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By *ustincamebridge OP   Couple
32 weeks ago

manchester

18+ months on Fab without a meet. Our first social just got cancelled.

Is it us?

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By *oodmessMan
32 weeks ago

yumsville

Must be.

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By *eroLondonMan
32 weeks ago

Covent Garden


"Must be. "

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Based on what evidence?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
32 weeks ago

Carlisle usually


"Must be.

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Based on what evidence?"

Probably that it's happening to them

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By *illan-KillashMan
32 weeks ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants


"18+ months on Fab without a meet. Our first social just got cancelled.

Is it us?"

Finding people you click with is difficult, I'd say even harder for couples wanting to meet couples, I imagine finding the 4 way attraction a challenge.

Add in coordinating 4 diaries, more if you have parent responsibility.

Keep at it, don't give up, keep reviewing your selection process.

Also, consider clubs where you have a captive audience/market.

Face to face is better than words typed on a screen.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
32 weeks ago

East Sussex

Probably not you.

Was it an organised social or one you'd arranged privately?

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By *uxom redCouple
32 weeks ago

Shrewsbury


"18+ months on Fab without a meet. Our first social just got cancelled.

Is it us?

Finding people you click with is difficult, I'd say even harder for couples wanting to meet couples, I imagine finding the 4 way attraction a challenge.

Add in coordinating 4 diaries, more if you have parent responsibility.

Keep at it, don't give up, keep reviewing your selection process.

Also, consider clubs where you have a captive audience/market.

Face to face is better than words typed on a screen."

Well said

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By *oodmessMan
32 weeks ago

yumsville


"Must be.

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Based on what evidence?"

If they've actively been looking to meet for 18 months and not been able to, they are doing something wrong in their search or are not searching at at all. Women aside, the majority of fab wants to meet couples. Unless they only want to meet a select group - say older black tv's, then they should have no trouble finding people.

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By *hrimper36Couple
32 weeks ago

Central France dept 36


"Must be.

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Based on what evidence?

If they've actively been looking to meet for 18 months and not been able to, they are doing something wrong in their search or are not searching at at all. Women aside, the majority of fab wants to meet couples. Unless they only want to meet a select group - say older black tv's, then they should have no trouble finding people.

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Now that was a good point very well put .

Don’t stress op things will work out if they are meant too.

Best of luck.

T

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By *ustincamebridge OP   Couple
32 weeks ago

manchester


"18+ months on Fab without a meet. Our first social just got cancelled.

Is it us?

Finding people you click with is difficult, I'd say even harder for couples wanting to meet couples, I imagine finding the 4 way attraction a challenge.

Add in coordinating 4 diaries, more if you have parent responsibility.

Keep at it, don't give up, keep reviewing your selection process.

Also, consider clubs where you have a captive audience/market.

Face to face is better than words typed on a screen."

Appreiciate this

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By *ustincamebridge OP   Couple
32 weeks ago

manchester


"Probably not you.

Was it an organised social or one you'd arranged privately?"

Organised

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
32 weeks ago

East Sussex


"Probably not you.

Was it an organised social or one you'd arranged privately?

Organised"

That's a shame. There will be others

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

Next time I’m up in the NW area, I’d totally socialise with you !

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By *eroLondonMan
32 weeks ago

Covent Garden


"Must be.

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Based on what evidence?

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If they've actively been looking to meet for 18 months and not been able to, they are doing something wrong in their search or are not searching at at all. Women aside, the majority of fab wants to meet couples. Unless they only want to meet a select group - say older black tv's, then they should have no trouble finding people."

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That's not evidence. That's conjecture. And it's far from empirical.

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By *emdomCouple2024Couple
32 weeks ago

dudley

We have also been on and off the site for over a year and have yet to meet together, had a few meets between myself(lady) and single guys, but none as a couple unfortunately xx

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By *illan-KillashMan
32 weeks ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants


"Must be.

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Based on what evidence?

If they've actively been looking to meet for 18 months and not been able to, they are doing something wrong in their search or are not searching at at all. Women aside, the majority of fab wants to meet couples. Unless they only want to meet a select group - say older black tv's, then they should have no trouble finding people.

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I think I know what you're saying, I'm not sure it's the definitive answer.

Not being able to arrange a meet is often down to a multitude of factors.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
32 weeks ago

Okehampton

No it’s based on an extremely challenging dynamic. The couples dynamic requires that all 4 people are comfortable with the people they are meeting and find them attractive.

In one way it’s easier being a single on fab. But if you meet the right couple it could be glorious. So happy hunting and don’t give up just yet

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By *oodmessMan
32 weeks ago

yumsville


"Must be.

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Based on what evidence?

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If they've actively been looking to meet for 18 months and not been able to, they are doing something wrong in their search or are not searching at at all. Women aside, the majority of fab wants to meet couples. Unless they only want to meet a select group - say older black tv's, then they should have no trouble finding people.

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That's not evidence. That's conjecture. And it's far from empirical."

This site does have a good dating and cake making history so I could be completely wrong in them getting it right.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
32 weeks ago

Leeds

It's hard to meet people on here, well for me it is anyway, I struggle to guage attraction via online text.

You guys are in Manchester there's some great social events there that maybe worth popping along to, I find that much easier to meet people, face value is better for me.

Mrs

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By *ustincamebridge OP   Couple
32 weeks ago

manchester


"It's hard to meet people on here, well for me it is anyway, I struggle to guage attraction via online text.

You guys are in Manchester there's some great social events there that maybe worth popping along to, I find that much easier to meet people, face value is better for me.

Mrs "

Living in Manchester is a double edge sword. Its great for meets but we had to duck out of one as cammy works public facing and it became very awkward. We have a few friend away from Fab but wanted to try and have some fun. We thought a social would be the best way to go

We are not desperate for a meet and will keep going until we find whats right for us

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By *oodmessMan
32 weeks ago

yumsville


"It's hard to meet people on here, well for me it is anyway, I struggle to guage attraction via online text.

You guys are in Manchester there's some great social events there that maybe worth popping along to, I find that much easier to meet people, face value is better for me.

Mrs

Living in Manchester is a double edge sword. Its great for meets but we had to duck out of one as cammy works public facing and it became very awkward. We have a few friend away from Fab but wanted to try and have some fun. We thought a social would be the best way to go

We are not desperate for a meet and will keep going until we find whats right for us"

Usually if people are worried about being recognised you just don't meet locally, either going to clubs further afield or looking for people in different towns. Have to be honest though, the odds of meeting someone you know are pretty slim, but there's normally a level of discretion anyway, it's not that big a world.

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By *WB85Man
32 weeks ago

Staffordshire

It's not you at all. You just haven't found your people yet.

It's not a easy as people imagine for couples. Finding 4 people that like each other is bloody hard work.

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By *ellinever70Woman
32 weeks ago

Ayrshire

Perhaps you need to adjust your expectations

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By *issmorganWoman
32 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I'm half a couple and it's far from easy to find couples & get that 4 way attraction.

If you feel brave enough you could try a club, you never know who you may meet there & it's so much easier as you can see both people of the couple ftf right away.

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

There are plenty of organised socials, just get yourselves on another one!

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago


"There are plenty of organised socials, just get yourselves on another one! "

Op. I’m going to do one in Manchester in a few months, look out in the meet forums.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
32 weeks ago

Neath valley.


"18+ months on Fab without a meet. Our first social just got cancelled.

Is it us?"

Don't blame yourselves. We don't meet to play that much. It's hard to find the 4 way attraction or even chemistry on here Joanne.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
32 weeks ago

Leeds


"It's hard to meet people on here, well for me it is anyway, I struggle to guage attraction via online text.

You guys are in Manchester there's some great social events there that maybe worth popping along to, I find that much easier to meet people, face value is better for me.

Mrs

Living in Manchester is a double edge sword. Its great for meets but we had to duck out of one as cammy works public facing and it became very awkward. We have a few friend away from Fab but wanted to try and have some fun. We thought a social would be the best way to go

We are not desperate for a meet and will keep going until we find whats right for us"

Maybe look at the Leeds/York socials it's very laid back just a load of people in a pub basically.

Mrs

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