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By *ife Ninja OP Man
32 weeks ago

Dunfermline

....decide to not send a message?

For me, there's two things - I read the profile, and I'm not for them ( age, size, race etc.); secondly, I think they're out of my league and I'm just wasting their time.

What about you?

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By *entlemanrogueMan
32 weeks ago

Motherwell

"....decide to not send a message?

For me, there's two things - I read the profile, and I'm not for them ( age, size, race etc.); secondly, I think they're out of my league and I'm just wasting their time.

What about you?

if they are rude or arsey in their profile text, age range, when they want Hung only cos i am not, if they want 6 pack etc, photos that make me think they dont have good hygiene probably a lot more i cant think of atm

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

I know it's a waste of time.

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By *ellinever70Woman
32 weeks ago

Ayrshire

I don't think we'd be compatible

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By *aizyWoman
32 weeks ago

west midlands

Usually its just because I think I am not what they are looking for.

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By *aulMichael123Man
32 weeks ago

Liverpool

Same

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By *aulMichael123Man
32 weeks ago

Liverpool

Same

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
32 weeks ago

Central

If their profile says 1 thing equalling not compatible, when their message

S ignore it or say the opposite.

Obviously lack of respect, lack of effort.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
32 weeks ago

Llanelli

I hardly ever message anyone first, I tend to fab some of their phones and add them to my hotlist if I like them. I'm sure they would message me if interested.

If I do message someone first it's usually about their status

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
32 weeks ago

Central

"Same

If you press the 'Ewply and quote' with your reply, posters will understand who you're replying to

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
32 weeks ago

Central

Hints that they're messaging to knock one or more out and get wank fodder pics etc.

I'm out

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By *inxy777Woman
32 weeks ago

essex

They are way out of my league x

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

"I know it's a waste of time. "

In a nutshell this ^. Well said.

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By *ife Ninja OP Man
32 weeks ago

Dunfermline

"They are way out of my league x "

This is my first thought when I match their wants

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By *im_1878Man
32 weeks ago

Formby

Read their profile.

If they say they want BBC / BBW / athletic / tall

Clearly no point me messaging

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

They might actually want to meet

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
32 weeks ago

Southampton

"I know it's a waste of time.

In a nutshell this ^. Well said.

Oh Woody....*shakes head

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By *ife Ninja OP Man
32 weeks ago

Dunfermline

"They might actually want to meet

Never!

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By *overOfWomen91Man
32 weeks ago

Bedfordshire

Read their profile and they say:

No black guys

No beards

Must be 6 foot

Blah blah blah

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By *iscean_dreamMan
32 weeks ago

Llanelli

"They might actually want to meet

I'd only meet you in a pitch black room and if we were both naked

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By *obilebottomMan
32 weeks ago

All over

I am shy

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By *oung GunnerMan
32 weeks ago

Cleckheaton

If your not 6 foot you’ve got no chance , even been polite gets you no where.

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By *lue NotebooksCouple
32 weeks ago

Wirral

"....decide to not send a message?

For me, there's two things - I read the profile, and I'm not for them ( age, size, race etc.); secondly, I think they're out of my league and I'm just wasting their time.

What about you?

Pretty much the same. Also if they are just completely negative in their profile text with a massive list of things they DON'T like, it just makes them sound arsey . I get that people probably get annoying messages but focusing on the negative just makes me think wow this person is gonna be hard work so won't bother

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By *iscean_dreamMan
32 weeks ago

Llanelli

"If your not 6 foot you’ve got no chance , even been polite gets you no where. "

Can be polite as you like but preferences are there for a reason buddy, my fwb won't meet anyone below 5'9 because she doesn't want to tower over them

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By *emorefridaCouple
32 weeks ago

La la land

Hate small talk, I find it awkward as. This is enough to put me off

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By *iscean_dreamMan
32 weeks ago

Llanelli

"Hate small talk, I find it awkward as. This is enough to put me off "

FAF in five?

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By *emorefridaCouple
32 weeks ago

La la land

"Hate small talk, I find it awkward as. This is enough to put me off

FAF in five?

There's got to be a middle ground. Plus you can't get to mine in 5

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
32 weeks ago

Leeds

Can’t be arse chasing someone I wouldn’t look twice at in the street.

The mr

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
32 weeks ago

Reading

I dont

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By *ink Panther 123Man
32 weeks ago

Colnbrook

Pussy like a butchers bin

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By *iscean_dreamMan
32 weeks ago

Llanelli

"Hate small talk, I find it awkward as. This is enough to put me off

FAF in five?

There's got to be a middle ground. Plus you can't get to mine in 5

Ok let's make it 15 and meet half way

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

If we don't marry in terms of the likes and dislikes then it's unlikely I'll proceed any further.

In terms of you saying "out of my league", not at all since I believe nobody is out of anyone's league. I used to think like that before until a goddess took a fancy to me in 2016 and I to her; which is what got me into this mess (releasing the whore from within).

Just be yourself, be adventurous knowing nothing ventured nothing gained.

Enjoy and be lucky OP

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
32 weeks ago

Manchester-ish

That they might hate me for bothering them or wasting their time.

They'll hate me for even considering they might be interested in me.

What's the point it will just be lost amongst the other noise.

They won't answer or they'll say no and then the fantasy will be over.

They will reply but there's no chance we'll be able to arrange something before it peters out.

They're too far away.

Are among the million reasons my brain comes up with to press back instead of send. I really am shit at this

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By *eliWoman
32 weeks ago

Because I don't think they'll be particularly interested for whatever reason. I'm quite cautious I guess.

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By *uzie69xTV/TS
32 weeks ago

Maidstone

Fab's highway code style CLUNK CLINK SAVES LIVES style message that's on the lines of ...

STOP! THINK! You are a tranny and they have not said they want to meet trannies! DON'T MESSAGE THEM. YOU'RE MORE LIKELY TO GET A REPLY FROM TRANNY SHAGGERS.

That makes me laugh as I've had more "straight" men, not looking for TV/TS who message me than hot dinners ...

But it does stop me messaging them. Their loss if they don't have the balls...

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By *ife Ninja OP Man
32 weeks ago

Dunfermline

"That they might hate me for bothering them or wasting their time.

They'll hate me for even considering they might be interested in me.

What's the point it will just be lost amongst the other noise.

They won't answer or they'll say no and then the fantasy will be over.

They will reply but there's no chance we'll be able to arrange something before it peters out.

They're too far away.

Are among the million reasons my brain comes up with to press back instead of send. I really am shit at this

Kinda similar. I love the social side, but I'm rubbish at the witty one liners as an opening message

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By *ex HolesMan
32 weeks ago

Up North

Can’t be arsed

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

"Can’t be arsed

This

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By *ife Ninja OP Man
32 weeks ago

Dunfermline

"Can’t be arsed

This"

The death of fab is nigh then

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

"Can’t be arsed

This

The death of fab is nigh then

The message can be awesome, the sender can be hot. But if someone isn't in the mood, they aren't going to reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

If I think I’m out of their league yeah but also if their profile text is mad long and loads of be this be that.

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By *ife Ninja OP Man
32 weeks ago

Dunfermline

"If I think I’m out of their league yeah but also if their profile text is mad long and loads of be this be that. "

I don't mind a long profile.....then you see the age limit

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By *ou only live onceMan
32 weeks ago

London

All of the above, OP. Though I don't tend to send (m)any speculative first messages.

And with friends it's often that I know they'll have lots of others to get through and I don't want to impose! "Why would they want to read this niff naff"?!

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By *ularliWoman
32 weeks ago

Worcester

Usually because I’m not what they are looking for and if their profile only contains pics of their manhood.

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By *ot to giggleWoman
32 weeks ago

Coventry

ummm i hardly get chance to look to message others first - but what stops me are those who are working their way through fab, those I feel are out my league. I would rather say something to a status someone has posted.

in return - i do try to answer all my messages, although that thanks for your message but its no thanks, relay of why responses is a bit tedious -

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

"If I think I’m out of their league yeah but also if their profile text is mad long and loads of be this be that.

I don't mind a long profile.....then you see the age limit

I’m usually checking age ranges. That’s another reason why I don’t message

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By *ickyKlungespeareMan
32 weeks ago

St Leonards

Usually...

I'll read the lines.

I'll read between the lines.

I'll look at the pics and see if they match both above.

If all that is interesting enough, I'll construct a tailored message - any convergence I see on our profiles.

If they've said something particularly noteworthy/unusual in their profile, I'll play with it in the subject line.

If unread I'll send another message within a few days.

If also unread, I'll delete, and occasionally block so I don't come across the profile and invest the time again.

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By *obilebottomMan
32 weeks ago

All over

[Removed by poster at 13/04/24 18:10:29]

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By *obilebottomMan
32 weeks ago

All over

"Usually...

I'll read the lines.

I'll read between the lines.

I'll look at the pics and see if they match both above.

If all that is interesting enough, I'll construct a tailored message - any convergence I see on our profiles.

If they've said something particularly noteworthy/unusual in their profile, I'll play with it in the subject line.

If unread I'll send another message within a few days.

If also unread, I'll delete, and occasionally block so I don't come across the profile and invest the time again."

Hello boss, didn't know you were here.

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By *ickyKlungespeareMan
32 weeks ago

St Leonards

"Usually...

I'll read the lines.

I'll read between the lines.

I'll look at the pics and see if they match both above.

If all that is interesting enough, I'll construct a tailored message - any convergence I see on our profiles.

If they've said something particularly noteworthy/unusual in their profile, I'll play with it in the subject line.

If unread I'll send another message within a few days.

If also unread, I'll delete, and occasionally block so I don't come across the profile and invest the time again."

Answered the OP's comment arse-upwards

(didn't read it well at all...the irony

So...if they don't intrigue me with lines/between lines/pics - I don't message.

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By *ickyKlungespeareMan
32 weeks ago

St Leonards

"Usually...

I'll read the lines.

I'll read between the lines.

I'll look at the pics and see if they match both above.

If all that is interesting enough, I'll construct a tailored message - any convergence I see on our profiles.

If they've said something particularly noteworthy/unusual in their profile, I'll play with it in the subject line.

If unread I'll send another message within a few days.

If also unread, I'll delete, and occasionally block so I don't come across the profile and invest the time again.

Hello boss, didn't know you were here.

Lol - I've given the safe space on one thread...that's enough

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

I don’t message anyone I assume they would not be interested in me

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By *ife Ninja OP Man
32 weeks ago

Dunfermline

"Usually because I’m not what they are looking for and if their profile only contains pics of their manhood. "

I just be thinking, she's lovely, there's no way on earth she'd be interested

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By *ealitybitesMan
32 weeks ago

Belfast

I decided not to send any messages at all more than 4 years ago.

At the time we were in full lockdown and it was a bit pointless.

Since then I haven't resumed messaging because I'm content with my level of engagement here.

When I did send messages I was very specific in who I contacted so at most I sent one a month because there was a long list of things that would put me off saying hello due to how fussy I actually am.

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By *WB85Man
32 weeks ago

Staffordshire

I tend to think they're out of my league so don't bother.

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By *agatoXXXMan
32 weeks ago

Mordor

It's the urge not to waste my time or effort on something that will in all likelyhood get deleted unread.

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

The voices.

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By *xbabyxxxWoman
32 weeks ago

Bradford

I just don't want to waste my time

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By *ostAirmenMan
32 weeks ago

crewe

"....decide to not send a message?

For me, there's two things - I read the profile, and I'm not for them ( age, size, race etc.); secondly, I think they're out of my league and I'm just wasting their time.

What about you?

Sums up my fab journey really .

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By *ife Ninja OP Man
32 weeks ago

Dunfermline

"The voices. "

What accent though?

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

"The voices.

What accent though?

Think highlands. I can’t understand what they’re screaming at me so I just don’t bother.

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By *ife Ninja OP Man
32 weeks ago

Dunfermline

"The voices.

What accent though?

Think highlands. I can’t understand what they’re screaming at me so I just don’t bother. "

Understand

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
32 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"....decide to not send a message?

For me, there's two things - I read the profile, and I'm not for them ( age, size, race etc.); secondly, I think they're out of my league and I'm just wasting their time.

What about you?

Generally?

Because I'm too busy with work/life etc.

There's plenty in my hotlist/updates/the forums that I'm often tempted to ping a message to.

The problem is I often have next to no free time to meet and until I do I don't want to get too engaged with anyone new atm. I already have people I chat to, a partner I see when we can align diaries and enough normal life stuff to fill up around 20 hours a day.

Oh for a lottery win and endless free time.....

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By *ris GrayMan
32 weeks ago

Dorchester

"....decide to not send a message?

For me, there's two things - I read the profile, and I'm not for them ( age, size, race etc.); secondly, I think they're out of my league and I'm just wasting their time.

What about you?

"
I never think anyones out of my league but i imagine lots of women think the guys out of their league but still go for it because they can

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By *ellroseWoman
32 weeks ago

Brum

Sometimes I do and sometimes I don’t

Depends if I’m feeling brave enough

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By *alcon77Man
32 weeks ago

under the sun & the moon

Health issues. I'm quite often somewhat limited by my own health issues (over the last 4/5 years I've always had several operations coming up)

And my age, lots have a cutoff age of 45.

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By *uctifanoWoman
32 weeks ago

Glasgow

"....decide to not send a message?

For me, there's two things - I read the profile, and I'm not for them ( age, size, race etc.); secondly, I think they're out of my league and I'm just wasting their time.

What about you?

You READ profiles… sorry I’ll get back to you when I recover…

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
31 weeks ago

Essex

I’m not sure if this makes me look massively arrogant or massively shy.

But I assume if they haven’t messaged me already that they’re not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago

"I’m not sure if this makes me look massively arrogant or massively shy.

But I assume if they haven’t messaged me already that they’re not interested. "

I’m adopting this mindset

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By *naswingdressWoman
31 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's futile.

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By *rMonkeyMan
31 weeks ago

Somewhere

If it's quite clear I'm not what they're looking for.

If after reading the profile I am, then I'll check out veris. If they have a string of meets and all thir meets have massive cocks then it will be a no.

Other than that, nothing. I don't believe in leagues, just message, nothing to lose

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By *huck5772Man
31 weeks ago

dukinfield

"Usually its just because I think I am not what they are looking for."

Everybody's looking for you

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
31 weeks ago

Essex

"I’m not sure if this makes me look massively arrogant or massively shy.

But I assume if they haven’t messaged me already that they’re not interested.

I’m adopting this mindset"

I’m not a good role model

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago

"I’m not sure if this makes me look massively arrogant or massively shy.

But I assume if they haven’t messaged me already that they’re not interested.

I’m adopting this mindset

I’m not a good role model

I don’t look up to you in that way

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
31 weeks ago

Essex

"I’m not sure if this makes me look massively arrogant or massively shy.

But I assume if they haven’t messaged me already that they’re not interested.

I’m adopting this mindset

I’m not a good role model

I don’t look up to you in that way

Nobody looks up to me in any way…

#shortarse

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago

"I’m not sure if this makes me look massively arrogant or massively shy.

But I assume if they haven’t messaged me already that they’re not interested.

I’m adopting this mindset

I’m not a good role model

I don’t look up to you in that way

Nobody looks up to me in any way…

#shortarse"

I was thinking I’d be on …

Nvm.

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By *heFooFuckersCouple
31 weeks ago

Glasgow

A negative profile with a long list of Don't or Dislikes.

Bad spelling/ grammar/ or lack of punctuations.

Or a couple profile with only pics of the MRS

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By *ikesEmBigMan
31 weeks ago

Herts

"....decide to not send a message?

For me, there's two things - I read the profile, and I'm not for them ( age, size, race etc.); secondly, I think they're out of my league and I'm just wasting their time.

What about you?

I'm too gorgeous

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By *echnosonic_BrummieMan
31 weeks ago

Willenhall

The fear is strong in this thread.

Oh, and I fucking hate Star Trek/Star Wars or whatever crap I just plagiarised that quote from.

If you meet their requirements and they haven't stated something that specifically excludes you in their bio then just...send the fucking message. At least "Unread/deleted" will only confirm what you thought you knew already.

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By *iss.Bella.Woman
31 weeks ago

Wales

I usually just send the message. Who cares if a (usually) faceless stranger on the internet doesn't reply

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By *BWLOVER1965Man
31 weeks ago

My Own Little World

Don’t send messages

Normally read the profiles and the wants and don’t wants and unfortunately age works against me only send messages through forum games etc

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By *ames250122Man
31 weeks ago

Worcester

"....decide to not send a message?

For me, there's two things - I read the profile, and I'm not for them ( age, size, race etc.); secondly, I think they're out of my league and I'm just wasting their time.

What about you?

Yeah those are two of my reasons, other times because after chatting a bit they come across unnecessarily offish or a little hostile. I get previous experience etc can take its toll but not something the next person should be punished for, likewise for similar reason the person is pushy and demanding

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By *rHotNottsMan
31 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Assuming I think we are compatible, then bad timing - for them or for me. Compatible people tend to cross your paths again and again until the timing is good

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By *arkus1812Man
31 weeks ago

Lifes departure lounge NN9 Northamptonshire East not West MidlandsMidlands

My reason is that I will get a kick back over my age, despite the fact that their profile says they will meet 18 - 99 year old members .

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By *ife Ninja OP Man
31 weeks ago

Dunfermline

"I’m not sure if this makes me look massively arrogant or massively shy.

But I assume if they haven’t messaged me already that they’re not interested.

I’m adopting this mindset

I’m not a good role model

I don’t look up to you in that way

Nobody looks up to me in any way…

#shortarse"

#cutearse

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