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"and no weather chat come to think of it. So those two subjects are off the table - what do you talk about with Fabbers when you're getting to know them? Or do you find your conversations tend to centre around those topics? Do you ever get bored if it's rather sex heavy on the chat front?" I tend to ask people what opinion they have that most others would find unpopular or devisive. It's a great icebreaker and always lends its way to a meaningful conversation. | |||
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"and no weather chat come to think of it. So those two subjects are off the table - what do you talk about with Fabbers when you're getting to know them? Or do you find your conversations tend to centre around those topics? Do you ever get bored if it's rather sex heavy on the chat front? I tend to ask people what opinion they have that most others would find unpopular or devisive. It's a great icebreaker and always lends its way to a meaningful conversation. " But what happens if you ask that and they say something ever so original like "Coldplay are rubbish"? What do you do with that? Delve in to their originality?  | |||
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"I tend to ask them what season they prefer. I have very specific requirements when it comes to fabbers and if they don’t match my favourite season, well it’s just going to be a waste of everyone’s time. " Out of curiosity, what is your favourite season? | |||
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"I tend to ask them what season they prefer. I have very specific requirements when it comes to fabbers and if they don’t match my favourite season, well it’s just going to be a waste of everyone’s time. Out of curiosity, what is your favourite season? "does it change with the seasons or just one season  | |||
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"and no weather chat come to think of it. So those two subjects are off the table - what do you talk about with Fabbers when you're getting to know them? Or do you find your conversations tend to centre around those topics? Do you ever get bored if it's rather sex heavy on the chat front? I tend to ask people what opinion they have that most others would find unpopular or devisive. It's a great icebreaker and always lends its way to a meaningful conversation. But what happens if you ask that and they say something ever so original like "Coldplay are rubbish"? What do you do with that? Delve in to their originality? "Absolutely, the "Why?" question always gets the conversation flowing. It's interesting how passionate some people can be with their unpopular opinions. | |||
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"I like to waffle about anything either party is into. If someone comes in heavy on the sex chat I just assume they're another walking unwanted penis and disregard entirely. If they're making pointless small talk about things that don't interest either of us, also straight in the bin. I like to see passion. I like seeing how people's brains and words shift when they're really engaged in something. And I really couldn't care less what it is. I remember being absolutely absorbed in a former partner talking at me for almost 3 hours about his gym routine, because he was just so excited about it "Yes! You and I are very similar on some things. Passion is beautiful. I don't care if it's not something I enjoy, I'll happily listen to anyone talk about something that really does it for them (if I'm interested in them). Small talk isn't bad, it's a gentle way of easing in to a chat and not every conversation has to be heavy and serious and awe inspiring (not that you've said they do!). | |||
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"I tend to ask them what season they prefer. I have very specific requirements when it comes to fabbers and if they don’t match my favourite season, well it’s just going to be a waste of everyone’s time. Out of curiosity, what is your favourite season? "Yeah I see what you are doing there, nice try buster!! | |||
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"I tend to ask them what season they prefer. I have very specific requirements when it comes to fabbers and if they don’t match my favourite season, well it’s just going to be a waste of everyone’s time. " Fair. Best to out the unsuitables early doors - no point a Spring chicken meeting an Autumnal owl, is there? | |||
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"Small talk isn't bad, it's a gentle way of easing in to a chat and not every conversation has to be heavy and serious and awe inspiring (not that you've said they do!)." Small talk I don't mind at all with the people I care about. Waffling about work and public transport and all the pointless little things is soft and comfortable sometimes. But I don't care at all as to how someone I've never spoken to before's day us going unless it's a genuinely interesting tale. I don't particularly want to open up on how I'm feeling beyond 'fine' with a complete stranger. Small talk is for friends for me. If I'm not already invested and engaged, it's not something I can enjoy | |||
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"and no weather chat come to think of it. So those two subjects are off the table - what do you talk about with Fabbers when you're getting to know them? Or do you find your conversations tend to centre around those topics? Do you ever get bored if it's rather sex heavy on the chat front?" Constant sex talk is utterly boring - I’d prefer to talk about other things | |||
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"Beyond the initial ridiculous levels of flirting, I don’t really talk about sex that much tbh. More life in general and nonsense and observations that are funny, banter a small talk. Small talk I think is something thats often underestimated. I always used to think it was a waste of everyone’s time (just get to the point ffs!), but it shows a lot about a person if they can keep a conversation going, actively listen to what the other person is saying, pay a genuine interest in them as a person and not just a sex stick, boner garage or bumhole. That’s a good idea way to build connection, and connection and giggles are important for a lot of people including me "Boner garage You have such a delicate way with words, love it.
That's true, well at least I think so. Genuine interest in a person, the conversation is something that naturally flows, sometimes it can be as simple as small talk. When conversation feels difficult, even small talk, it's clearly not really working. | |||
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"Omg sex and weather what else is their to talk about "Ikr. The world might implode if you dare to broach another topic. | |||
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"and no weather chat come to think of it. So those two subjects are off the table - what do you talk about with Fabbers when you're getting to know them? Or do you find your conversations tend to centre around those topics? Do you ever get bored if it's rather sex heavy on the chat front?" Well usually I only message people if I have seen something on their profile or something they have said on the Forums that I feel comfortable conversing about. So, for example, conversations about gothic literature, or books and films of other genres, or veganism. But I'm happy to discuss anything that is already an interest or to learn something new to potentially become interested in it. Sex-heavy conversations are also great, but I wouldn't lead with it or end a conversation if the sex talk ends but there's other mutual topics to talk about. | |||
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"Morning all... I waffle about incredibly un sexy stuff...work, the family, diy projects...the few friends we have on our friends list pretty much know everything about our day to day life...common ground important to us "Oh that's lovely! I don't think it needs to be sexy sex chat all the time does it? I like finding out about the person behind it, having a friendship of sorts. That's not saying there's a wrong or right way to go about it of course. | |||
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 & small talk irritates me so I'm probably not the easiest person to chat to
I don't mind a little sexy talk if we are planning on meeting likes, dislikes and such to be honest it's the main reason we've not yet met another couple most (bar 1) we'll be having nice general chit chat then the bloke comes and bam here's my cock can't wait for you to xxxx urgh..... I was talking spag bol piss off.
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"Beyond the initial ridiculous levels of flirting, I don’t really talk about sex that much tbh. More life in general and nonsense and observations that are funny, banter a small talk. Small talk I think is something thats often underestimated. I always used to think it was a waste of everyone’s time (just get to the point ffs!), but it shows a lot about a person if they can keep a conversation going, actively listen to what the other person is saying, pay a genuine interest in them as a person and not just a sex stick, boner garage or bumhole. That’s a good idea way to build connection, and connection and giggles are important for a lot of people including me
Boner garage You have such a delicate way with words, love it.
That's true, well at least I think so. Genuine interest in a person, the conversation is something that naturally flows, sometimes it can be as simple as small talk. When conversation feels difficult, even small talk, it's clearly not really working."Yeah sorry about that | |||
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"Beyond the initial ridiculous levels of flirting, I don’t really talk about sex that much tbh. More life in general and nonsense and observations that are funny, banter a small talk. Small talk I think is something thats often underestimated. I always used to think it was a waste of everyone’s time (just get to the point ffs!), but it shows a lot about a person if they can keep a conversation going, actively listen to what the other person is saying, pay a genuine interest in them as a person and not just a sex stick, boner garage or bumhole. That’s a good idea way to build connection, and connection and giggles are important for a lot of people including me
Boner garage You have such a delicate way with words, love it.
That's true, well at least I think so. Genuine interest in a person, the conversation is something that naturally flows, sometimes it can be as simple as small talk. When conversation feels difficult, even small talk, it's clearly not really working.
Yeah sorry about that "Shush, needy man. You're not too bad to talk to.  | |||
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" Most people are far more than just their desire..." Love this, George. And it's true. Don't get me wrong, some days I'm unashamedly frisky with every poor person (from Fab) I talk to. But the majority of the time I don't want to reduce it down to sex and I also don't want to be seen as two willing holes and a throat. It's a hard life. | |||
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"I very rarely talk about sex or the weather on here in my DM's. Maybe this is where I'm going wrong." It might be. It might be other things. Maybe test the waters with a "Cor it's a sunny day out there, anyone up for a quickie?" on your status. If that doesn't work, it's you. | |||
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"When I'm chatting to someone from Fab any level of salacious discussion usually occurs weeks after I receive the first message — and even then it's instigated by the other person (there are always sExceptions of course when there's sufficient and unexpected sexual frisson between us). Mostly I talk about art, culture, the idiosyncrasies of Fab and its diaspora, personal circumstances and boundaries, and probably the odd bitching here and there for the sake of variety and entertainment, although I steer clear of penning sonnets...until we've consummated at the very least. " Women consummate before receiving a sonnet? How decidedly... cheap. Disappointed in you, thought you had better taste. Tut. | |||
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"Morning all... I waffle about incredibly un sexy stuff...work, the family, diy projects...the few friends we have on our friends list pretty much know everything about our day to day life...common ground important to us
Oh that's lovely! I don't think it needs to be sexy sex chat all the time does it? I like finding out about the person behind it, having a friendship of sorts. That's not saying there's a wrong or right way to go about it of course."Exactly, plus I m a right nosey cow  | |||
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"I almost never talk about sex Mostly it’s abput food "I don't see why that's a bad thing though! I love when people send me photos of things they've cooked or waffle on about cooking. The only time I've found it dull is when I wasn't receiving any questions or interest in me, just food photos. Food can be better than sex anyway. | |||
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"Omg sex and weather what else is their to talk about "Food! | |||
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"I almost never talk about sex Mostly it’s abput food
I don't see why that's a bad thing though! I love when people send me photos of things they've cooked or waffle on about cooking. The only time I've found it dull is when I wasn't receiving any questions or interest in me, just food photos.
Food can be better than sex anyway. "Meli I shall now send you a pic of the pasta I made for lunch, complete with my dick in the photo. What would we such a picture? It's obviously more than your average dick pic, with a certain homely charm, a little, traditional finesse, perhaps even a little joi de Vivre. If you haven't realised I come from a long line people who could talk for England without saying much. | |||
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"….. Do you ever get bored if it's rather sex heavy on the chat front?" If I’m horny? No. | |||
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"I almost never talk about sex Mostly it’s abput food
I don't see why that's a bad thing though! I love when people send me photos of things they've cooked or waffle on about cooking. The only time I've found it dull is when I wasn't receiving any questions or interest in me, just food photos.
Food can be better than sex anyway.
Meli I shall now send you a pic of the pasta I made for lunch, complete with my dick in the photo.
What would we such a picture? It's obviously more than your average dick pic, with a certain homely charm, a little, traditional finesse, perhaps even a little joi de Vivre.
If you haven't realised I come from a long line people who could talk for England without saying much. "But I don't want to see penis penne.  Do I have to politely acknowledge it or can we skip over it being sent?
Ha. I like waffley people, people should always waffle (not in a work capacity). | |||
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"When I'm chatting to someone from Fab any level of salacious discussion usually occurs weeks after I receive the first message — and even then it's instigated by the other person (there are always sExceptions of course when there's sufficient and unexpected sexual frisson between us). Mostly I talk about art, culture, the idiosyncrasies of Fab and its diaspora, personal circumstances and boundaries, and probably the odd bitching here and there for the sake of variety and entertainment, although I steer clear of penning sonnets...until we've consummated at the very least. · Women consummate before receiving a sonnet? How decidedly... cheap. Disappointed in you, thought you had better taste. Tut." • I know. I'm an idealist. We live in sad times. | |||
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I just see where the conversation goes organically, and it's different with everyone. Subjects I have touched upon with people on fab are: parenting, literature, ferrets up trousers legs, does there need to be an "h" at the end of the word "veranda/h"? which Erasure song is the best? Bob Mortimer cat names, does Data from Star Trek have sex appeal?
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"I very very rarely talk about sex due to being a terrible prude
I just see where the conversation goes organically, and it's different with everyone. Subjects I have touched upon with people on fab are: parenting, literature, ferrets up trousers legs, does there need to be an "h" at the end of the word "veranda/h"? which Erasure song is the best? Bob Mortimer cat names, does Data from Star Trek have sex appeal?
Nell"I really wish you hadn't posted this. Not because I don't love reading your posts, obviously I do. But now you're going to have to deal with a lot of discussion about sex because I'm a dick and you've said you're a prude. P.S I kind of get the sex appeal of Data but Spock? Spock. | |||
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"I got into an in depth chat about cake on a pre event group chat last night. That was nice. "^^ His favourite topic is Madonna just for future notice.... | |||
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"I almost never talk about sex Mostly it’s abput food
I don't see why that's a bad thing though! I love when people send me photos of things they've cooked or waffle on about cooking. The only time I've found it dull is when I wasn't receiving any questions or interest in me, just food photos.
Food can be better than sex anyway.
Meli I shall now send you a pic of the pasta I made for lunch, complete with my dick in the photo.
What would we such a picture? It's obviously more than your average dick pic, with a certain homely charm, a little, traditional finesse, perhaps even a little joi de Vivre.
If you haven't realised I come from a long line people who could talk for England without saying much.
But I don't want to see penis penne. Do I have to politely acknowledge it or can we skip over it being sent?
Ha. I like waffley people, people should always waffle (not in a work capacity)."Are waffley people so because we consume waffles? Not the crappy American kind, the potato kind. We're waffley versatile. | |||
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"I very very rarely talk about sex due to being a terrible prude
I just see where the conversation goes organically, and it's different with everyone. Subjects I have touched upon with people on fab are: parenting, literature, ferrets up trousers legs, does there need to be an "h" at the end of the word "veranda/h"? which Erasure song is the best? Bob Mortimer cat names, does Data from Star Trek have sex appeal?
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I really wish you hadn't posted this. Not because I don't love reading your posts, obviously I do.
But now you're going to have to deal with a lot of discussion about sex because I'm a dick and you've said you're a prude.
P.S I kind of get the sex appeal of Data but Spock? Spock. "You do realise spock is worm food...ie dead.  | |||
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"I don't mind sex chat but that usually comes way after we have got to know each other. I don't really do sexting. But I adore talking about sex once I'm invested. I like to be able to talk about anything and everything, nothing off limits. I find it so tough to keep a conversation going though. I've only ever met two people online that I've clicked with to the point of us chatting away non stop for hours. I don't know why it isn't easier." You find it hard to keep the conversation going, in my family you can't shut us up. Everyone thinks they have plenty to say and not enough time to say it. The only time there is silence is when our mouths are full of food. You need to spend time with us and we'll show you how to rock. | |||
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"and no weather chat come to think of it. So those two subjects are off the table - what do you talk about with Fabbers when you're getting to know them? Or do you find your conversations tend to centre around those topics? Do you ever get bored if it's rather sex heavy on the chat front?" Sex heavy ...most messages I recieve are but then that's part of fab. It is not kwick fix ...depends on the person too | |||
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"and no weather chat come to think of it. So those two subjects are off the table - what do you talk about with Fabbers when you're getting to know them? Or do you find your conversations tend to centre around those topics? Do you ever get bored if it's rather sex heavy on the chat front?" Straight off sex talk with a stranger is weird for me. So that wouldn't interest me. So I would most likely send a 'no thank you' message, or if the Mr sees it first it will most likely be a sterner reply than 'no thank you'. As to what I talk about, I would generally ask more questions until I feel confident with a person. Then I tend to ramble an awful lot about anything and nothing. My voice messages have recently been called podcasts (they can easily be ten minutes messages -shrug-), I can't help it, if I'm comfortable with you, I waffle for England. I have patient friends though
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