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"I’m guessing to be a swinger you have to swing As I can’t get a meet I guess I’m not a swinger lol" Yes I would meet a swinger or not | |||
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"I’m guessing to be a swinger you have to swing As I can’t get a meet I guess I’m not a swinger lol" I'll ignore the language choice. 
Do you think you have to be actively fucking to identify as something? I think it's more a mindset. | |||
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"I'm not definitely not a swinger, it seems like effort. I'm just here for the causal sex with the odd hot guy. " I'm odd! | |||
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"Well you have to try it to be sure this seems the best place " Yeah, I think so. It's probably the best place to try. Maybe not. It might be. | |||
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I feel like I'm ducking just under the radar for alot of people though.. a few months and I'll be 30 so I'll pop up on the filter search for people more   | |||
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Maybe one day I'll find my mojo again and want all the boobs but right now I'm just here for the forums & keep up with those we've made friends with.
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"If you're someone who identifies as not being a swinger - what are you on Fab for? If you're someone who is a swinger - would you meet someone who isn't?" To nick the good jokes from the forum. Them's slim pickin's these days.  | |||
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"I'm not definitely not a swinger, it seems like effort. I'm just here for the causal sex with the odd hot guy. " No, it's not effort. It's like saying you're not a Summer person. Quite easy. Odd hot guy... you'll definitely find the odd part. Good look, Miss Coyote. | |||
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"i think there is different levels of - each seems to have their own version of what it means to them. " Yes, definitely, it's such a subjective term. People use it though. I do. I say I'm not a swinger. I was curious as to how others view Fab, what they're on here for if they also say they're not one. | |||
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"I'm not a swinger. I'm here for the platonic connections, the socials, the escapism that presents itself by way of 'non-committal' dating/relationships, flirting...and then the 'enhanced vanilla' sex. I'm here for the sex, without the theatrics associated with swinging or kink or BDSM or whatever." Do you not think the non-committal dating/relationships are theatrics of sex? It's like a delicate trill in my mind. Anyway, I do understand where you're coming from! Do you meet people who are swingers, not platonically? | |||
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"What IS a swinger? " I think I just don’t think of myself as a sex club type or doing much more than 3sum shiz. I just like sex, but I also like a giggle and the playfulness of speaking with people on here | |||
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"What IS a swinger? I think I just don’t think of myself as a sex club type or doing much more than 3sum shiz. I just like sex, but I also like a giggle and the playfulness of speaking with people on here "I sound sooooooo dull!   | |||
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"If you're someone who identifies as not being a swinger - what are you on Fab for? If you're someone who is a swinger - would you meet someone who isn't?" When I'm in a relationship I'm a swinger and would use a couples profile on here to meet swinging couples and singles. Currently not in a relationship so I'm using my single profile and class myself as someone looking for casual meets, but open to more. | |||
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"I'm not a swinger. I'm here for the platonic connections, the socials, the escapism that presents itself by way of 'non-committal' dating/relationships, flirting...and then the 'enhanced vanilla' sex. I'm here for the sex, without the theatrics associated with swinging or kink or BDSM or whatever. · Do you not think the non-committal dating/relationships are theatrics of sex? It's like a delicate trill in my mind. Anyway, I do understand where you're coming from! Do you meet people who are swingers, not platonically?" • I'm all for the theatrics of sex (a newly coined phrase for this afternoon; 'thank me later!) within the confines of 'vanillahood', mild experimentation general woo'ing and courtship. I'm not averse to meeting people who are swingers. The opportunity hasn't presented itself. | |||
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"No I don't think we are swingers not really - we've never couple swapped because.... Men - urgh, they smell. No in all seriousness I find it difficult to be attracted to men then I overthink it and put myself off. We've only ever had meets with women so I don't think we fall under the "swingers" umbrella, I'm not sure really - either way it's not a lifestyle for us it's a bit of fun & at the moment we aren't meeting so we are just those annoying people here that don't meet
Maybe one day I'll find my mojo again and want all the boobs but right now I'm just here for the forums & keep up with those we've made friends with.
Mrs "I don't know if swinging is just couple swapping. I think meeting women is a form of it - it's a tad cockcentric to see it as only being if another man is involved. Maybe you will find your mojo again, even if you don't I hope you're happier soon. x | |||
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"I'd say swingers are a small minority on here in the sense of married/long term couples seeking the same. " I would say swinging is wider than that, but I don't know where the line is drawn | |||
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"I’m waiting for a spin off site called Fab Playas .com" Right, this is where I belong. Could it be fab kinky playas? | |||
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"I'm not a swinger, I'm single. There doesn't seem to be anywhere else with like minded people just looking for a connection. So I find myself coming back. No problem with swingers but I don't want to have to remember more than one name at a time haha" I do think that there are increasing numbers of single people joining in between relationships. Wanting casual sex from here. | |||
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"I make the occasional cake. I look on websites for cake recipes. I'm not a baker. " Pretty much this. I don't know what category we as a couple, or either of us individually, fall into. Therefore it doesn't make a difference to us if the people we're meeting identify as swingers or not. It happens so rarely, anyway. Mutual attraction, a good connection, and respect for our choice to be non-monogamous is what matters. Nell | |||
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"What IS a swinger? " Well, as I've said before, there's no clear cut definition. What there is, is a personal one. When I've said before I'm not a swinger, I know what I associate with or as being swinging behaviour. Shenanigans. I think in order for someone to say yes I'm a swinger, or no I'm not, they have their own take on it. So... what's the distinction on a personal level? That's what I'm curious about. Slightly different angle. | |||
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"I mean, I think we are because we have couple swapped, go to swingers clubs etc... We would meet and have met people who are not swingers
Miss S x"Yay! This has made me happy to read.  Hope you've recovered now, x | |||
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"Define swinging! ^has nobody said this yet? "History has it as wife swapping | |||
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We won't meet people that are not into This lifestyle but are curious, we have been around long enough and have seen enough to know if your not 100 percent sure or if you don't understand the lifestyle then it can be a disaster, we are here for drama free fun. | |||
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"What IS a swinger? Well, as I've said before, there's no clear cut definition. What there is, is a personal one. When I've said before I'm not a swinger, I know what I associate with or as being swinging behaviour. Shenanigans. I think in order for someone to say yes I'm a swinger, or no I'm not, they have their own take on it. So... what's the distinction on a personal level? That's what I'm curious about. Slightly different angle." Identity and pride is a tricky one! Like you say it’s personal. I’m always a bit more reserved with my identity, partly because I’m not a fan of labels and identity and showing off (who’d have thought!) and partly because I’m never sure if I belong with a certain group or not! Maybe I’m a commitment-phobe! I’m not a swinger !  | |||
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"I’m waiting for a spin off site called Fab Playas .com Right, this is where I belong. Could it be fab kinky playas? " Perfect  | |||
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"If you're someone who identifies as not being a swinger - what are you on Fab for? If you're someone who is a swinger - would you meet someone who isn't?" To learn how to put condoms on | |||
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"If you're someone who identifies as not being a swinger - what are you on Fab for? If you're someone who is a swinger - would you meet someone who isn't?" I'm here for the wonderful forum threads started by you and Senor Pickle | |||
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"If you're someone who identifies as not being a swinger - what are you on Fab for? If you're someone who is a swinger - would you meet someone who isn't?" Yes I would definitely | |||
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"If you're someone who identifies as not being a swinger - what are you on Fab for? If you're someone who is a swinger - would you meet someone who isn't? To learn how to put condoms on" I am so close to making and sending you a COI video. So close. The sisterhood deserves it. | |||
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"To us, swinging is a mindset above all else. We've met quite a few single guys in the years we've been here and the common link with all the guys we've only met once is at some point during the meet they say something along the lines of 'I don't know how you do this, I'd never let my mrs do it' whereas our repeats have always bemoaned the fact they can't find a partner to do it with." I think that's it. It's a mindset. How it looks in reality can vary but there's a belief you are one etc and understanding of certain things more readily? Perhaps. It's really interesting to read about your experiences with single men and that noticeable difference in behaviour. Hadn't thought about it in terms of actual physical meeting so thank you! | |||
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I don’t attempt to hook up with anyone but if it happens that’s a bonus | |||
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"I don’t think of myself as a swinger. Just a bloke that likes doing the sex with someone that isn’t Mrs Wick. And a bloke that likes Mrs Wick doing the sex with people other than me. Aside from that, I’m just a bit of a knobhead. " Very honest of you Mr Wick, is your head bell shaped with a slit down the middle? | |||
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"I always thought that you had to be a couple to swing and everyone else was just having sex
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"I don’t think of myself as a swinger. Just a bloke that likes doing the sex with someone that isn’t Mrs Wick. And a bloke that likes Mrs Wick doing the sex with people other than me. Aside from that, I’m just a bit of a knobhead. Very honest of you Mr Wick, is your head bell shaped with a slit down the middle? "Sadly not, I reckon it’d make for a unique USP.
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"I always thought that you had to be a couple to swing and everyone else was just having sex
"That’s only what them “real swingers” would have you believe. It’s in da rules apparently. | |||
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"To us, swinging is a mindset above all else. We've met quite a few single guys in the years we've been here and the common link with all the guys we've only met once is at some point during the meet they say something along the lines of 'I don't know how you do this, I'd never let my mrs do it' whereas our repeats have always bemoaned the fact they can't find a partner to do it with." I really dislike those kinds of people. They’re happy to take advantage but would never want to do the same, it seems very mercenary and disrespectful to me. | |||
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" It's really interesting to read about your experiences with single men and that noticeable difference in behaviour. Hadn't thought about it in terms of actual physical meeting so thank you!" Some of them would have been nailed on remeets but their hypocrisy is an instant turn off for me along with the 'fabstraights' hiding their true sexuality. Our profile is honest and truthful and we expect our playmates to be the same. | |||
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" I really dislike those kinds of people. They’re happy to take advantage but would never want to do the same, it seems very mercenary and disrespectful to me. " Unfortunately it's not only Fab that has folks like that as the real world is full of them too  | |||
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