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"I honestly don't know who's popular with who tbh. Frequency of posting in here, responses to threads and posts and comments made don't always mean someone is popular. I know who I like. I know who I find desirable. Who others believe to be popular and who they desire is on them, not me. 'Popularity' is a word often thrown around in here by some, and I wonder if they mean something different to someone else's definition? " The clique get the dick  | |||
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"I honestly don't know who's popular with who tbh. Frequency of posting in here, responses to threads and posts and comments made don't always mean someone is popular. I know who I like. I know who I find desirable. Who others believe to be popular and who they desire is on them, not me. 'Popularity' is a word often thrown around in here by some, and I wonder if they mean something different to someone else's definition? " Well put, Obi. I hate the word popular. The most vocal on here can often be mistaken for the most popular on here. I don't believe that's necessarily the case | |||
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"I’m also keen to find out about off of here as well x" I was talking about off here. I know that on fab it's all smoke and mirrors | |||
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"I’m also keen to find out about off of here as well x I was talking about off here. I know that on fab it's all smoke and mirrors" It really is an interesting place. The sociologist in me loves it. | |||
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"Sexually desirable? I think the two often go hand in hand when it's people popular with the opposite sex (or sex they're attracted to). I've never been popular or particularly desirable by loads of people I don't know if that proves anything though. " I think that makes great sense. I wonder if part of the reason people are popular is because they’re attractive/ sexually desirable? | |||
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"I’m also keen to find out about off of here as well x" Off from here, I think myself and the majority of my mates my age. Don't give a fuck about popularity. Yeah we did when we were younger but now nah. We've not time for that, and it really shows on my social media. Mates my own age posts are about silly or niche things in general. My younger mates from dance class, a lot more look at me and my friends and what I'm accomplishing or doing. Totally different vibes. | |||
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"Sexually desirable? I think the two often go hand in hand when it's people popular with the opposite sex (or sex they're attracted to). I've never been popular or particularly desirable by loads of people I don't know if that proves anything though. I think that makes great sense. I wonder if part of the reason people are popular is because they’re attractive/ sexually desirable? " I have always been popular with women actually although mostly as a bro kinda figure. I’ve been bro zoned a zillion times (not a problem btw) so maybe that theory isn’t true | |||
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"I’m also keen to find out about off of here as well x Off from here, I think myself and the majority of my mates my age. Don't give a fuck about popularity. Yeah we did when we were younger but now nah. We've not time for that, and it really shows on my social media. Mates my own age posts are about silly or niche things in general. My younger mates from dance class, a lot more look at me and my friends and what I'm accomplishing or doing. Totally different vibes. " Do you think age plays a part for you and your mates? | |||
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"Sexually desirable? I think the two often go hand in hand when it's people popular with the opposite sex (or sex they're attracted to). I've never been popular or particularly desirable by loads of people I don't know if that proves anything though. I think that makes great sense. I wonder if part of the reason people are popular is because they’re attractive/ sexually desirable? I have always been popular with women actually although mostly as a bro kinda figure. I’ve been bro zoned a zillion times (not a problem btw) so maybe that theory isn’t true"Who knows. I know I like people I'm attracted to but I also like people I'm not attracted to. I'm often sis zoned. Is that a thing?  | |||
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"Sexually desirable? I think the two often go hand in hand when it's people popular with the opposite sex (or sex they're attracted to). I've never been popular or particularly desirable by loads of people I don't know if that proves anything though. I think that makes great sense. I wonder if part of the reason people are popular is because they’re attractive/ sexually desirable? I have always been popular with women actually although mostly as a bro kinda figure. I’ve been bro zoned a zillion times (not a problem btw) so maybe that theory isn’t true
Who knows. I know I like people I'm attracted to but I also like people I'm not attracted to.
I'm often sis zoned. Is that a thing? "But are they attractive people but just not attractive to you?  
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"In a Fab context? I am not popular, but I am desirable. I much prefer it that way in all honesty. One doesn’t get orgasms from popularity lol " If you’re not popular, how do you know?  | |||
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"I’m also keen to find out about off of here as well x Off from here, I think myself and the majority of my mates my age. Don't give a fuck about popularity. Yeah we did when we were younger but now nah. We've not time for that, and it really shows on my social media. Mates my own age posts are about silly or niche things in general. My younger mates from dance class, a lot more look at me and my friends and what I'm accomplishing or doing. Totally different vibes. Do you think age plays a part for you and your mates?" Yep totally, we used to care about posting about nights out etc etc. Look at me I'm so popular. Think the last time I was out with them we have no photographic evidence. FOMO is definitely less of a thing for my mates my own age. It's a totally different kettle of fish with my younger ones, who are mid 20's early 30's. | |||
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"Sorry pickles. I do think there may be something in that. For some. I think there are those who want to shag the populars. Whoever they may be. " Someone I used to chat to on here once told me that she felt safer on the forums by surrounding herself with popular posters. When I told her I didn't consider myself popular and couldn't understand her thought process she said what she really meant was someone not afraid to speak out who might stand up for her. | |||
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"I’m also keen to find out about off of here as well x Off from here, I think myself and the majority of my mates my age. Don't give a fuck about popularity. Yeah we did when we were younger but now nah. We've not time for that, and it really shows on my social media. Mates my own age posts are about silly or niche things in general. My younger mates from dance class, a lot more look at me and my friends and what I'm accomplishing or doing. Totally different vibes. Do you think age plays a part for you and your mates? Yep totally, we used to care about posting about nights out etc etc. Look at me I'm so popular. Think the last time I was out with them we have no photographic evidence. FOMO is definitely less of a thing for my mates my own age. It's a totally different kettle of fish with my younger ones, who are mid 20's early 30's. " I think a lot of young people care a lot about letting others know what they’re up to. But I think it’s birds of a feather. They care. Their friends care too. I rarely take pictures with people or of things I do to post on social media. And when I’m with my friends they’re the same. We don’t really care. But also I know it’s more common that people care in my generation. I mean social media is used mostly by us. | |||
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"Sorry pickles. I do think there may be something in that. For some. I think there are those who want to shag the populars. Whoever they may be. " How comes you’re sorry? | |||
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"I honestly don't know who's popular with who tbh. Frequency of posting in here, responses to threads and posts and comments made don't always mean someone is popular. I know who I like. I know who I find desirable. Who others believe to be popular and who they desire is on them, not me. 'Popularity' is a word often thrown around in here by some, and I wonder if they mean something different to someone else's definition? Well put, Obi. I hate the word popular. The most vocal on here can often be mistaken for the most popular on here. I don't believe that's necessarily the case" I think on here people confuse popularity for being regular or familiar. But I’m talking about popularity as it actually is | |||
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"In a Fab context? I am not popular, but I am desirable. I much prefer it that way in all honesty. One doesn’t get orgasms from popularity lol If you’re not popular, how do you know? "It depends on what you classify as popular, Pickles. To me, being popular means being well liked- part of the clique lmao. But for others popular may mean well known, not necessarily liked. I’d say I am visible, not popular. It used to grate a couple of years ago, because of the pandemic, haha- but once I was able to get myself out and meet people I am more than ok with it. | |||
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"I'm thinking back to school. It was all girls but the most popular ones were also the ones who the students from the nearby boys school pursued. The next in the popularity stakes were the very sporty ones followed by the ones with the most fashionable clothes" School is a world of its own though. Status matters | |||
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Erm, I might be a little bit flirty sometimes. Sporadically. "
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"I’m also keen to find out about off of here as well x Off from here, I think myself and the majority of my mates my age. Don't give a fuck about popularity. Yeah we did when we were younger but now nah. We've not time for that, and it really shows on my social media. Mates my own age posts are about silly or niche things in general. My younger mates from dance class, a lot more look at me and my friends and what I'm accomplishing or doing. Totally different vibes. Do you think age plays a part for you and your mates? Yep totally, we used to care about posting about nights out etc etc. Look at me I'm so popular. Think the last time I was out with them we have no photographic evidence. FOMO is definitely less of a thing for my mates my own age. It's a totally different kettle of fish with my younger ones, who are mid 20's early 30's. I think a lot of young people care a lot about letting others know what they’re up to. But I think it’s birds of a feather. They care. Their friends care too. I rarely take pictures with people or of things I do to post on social media. And when I’m with my friends they’re the same. We don’t really care. But also I know it’s more common that people care in my generation. I mean social media is used mostly by us. " Not sure I agree with you, by the amount of my feed content. Which is full of allotments and such like by my uncles and aunts. | |||
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"I’m also keen to find out about off of here as well x Off from here, I think myself and the majority of my mates my age. Don't give a fuck about popularity. Yeah we did when we were younger but now nah. We've not time for that, and it really shows on my social media. Mates my own age posts are about silly or niche things in general. My younger mates from dance class, a lot more look at me and my friends and what I'm accomplishing or doing. Totally different vibes. Do you think age plays a part for you and your mates? Yep totally, we used to care about posting about nights out etc etc. Look at me I'm so popular. Think the last time I was out with them we have no photographic evidence. FOMO is definitely less of a thing for my mates my own age. It's a totally different kettle of fish with my younger ones, who are mid 20's early 30's. I think a lot of young people care a lot about letting others know what they’re up to. But I think it’s birds of a feather. They care. Their friends care too. I rarely take pictures with people or of things I do to post on social media. And when I’m with my friends they’re the same. We don’t really care. But also I know it’s more common that people care in my generation. I mean social media is used mostly by us. Not sure I agree with you, by the amount of my feed content. Which is full of allotments and such like by my uncles and aunts. " as in you think they use social media more? | |||
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"I honestly don't know how you classify popularity once you're not moving within a large group of your peers eg school, college, uni. And I don't think it matters. I give less of a shit what others think the older I get, whereas when I was younger I was more interested in courting others approval and interest, which I think equates to popularity. The definition of popularity is the crux of your question, you twisty man
Mrs TMN x"I am defining it pretty simply as being liked and / or friends with a lot of people. Also I think it’s interesting the way people (you and Frida on this thread but people more generally in my experience as well) suggest that getting older makes us care less about this stuff. I wonder why that is? I mean I care a lot about being liked or actually not being disliked but I’ve unpacked that a lot in therapy. I think more people should just have therapy to get over the trauma of school and the other shit that makes you internalise fitting in etc. | |||
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"Im not trying to sound full of myself, but I reckon I’m reasonably popular but I know that the majority of people who like me don’t desire me, which I’m ok with. Except you, if you’re reading this, you know who you are "Oh, I doooo  | |||
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"I honestly don't know how you classify popularity once you're not moving within a large group of your peers eg school, college, uni. And I don't think it matters. I give less of a shit what others think the older I get, whereas when I was younger I was more interested in courting others approval and interest, which I think equates to popularity. The definition of popularity is the crux of your question, you twisty man
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I am defining it pretty simply as being liked and / or friends with a lot of people.
Also I think it’s interesting the way people (you and Frida on this thread but people more generally in my experience as well) suggest that getting older makes us care less about this stuff. I wonder why that is? I mean I care a lot about being liked or actually not being disliked but I’ve unpacked that a lot in therapy. I think more people should just have therapy to get over the trauma of school and the other shit that makes you internalise fitting in etc. "Dunno. I think it's to do with the developing brain. I also think if you're constantly with a group of your peers then there's that sense of competition and hierarchy, whether you lean into it or consciously reject it. Throughout my teens and twenties, prime age for people getting into relationships and looking for partners, that defo feeds in. This is armchair psychology at its worst so I'm going to stop now. Just going off my own experiences and musings. | |||
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"I honestly don't know who's popular with who tbh. Frequency of posting in here, responses to threads and posts and comments made don't always mean someone is popular. I know who I like. I know who I find desirable. Who others believe to be popular and who they desire is on them, not me. 'Popularity' is a word often thrown around in here by some, and I wonder if they mean something different to someone else's definition? Well put, Obi. I hate the word popular. The most vocal on here can often be mistaken for the most popular on here. I don't believe that's necessarily the case" I am with Obi and Willy | |||
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Just cause someone is popular eg a comedian
Does mean the their desirable sexually eg the audience would sleep with said comedian | |||
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"I honestly don't know how you classify popularity once you're not moving within a large group of your peers eg school, college, uni. And I don't think it matters. I give less of a shit what others think the older I get, whereas when I was younger I was more interested in courting others approval and interest, which I think equates to popularity. The definition of popularity is the crux of your question, you twisty man
Mrs TMN x
I am defining it pretty simply as being liked and / or friends with a lot of people.
Also I think it’s interesting the way people (you and Frida on this thread but people more generally in my experience as well) suggest that getting older makes us care less about this stuff. I wonder why that is? I mean I care a lot about being liked or actually not being disliked but I’ve unpacked that a lot in therapy. I think more people should just have therapy to get over the trauma of school and the other shit that makes you internalise fitting in etc. "I care about being liked, but the pool of people I care if they like me is less. I probably care more about my friendships now than when I was younger. | |||
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" Also I think it’s interesting the way people (you and Frida on this thread but people more generally in my experience as well) suggest that getting older makes us care less about this stuff. I wonder why that is? I mean I care a lot about being liked or actually not being disliked but I’ve unpacked that a lot in therapy. I think more people should just have therapy to get over the trauma of school and the other shit that makes you internalise fitting in etc.
I care about being liked, but the pool of people I care if they like me is less. I probably care more about my friendships now than when I was younger. "Yes and yes  | |||
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So no, purely based on the ‘popular’ people on the forums, I don’t think all are essentially desired.
There are some people I like to read their comments, so I guess they are popular to me, but I don’t want to jump into their bed.
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"I honestly don't know who's popular with who tbh. Frequency of posting in here, responses to threads and posts and comments made don't always mean someone is popular. I know who I like. I know who I find desirable. Who others believe to be popular and who they desire is on them, not me. 'Popularity' is a word often thrown around in here by some, and I wonder if they mean something different to someone else's definition? Well put, Obi. I hate the word popular. The most vocal on here can often be mistaken for the most popular on here. I don't believe that's necessarily the case I think on here people confuse popularity for being regular or familiar. But I’m talking about popularity as it actually is" What does popularity mean to you? | |||
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"Sexually desirable? I think the two often go hand in hand when it's people popular with the opposite sex (or sex they're attracted to). I've never been popular or particularly desirable by loads of people I don't know if that proves anything though. I think that makes great sense. I wonder if part of the reason people are popular is because they’re attractive/ sexually desirable? I have always been popular with women actually although mostly as a bro kinda figure. I’ve been bro zoned a zillion times (not a problem btw) so maybe that theory isn’t true
Who knows. I know I like people I'm attracted to but I also like people I'm not attracted to.
I'm often sis zoned. Is that a thing?
But are they attractive people but just not attractive to you?
Sis zoned is surely a thing. "Just not attractive to me because I'm think nearly everyone has something attractive to somebody | |||
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Like others have said as I get older I care even less about being popular and especially on here. As long as those I like and get on with feel the same I don't care about what others think.But I've never played the popular game on here or in life outside of here. And I've seen so many fall from grace as well and take it really badly that it looks like way too much agro and hassle to be bothered with.
Maybe you just need to like yourself first then worry about what others think of you. Being popular all the time or desired by loads would get very tiring I would imagine. | |||
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"I honestly don't know how you classify popularity once you're not moving within a large group of your peers eg school, college, uni. And I don't think it matters. I give less of a shit what others think the older I get, whereas when I was younger I was more interested in courting others approval and interest, which I think equates to popularity. The definition of popularity is the crux of your question, you twisty man
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I am defining it pretty simply as being liked and / or friends with a lot of people.
Also I think it’s interesting the way people (you and Frida on this thread but people more generally in my experience as well) suggest that getting older makes us care less about this stuff. I wonder why that is? I mean I care a lot about being liked or actually not being disliked but I’ve unpacked that a lot in therapy. I think more people should just have therapy to get over the trauma of school and the other shit that makes you internalise fitting in etc. "It definitely happened to me that i cared less as i got older. Dtarted in my 40s. I have been wildly unpopular at vwrious points of my life but as long as i had q atrong circle of friends it never bothered me that much. I particularly couldn't give a shit about it on online sites. | |||
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"I honestly don't know how you classify popularity once you're not moving within a large group of your peers eg school, college, uni. And I don't think it matters. I give less of a shit what others think the older I get, whereas when I was younger I was more interested in courting others approval and interest, which I think equates to popularity. The definition of popularity is the crux of your question, you twisty man
Mrs TMN x
I am defining it pretty simply as being liked and / or friends with a lot of people.
Also I think it’s interesting the way people (you and Frida on this thread but people more generally in my experience as well) suggest that getting older makes us care less about this stuff. I wonder why that is? I mean I care a lot about being liked or actually not being disliked but I’ve unpacked that a lot in therapy. I think more people should just have therapy to get over the trauma of school and the other shit that makes you internalise fitting in etc.
Dunno. I think it's to do with the developing brain. I also think if you're constantly with a group of your peers then there's that sense of competition and hierarchy, whether you lean into it or consciously reject it. Throughout my teens and twenties, prime age for people getting into relationships and looking for partners, that defo feeds in.
This is armchair psychology at its worst so I'm going to stop now. Just going off my own experiences and musings.
"Tbh I dunno I’m just very unsure how I feel about constantly being told by older people that xyz will change when you get older. It’s mad condescending. Not in this thread but I think I’m just unsure of it | |||
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"Sexually desirable? I think the two often go hand in hand when it's people popular with the opposite sex (or sex they're attracted to). I've never been popular or particularly desirable by loads of people I don't know if that proves anything though. " Oh my lady me pickle. Fight over your atention all the time your certainly desirable in our eyes and on forum your exceedly popular | |||
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"I honestly don't know how you classify popularity once you're not moving within a large group of your peers eg school, college, uni. And I don't think it matters. I give less of a shit what others think the older I get, whereas when I was younger I was more interested in courting others approval and interest, which I think equates to popularity. The definition of popularity is the crux of your question, you twisty man
Mrs TMN x
I am defining it pretty simply as being liked and / or friends with a lot of people.
Also I think it’s interesting the way people (you and Frida on this thread but people more generally in my experience as well) suggest that getting older makes us care less about this stuff. I wonder why that is? I mean I care a lot about being liked or actually not being disliked but I’ve unpacked that a lot in therapy. I think more people should just have therapy to get over the trauma of school and the other shit that makes you internalise fitting in etc.
Dunno. I think it's to do with the developing brain. I also think if you're constantly with a group of your peers then there's that sense of competition and hierarchy, whether you lean into it or consciously reject it. Throughout my teens and twenties, prime age for people getting into relationships and looking for partners, that defo feeds in.
This is armchair psychology at its worst so I'm going to stop now. Just going off my own experiences and musings.
Tbh I dunno I’m just very unsure how I feel about constantly being told by older people that xyz will change when you get older. It’s mad condescending. Not in this thread but I think I’m just unsure of it "I think it depends on the intent. Is someone saying it to belittle or placate you? Or are they talking about their own experiences? | |||
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"I honestly don't know how you classify popularity once you're not moving within a large group of your peers eg school, college, uni. And I don't think it matters. I give less of a shit what others think the older I get, whereas when I was younger I was more interested in courting others approval and interest, which I think equates to popularity. The definition of popularity is the crux of your question, you twisty man
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I am defining it pretty simply as being liked and / or friends with a lot of people.
Also I think it’s interesting the way people (you and Frida on this thread but people more generally in my experience as well) suggest that getting older makes us care less about this stuff. I wonder why that is? I mean I care a lot about being liked or actually not being disliked but I’ve unpacked that a lot in therapy. I think more people should just have therapy to get over the trauma of school and the other shit that makes you internalise fitting in etc.
Dunno. I think it's to do with the developing brain. I also think if you're constantly with a group of your peers then there's that sense of competition and hierarchy, whether you lean into it or consciously reject it. Throughout my teens and twenties, prime age for people getting into relationships and looking for partners, that defo feeds in.
This is armchair psychology at its worst so I'm going to stop now. Just going off my own experiences and musings.
Tbh I dunno I’m just very unsure how I feel about constantly being told by older people that xyz will change when you get older. It’s mad condescending. Not in this thread but I think I’m just unsure of it
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"Sexually desirable? I think the two often go hand in hand when it's people popular with the opposite sex (or sex they're attracted to). I've never been popular or particularly desirable by loads of people I don't know if that proves anything though. Oh my lady me pickle. Fight over your atention all the time your certainly desirable in our eyes and on forum your exceedly popular " It’s true I think Mrs N is hot but she knows this and doesn’t change the validity of what she’s saying | |||
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"I honestly don't know how you classify popularity once you're not moving within a large group of your peers eg school, college, uni. And I don't think it matters. I give less of a shit what others think the older I get, whereas when I was younger I was more interested in courting others approval and interest, which I think equates to popularity. The definition of popularity is the crux of your question, you twisty man
Mrs TMN x
I am defining it pretty simply as being liked and / or friends with a lot of people.
Also I think it’s interesting the way people (you and Frida on this thread but people more generally in my experience as well) suggest that getting older makes us care less about this stuff. I wonder why that is? I mean I care a lot about being liked or actually not being disliked but I’ve unpacked that a lot in therapy. I think more people should just have therapy to get over the trauma of school and the other shit that makes you internalise fitting in etc.
Dunno. I think it's to do with the developing brain. I also think if you're constantly with a group of your peers then there's that sense of competition and hierarchy, whether you lean into it or consciously reject it. Throughout my teens and twenties, prime age for people getting into relationships and looking for partners, that defo feeds in.
This is armchair psychology at its worst so I'm going to stop now. Just going off my own experiences and musings.
Tbh I dunno I’m just very unsure how I feel about constantly being told by older people that xyz will change when you get older. It’s mad condescending. Not in this thread but I think I’m just unsure of it "But what would you tell a group of people 10 years younger than you? Would you not tell them that life changes and do priorities etc? You wouldn't be condescending, just offering your life experiences. | |||
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"I honestly don't know how you classify popularity once you're not moving within a large group of your peers eg school, college, uni. And I don't think it matters. I give less of a shit what others think the older I get, whereas when I was younger I was more interested in courting others approval and interest, which I think equates to popularity. The definition of popularity is the crux of your question, you twisty man
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I am defining it pretty simply as being liked and / or friends with a lot of people.
Also I think it’s interesting the way people (you and Frida on this thread but people more generally in my experience as well) suggest that getting older makes us care less about this stuff. I wonder why that is? I mean I care a lot about being liked or actually not being disliked but I’ve unpacked that a lot in therapy. I think more people should just have therapy to get over the trauma of school and the other shit that makes you internalise fitting in etc.
Dunno. I think it's to do with the developing brain. I also think if you're constantly with a group of your peers then there's that sense of competition and hierarchy, whether you lean into it or consciously reject it. Throughout my teens and twenties, prime age for people getting into relationships and looking for partners, that defo feeds in.
This is armchair psychology at its worst so I'm going to stop now. Just going off my own experiences and musings.
Tbh I dunno I’m just very unsure how I feel about constantly being told by older people that xyz will change when you get older. It’s mad condescending. Not in this thread but I think I’m just unsure of it
But what would you tell a group of people 10 years younger than you? Would you not tell them that life changes and do priorities etc? You wouldn't be condescending, just offering your life experiences. "Telling them my life and priorities changed but not saying that will necessarily happen to them. Being on fab I’ve met plenty of people older than me that are no more mature or sensible or carefree than any of my friends my age. It’s life that makes us these things. I’m completely different to lots of my friends also because I have a kid and a fiancé I’ve been with for 10 years and live with them and not in a house share. Age *hasn’t got much do do with these things imo. | |||
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"I think I’m popular with some but seen as friendly not desirable lol"I think we quickly put people in these categories. - ‘they’re just my friend. I don’t like them like that’ | |||
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"I think I’m popular with some but seen as friendly not desirable lol
I think we quickly put people in these categories. - ‘they’re just my friend. I don’t like them like that’"Probably but hey it’s there preference I guess so can’t complain | |||
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"Honestly, I do think I'm fairly popular on here. I don't think I'm seen as particularly desirable though. Our inbox doesn't suggest that, my lamppost doesn't get pissed on and people don't really flirt with me. J" Call me, sis | |||
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"Honestly, I do think I'm fairly popular on here. I don't think I'm seen as particularly desirable though. Our inbox doesn't suggest that, my lamppost doesn't get pissed on and people don't really flirt with me. J" I've totally flirted with you. Obviously, badly. | |||
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"Some people confuse productivity with popularity. I've had people tell me in the past that I'm very popular on fab and when I've told them that I average one message a month, rarely get fabbed and have never met or chatted to the vast majority of people on the forums they are genuinely surprised. I've asked how they came to the conclusion that I was popular and they have all said because I'm on the forums most days. " this - volume of posting doesnt account to popularity - same in chat rooms, people chasing the cam views its a funny fab place - when you look at some of the fab pics some people have like 3k likes, now that is popular | |||
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"Some people confuse productivity with popularity. I've had people tell me in the past that I'm very popular on fab and when I've told them that I average one message a month, rarely get fabbed and have never met or chatted to the vast majority of people on the forums they are genuinely surprised. I've asked how they came to the conclusion that I was popular and they have all said because I'm on the forums most days. this - volume of posting doesnt account to popularity - same in chat rooms, people chasing the cam views its a funny fab place - when you look at some of the fab pics some people have like 3k likes, now that is popular " To be fair - I would say 3k likes is really just lust rather than popularity. | |||
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"Honestly, I do think I'm fairly popular on here. I don't think I'm seen as particularly desirable though. Our inbox doesn't suggest that, my lamppost doesn't get pissed on and people don't really flirt with me. J I've totally flirted with you. Obviously, badly." Same. But clearly I mean NOTHING | |||
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"Honestly, I do think I'm fairly popular on here. I don't think I'm seen as particularly desirable though. Our inbox doesn't suggest that, my lamppost doesn't get pissed on and people don't really flirt with me. J I've totally flirted with you. Obviously, badly. Same. But clearly I mean NOTHING" Ok, I'll qualify it. The flirting rarely feels like there's genuine intent behind it if that makes sense. Didn't mean to upset my few flirty friends 
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"Honestly, I do think I'm fairly popular on here. I don't think I'm seen as particularly desirable though. Our inbox doesn't suggest that, my lamppost doesn't get pissed on and people don't really flirt with me. J I've totally flirted with you. Obviously, badly. Same. But clearly I mean NOTHING Ok, I'll qualify it. The flirting rarely feels like there's genuine intent behind it if that makes sense. Didn't mean to upset my few flirty friends
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