FabSwingers.com forum: Don't call me ....

By *llie Rose OP Woman
over a year ago

By the seaside

Totally irrational I know but it annoys me when someone calls me babes in an opening message. Sweetie, darling, doll etc not a problem but just that one word babes lol. It puts my back up and means the sender is straight away on an up hill struggle!

Like I said irrational and I can laugh about it.

My question is what, if any, puts your back up especially if it is irrational.

Ellie

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I dislike "babe", "sweetie", "sexy" but "hun" is probably the worst of the lot.

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By *tressfreeMan
over a year ago

Northampton

Over familiarity is most off putting

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Too many to list but I don't think they are irrational. The rationale may not be one with which the sender agrees but it is my rationale.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Over familiarity is most off putting "
I am not sure what it is about really - perhaps you are right and it is over familiarity that bugs me. Just because we are on this site it does not mean I want to get close to everybody who messages me. Maybe you are right and that is why it bugs me. But besides that, it is also about the guy/ couple seems to be useing the same terms for every woman and that indicates lack of differentiation (another bug of mine) - I feel I have a name - so why not use it

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By *tressfreeMan
over a year ago

Northampton

Like a lot of spivey sales men. If I tell you my names philip, don't call me phil!!!

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

i think babe got used a lot cos its only two buttons texting on an old fashioned ten button mobile phone . i like people to use my name . i feel that they took the time to talk to me individually

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By *tressfreeMan
over a year ago

Northampton

I've met very few women who like to be called babe, Hun, sweetheart by a strangers

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Like a lot of spivey sales men. If I tell you my names philip, don't call me phil!!!"

Could not agree with you more. It is up to the name bearer to decide how he/she wants to be addressed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its got to be hun....aarrgghh!

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

what would you ladies like to be called .. i do answer to oi you xx

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By *tressfreeMan
over a year ago

Northampton

"Like a lot of spivey sales men. If I tell you my names philip, don't call me phil!!!

Could not agree with you more. It is up to the name bearer to decide how he/she wants to be addressed. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a gal was messaging me, she could call me a 'dickhead' for all i care! Shows she cares enough to mail me in the first place! Lol

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

If the rest of the message is of good quality (and he's fit) I can easily overlook one word meant as a friendly term.

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By *tressfreeMan
over a year ago

Northampton

"If a gal was messaging me, she could call me a 'dickhead' for all i care! Shows she cares enough to mail me in the first place! Lol

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wow you're desperate!

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By *anSusieCouple
over a year ago

Midlothian

endearments are for ppl we know.'Hun fancy playing with us/me' in a 1st msg

....doesn't even deserve an answer which we normaly send.

(susie)

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"I dislike "babe", "sweetie", "sexy" but "hun" is probably the worst of the lot.

Yup - 'hun' is a bugbear of mine too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Totally irrational I know but it annoys me when someone calls me babes in an opening message. Sweetie, darling, doll etc not a problem but just that one word babes lol. It puts my back up and means the sender is straight away on an up hill struggle!

Like I said irrational and I can laugh about it.

My question is what, if any, puts your back up especially if it is irrational.

Ellie

Babes or hon or Hun

Hate it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do not like being called hun at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Babe hun or hunny

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By *llie Rose OP Woman
over a year ago

By the seaside

"what would you ladies like to be called .. i do answer to oi you xx

My name, which is very clearly on ny profile lol.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

the worst thing to be called in the outside world is "friend"... it means the opposite

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I am really puzzled - considering quite a few people really dont like "hun" (and I am not tlaking about the ones that have posted here alone, there are many who hate it).... why is it being used so much lol...

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By *H.coupleCouple
over a year ago

edinburgh

Like I said irrational and I can laugh about it.

My question is what, if any, puts your back up especially if it is irrational.

Ellie

how about "hey treacle tits"?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a gal was messaging me, she could call me a 'dickhead' for all i care! Shows she cares enough to mail me in the first place! Lol

wow you're desperate! "

Guess you ain't heard of tongue in cheek then!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate baby.. it totally grinds my goat!

I don't like, babes, hon and the usual bollocks of sexy, gorgeous, beautiful...

Some guys will say anything for a shag!!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I detest them all in a first or early messages.

It signifies that women are inferior to the sender. Just silly little girls that don't require respect let alone adult treatment.

Makes my flesh crawl.

Sadly .....so do the women that cow tow to it.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"If a gal was messaging me, she could call me a 'dickhead' for all i care! Shows she cares enough to mail me in the first place! Lol

wow you're desperate!

Guess you ain't heard of tongue in cheek then!

We call it rimming....

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"I hate baby.. it totally grinds my goat!

I don't like, babes, hon and the usual bollocks of sexy, gorgeous, beautiful...

Some guys will say anything for a shag!!"
PMSL... thing is... for me that is such a guaranteed non-shag...;-)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

say again BABES ???

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"I detest them all in a first or early messages.

It signifies that women are inferior to the sender. Just silly little girls that don't require respect let alone adult treatment.

Makes my flesh crawl.

Sadly .....so do the women that cow tow to it. "

What does it signify when women use them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hate baby.. it totally grinds my goat!

I don't like, babes, hon and the usual bollocks of sexy, gorgeous, beautiful...

Some guys will say anything for a shag!!PMSL... thing is... for me that is such a guaranteed non-shag...;-)"

And me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Babe

Hun

Chick

Or oi you!

The Mrs

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

They don't bother me to be honest, I've lived in quite a few place and I know they are not meant to be derogatory! I've even been called flower pot....can you guess what part of the country that is from?

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"They don't bother me to be honest, I've lived in quite a few place and I know they are not meant to be derogatory! I've even been called flower pot....can you guess what part of the country that is from?

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I had this conversation with my OH and a few Brummie friends who insist some names are just part of the local way of talking. I get that to a degree but still dont like "hun" lol.. Now Flower pot... might be a differnet thing altogether

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I detest them all in a first or early messages.

It signifies that women are inferior to the sender. Just silly little girls that don't require respect let alone adult treatment.

Makes my flesh crawl.

Sadly .....so do the women that cow tow to it.

What does it signify when women use them?"

Context dependent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a gal was messaging me, she could call me a 'dickhead' for all i care! Shows she cares enough to mail me in the first place! Lol

wow you're desperate!

Guess you ain't heard of tongue in cheek then!

We call it rimming...."

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By *lle adie 2Woman
over a year ago

newcastle upon tyne

Don't like any of them, but the worst ever was when my ex used to say to me 'why have a dog and bark yourself'.......

HATE IT AAARRGGGHHHH...

Well I did leave him 18 years ago

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

help someone just called me hun argh

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

help someone just called me hun argh

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I just can't believe that someone with a well written profile, who is just your physical 'type', who writes a clearly individual message to you, writes about what they liked about your profile and why they are interested in making contact, sends a face pic (at which you think 'mmmmmm') .... would really blow all of their chances out of the water by ending the message "take care hun"

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Over familiarity is most off putting "

Agreed!

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I had this conversation with my OH and a few Brummie friends who insist some names are just part of the local way of talking. I get that to a degree but still dont like "hun" lol.. Now Flower pot... might be a differnet thing altogether

Lol well the flower pot caller was a work connection, 20+ years my senior and from Yorkshire, so yes local dialect does come into it, and doesn't bother me one iota!

So, alright my little flower pot lol

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By *umplay1969Man
over a year ago

Coggeshall

So to turn it around, I know a woman that calls every guy she meets 'babe'.

She even calls her customers it ! She's a cab driver here in Essex. Not very lady like and she is a right loud mouth cow. She is good looking but that voice and the language is so off putting.

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By *lle adie 2Woman
over a year ago

newcastle upon tyne

Agree 100 percent

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I just can't believe that someone with a well written profile, who is just your physical 'type', who writes a clearly individual message to you, writes about what they liked about your profile and why they are interested in making contact, sends a face pic (at which you think 'mmmmmm') .... would really blow all of their chances out of the water by ending the message "take care hun""

That type of message would be top heavy on the postive side.

It's the 'hi babe' or 'lo sexy' ones that miss the mark.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I've been called 'hun' but I always imagine a 'k' on the end so quite like it on occasion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ahhhh "Hun" and "Babes" in the opening message = delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I HATE to be called 'stunning' and have been told I am even when they dont see any pics???? Any old smooze for a shag eh?

Hate slut too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been called 'hun' but I always imagine a 'k' on the end so quite like it on occasion. "

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Or maybe, due to my revived avatar pic which I've put up for a friend of mine, you can call me Hun-gry

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I've been called 'hun' but I always imagine a 'k' on the end so quite like it on occasion. "

Twon

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I've been called 'hun' but I always imagine a 'k' on the end so quite like it on occasion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hate baby.. it totally grinds my goat!

I don't like, babes, hon and the usual bollocks of sexy, gorgeous, beautiful...

Some guys will say anything for a shag!!"

Jangles you sexy gorgeous beautiful babe, I want you to grind my goat hun.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"If the rest of the message is of good quality (and he's fit) I can easily overlook one word meant as a friendly term."

I'm with you. It's the 'Hun, wanna chat?' Messages that annoy me. A good message I can ignore the annoying bits x

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I've been called 'hun' but I always imagine a 'k' on the end so quite like it on occasion.

Twon"

Twonk?!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All of the above drive me nuts, why oh why do women i dont know insist on calling me hun, I picked my name on here for a feckin reason

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"All of the above drive me nuts, why oh why do women i dont know insist on calling me hun, I picked my name on here for a feckin reason

What's your name hun?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Over familiarity is most off putting "

This!

both on here and in everyday circumstances

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All of the above drive me nuts, why oh why do women i dont know insist on calling me hun, I picked my name on here for a feckin reason

What's your name hun?"

Ah feck off, I just want a sexy woman to call me a stud, us that too much to ask

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By *llie Rose OP Woman
over a year ago

By the seaside

And guess how many messages I'm getting now with babes in them lol. Predictable!

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"All of the above drive me nuts, why oh why do women i dont know insist on calling me hun, I picked my name on here for a feckin reason

What's your name hun?

Ah feck off, I just want a sexy woman to call me a stud, us that too much to ask

I'd call you a stud but Button Moon is too far for me to verify whether the moniker is apt.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"And guess how many messages I'm getting now with babes in them lol. Predictable! "
I actually have something about that in my profile text and does it make any difference? Hell, no!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hate baby.. it totally grinds my goat!

I don't like, babes, hon and the usual bollocks of sexy, gorgeous, beautiful...

Some guys will say anything for a shag!!

Jangles you sexy gorgeous beautiful babe, I want you to grind my goat hun.

Oh shurrup ya ruddy plum...

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By *ounggun432Man
over a year ago

east mids

Hate it ...sounds so corny and/or sleazy

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By *ounggun432Man
over a year ago

east mids

and I get a lot of guys calling me babes haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find a lot of women use the term hun or honey

Doesnt bother me in the slightest

It is merely an informal reference and rarely means anything more

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I might change my name to Attila, then it would be fine to call me 'hun' or 'Atten' cos I stand up straight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Allsorts of things put me off. Too many to list. But it depends on the person and how the rest of their message reads.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am the same, hate babe and any derivative with a passion, far too over familiar and see it more as a word to be used by the 20's age group, not 40-50 odd year blokes and I often pull people up on it

But I don't mind honey, makes me feel all sweet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All of the above drive me nuts, why oh why do women i dont know insist on calling me hun, I picked my name on here for a feckin reason

What's your name hun?

Ah feck off, I just want a sexy woman to call me a stud, us that too much to ask

I'd call you a stud but Button Moon is too far for me to verify whether the moniker is apt."

Just follow mr spoon, call him hun or babes and he'll take you anywhere, the weirdo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use the word hun for female friends or people I know well enough to use what is in my eyes a term of endearment. Never ever called a male that or similar.

Personally don't care if in a message I am called hun or other such words, babe I hate though as just sounds so chav like

But I wouldn't be put off, I do however hate being called Ju or Jules

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By *o-jCouple
over a year ago

Outskirts of Notts

Watched vintage tv last night and they played

' Don't call me baby ' by Transvision Vamp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All of the above drive me nuts, why oh why do women i dont know insist on calling me hun, I picked my name on here for a feckin reason

What's your name hun?

Ah feck off, I just want a sexy woman to call me a stud, us that too much to ask

I'd call you a stud but Button Moon is too far for me to verify whether the moniker is apt.

Just follow mr spoon, call him hun or babes and he'll take you anywhere, the weirdo

My lips are seated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like I said irrational and I can laugh about it.

My question is what, if any, puts your back up especially if it is irrational.

Ellie

Ooooh, I'm with you there girl!!

I hate all pet names, especially in a first mail. Complete turn off. The killer word for me is "Hun".... I'm absolutely allergic!!!!

Rant over, lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like I said irrational and I can laugh about it.

My question is what, if any, puts your back up especially if it is irrational.

Ellie

Totally with you on this one sweetie

I really really dislike babe.... It reminds me of that little piggy in the movies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dislike a twentysomething mailing me and opening with babes .......

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