FabSwingers.com forum: What is high level dating?

By *hagTonight OP Man
39 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

I was watching an interesting video from coach gregg, here is the video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QjI3wCoWjFs and this time he interview someone about what is high value dating?

They talked many things about dating, like, how the dating scene is looking nowadays, for example like, especially if you are coming out of a long marriage and single, greg mentioned himself there as he have been married for 11 years, but single now and he said that there are so many things to think about, like if the new partner will like the past, she said that the new partner will have to take it or leave it if one isnt interested in it, you cant change that, another example was that it is ok for women to flirt and show interest, but the man should be the leader.

At the end of the video the question came up of what high value dating is and she said that there was million of things of what it was, but mentioned a few of them, the number one thing was that you should take care of yourself, like good hygiene, basic stuff be presentable, dress accordingly, she said that those are the basic things, but most are to lazy about it and dont do all that.

What is your view about it and do you agree with some of the points listed or do you have any other examples of it?

I agree with her on the points, high value dating sounds expensive doesnt it? But I dont think that it have to be that, as it is about the basic things, like looking after yourself and being presentable

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By *sWyldWoman
39 weeks ago

Edinburgh

I don't think there's anything "high value" about personal hygiene. However I am equally aware the dating pool probably contains wee!

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

If expecting the basic from yourself and those you wish to date is high value... what is low value?!?!

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
39 weeks ago

Essex

"If expecting the basic from yourself and those you wish to date is high value... what is low value?!?!"

I think one is in my inbox right now

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

"If expecting the basic from yourself and those you wish to date is high value... what is low value?!?!

I think one is in my inbox right now

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By *allerthanaverage79Man
39 weeks ago

Ayrshire

"I don't think there's anything "high value" about personal hygiene. However I am equally aware the dating pool probably contains wee! "

Probably? Have you not put in the special die to show up when it does? X

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By *allerthanaverage79Man
39 weeks ago

Ayrshire

"If expecting the basic from yourself and those you wish to date is high value... what is low value?!?!"

Simply put- high value is taking someone on an interesting activity, followed by some delicious high quality food in a discreet location so you can hear each other speak. Low value is maybe meeting in the Asda cafe, in last night's pyjamas and crocs, followed by a quick session in the disabled loo!

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
39 weeks ago

Gloucestershire

So low value dating is not washing for a week

Wearing a t-shirt, tracksuit bottoms and a pair of crocs? Oh and don't think about offering cake.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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39 weeks ago

East Sussex

I'm sorry Shag I couldn't watch it. I started to but

All I'll say is don't put values on human interaction or people.

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By *oodmessMan
39 weeks ago

yumsville

There's probably too much value put on influencer opinion these days. There was some news report recently about people giving false reports or feeling left out from some influencer tick tock shit about what food they ate - where someone eating baked potato and beans was frowned on as it wasn't pasta dish covered in truffle.

High level dating is just another example of some false aspiration where you need Creed, pristine iron shirt, short jeans and cas off white trainers + brand watch. Honestly, people will date who they'll date.

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By *hagTonight OP Man
39 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

"If expecting the basic from yourself and those you wish to date is high value... what is low value?!?!"
It would be someone who didnt take care of them so much, compared to those who do that

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By *icecouple561Couple
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39 weeks ago

East Sussex

Shag, do you find this kind of thing useful in your daily life?

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By *ags73Man
39 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

" the number one thing was that you should take care of yourself, like good hygiene, basic stuff be presentable, dress accordingly, she said that those are the basic things, but most are to lazy about it and dont do all that."

Interesting but I tend to do that just to be decent rather than anything else.

I’d be surprised if anyone thought I was ‘high value’

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

"I don't think there's anything "high value" about personal hygiene. However I am equally aware the dating pool probably contains wee! "

Or poop

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

Personal hygiene ..op.

Do it for my job.

I just worked 24 hours of sweating..no sleep.

I will celebrate with a hot shower when my sleep deprivation returns.

Would you go on a date stinking to high heaven

Not washing

Body odour

I have high personal hygiene irks me when a date stinks and unkempt

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By *eliWoman
39 weeks ago

Utter bollocks. Sorry Shag.

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By *ll-Knight-longMan
39 weeks ago

Derby/Notts(Long Eaton)

To me there seems to be a trend of people who maybe lack a little self esteem Or self confidence that continually require affirmation of their worth , and in the process miss out on the interaction & listening to , understanding the other person they are meeting

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
39 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Utter bollocks.

Personal hygiene and being a decent human being shouldn't be a marker of high value. It's a plain baseline.

As for women shouldn't take the lead and the usual pathetic gendered norms, fuck that shit especially

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By *ad NannaWoman
39 weeks ago

East London

I can't watch any of those life coach podcasts or videos.

The people on them are usually full of themselves, and on a different planet.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
39 weeks ago

Leeds

I don't think I could ever date in today's world if I was single I'd stay that way - but surely good hygiene is bare minimum?!

Mrs

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By *emorefridaCouple
39 weeks ago

La la land

I did watch a small amount until it became unbearable.

Hope my teenage sons avoid watching these kinds of people. They create division and drama between genders that doesn't exist.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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39 weeks ago

East Sussex

"I can't watch any of those life coach podcasts or videos.

The people on them are usually full of themselves, and on a different planet.

Same.

I can't remember getting any dating advice or anyone ever talking about high or low value. We dated people we liked and who mostly didn't smell.

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

I like some of coach gregs fitness videos..but this video I couldn't particularly get into.

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By *hagTonight OP Man
39 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

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By *hagTonight OP Man
39 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

"Personal hygiene ..op.

Do it for my job.

I just worked 24 hours of sweating..no sleep.

I will celebrate with a hot shower when my sleep deprivation returns.

Would you go on a date stinking to high heaven

Not washing

Body odour

I have high personal hygiene irks me when a date stinks and unkempt"
hi becs, yes, you are right there. it is all about hygiene too and no. I would go on a date smelling nice as well

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

"I can't watch any of those life coach podcasts or videos.

The people on them are usually full of themselves, and on a different planet.

Same.

I can't remember getting any dating advice or anyone ever talking about high or low value. We dated people we liked and who mostly didn't smell. "

I dated men I fancied and bathed in ..one though did smell not good then I said to myself no more smelly body odour thanks.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
39 weeks ago

Hampshire/Dorset

The bar is so incredibly low, we're always grateful for the basics... Which is just bizarre.

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By *ags73Man
39 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

"The bar is so incredibly low, we're always grateful for the basics... Which is just bizarre."

Yep.

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

"Personal hygiene ..op.

Do it for my job.

I just worked 24 hours of sweating..no sleep.

I will celebrate with a hot shower when my sleep deprivation returns.

Would you go on a date stinking to high heaven

Not washing

Body odour

I have high personal hygiene irks me when a date stinks and unkempthi becs, yes, you are right there. it is all about hygiene too and no. I would go on a date smelling nice as well

me too after 48 hours a shower at home and freshen up and smell of roses

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

Sounds to me like some shit concept where someone has reinvented common sense and is now selling it to people looking for a cheap shortcut to happiness.

What is dating anyway? Doesn’t it depend what you’re looking for? Some people are looking for giggles, others are assessing your medical record, sperm count and bank details and lining you up for love and marriage before you’ve even shared a coffee! It’s like people have lost the ability to think and do for themselves and now we need twits in Lamborghinis on pooTube to tell how to wipe our own bumholes!

Best stop ranting now

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By *entleman JayMan
39 weeks ago

Wakefield

Getting a shower and brushing your teeth. That’s not high value, that’s the nuts and bolts of everyday life.

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By *hagTonight OP Man
39 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

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By *hagTonight OP Man
39 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

"I like some of coach gregs fitness videos..but this video I couldn't particularly get into."
That is good that you also like coach gregs videos, he is very informative too

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By *viatrixWoman
39 weeks ago

Redhill

It makes me laugh that many men expect women to turn up in amazing sexy dresses with lingerie underneath and expensive shoes and the turn up with jeans, a hoodie and trainers

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By *ot to giggleWoman
39 weeks ago

Coventry

wow if hi value is shower gel - must be worth a fortune with a bottle of aftershave

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By *ad NannaWoman
39 weeks ago

East London

"I can't watch any of those life coach podcasts or videos.

The people on them are usually full of themselves, and on a different planet.

Same.

I can't remember getting any dating advice or anyone ever talking about high or low value. We dated people we liked and who mostly didn't smell. "

And used a toothbrush frequently.

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By *ad NannaWoman
39 weeks ago

East London

"wow if hi value is shower gel - must be worth a fortune with a bottle of aftershave

I could buy a £200 bottle of perfume, but I'd still be a lazy cow who hates dressing up.

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By *etal and KinkMan
39 weeks ago

Malice

Isn't this just a fancy way of saying people who have matching standards meet, and if you want better you have to do better?

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By *ot to giggleWoman
39 weeks ago

Coventry

"wow if hi value is shower gel - must be worth a fortune with a bottle of aftershave

I could buy a £200 bottle of perfume, but I'd still be a lazy cow who hates dressing up."

who's dressing up !

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By *hagTonight OP Man
39 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

"The bar is so incredibly low, we're always grateful for the basics... Which is just bizarre."
Yes, you are right there too

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