

Therefore it's best for general use to equate shibari with the term "rope bondage". There are many different philosophies and styles of rope bondage. Styles range from Western Style to Chinese 5 Flowers, to Japanese influenced. Philosophies range from tantric to mindful to bedroom bondage,to primal to aesthetic.

As Graydancer put it there are four reasons for doing rope. 1. Fashion, it looks good and or looks good on me. 2. Fucking, I like to be tied and or tie and be fucked. 3, Fun, I like doing things with rope or things done to me with rope. 4, Fetish, I like doing things with rope or things done to me with rope and it really sparks certain neurons in my brain that it is super enjoyable.

Of course people can find more reasons.

At the end of the day like all kink it should be fun and consensual.

My preferred tying style is kinbaku. But I tie the person, so with some people it's more more mindful with others more aesthetic, erotic or whatever works for them.

So do you, and explore. There are huge amount of resources around.

I would also note

" ... the American Psychiatric Association announced that it would be changing the diagnostic codes for BDSM, fetishism, and transvestic fetishism (a variant of cross-dressing) in the next edition of its Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM), published in 2013. The new definitions marked a distinction between behavior—for example, playing rough—and actual pathology. Consenting adults were no longer deemed mentally ill for choosing sexual behavior outside the mainstream."

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By *ambertMan
34 weeks ago

Cheltenham

Love it.

Sadly I can barely tie my own shoelaces

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By *rHotNottsMan
34 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I went to a couple of events on shibari & suspension found it quite slow & boring and at the end it was like is that it ?

I love tying people up for bondage but only so I can do things to them

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By *irthandgirthMan
34 weeks ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster


"I went to a couple of events on shibari & suspension found it quite slow & boring and at the end it was like is that it ?

I love tying people up for bondage but only so I can do things to them "

It was probably slow so people can follow it and there are numerous safety considerations.

Because stuff like that matters when you teach people something that has the potential to damage a partner.

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By *orace99Man
34 weeks ago

York


"It looks fascinating and in some cases a work of art, even though I know I wouldn't enjoy it, I can appreciate the beauty.

What do others think? "

Much like yourself it is a work of art although I am unlikely to ever be able to remember how to tie them

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By *pankingNorfolkCouple
30 weeks ago

Norwichish

Definitely one of our favourite activities.

The act of tying is very sensual and requires a lot of time to get the pretty patterns or knots right. That means a lot of close proximity while naked without touching or playing. That builds the excitement.

Once rigged it allows us to explore some of our other kinks, that could be impact play or wax. Wax can be a bit messy if it gets on the rope.

If we do have sex while tied it adds and extra dimension the ability to use the rope to put M where I want her adds an extra dimension.

Then when done and in the come down there is the time to untie which adds a further dimension.

Lots of pics/vids on profile for you to enjoy.

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By *onameyet2Man
30 weeks ago

chorley

Do you start with lacing shoes?

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By *inkyropecoupleCouple
30 weeks ago

carluke

We really enjoy Shibari

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By *C_BristolCouple
30 weeks ago

Bristol

Looks amazing.

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By *ubikslongswordMan
30 weeks ago

Rubiksville


"Oh I googled it. It’s…not my kind of thing. Just shit for perverts that need a psychiatrist more than they need a site to meet similar people

Just because you don't like something doesn't mean other don't enjoy it. So stop trying to kink shame other people.

Oh I’m not putting shame. In the same way I wouldn’t put shame on a person with schizophrenia, or an agoraphobic person."

Kinks are not a mental illness though? Comparing people who enjoy it to people who are genuinely sick is shaming them.

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