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By *6rangoon OP   Man
37 weeks ago

Worth

Why do some people happily correspond and then when you no longer suit their criteria, pretend you never corresponded with them in the first place... And then block you?

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By *naswingdressWoman
37 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

Because that's the way internet correspondence often goes?

Because some people lose their shit on places like this when you say no, and because abuse isn't fun?

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By *6rangoon OP   Man
37 weeks ago

Worth

I get that but can't tar everyone with the same brush, surely?

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By *uenevereWoman
37 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

Blocking stops another contact being made once they've established you're not compatible.

It's not personal and is also a way to reduce abuse... some people struggle to accept a no.

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By *ullyMan
37 weeks ago

Near Clacton

Same reason they message back and forth and make arrangements to meet then don't turn up. They are first class arseholes or they finished their wank.

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By *naswingdressWoman
37 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I get that but can't tar everyone with the same brush, surely?"

Sure you can.

Say I'm talking to Bob. I've discovered Bob isn't what I'm looking for.

Having spoken to Barry, Bruce, Bill and Baxter, all of whom abused me after I said no, I'm not taking my chances. Abuse fucking sucks. Far more than being blocked.

(No, not all men. Obviously. But one is too many and it's a lot more than one)

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By *naswingdressWoman
37 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Same reason they message back and forth and make arrangements to meet then don't turn up. They are first class arseholes or they finished their wank."

Yes. There is also this category.

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By *6rangoon OP   Man
37 weeks ago

Worth

I guess l think differently.

Would always accept a no with grace.

Thanks. Yes l think you are right. It's not personal.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Because they can, sometimes its just easier

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By *6rangoon OP   Man
37 weeks ago

Worth

Yes any type of abuse is awful.

I see things from your point of view.

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By *naswingdressWoman
37 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I guess l think differently.

Would always accept a no with grace.

Thanks. Yes l think you are right. It's not personal."

I've even had abuse from people who tell me they'd take a no gracefully.

I'm not saying you're lying. I'm just saying, the vast majority of women (and probably other categories) have been abused on here and other places for saying no. If you block, the abuse doesn't come.

(By the way, if you use the reply plus quote button, it helps us know who you're replying to)

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By *6rangoon OP   Man
37 weeks ago

Worth


"I guess l think differently.

Would always accept a no with grace.

Thanks. Yes l think you are right. It's not personal.

I've even had abuse from people who tell me they'd take a no gracefully.

I'm not saying you're lying. I'm just saying, the vast majority of women (and probably other categories) have been abused on here and other places for saying no. If you block, the abuse doesn't come.

(By the way, if you use the reply plus quote button, it helps us know who you're replying to)"

Ahhhh ok. Thank you!

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By *6rangoon OP   Man
37 weeks ago

Worth


"Because they can, sometimes its just easier"

Sadly so.

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By *ellhungvweMan
37 weeks ago

Cheltenham

OP what did you _really_ do to get blocked? Its ok you can tell us - we are all friends here and your secret is safe with us.

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By *6rangoon OP   Man
37 weeks ago

Worth


"Blocking stops another contact being made once they've established you're not compatible.

It's not personal and is also a way to reduce abuse... some people struggle to accept a no."

Ok. Thanks. Like you say, it's not personal.

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By *6rangoon OP   Man
37 weeks ago

Worth


"OP what did you _really_ do to get blocked? Its ok you can tell us - we are all friends here and your secret is safe with us."

Haha!

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By *inger_SnapWoman
37 weeks ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Because they don't want you creeping back in 3 days/weeks/months/years.

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By *ucka39Man
37 weeks ago

Newcastle

It's a great filter

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago


"Why do some people happily correspond and then when you no longer suit their criteria, pretend you never corresponded with them in the first place... And then block you?"

Because they weren't feeling you? Not that deep. Just block back.

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By *lack Orchid 0204Man
37 weeks ago

Leeds

Why waste 1 secs thought or energy thinking about such things..the only folk who can truly answer are those who blocked you,

Myself I spend tbose seconds minutes of energy on those who wish to correspond converse

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By *6rangoon OP   Man
37 weeks ago

Worth


"Why waste 1 secs thought or energy thinking about such things..the only folk who can truly answer are those who blocked you,

Myself I spend tbose seconds minutes of energy on those who wish to correspond converse "

Fair point.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Think of it this way - do you wanna stay in touch with the type of retard who does that?

It's a gracious blessing that works both ways.

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By *6rangoon OP   Man
37 weeks ago

Worth


"Think of it this way - do you wanna stay in touch with the type of retard who does that?

It's a gracious blessing that works both ways."

That's a positive takeaway.

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By *lueLotusWoman
37 weeks ago

the wilderness

Now I've blocked both of you above, thanks!

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago


"Think of it this way - do you wanna stay in touch with the type of retard who does that?

It's a gracious blessing that works both ways."

this

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Because for some I've corresponded and definitely decided to take it no further. So block to stop further chat.

For others I've said no twice and they still message ... so block

For a small number I say no thanks .. they get abusive so I block

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
37 weeks ago

Central

It's not pretence, it's the to be expected turning into a dead end and putting a block in place, to prevent reoccurrence.

Most people are not mutually compatible with most other people. With realistic expectations we should expect this always.

No reply= thanks but no thanks. Blocks stop any harassment, abuse or unnecessary waste of time and energy to all parties.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago


"Blocking stops another contact being made once they've established you're not compatible.

It's not personal and is also a way to reduce abuse... some people struggle to accept a no."

This op to a tea

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago


"I get that but can't tar everyone with the same brush, surely?"

Blocking is a good filter of people we do not wish to communicate with. My messages...wanna fuck now or I say no thanks and get abused. Accept it as a no thank you and move on

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By *6rangoon OP   Man
37 weeks ago

Worth


"Because for some I've corresponded and definitely decided to take it no further. So block to stop further chat.

For others I've said no twice and they still message ... so block

For a small number I say no thanks .. they get abusive so I block"

I get you. So appreciate your views. Every time l have had a block or rejection, l have moved on. But would never dream of being abusive back. But some do, l understand.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

When they block you it's like the trash took itself out

I rarely counter block so they can keep unblocking me and looking at my profile!

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By *6rangoon OP   Man
37 weeks ago

Worth


"When they block you it's like the trash took itself out

I rarely counter block so they can keep unblocking me and looking at my profile! "

I like that. X

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By *issmorganWoman
37 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

There's usually a reason someone blocks. They changed their mind, they didn't like the way it was going or it may have been something you said.

Perhaps life got in the way or some just never intended to meet at all.

As others said, many block as it saves anyone getting abusive or aggressive, when they said they'd changed their minds.

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By *ags73Man
37 weeks ago

glasgow-ish


"When they block you it's like the trash took itself out

I rarely counter block so they can keep unblocking me and looking at my profile! "

I haven’t bothered anytime it’s happened. Have wondered why but, well, nothing I can do

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By *6rangoon OP   Man
37 weeks ago

Worth


"When they block you it's like the trash took itself out

I rarely counter block so they can keep unblocking me and looking at my profile!

I haven’t bothered anytime it’s happened. Have wondered why but, well, nothing I can do

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Yes. Nothing we can do. Accept and move on is the feeling l get from contributors on this thread.

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By *6rangoon OP   Man
37 weeks ago

Worth


"Now I've blocked both of you above, thanks! "

Haha. Very good. X

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By *agic johnsonMan
37 weeks ago

morden

Coz women are fickle

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
37 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross

because they no longer want contact .....

Why is it so difficult to understand ?

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