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By (user no longer on site) OP   
40 weeks ago

Hi all, so joined the site after a break up an realised i need to be alone. We all have needs an desires. With all the women on here ive still not made it to first base let alone anything else. Ladies, where am i going wrong with my profile or do i simply just not have any sexual allure.

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Genuinely in your case is it is juat a case of it being a numbers game. There are that many single guys to each couple/single lady that it really can be pot luck even with the best profile in the world

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By *TG3Man
40 weeks ago

Dorchester

Could be many reasons, the way you message for example, could be your pics, could be your profile, could be your look, could be the area you live in, who knows just keep plugging away with good clean messages with target profiles bio in mind you'll get there in the end

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

I don’t know mate. When you do find out, can you explain what made fab work for you to the rest of us?

Singles have a hard time finding who they might like. Couples have a hard time too.

It’s not you, (I might be you, who knows? Haha) but the first reply said it’s a numbers game for single men. There’s 1000’s of single men profiles. So the choices for a woman you might be attracted to has, will play a big part if she even knows you exist.

Photos, look attractive, I think you’ll do alright Viking!

Text, put sone stuff on your profile that backs up who you are.

Good luck. Break ups suck, welcome to fab.

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By *oxy jWoman
40 weeks ago

somerset

are you here to get into swinging or just to empty your balls ...serious question as many are here to just empty balls and that is not what this scene is all about...

its a scene where at least 100 men to every woman or couples so that make it instantly hard for most men ...add in the fake women and couples its more than likely to be way higher ...

then add in the many women and couples who just use fab as a chat /adult social media and that pool of women and couples is shrinking fast ...

so once you gotten pass the maths as the number 1 problem for men comes the attraction / sexual attraction / on the same page /want the same and this is where it becomes a massive rejection curve for men as there has to be some kind of connection ....

so most men get nowhere or have odd meets here n there like once a year many /most dont even get that .... theres a small % / group of men who do well e very well ...

simply put its just a super hard place for men due to the maths with so few women and couples who really do play also bare in mind alot of couples and women have regulars too so seek even less from fab ...

number one advice for men to get notice is clubss or socials ... but also bear in mind clubs are not for all and is no guarantee for fun ...

you say we all have needs yes we do thats true but theres no free sex for all in swinging ...its a selection / rejection scene

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

You have age on your side, but then again being male you have little to no chance. The advice is always clubs, which makes me wonder how big these places are!

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By *ot Wife BeckyCouple
40 weeks ago

Near Bergerac

Can't really add that much to the excellent advice you've already been given.

Just one observation. When Becky is looking for a potential playmate, one of the first things she looks for is a smiling face. Maybe yours are a bit too mean and moody.

Try adding some face pics that say to women "Hey, I'm a really nice guy. Come and talk to me."

Women will only look at your profile for a few seconds before moving on to the next one. The text will get missed if they get the wrong idea from your pics.

Good luck with your search..

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By *alandNitaCouple
40 weeks ago

Scunthorpe


"Hi all, so joined the site after a break up an realised i need to be alone. We all have needs an desires. With all the women on here ive still not made it to first base let alone anything else. Ladies, where am i going wrong with my profile or do i simply just not have any sexual allure. "

I think that FAB is not great as a general hook-up site. The women on here are outnumbered 100 to 1, and regularly bombarded with 100's of messages. A single guy looking for women needs to really stand out from the crowd and be lucky with their timing to be able to get an oportunity.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
39 weeks ago

Thank you everyone for your amazing advice. Shall take it all in an review my profile an make some changes. I am unsure on what clubs an meets there are in Essex so any knowledge would be appreciated. Makinng new friends an getting more of a social life would be great.

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By *TG3Man
39 weeks ago

Dorchester


"Hi all, so joined the site after a break up an realised i need to be alone. We all have needs an desires. With all the women on here ive still not made it to first base let alone anything else. Ladies, where am i going wrong with my profile or do i simply just not have any sexual allure.

I think that FAB is not great as a general hook-up site. The women on here are outnumbered 100 to 1, and regularly bombarded with 100's of messages. A single guy looking for women needs to really stand out from the crowd and be lucky with their timing to be able to get an oportunity.

Cal"
and have a great profile which includes the write up

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By *ames250122Man
39 weeks ago

Worcester


"Hi all, so joined the site after a break up an realised i need to be alone. We all have needs a desires. With all the women on here ive still not made it to first base let alone anything else. Ladies, where am i going wrong with my profile or do i simply just not have any sexual allure. "

Don’t be so hard on yourself, you probably doing nothing wrong at all. I’m equally sure many woman find you attractive. The reason is probably a combo of things that none of us can control or do much about other then persevere.

The first problem being the number of messages woman get from the surplus of male profiles on here. With the amount of messages some woman get, I can easily imagine a good portion of messages don’t get looked out but just get deleted if it was sent a while ago and they’ve not yet had time to look due to been away from the site for a day or two, even possibly just for a few hours. I know a couple that opened their profile up to singles just for an hour before they had to turn it off again as they received 80 messages just in that time.

Second problem being even if you write a really nice message I would imagine woman don’t get much time to read everyone messages in full, look at their profile, read all its content and check their photos before making an informed decision if they want to chat. To do that with every messaged received, even after excluding the one line messages they get is overwhelming for many so they have to make snap decisions. That why it’s so important to try and stand out, which is very difficult to do as you don’t know each other. So unless there some clue in their profile to do that then it comes down to chance. I would imagine if it doesn’t then there not much of a reason to look at your profile unless they really like your profile pic.

The third issue is the hardest problem you’ll face and overcome. That challenge being in essence a game of chance. If I was to walk into a nightclub with 200 odd people inside and I approached most of the woman in there and asked them to dance and they all said no. That doesn’t mean no woman finds me attractive, only the woman I approached at the nightclub. The same principle applies with fab, you could just have just been unlucky in your pick on who you approach and there plenty of others on the site that would like to chat with you. However no one can now that before reaching out with an intro message as your strangers. So it’s a game of luck really finding each other at the right time and have a chance to hit it off.

Just persevere and you will make some amazing friends on here

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago


"Hi all, so joined the site after a break up an realised i need to be alone. We all have needs an desires. With all the women on here ive still not made it to first base let alone anything else. Ladies, where am i going wrong with my profile or do i simply just not have any sexual allure. "

Your definitely attractive.

Have you tried a social event or anything? To try and meet just via fab can be hard to do.

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By *oupleSouthEast69Couple
39 weeks ago

brighton

You're hot, it's not your looks. Your status currently is off putting. There's hardly anything in your bio to sell yourself. But basically the problem is expectations. Fab doesn't have many women on at all in comparison to men and of those women many aren't actually looking to meet from fab but use it for socialising/networking. Personally I have a single profile but don't use it as I've decided not to meet solo at the moment. And as a couple we rarely meet from fab, but use it to keep contact with people we've met at clubs and parties.

Some men think fab is the place to find casual/hook ups with women. In fact M only has success with women on normal dating sites. He doesn't bother with his solo fab account at all, but finds a good number of women for FWB/hook up on tinder, bumble and feeld.

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