FabSwingers.com forum: Little book of sex tips

By (user no longer on site) OP
37 weeks ago

Other than just doing it a lot, what has taught you the most about sex?

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
37 weeks ago

Bradford

Well I've been doing longer that you've been Stephen .

Most important things is to please excite anf enable the woman to relax and release any inhibitions and just allow her to enjoy the experience and then she will join in and reward you and make you happy .women have far greater capacity for pleasure .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
37 weeks ago

"Well I've been doing longer that you've been Stephen .

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By *ensuallover1000Man
37 weeks ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

Communication with partners; learning what they like/dislike.

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By *naswingdressWoman
37 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

Trust in myself and the person I'm with. It mostly follows from that

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By (user no longer on site) OP
37 weeks ago

"Communication with partners; learning what they like/dislike.

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what’s the best way to approach it you’ve found?

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
37 weeks ago

Bradford

"Well I've been doing longer that you've been Stephen .

I've loved women from early age its so simple you make s woman happy she make you happy .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
37 weeks ago

"Trust in myself and the person I'm with. It mostly follows from that"
so for you, if you’re struggling to shake the insecurity is that telling of something bigger?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
37 weeks ago

"Well I've been doing longer that you've been Stephen .

I've loved women from early age its so simple you make s woman happy she make you happy ."

If only that were actually true

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
37 weeks ago

Bradford

Yep communication is the key be interested in her wants and desires

Its your job to forfil them .

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
37 weeks ago

Bradford

"Well I've been doing longer that you've been Stephen .

I've loved women from early age its so simple you make s woman happy she make you happy .

If only that were actually true"

It true pm me to discuss further

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By *ensuallover1000Man
37 weeks ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

"Communication with partners; learning what they like/dislike.

what’s the best way to approach it you’ve found?"

It should be during an intimate moment (nothing worse than a formal check list) whereupon with inhibitions naturally subdued, you may ask if/how they like something (an act for instance).

Likewise, one should communicate one’s own preferences.

Time provides the best learning; the longer you spend together, the more you understand one another’s wants/needs and desires

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By *coobyBoobyDooWoman
37 weeks ago

at work

Trust.

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By *emorefridaCouple
37 weeks ago

La la land

Reading smut, helped me figure out what thoughts turned me on and which totally didn't.

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By *issBellaWoman
37 weeks ago

Wales

I just sort of wing it and hope for the best

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By *itygamesMan
37 weeks ago

The majority of people orgasm the most doing it themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Go for what you want , stay firm in what you don't and pardon the pun enjoy the ride

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By *CLM87Woman
37 weeks ago

Derbyshire

Trust in yourself and have the confidence to say no or stop.

If your confident in this ability then you can truly relax.

As others have said communication is really important.. understanding what you both do or don't want.

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By *edeWoman
37 weeks ago

the abyss

Not doing it at all for a looooonnnngggg time

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By *ife NinjaMan
37 weeks ago

Dunfermline

One day, nobody will want you anymore, so do it as much as you can when you're young

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By *nsatiable n baldCouple
37 weeks ago

somewhere only we know

Communication being open being honest I believe x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
37 weeks ago

"One day, nobody will want you anymore, so do it as much as you can when you're young

Doubtful. I’m quite good looking.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Always take your wand, men will fail.

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By *ife NinjaMan
37 weeks ago

Dunfermline

"One day, nobody will want you anymore, so do it as much as you can when you're young

Doubtful. I’m quite good looking. "

Looks fade young man

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By *eliWoman
37 weeks ago

Having confidence in myself. Well, it's a work in progress.

I think even eight years ago I'd spend so much time in my own head. Worry I wasn't attractive, or the other wouldn't be attracted to me.

I've found that the happier I am in me, the more open I am to exploring and enjoying sex healthily, the more I have a desire to learn another's body and let mine be learnt. I have increasing confidence in communicating what it is I want, in finding out what another enjoys.

I'm not sure if that makes sense, wine before 8pm is not a good idea.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
37 weeks ago

"One day, nobody will want you anymore, so do it as much as you can when you're young

Doubtful. I’m quite good looking.

Looks fade young man

Don’t say that

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By *ife NinjaMan
37 weeks ago

Dunfermline

"One day, nobody will want you anymore, so do it as much as you can when you're young

Doubtful. I’m quite good looking.

Looks fade young man

Don’t say that

Oh, you've got 20 odd years yet

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By *cLovin2Man
37 weeks ago

Reading

"One day, nobody will want you anymore, so do it as much as you can when you're young

Doubtful. I’m quite good looking.

Looks fade young man

Don’t say that

Yes but guys with a twelve inch cock who can sling it over their shoulders, always are in demand

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By (user no longer on site) OP
37 weeks ago

"One day, nobody will want you anymore, so do it as much as you can when you're young

Doubtful. I’m quite good looking.

Looks fade young man

Don’t say that

Yes but guys with a twelve inch cock who can sling it over their shoulders, always are in demand

I’ll be alright then

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By *naswingdressWoman
37 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Trust in myself and the person I'm with. It mostly follows from that so for you, if you’re struggling to shake the insecurity is that telling of something bigger?"

It's more that I can't let go when I'm feeling that way, and I can't be what another person needs me to be under those circumstances

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
37 weeks ago

Bradford

"Always take your wand, men will fail."

Some men will fail. I've never failed

Women sadly have got used to using artificial aids. Real multiple orgasam brought about from human far superior in my experience.

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By *hortarseWoman
37 weeks ago

Norfolk

To enjoy the person I'm having sex with. Believe I can give them everything they want make them happy.

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
37 weeks ago

Essex

Imagination. Time alone. And communication with people - not just partners/potential partners. But other humans who can share experiences.

So pretty much fab

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By *rjay224Man
37 weeks ago

north west

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By *rjay224Man
37 weeks ago

north west

Patience you don’t always have to go in full guns blazing take your time no need to rush

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Having confidence in myself and loving my body.

It also helps to find someone you can open up to, be honest about your wants and desires.

Trust is also needed .

For me I need desire, attraction and for them to explore my mind not just my body.

Hope that makes sense

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By *agnar73Man
37 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

"Always take your wand, men will fail."

I’d see that as a challenge.

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
37 weeks ago

Manchester-ish

Remember when the boys were all electric?

I actually had a book called Sex Tips for women from a gay man. The hand job tips were excellent

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Learning not being afraid to ask for what I want and demanding mutual pleasure .... that sex is not all about him cumming.... sometimes in great sex he doesn't... oh and having confidence to say no.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Women don't appreciate it when you accidentally cum in their eye, let them find something to wipe it, and then go "cheers babe" with a smack on the ass as they leave

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By *ad NannaWoman
37 weeks ago

East London

A good discussion with prospective partners first.

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By *ad NannaWoman
37 weeks ago

East London

"Always take your wand, men will fail."

I knew who the author of this comment would be before scrolling up

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
37 weeks ago

little house on the praire

I learnt through trial and error. No computers in my day. You learnt as you went along. Then the first guy I lived with was a bit older than me so he taught me somethings. Then I did a lot of experimental things with my ex husband

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
37 weeks ago

North West

Ummmmm. Just each other and some suggestions from Ann Summers and more rec, Lovehoney, for exciting things to experiment with.

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By *cLovin2Man
37 weeks ago

Reading

"Women don't appreciate it when you accidentally cum in their eye, let them find something to wipe it, and then go "cheers babe" with a smack on the ass as they leave

So we should cum in the mouth, so as not to blind her, before a cheers babe and the obligatory slap on the arse on the way out

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By *agnar73Man
37 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

"Women don't appreciate it when you accidentally cum in their eye, let them find something to wipe it, and then go "cheers babe" with a smack on the ass as they leave

So we should cum in the mouth, so as not to blind her, before a cheers babe and the obligatory slap on the arse on the way out

No, where he’s got it wrong is not wiping his knob on the curtains whilst she can’t see.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
37 weeks ago

Gloucestershire

Bringing cake to a meet will usually result in her knickers coming off

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"Women don't appreciate it when you accidentally cum in their eye, let them find something to wipe it, and then go "cheers babe" with a smack on the ass as they leave

So we should cum in the mouth, so as not to blind her, before a cheers babe and the obligatory slap on the arse on the way out

No, where he’s got it wrong is not wiping his knob on the curtains whilst she can’t see."

Thank you both for teaching me. I can't wait to try these out!

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By *ucka39Man
37 weeks ago

Newcastle

Learn to understand the art of body language

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By *ellhungvweMan
37 weeks ago

Cheltenham

Having sex with a variety of different women has taught me that they are all different and they all enjoy different things. What works for one doesn’t work for another - just adapt and go with the flow and you will find the thing she likes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
37 weeks ago

Thanks Arctic Monkeys for inspiring this thread

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
37 weeks ago

Manchester-ish

"Remember when the boys were all electric?

I actually had a book called Sex Tips for women from a gay man. The hand job tips were excellent

I got it Stephen! See ^^^

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
37 weeks ago

Maidstone

"Remember when the boys were all electric?

I actually had a book called Sex Tips for women from a gay man. The hand job tips were excellent

I got it Stephen! See ^^^"

Dammit and I was just scrolling through to see if anyone said the next line

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
37 weeks ago

Manchester-ish

"Remember when the boys were all electric?

I actually had a book called Sex Tips for women from a gay man. The hand job tips were excellent

I got it Stephen! See ^^^

Dammit and I was just scrolling through to see if anyone said the next line

It was my permanent earworm yesterday every time I saw this thread

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Confidence and communication. It's not a performance, just two (or more) people having fun trying to get each other super horny.

As for how you'd ask, there's not a special trick. Just a 'what do you like?' can cover it.

Good sex is all about engaging with the other person and you both just enjoying the fuck out of each other. And you both need to do it. If only one person is making an effort, it makes for incredibly lacklustre sex.

The opposite of good sex is passivity.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
37 weeks ago

"Remember when the boys were all electric?

I actually had a book called Sex Tips for women from a gay man. The hand job tips were excellent

I got it Stephen! See ^^^

Dammit and I was just scrolling through to see if anyone said the next line

It was my permanent earworm yesterday every time I saw this thread

Julie. I know you get me. You’re great like that

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By *aramel.desiresMan
37 weeks ago

London

Not that you need any help.

These are just my thoughts and don't apply to all females.

Look at sex from the woman's point of view.

They like trust and a connection before sex.

Stimulate her mind and her body will follow.

Read female magazines, Marie Clear or Cosmopolitan to understand more about the opposite sex. There are/were no good tips in FHM/ the men's magazines back in the day. Changes magazines to websites today.

And always be a gentleman in reputation and in public. Treat her like a queen in public and her bedroom is yours.

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By *ellinever70Woman
37 weeks ago

Ayrshire

Don't take it too seriously

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By *ayHaychMan
37 weeks ago

Leeds (Home) / Sheffield (Work)

Remember when the bars were all electricccc

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
37 weeks ago

East Sussex

Nothing really. I guess I've picked up my very limited knowledge of sex stuff as I've gone along.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Learning good communication, owning my own desires, relaxing and remembering that sex should be fun and can contain plenty of laughs. Plus practice, practice, practice

Loss of great books helped too, off the top of my head I remember:

-Sex Outside the Lines - Chris Donaghue

-Come As You Are - Emily Nagosk

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By *2000ManMan
37 weeks ago

Worthing

Make sure you are both happy outside of the bedroom before thinking about what goes on in it.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
37 weeks ago

Leeds

Cum quick, wipe your cock on her pillow, then fuck off, kicking the cat on your way out.

The mr

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By (user no longer on site) OP
37 weeks ago

"Remember when the bars were all electricccc"

My man

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By *sWyldWoman
37 weeks ago

Edinburgh

That everyone has hang ups.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
37 weeks ago

North West

"That everyone has hang ups. "

I have stack ups

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By *sWyldWoman
37 weeks ago

Edinburgh

"That everyone has hang ups.

I have stack ups

I currently resemble somewhere between a stack of tyres and the Michelen man

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
37 weeks ago

North West

"That everyone has hang ups.

I have stack ups

I currently resemble somewhere between a stack of tyres and the Michelen man

I raise you Baymax from Big Hero 6

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By *sWyldWoman
37 weeks ago

Edinburgh

"That everyone has hang ups.

I have stack ups

I currently resemble somewhere between a stack of tyres and the Michelen man

I raise you Baymax from Big Hero 6

Aww he's awesome though!

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By *rHotNottsMan
37 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I think going on dates and seduction and this sounds bad but certain bdsm scenes are not spontaneous, they feel it to the other but are literally lived in the mind in detail first , I learned this from someone on here actually, planning to engage all the senses and imagination , it’s game changing

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By *ake_or_deathMan
37 weeks ago

Manchester

"Other than just doing it a lot, what has taught you the most about sex? "

Listening to women about what they like.

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By *ickyKlungespeareMan
37 weeks ago

St Leonards

Haven't read the whole thread so may be doubling up.

Asking her. Not as an interrogation (I am capable of not interrogating people). But, in those quieter, softer moments of relaxing and re-buulding, touching, seeing her response, asking, adding things if wanted.

Asking again the next time.

Listening to what she volunteers when not asked.

Helping her find confidence to ask for things she may have buried a bit.

Shutting up and letting bodies just find out.

Shutting up again.

Plus, what works well with one woman may not work at all with another, so it's always about learning.

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By *allipygousMan
37 weeks ago

Leicester

In my youth, reading porn that was (allegedly) written by women. Reading problem pages in women's magazines, again in my youth.

If the opportunity presents itself, asking someone what they DON'T like to do during sex.

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