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By (user no longer on site) OP
29 weeks ago

Do you often change your mind about plans?

Like make them then can’t be bothered as they approach

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
29 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Sometimes, yes.

More commonly I get excited and make too many plans than I have capacity for, so have to change them.

What about you, OP?

Mrs TMN x

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By *ell GwynnWoman
29 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

Yep, I get that feeling a lot. I always make myself go through with the plan, and it usually turns out to be enjoyable.

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By *urry BlokeMan
29 weeks ago

Stalybridge

I used to

Now I just say no from the outset

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By *onkoMan
29 weeks ago

here and there

I plan to post witty threads here but when I get the time to I can't be bothered

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By *naswingdressWoman
29 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

I always follow through, but I know I'll regret going before I go.

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By *edeWoman
29 weeks ago

the abyss

It's less about not being bothered and more about losing confidence in myself to do them if that makes sense

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By *ynecplCouple
29 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

We have such busy social lives we have to have a shared calendar so that we don't get double booked.

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

No, I think I'll leave a decision late until I definitely know if I can but once I say yes, I'm pretty much locked in and pretty happy about it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
29 weeks ago

"We have such busy social lives we have to have a shared calendar so that we don't get double booked. "

Standard

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
29 weeks ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

I rarely make plans to begin with and always cagey when people start planning. Unless it's with my kids, I'm fine with the kids

I get terrible social anxiety

My friend has invited me to her hen weekend in Liverpool, I said I would go but not stay over. I plan to drive down and drive back before they get leery

(I don't drink)

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By *ellhungvweMan
29 weeks ago

Cheltenham

If it is a big social thing then I will often just decide not to go because they are not really my scene and no one will realise I am not there anyway.

If it is a smaller thing where my lack of presence will be noticed then I will turn up if I say I will.

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

I agree to do things when I’m in a good mood, then hate myself for it when it when I actually have to go.

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By *arla SwingerWoman
29 weeks ago

Somewhere

All the time... Seems like a great idea when plans are made. Seems like a shit one when a wet and miserable Friday night rolls round, and I'm spending a fortune to traipse around pubs and hating it.

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

If I make plans I stick to them.

Trouble I have is actually saying yes to plans.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
29 weeks ago

Reading

No if i make plans i stick to them. I dont like letting people down.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
29 weeks ago

"No if i make plans i stick to them. I dont like letting people down. "

Same. I hate letting people down. Which is why I stick to plans even when I’m no longer feeling them

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By (user no longer on site) OP
29 weeks ago

I get this unpredictability of my mood sometimes. Sometimes I make plans for weeks or days in advance. And I was in a headspace or mental place at the time that made the plan exciting. Then suddenly I’m not. Various factors. Socialising is really difficult some days. It’s really exhausting. Work. Kids. So mean suddenly I can just be like ‘eurgh I wish I could stay in and sleep’. I don’t. Because like everyone says- I’ve made plans. I’ll probably enjoy it. I don’t want to let people down. But I do get a ‘eurgh, I’m not even feeling this’ sometimes.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
29 weeks ago

North West

I try not to make many plans because something always seems to get in the way. When I do make plans, I really try my utmost to make them happen. However, sometimes, life gets in the way.

I've learned that you can't be disappointed if you didn't have anything to look forward to in the first place.

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By *tylebender03Man
28 weeks ago

Manchester

I used to but now i’m a man of my word and if say I’m going to do something I’m going to do it

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By *ucka39Man
28 weeks ago

Newcastle

I stick with it unless I'm trying to avoid it

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By (user no longer on site)
28 weeks ago

I'm an introvert - so...

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