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By *asygoing87654 OP   Man
31 weeks ago

Swindon

Can anyone help and tell me what I’m doing wrong or just that ugly ?

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By *ot to giggleWoman
31 weeks ago

Coventry

what you trying to achieve in 9 weeks ! oooh wait wasnt that the film

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By *olongsuckerMan
31 weeks ago

Carrickonshannon


"Can anyone help and tell me what I’m doing wrong or just that ugly ?"

Absolutely nothing mate, it's just that the vast majority of people, both single and couples are very nervous, shy or just here for the chat. Someone might eventually throw the dog a bone and you'll either have a great time or wonder what was all the fuss about, till then just enjoy the ride... or not as the case might be

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
31 weeks ago

East Sussex

You're not ugly and you have verifications so you're doing well. It takes a while for single men to get established

What we're your expectations when you joined?

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By *eroLondonMan
31 weeks ago

Covent Garden

You're not ugly. Far from it in fact, my pedigree chum.

What exactly are you trying to do? The men on here outnumber the women by an unimaginable magnitude. If you're messaging women then it's highly likely your message is one of 500 in their inbox (or thereabouts).

You've been on here less than two months. It takes a while. A long while. Again, without knowing what exactly you're trying to do, or achieve, it's difficult to give you a straightforward answer.

Persevere and keep trying. Good luck OP.

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By *ascaIMan
31 weeks ago

Cheshire Liverpool Manchester

2 meets in 9 weeks ain’t too shabby.

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By *uttymonkeyMan
31 weeks ago

devon

Exactly!

Have been on here over a year I think and only just received one.

So you're doing well so far.

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By *oofer1Man
31 weeks ago

consett

Same here I use bee. A mong

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By *amieLDN22Man
31 weeks ago

London

I'd say first of all display the veris. 2 in 9 weeks is unreal imho. Most people can barely manage 1 veri in 9 months.

Also you have to find ways to accommodate. Some content of you fucking helps. Pictures etc.

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By *ot to giggleWoman
31 weeks ago

Coventry

and not blocking people often helps !!

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By *hrimper36Couple
31 weeks ago

Central France dept 36

To be fair op we have no idea what you’re doing so we are going to struggle giving you advice on what you are doing wrong but as others have said on paper you seem to be doing very well.

Your status and threads like this can to some leave a bad impression but on the plus side I wouldn’t class you as fugly but maybe just a tad shall we say needy.

Relax and try and enjoy your adventure.

Best of luck op.

T

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By *hrimper36Couple
31 weeks ago

Central France dept 36

Oh and welcome to the forums op.

T

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago

Definitely not doing anything wrong, most single guys on here are struggling do to the ratios believe me I know your pain

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
31 weeks ago

Central

Even with the unbalanced volume of men versus others, most people will not be right for most other people, however attractive. You need to factor that in to your expectations, so they're realistic

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By *immyinreadingMan
31 weeks ago

henley on thames

What are you doing wrong? Nothing, probably just haven’t lowered your expectations enough

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago

It feels like alot of new men join expecting their lives to suddenly be awash with free wet pussy wanting to fuck them multiple times a week.

Maybe adjust your expectations, the numbers are not in your favour and you won't be everyone's cup of tea ... so you may get to play occasionally ... or not at all.

But 2 meets in 9 weeks is good going.

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago


"Can anyone help and tell me what I’m doing wrong or just that ugly ?"

You are not as ugly as you imagine

_sunscreen lyrics inspired

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
31 weeks ago

Gloucestershire

OP - don't ever think you're ugly.

You've had 2 meets already and that's bloody good going!

I find just being yourself and having a laugh helps. It's not all about sex.

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By *illy IdolMan
31 weeks ago

Midlands

It's not you, it's them

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By *ris GrayMan
31 weeks ago

Dorchester

They never ask and your profile is ok 3 face pics, treat this place like you're organising a date, try and show personality and be patient not a patient

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By *lack Orchid 0204Man
31 weeks ago

Leeds


"Can anyone help and tell me what I’m doing wrong or just that ugly ?"

Too little info to offer an answer

If its a fab query, ..There are countless threads offering advice in the archives

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By *izandpaulCouple
31 weeks ago

merseyside

I'd say the chances of obtaining a meet as a single guy are very limited.

Fab is great for finding venues for socials, club nights, parties etc.

Try to get yourself along to a social or a club and put yourself about.

It shows you will make the effort to get away from a keyboard and are not socially inept.

Give it a whirl, we know from parties we attend the single guys have a great time and not too much competition, infact, it's quite difficult to get single guys along.

You have to understand lots on FAB use it as a run of the mill social media site and have no intention of meeting so best go along to places where people do actually meet.

Like many things in life its all about networking, networking, networking.

Good luck and have fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago

Internalising the rejections.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
31 weeks ago

Portsmouth

Calling women females.

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By *oxy jWoman
31 weeks ago

somerset

its simple .... you cant make people ''like'' you .... its a sexual attraction thing at the very leasts thats before anything else ..

also dont dismiss the maths they are there very very easy to work out why its so hard for men on this scene with so few women and couples compared to men ... imagine a room full of 100 to 200 men and one woman walks in to chose a meet id say its 50/50 she will find one in fact id say she would more than likely walk away empty handed as none peaked her interests ... thats how hard this scene is for men

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By *ayzMan
31 weeks ago

Birmingham

You're not doing anything wrong, just that this site is full of time wasters and too many single men these days. I used to be on the site when it first was launched and I used to get a few meets per month. These days I don't even try to meet off the site, its better meeting in person at a club and talk before you play. I hope you get to meet someone soon.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
31 weeks ago

Gloucestershire


"Calling women females."

Have you never watched Friday Night Dinner?

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By *imi_RougeWoman
31 weeks ago

Portsmouth


"Calling women females.

Have you never watched Friday Night Dinner? "

No, not my thing

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