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"Visits to midwife and health visitor are usually based around picking up on this anyway so I don't personally don't think any extra testing is required." Neither do I, besides, don't know how you'd test for it. With most things, those that recognise they need help seek it, those that don't/don't want to be seen as not coping hide it. | |||
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"looking back i suffered with it. was in complete denial at the time." Me too.. | |||
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"looking back i suffered with it. was in complete denial at the time." a poll just came up saying that 33% of women that have suffered from it dont report it due to fear of what would happen if they do | |||
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"Visits to midwife and health visitor are usually based around picking up on this anyway so I don't personally don't think any extra testing is required." My HV was a complete idiot and I lied to my doc about how I was feeling so I think you're wrong sorry | |||
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"looking back i suffered with it. was in complete denial at the time. a poll just came up saying that 33% of women that have suffered from it dont report it due to fear of what would happen if they do" They should maybe highlight it more so people are more aware and not so wary of talking about it. | |||
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" Being a single parent it isn't the easiest thing.. but im surviving Its the only kind of parenting i know how to do. " Good for you but I don't see the link between PND and being a single parent? | |||
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" Being a single parent it isn't the easiest thing.. but im surviving Its the only kind of parenting i know how to do. Good for you but I don't see the link between PND and being a single parent?" I had no one really i could talk to if id have wanted too. I was 21 living alone for the first time in my life and had a brand new born baby.. for me i felt it was a possible contributing factor. If i had her father helping/supporting/sharing the 'work load' then yes there would have been less pressure on me Just my opinion obviously but thats how i felt | |||
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" Being a single parent it isn't the easiest thing.. but im surviving Its the only kind of parenting i know how to do. Good for you but I don't see the link between PND and being a single parent? I had no one really i could talk to if id have wanted too. I was 21 living alone for the first time in my life and had a brand new born baby.. for me i felt it was a possible contributing factor. If i had her father helping/supporting/sharing the 'work load' then yes there would have been less pressure on me Just my opinion obviously but thats how i felt" My husband went off to work 12 hours every day and I resented the fact that he was out and away from the family home, having adult conversations, enjoying himself without having a baby constantly screaming the house down. It caused major arguments and we went through a very tough time as a couple. Balancing a newborn, a relationship and your conflicting feelings towards motherhood is extremely hard, so don't see it through rose tinted specs is all I'm saying | |||
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" Being a single parent it isn't the easiest thing.. but im surviving Its the only kind of parenting i know how to do. Good for you but I don't see the link between PND and being a single parent? I had no one really i could talk to if id have wanted too. I was 21 living alone for the first time in my life and had a brand new born baby.. for me i felt it was a possible contributing factor. If i had her father helping/supporting/sharing the 'work load' then yes there would have been less pressure on me Just my opinion obviously but thats how i felt My husband went off to work 12 hours every day and I resented the fact that he was out and away from the family home, having adult conversations, enjoying himself without having a baby constantly screaming the house down. It caused major arguments and we went through a very tough time as a couple. Balancing a newborn, a relationship and your conflicting feelings towards motherhood is extremely hard, so don't see it through rose tinted specs is all I'm saying " I think parenthood is tough for parents, even if its not necessarily the first child a person's had. I just spoke from my experiences and glad that those darker times are over for myself and im blessed with a wonderful healthy happy child who i love more than anything. | |||
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"I think there's been cases " i only asked as my brothers just had a boy who has been diagnosed with a rare genetic abnormality and he is really low at the moment | |||
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"I think there's been cases i only asked as my brothers just had a boy who has been diagnosed with a rare genetic abnormality and he is really low at the moment " The best thing for your brother is to ask the dr, and yes i had heard of cases also. Also it could be shock because a man is the dominate gene he will always blame himself for anything that may be wrong with the child. My ex did when we found out about our daughter, but after a lot of talks with professionals he came round to the idea of being able to cope. Now although he was a shit husband he is a fantastic father and always treats both his daughters the same !! I wish your brother well and tell him to get as much information as he can possible XRubyX | |||
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"I think there's been cases i only asked as my brothers just had a boy who has been diagnosed with a rare genetic abnormality and he is really low at the moment The best thing for your brother is to ask the dr, and yes i had heard of cases also. Also it could be shock because a man is the dominate gene he will always blame himself for anything that may be wrong with the child. My ex did when we found out about our daughter, but after a lot of talks with professionals he came round to the idea of being able to cope. Now although he was a shit husband he is a fantastic father and always treats both his daughters the same !! I wish your brother well and tell him to get as much information as he can possible XRubyX" Thanks for your advise Ruby knowledge is power as they say its just hard seeing him so low but he's a good guy he will come around thanks again | |||
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"Visits to midwife and health visitor are usually based around picking up on this anyway so I don't personally don't think any extra testing is required. My HV was a complete idiot and I lied to my doc about how I was feeling so I think you're wrong sorry " I had a similar experience - my health visitor didn't notice that I had a terrible infection for days due to the doctor leaving a large piece of the planceta insdie me - a week later and a massive heamorage then they realised so had to have a D & C - (worried as I had had about 50 stitches after the birth! a lot of the 'health professionals' i have had dealings with at various stages in my life have been uncaring idiots. I finally went to a great GP who realised i was depressed and out me on medication - felt like a different person soon after! Z | |||
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"Girl in Croydon last week threw herself and her 3 yr old son under a train traveling at 60 mph last week. She had depression could easily have been post natal.. sad anyway." Yes i read that, although she was depressed it must have taken a lot of courage to do what she did. It's very sad that they think that there is no one to turn too. I kept what happened to me in the past for 39 years before i was able to let it all out. Funnily enough it was the post natal depression that brought it all out !! | |||
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"I don't think people who commit suicide are brave, especially when they murder their kids too: and regardless of how people want to pretty it up, it's murder! I don't know if I suffered pnd or not after the birth of my first child. I was surrounded by a loving husband, two sets of grandparents etc but felt overwhelmed and inadequate. My daughter never stopped crying when we were alone but she remained quiet when others were around. I was 22 and clueless. My husband taking her out at weekends to visit his family so I could go shopping, hairdressers etc helped. As women we're still expected to do it all and cope and having children a blessing so why be depressed. But you have to recognise you need help and seek it: sadly some are unable to with catastrophic consequences." Yes you are right it is murder, but nobody will ever know what was going through that woman's head at the time of doing what she did, maybe she didn't know what she was doing. I have had times when i could see nothing around me but a blue mist, but i used to sit and wait until it past then found myself rocking back and forth just like a child. Depression is a very evil thing if not controlled !! | |||
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"With respect but how the fuck can anyone describe someone who dragged her own child.under a train as having.courage? Courage would have been to admit she had a problem and to seek help. I hope she rots in hell for what she did. I had.pnd after my second son but.not for a second would i have harmed him. How can you say she was couragious im fucking stunned tbh." | |||
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"If I may add a guys perspective on this for a moment.. My brother used to be a Policeman and, for a while some years ago, worked on non-homicide deaths piecing together the deceased's last movements and putting together a 'picture' of their last moments, hours, days - whatever. I, naively, said to him that people who commit suicide are weak. He went right off the deep end at me and made it clear that those who do end their lives at their own hand, are actually possessed of an inner strength that most of us would find hard to understand. The difference being, and PND is one thing which can complete derail someones logic on this, that that strength is driven towards an act which the rest of us find abhorrent. In the case of the poor woman who sat in front of the train near Croydon, I cannot begin to understand what drove her - and drove IS the right word - to that AND include her 3 yr old son in her act. In the fullness of time, it will no doubt emerge as to what led up to that day. The word 'courage' has upset some contributors to this thread. That may have been used out of context, but the expression 'inner strength' is, from what I learned from my brother, correct and is tantamount to the same thing - in this example. They say 'walk a mile in my shoes', do they not...??? " No body will ever fully understand what turmoil was going on in the head of these people before they took their own lives (and others) | |||
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"I by no means think people who commit suicide are weak.....but to murder your own child in the process is unforgiveable and if we as a society start to try and justify such vile acts then we are on a very slippery slope " No one - not even the most cold-hearted of individuals - would ever try to 'justify' such an act. 'Understand' it, so there is a chance it can be prevented from happening again - yes. | |||
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