FabSwingers.com forum: Best friend

By *parkle1974 OP Woman
30 weeks ago

Leeds

Would you stop seeing your best friend if your partner didn't like them for whatever reason?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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30 weeks ago

East Sussex

No.

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By *hisisntpofMan
30 weeks ago

bristol

No ,your friends seeing something your not

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By *ickyKlungespeareMan
30 weeks ago

St Leonards

It would have to be a very good reason with a watertight argument.

Otherwise, categorical no.

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By *ee69Man
30 weeks ago

glasgow

No but some folk do

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By *urferguy55Man
30 weeks ago

Frisco

“It’s always the best friend.”

Jerry Springer

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
30 weeks ago

Leeds

My best friend is male, met him when I was 16......my ex husband hated him being my friend (hence ex)

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By *ongue tastikMan
30 weeks ago

Chorley

No wouldnt stop seing any ov my friends

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By *icecouple561Couple
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30 weeks ago

East Sussex

If a partner tries to influence the friends you see *without very good reason* it's your cue to lay down some firm boundaries or walk, no run away.

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By *empest2KMan
30 weeks ago

Derby

"Would you stop seeing your best friend if your partner didn't like them for whatever reason? "

In short, no. There would have to be an exceptional reason from my partner for me to stop seeing my bestie.

Then again, I don't really have one best friend, if I'm being honest, so that's probably why that question has never been posed to me.

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By *unnesscoupleMan
30 weeks ago

Inverness

absolutely not

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

"My best friend is male, met him when I was 16......my ex husband hated him being my friend (hence ex) "

Did he actually ask you to stop seeing him..??

Jealousy..??

Controlling..??

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By *rodigalMan
30 weeks ago

sunderland

My best friend is male, met him when I was 16......my ex husband hated him being my friend (hence ex)

Did you fuck best friend?

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By *ucka39Man
30 weeks ago

Newcastle

Nope never friends are for life

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

If there’s no real reason for it other than just because, then no.

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

Nope

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

Wouldn't stop seeing any of my friends because my partner didn't like them , it's your friend doesn't need to be his friend too ..

also sounds like gaslighting to me , alienating someone by trying to taint their view on friends or family is the first step in trying to control someone . Major red flag ! X

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By *J the bullMan
30 weeks ago

Washington

I did she cut me off isolated me..controled me and drove me to a nervous break down! So please just remember it's not just men who can be narcissistic control freaks.

The worst thing is despite being my ex and all that happening 14 years ago, because of my kids she still has contact and as I discovered can still trigger me even now..

So beware every body please??

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By *sWyldWoman
30 weeks ago

Edinburgh

No. My ex husband tried though.

Sadly i was also the dropped friend. I miss her everyday still.

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By *ois_peterCouple
30 weeks ago

Solihull

"Would you stop seeing your best friend if your partner didn't like them for whatever reason? "

Yes, they you partner and have your best interest at heart, so bye bye friend

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

Absolutely not. My best friends are for life and been with me longer than any partners.

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By *rHotNottsMan
30 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I don't have a bestie & my partners would never ask me to stop seeing friends. I wouldn’t partner up with someone so possessive.

If they had an issues with someone we’d talk about it. If a friend disrespected a partner or crossed any lines they would apologise properly and then I’d have to see if we can be friends still

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By *obilebottomMan
30 weeks ago

All over

If they had specific reasons that I was not aware of that I could also now see then possibly, otherwise no. Certainly not if this was part of any controlling behaviour they were exhibiting.

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

If there was not a valid and justifiable reason then absolutely not. If a partner is slowly working through you cutting off friends, soon it would be family and you would be left with no one. Sign of a controlling and possessive person. But there again if a friend or family member was toxic and the partner was looking out for your welfare that is a little different

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By *eliWoman
30 weeks ago

Don't have a "bestie" but...

No I wouldn't. I've dated people before who have said "oh they're only friends with you because they want to fuck you" and I thought it was really weird and rather shitty to say that.

I've never thought that about any of their friends so wasn't sure why anyone would.

Anyway, no. I like my friends an awful lot. Trust them in a very big way.

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

My best friend is my wife so buggered if she wants me to stop seeing her haha.

Your partner was shouldnt even ask to you to stop seeing your best friend that’s the issue.

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By *red333Man
30 weeks ago

Dorchester

"Would you stop seeing your best friend if your partner didn't like them for whatever reason? "
No but it can be difficult when its a relative

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By *ceicebabyMan
30 weeks ago

Huddersfield

No way

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By *ighty-maus85Man
30 weeks ago

WATFORD

Happened to me long ago, after we broke up I tried to reconnect but the damage was done and our friendship was never the same. We'd say hello but it was too late.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
30 weeks ago

ashford

No love my best friend of 50 years x

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
30 weeks ago

Leeds

No, my ex partner didn't like my best friend it never stopped me & big occasions I'd split it one with her the next with him it was awkward but worked - I was so relieved she came to my graduation with me & he didn't

it was an awesome night & wouldn't have been if the company was the other way.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

Nope, been besties with my bestie since we were 16 love her too bits, i dont have a partner but if i did there would be no contest..

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By *929Man
30 weeks ago

newcastle

No my ex found reason to hate practically everyone I ever associated with for one reason or another, she began to hate one of my closest friends that I grew up with over a ridiculously small thing me and him were out for a few drinks on an afternoon and had called back at my house and she had been making dinner and he snatched a Yorkshire puddiding off the tray and ate it and that was it she hated him for rest of time we were together

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

Unless there was an absolute valid reason for terminating or avoiding the best friend then no, you should never drop your best friend(s). It's often a big red flag that they want to isolate you from friends and family and other people who can see the problem xx

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

Nope he would go. Never her

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By *agnar73Man
30 weeks ago

elsewere

"Unless there was an absolute valid reason for terminating or avoiding the best friend then no, you should never drop your best friend(s). It's often a big red flag that they want to isolate you from friends and family and other people who can see the problem xx"

this.

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

Don't have either so don't need to worry about it

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

"Of you partner is creating questions like that, or your having to think of stuff like that, you shouldn’t be together. *just my opinion.

A relationship should be easy, and you should be on the same page. "

*if

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
30 weeks ago

your head

No way. I'd be single and out dancing with my best friend.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
30 weeks ago

little house on the praire

Absolutely not

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
30 weeks ago

Transsexual Transylvania

"Would you stop seeing your best friend if your partner didn't like them for whatever reason? "

Yes. Your partner comes first.

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
30 weeks ago

Transsexual Transylvania

"Would you stop seeing your best friend if your partner didn't like them for whatever reason?

Yes. Your partner comes first. "

Of course, my partner was my best friend, so it was moot.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
30 weeks ago

couple, us we him her.

If the best friend was trying to sabotage the relationship and sway the partner then yes it's acceptable.

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By *endalshaggersCouple
30 weeks ago

Kendal

Nope.

She doesn't really like mine but I see him often.

I like her best friend (and we've fucked so....)

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
30 weeks ago

Transsexual Transylvania

Wow, my knee-jerk reaction (based on my own relationship - I trusted my wife implicitly) puts me in a minority of one.

I would have done anything for her, and she for me.

I realise that not every relationship is like that, so I'll modify my answer to - it depends on the relationship and the circumstances.

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By *reddyMan
30 weeks ago

Sutton

No, your partner should respect your friendships. If your relationship ends, you're friends will be still there for you.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
30 weeks ago

couple, us we him her.

Some "best friends" can be extremely destructive to a relationship particularly if they are single.

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By *hoccaMan
30 weeks ago

local

I mean if my best friend tried to put her in a headlock then yeah probably

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By *ayRyuMan
30 weeks ago

Harrogate

Absolutely not. They're the ones who've been there and picked the pieces when things go badly wrong.

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By *cLovin2Man
30 weeks ago

Reading

My bestie has been bestie since I can remember, any woman who tried to come between us frankly would not last long with me. But tbh the partners I've had are not threatened by him, the quality of the bestie is also a thing. Good bestie will not interfere or cause issues in your relationship.

I kinda feel for op where bestie is someone of the opposite sex. A lot of insecure men (unlike me) would be threatened by that. It's about the factors that led them to be insecure, not the bestie per se.

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By *adtaffladMan
30 weeks ago

Rhyl

No not at all . They wouldn't like it if the shoe was on the other foot

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

I had besties but they moved on.

If I was seeing anyone and they told me not to see my friends I be showing them a door

Now go,walk out the door,I will survive..

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By *gent CoulsonMan
30 weeks ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

Definitely not, a previous partner tried to cut me off from then, they became an ex partner very quickly

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By *2000ManMan
30 weeks ago

Worthing

No, she is probably testing you as most women do.

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By *issmorganWoman
30 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Nope, we've been mates 38 years and she's been with me though thick and thin.

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By *ripfillMan
30 weeks ago

havant

You should see your best mate(s)

If prevented in doing so, could this is it deemed as “ controlling “ which in my view is not a healthy thing for any relationship.

It’s a fair trade off ? See your mate

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By *uriousscouserWoman
30 weeks ago

Wirral

Absolutely not.

Partners have come and gone over the last 30 years but my best mate has been there through it all.

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By *iss.Bella.Woman
30 weeks ago

Wales

Absolutely not

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
30 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry

Get fucked

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
30 weeks ago

Leeds

"My best friend is male, met him when I was 16......my ex husband hated him being my friend (hence ex)

Did he actually ask you to stop seeing him..??

Jealousy..??

Controlling..??"

Yes, he asked me not to see him anymore

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
30 weeks ago

Leeds

"My best friend is male, met him when I was 16......my ex husband hated him being my friend (hence ex)

Did you fuck best friend?"

We did, once, years before I met the ex husband but we decided we would be better of as friends rather than anything else.

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By *avexxMan
30 weeks ago

cheshire

no i wouldnt,,,

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By *ed MartinMan
30 weeks ago

Shefford

New partner, old friend, then no.

Old partner, new friend, then I’d want to hear more about why, but in either case, I’d see this as a potential red flag for the relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

"My best friend is male, met him when I was 16......my ex husband hated him being my friend (hence ex)

Did he actually ask you to stop seeing him..??

Jealousy..??

Controlling..??

Yes, he asked me not to see him anymore "

The reddest of red flags

Adios Amigo

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By *cLovin2Man
30 weeks ago

Reading

"My best friend is male, met him when I was 16......my ex husband hated him being my friend (hence ex)

Did you fuck best friend?

We did, once, years before I met the ex husband but we decided we would be better of as friends rather than anything else."

I understand the dilemma, frankly I am also seeing someone she doesn't like the fact that I have female friends. But it's not her decision whom I see or don't see. It's a red flag that the relationship is not on an even keel if he's placing conditions on who you see. I personally wouldn't tolerate such a difficult person, because even if you obey him, he'll find something else to complain about. It never ends.

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
30 weeks ago

Leeds

"My best friend is male, met him when I was 16......my ex husband hated him being my friend (hence ex)

Did you fuck best friend?

We did, once, years before I met the ex husband but we decided we would be better of as friends rather than anything else.

This isn't an ongoing situation....this was years ago when I was married.

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

I'd stop seeing my partner.

I don't date non-dog ppl.

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

I think it’s a discussion and reassurance situation. Nobody needs to dump anyone, best friend or partner. Just talk it through

Folks don’t talk enough. Life isn’t usually so black and white…

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By *xfordjohnMan
30 weeks ago

Oxford

No - friends are really important.

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