FabSwingers.com forum: Ethics

By *ittycen OP Man
24 weeks ago

south west

When bored, my mind tends to ponder various things - recently, it has come to questions of ethics. So opinions please;

Which is worse, cheating whilst in a relationship or visiting a “lady of negotiable affection” (tip of the cap to Sir Terry Pratchett)? Not considering cheating BY visiting such a lady - that’s pretty much a non-brainer to me!

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By *ou only live onceMan
24 weeks ago

London

I don't understand the question. Why is it not cheating if you pay?

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

I don’t see how cheating wouldn’t be worse?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
24 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

A consensual transaction between two adults or betraying someone who you lead to believe you care about them?

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By *ittlebirdWoman
24 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

It really depends on your moral compass OP.

Cheating has horrendous consequences.

Paying someone for sex may not have. But then again it may do.

Oh what a quandary

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By *ou only live onceMan
24 weeks ago

London

"I don't understand the question. Why is it not cheating if you pay? "

Sorry, it's late. I've re-read. You can ignore my previous post.

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By *uri00620Woman
24 weeks ago

Croydon

You used the phrase 'non brainer'.... I'd apply this to your question generally.

Cheating is worse. Obviously. How can it be any different?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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24 weeks ago

East Sussex

Cheating while in a relationship or paying for sex while in a relationship? Both are as bad as each other.

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By *ot to giggleWoman
24 weeks ago

Coventry

"Cheating while in a relationship or paying for sex while in a relationship? Both are as bad as each other.

^^^^^ this

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By *weetiepie99Woman
24 weeks ago

cardiff

"Cheating while in a relationship or paying for sex while in a relationship? Both are as bad as each other.

^^^^^ this"

^^^^^ also this, unless i misunderstood the OP

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By *ittycen OP Man
24 weeks ago

south west

"A consensual transaction between two adults or betraying someone who you lead to believe you care about them?"

I genuinely hadn’t thought of it that way, that pretty much resolved the entire discussion!

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By *orny-DJMan
24 weeks ago

Leigh-on-Sea

Perhaps OP could have made it a little clearer if he'd put the options the other way around

I.e. paying for sex OR cheating on a partner

In other words, the two being mutually exclusive.

That's how I read it.

Cheating is worse, obviously

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By *ittycen OP Man
24 weeks ago

south west

"Cheating while in a relationship or paying for sex while in a relationship? Both are as bad as each other.

Yes, to me that’s the non-brained. It’s more the cheating in a relationship vs simply paying for sex that I was thinking about.

However another answer has pretty much resolved the question of ethics!

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By *ittycen OP Man
24 weeks ago

south west

"Perhaps OP could have made it a little clearer if he'd put the options the other way around

I.e. paying for sex OR cheating on a partner

In other words, the two being mutually exclusive.

That's how I read it.

Cheating is worse, obviously"

Yep, it seems to be a lot clearer when phrased correctly!

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By *ansoffateMan
24 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

The one where there is a betrayal of trust.

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

It's not the sex.

It's the lying.

Monogamy works to the advantage of men, especially when their female partners are too exhausted looking after young children.

Monogamy is unnatural. Therefore I think honesty and fairness should be the cornerstone of every partnership.

Sadly, too many cheating males are very jealous of their wives because they know full well that when that barrier of monogamy is broken, then the men find themselves outclassed by better lovers.

Lucky are those who enter a partnership without limits or religious illusions... preferably when they're in their sexual prime.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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24 weeks ago

East Sussex

"Cheating while in a relationship or paying for sex while in a relationship? Both are as bad as each other.

Yes, to me that’s the non-brained. It’s more the cheating in a relationship vs simply paying for sex that I was thinking about.

However another answer has pretty much resolved the question of ethics!"

Personally I don't think it's that straightforward or simple.

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By *agnar73Man
24 weeks ago

Glasgow

It’s near that London isn’t it?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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24 weeks ago

East Sussex

"It’s near that London isn’t it?"

Took me a minute but

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By *agnar73Man
24 weeks ago

Glasgow

"It’s near that London isn’t it?

Took me a minute but

Sorry, old jokes etc.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
24 weeks ago

Central

It depends on the explicit or implied agreement not to cheat. It likely covers all forms of engagement, including sexually of any type.

Don't harm or hurt people, consider them.

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By *arla SwingerWoman
24 weeks ago

Somewhere

A sex worker may not always be consenting. So ethically I feel that has the potential to be worse from that perspective.

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