FabSwingers.com forum: Do you prefer having a social before fun in the bedroom or just a straight get into it meet?

By *exxyyDy11 OP Man
37 weeks ago

Darwen

Personally I think I prefer a social first, like breaking the ice and having a laugh and getting to know each other before diving into it.

But that is just me.

What about everyone else?

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

I'm always up for socials I just like meeting new people

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
37 weeks ago

Essex

Social.

For the obvious safety reasons. Then the do I actually fancy you bit.

But the build up. The flirting. Eye contact. Talking, laughing. The occasional touch - which becomes constant contact. A little kiss. A bigger kiss. Wanting to leave right there and then, but forcing yourselves not to.

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By *eliWoman
37 weeks ago

Social. It's very, very rare I have sex straight after one for a myriad of reasons.

Plus, much like Misty, I like the tension and anticipation that can come about.

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By *obilebottomMan
37 weeks ago

All over

There must be at least six years of catch me if you can first.

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By *exxyyDy11 OP Man
37 weeks ago

Darwen

"Social.

For the obvious safety reasons. Then the do I actually fancy you bit.

That is exactly my reasons. You don't know a person really until you meet them. Messages are all fine, but face to face is much better

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"There must be at least six years of catch me if you can first. "

Gosh that long. Me make it 7 years with an itch

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

The best times I’ve had from Fab, I’ve started with a social. Something that almost feels like a date.

It’s easy to just jump into bed with somebody, but after the sex it’s gone it’s over.

Just imagine that a long time teasing each other with looks and flirts. Enjoy making each other laugh and relax. And the sexual tension start to build when one of you ask if you’d like to go somewhere private. …

Sometimes Fab works, but it only works when you find the right people

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By *obilebottomMan
37 weeks ago

All over

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By *obilebottomMan
37 weeks ago

All over

"There must be at least six years of catch me if you can first.

Gosh that long. Me make it 7 years with an itch

Lol

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By *eroLondonMan
37 weeks ago

Mayfair

Social. Always.

To reinforce that connection, chemistry and frisson established early on from protracted messaging.

There have been rare exceptions when I've socialised and played on the same day, but that was on the back of phone calls, video calls and extensive messaging which went on for weeks, a month, several months...

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By *unseeker100Man
37 weeks ago

batley

"Social. It's very, very rare I have sex straight after one for a myriad of reasons.

Plus, much like Misty, I like the tension and anticipation that can come about."

The chase can be as much fun as the catch

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By *exxyyDy11 OP Man
37 weeks ago

Darwen

"There must be at least six years of catch me if you can first. "

And how many months and days specifically?

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By *weetiepie99Woman
37 weeks ago

cardiff

I like to 'date', so a social

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
37 weeks ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Depends on who I'm meeting and how I feel about them.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

A message that entwines two minds is a very hard find.

That longing for

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Do you invite strangers into your home first time..no..but if you do each to your own.

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By *exxyyDy11 OP Man
37 weeks ago

Darwen

"A message that entwines two minds is a very hard find.

That longing for "

You sound like an ancient Greek or Roman philosopher there haha

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By *aughtycouple1008Couple
37 weeks ago

west london

Social then fun....it's more fun

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By *eliWoman
37 weeks ago

"There must be at least six years of catch me if you can first. "

Six years? What kind of weirdo would do that?

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
37 weeks ago

Leeds

Social 1st always, there's not that awkwardness if you don't click/find the other attractive in person or get catfished.

I need to know people on more than a photo of tits/arse/cock to know if I am attracted to them, I need a face, a voice and a personality without that - meh.

Mrs

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
37 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

I don't consent to fucking anyone until I know if the chemistry is there in person. So I will only ever arrange a first meet as a social.

Doesn't mean it can't become more. But I would never agree to meet someone new purely for sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Every social I’ve had turned into some play. I just call it a social so there’s an off ramp if they smell or something but I’d be going in packing heat. I’d never meet any female empty handed, so to speak.

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By *ynecplCouple
37 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Social definitely.

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By *ealitybitesMan
37 weeks ago

Belfast

To say I would prefer something might suggest that there are other options.

I don't prefer a social, I insist on one.

If you aren't prepared to meet me socially at least once there won't be an alternative.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Depends on the meet for instance if it starts out as a social but the sparks, juices and pulses are flowing/racing then boudoir it is however if the social is boring for either or both parties (or more if you’re that lucky) then it’s giggles drinks then job done

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By *mmaleiaWoman
37 weeks ago

Trowbridge

I’m really not good at judging whether I like somebody online, so a social always 1st

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By *ora the explorerWoman
37 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

Social

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By *CLM87Woman
37 weeks ago

Derbyshire

Social first.. as mentioned above mainly for safety, but also to see if you click and if they actually look anything like their pictures.

I love a pub social with a pool table

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"There must be at least six years of catch me if you can first.

Gosh that long. Me make it 7 years with an itch

Lol

7yrs. ….

Hold my beer

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
37 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Always a social, same when I meet a couple with my partner.

It could get v awkward if the attraction isn't mutual in real life.

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By *exxyyDy11 OP Man
37 weeks ago

Darwen

"Social first.. as mentioned above mainly for safety, but also to see if you click and if they actually look anything like their pictures.

I love a pub social with a pool table

I love a game of pool. Can't beat it

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By *ucka39Man
37 weeks ago

Newcastle

Depending upon the level and in-depth conversation prior but a social just ends up with a tease but me like it

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"I’m really not good at judging whether I like somebody online, so a social always 1st"

Me too. I was quite surprised by a couple of ladies I met. One lady messaged for days and I felt I’d know her all my life. When she turned up and opened her gob I was weirded out because I’d rendered her in my imagination, filling blanks with wishes and she was quite different.

Not bad different, just not what I was expecting. She squirted like fire hose too which neither of us expected lol. Had to walk back to the car soaked.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"Social first.. as mentioned above mainly for safety, but also to see if you click and if they actually look anything like their pictures.

I love a pub social with a pool table

Pool table and dart board with a b&b or hotel close by to sink a few alcoholic beverages before the karaoke

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
37 weeks ago

Rochester, Kent

Seems I’m a rarity insofar as I like the bare-faced naughtiness of someone meeting me for a guaranteed fuck. Straight to it.

Though I wouldn’t say no to a social, obviously.

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By *CLM87Woman
37 weeks ago

Derbyshire

"Social first.. as mentioned above mainly for safety, but also to see if you click and if they actually look anything like their pictures.

I love a pub social with a pool table

I love a game of pool. Can't beat it "

Nope... Best way of touching and teasing without it being too obvious to every one else lol

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By *CLM87Woman
37 weeks ago

Derbyshire

"Social first.. as mentioned above mainly for safety, but also to see if you click and if they actually look anything like their pictures.

I love a pub social with a pool table

Pool table and dart board with a b&b or hotel close by to sink a few alcoholic beverages before the karaoke

Oh do love me some karaoke... although am not to be trusted with darts

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
37 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry

Quick social, then In to the disabed toilets in Spoons...for a fumble

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Having a social tomorrow. Which is rare for me because I usually just stick with clubs.

Chat with people in the bar then go from there.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"Social first.. as mentioned above mainly for safety, but also to see if you click and if they actually look anything like their pictures.

I love a pub social with a pool table

Pool table and dart board with a b&b or hotel close by to sink a few alcoholic beverages before the karaoke

Oh do love me some karaoke... although am not to be trusted with darts

Me neither but I’m shite at singing too but I’ll give it a go

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Yes social first is best way

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By *CLM87Woman
37 weeks ago

Derbyshire

"Social first.. as mentioned above mainly for safety, but also to see if you click and if they actually look anything like their pictures.

I love a pub social with a pool table

Pool table and dart board with a b&b or hotel close by to sink a few alcoholic beverages before the karaoke

Oh do love me some karaoke... although am not to be trusted with darts

Me neither but I’m shite at singing too but I’ll give it a go

I'll carry you... don't worry

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By *SCouple81Couple
37 weeks ago

Between Edinburgh and Scottish Borders

Social first to check that everybody clicked

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"Social first.. as mentioned above mainly for safety, but also to see if you click and if they actually look anything like their pictures.

I love a pub social with a pool table

Pool table and dart board with a b&b or hotel close by to sink a few alcoholic beverages before the karaoke

Oh do love me some karaoke... although am not to be trusted with darts

Me neither but I’m shite at singing too but I’ll give it a go

I'll carry you... don't worry

Deal

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
37 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Just get on with it.

We don’t even wanna know your name.

And what’s with these people that turn up at our hotel wearing underwear?? Just slows things down.

Bloody people

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
37 weeks ago

Wherever

Always social, or three.

Just to be sure we still want to actually rip our clothes off after.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

always a social with no expectations what so ever

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Socials first, preferably more than one unless we are attending a club night without making plans

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By *r_reusMan
37 weeks ago

Coventry

I remember once having a meet where things progressed so naturally immediately after meeting, that by the time the sex was over it suddenly occurred to me that we hadn't even exchanged names

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By *awpleasureMan
37 weeks ago

Sutton Coldfield

Social first is my preference

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Brilliant idea. I’m in

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

I have enough friends, just give me the sex.

(Also smirking at all the guys saying social first, yeah right)

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"I have enough friends, just give me the sex.

(Also smirking at all the guys saying social first, yeah right)"

She’s right….. I can’t even get a social.

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By *inky duo 100Couple
37 weeks ago

Lancaster

We like to chat online a while then when we meet we usually just play depending on the scenerio. If it's us meeting a man we just message they turn up and we play .

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

I have been on socails with loads of men and couples not all men are same some want to make friends

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By *imisugarWoman
37 weeks ago

Rugby

Definitely a social first.

If they don't want that we wouldn't be compatible so it saves wasting each others time.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

If man makes the effort with me I will make the effort back

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By *oobaaMan
37 weeks ago

South Shields

Seriously, it depends on who its with.

With me, by the time a meet is agreed I know what the rules are and what is expected.

If someone wanted to meet socially 1st then it wouldnt be a problem, and Ive done it, but most times we know what we are wanting, so just meet and go for it.

Its worked that way for years with me

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By *elboy1957Man
37 weeks ago

Weston-super-Mare

The social side can be just as exciting. Love flirting

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

I have done the club scene it's got boring and same thing just looking for one man man really with attraction on both sides I haven't met anyone in while done me good to have break tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"The social side can be just as exciting. Love flirting "

yes I agree

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
37 weeks ago

wonderland.

"Personally I think I prefer a social first, like breaking the ice and having a laugh and getting to know each other before diving into it.

But that is just me.

What about everyone else?"
if we are meeting privately then I need a social first and it can't be guaranteed fun... or I panic and can't even go.

Clubs we sometimes chat first but more often than not it just happens xx

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By *ildo_swagginsthe3rdWoman
37 weeks ago

Wales

No talking. Just get ya kit off (or on as the case may be) and bang me like there's no tomorrow

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By *exxyyDy11 OP Man
37 weeks ago

Darwen

"No talking. Just get ya kit off (or on as the case may be) and bang me like there's no tomorrow "

No messing around

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By *irthy LMan
37 weeks ago

South West England / East London

"No talking. Just get ya kit off (or on as the case may be) and bang me like there's no tomorrow "

Sound like my kind of woman....

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By *irthy LMan
37 weeks ago

South West England / East London

Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it....

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it...."

Chill on Sunday?

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By *herrybakewellCouple
37 weeks ago

Staffordshire

1st meet is always a social whether it's a drink or a meal somewhere.

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By *ot to giggleWoman
37 weeks ago

Coventry

flirty social, the focus, and electric touches , need to see if its there.

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By *erry bull1Man
37 weeks ago

doncaster

Always better to have a drink and a chat first

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By *irthy LMan
37 weeks ago

South West England / East London

"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it....

Chill on Sunday?"

Haha, yep

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Has to be a social first. That's when I know if there's a real connection or not then we'll discuss a further meeting.

I've only ever had 1 social which immediately led to adult fun.

Prior to that, I've mwt up twice with fellas and gine straight to sex and well, yeah, not great and not to be repeated a third time.

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By *exxyyDy11 OP Man
37 weeks ago

Darwen

"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it....

Chill on Sunday?

Haha, yep"

I got let down other night too mate. Blocked me. Didn't have the bollocks to tell she wasn't interested. Ah well. Onwards and upwards I guess haha

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By *S chanel demarTV/TS
37 weeks ago

peterborough

Always a social......

If I was on the way to a social, but had a wank in the car on the way, how is that judged??

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By *ros40Man
37 weeks ago

Bedford

I enjoy both lol

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By *exxyyDy11 OP Man
37 weeks ago

Darwen

"Always a social......

If I was on the way to a social, but had a wank in the car on the way, how is that judged??"

Hahaha touche

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

The first social has always ended in more...

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"There must be at least six years of catch me if you can first.

Gosh that long. Me make it 7 years with an itch

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it....

Chill on Sunday?

Haha, yep

I got let down other night too mate. Blocked me. Didn't have the bollocks to tell she wasn't interested. Ah well. Onwards and upwards I guess haha "

That's why I stick to clubs. If they don't show up, or cancel. "Ohh well plenty more people there"

Ping pong messaging for weeks or months on end. No thanks.

Go to a club meet loads of people face to face, have a chat, laugh and go from there.

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By *ootyfruityCouple
37 weeks ago

andover

Love a social

Much prefer fwb with another couple

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it....

Chill on Sunday?

Haha, yep

I got let down other night too mate. Blocked me. Didn't have the bollocks to tell she wasn't interested. Ah well. Onwards and upwards I guess haha

That's why I stick to clubs. If they don't show up, or cancel. "Ohh well plenty more people there"

Ping pong messaging for weeks or months on end. No thanks.

Go to a club meet loads of people face to face, have a chat, laugh and go from there.

"
people cannot show up at the clubs too

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

No strings attached

No drama

Hassle free

If you are not feeling it move on.

No need to waste time on a meet if you have zilch feelings. I am not a drinking partner for your lonliness

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By *iman2100Man
37 weeks ago

Glasgow

I love a social.

I met one couple in a pub. She threw back 5 gin and tonics and him a couple of pints of Stella, all bought by me.

After an hour they said, "Erm, no thanks", pulled a face, walked out, got in their Range Rover and drove away. People, ya gotta love em.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it....

Chill on Sunday?

Haha, yep

I got let down other night too mate. Blocked me. Didn't have the bollocks to tell she wasn't interested. Ah well. Onwards and upwards I guess haha

That's why I stick to clubs. If they don't show up, or cancel. "Ohh well plenty more people there"

Ping pong messaging for weeks or months on end. No thanks.

Go to a club meet loads of people face to face, have a chat, laugh and go from there.

people cannot show up at the clubs too"

That's why I said ohh well plenty more people there.

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By *alcon43Woman
37 weeks ago

Paisley

My best meets have had socials first. There has to be some attraction before it leads to the bedroom and good at kissing.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"No strings attached

No drama

Hassle free

If you are not feeling it move on.

No need to waste time on a meet if you have zilch feelings. I am not a drinking partner for your lonliness"

Social. Coffee nsa

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"I love a social.

I met one couple in a pub. She threw back 5 gin and tonics and him a couple of pints of Stella, all bought by me.

After an hour they said, "Erm, no thanks", pulled a face, walked out, got in their Range Rover and drove away. People, ya gotta love em.

Ooh sorry to hear that

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it....

Chill on Sunday?

Haha, yep

I got let down other night too mate. Blocked me. Didn't have the bollocks to tell she wasn't interested. Ah well. Onwards and upwards I guess haha

That's why I stick to clubs. If they don't show up, or cancel. "Ohh well plenty more people there"

Ping pong messaging for weeks or months on end. No thanks.

Go to a club meet loads of people face to face, have a chat, laugh and go from there.

people cannot show up at the clubs too

That's why I said ohh well plenty more people there. "
so what you are saying is your meat didn't turn up so you think everyone else in the club is going to sleep with you

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it....

Chill on Sunday?

Haha, yep

I got let down other night too mate. Blocked me. Didn't have the bollocks to tell she wasn't interested. Ah well. Onwards and upwards I guess haha

That's why I stick to clubs. If they don't show up, or cancel. "Ohh well plenty more people there"

Ping pong messaging for weeks or months on end. No thanks.

Go to a club meet loads of people face to face, have a chat, laugh and go from there.

people cannot show up at the clubs too

That's why I said ohh well plenty more people there. so what you are saying is your meat didn't turn up so you think everyone else in the club is going to sleep with you"

I mainly just turn up to clubs don't plan. But if I do plan a meet at a club and they don't show up. (Which I very rarely do) I just chat and have a good time with others.

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By *urora1912Woman
37 weeks ago

Norfolk East anglia

I always like to social first, and see how you vibe with someone

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Talking here is a start. Yes it maybe messaging for weeks. There is no time limit plus we all have lives.

I rather get a good conversation rapport going a feel before anything else.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it....

Chill on Sunday?

Haha, yep

I got let down other night too mate. Blocked me. Didn't have the bollocks to tell she wasn't interested. Ah well. Onwards and upwards I guess haha

That's why I stick to clubs. If they don't show up, or cancel. "Ohh well plenty more people there"

Ping pong messaging for weeks or months on end. No thanks.

Go to a club meet loads of people face to face, have a chat, laugh and go from there.

people cannot show up at the clubs too

That's why I said ohh well plenty more people there. so what you are saying is your meat didn't turn up so you think everyone else in the club is going to sleep with you

I mainly just turn up to clubs don't plan. But if I do plan a meet at a club and they don't show up. (Which I very rarely do) I just chat and have a good time with others. "
chats and have a laugh and a good time with others when you're not in a club as well

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By *bi HaiveMan
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37 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"I have enough friends, just give me the sex.

(Also smirking at all the guys saying social first, yeah right)

She’s right….. I can’t even get a social. "

Have you ever thought about organising one of your own Woody?

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

I'd never meet anyone for sex without a social/getting to know them or even knowing them beforehand from elsewhere like large group socials.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it....

Chill on Sunday?

Haha, yep

I got let down other night too mate. Blocked me. Didn't have the bollocks to tell she wasn't interested. Ah well. Onwards and upwards I guess haha

That's why I stick to clubs. If they don't show up, or cancel. "Ohh well plenty more people there"

Ping pong messaging for weeks or months on end. No thanks.

Go to a club meet loads of people face to face, have a chat, laugh and go from there.

people cannot show up at the clubs too

That's why I said ohh well plenty more people there. so what you are saying is your meat didn't turn up so you think everyone else in the club is going to sleep with you

I mainly just turn up to clubs don't plan. But if I do plan a meet at a club and they don't show up. (Which I very rarely do) I just chat and have a good time with others. chats and have a laugh and a good time with others when you're not in a club as well"
so basically you are letting these clubs control how you meet people

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37 weeks ago

"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it....

Chill on Sunday?

Haha, yep

I got let down other night too mate. Blocked me. Didn't have the bollocks to tell she wasn't interested. Ah well. Onwards and upwards I guess haha

That's why I stick to clubs. If they don't show up, or cancel. "Ohh well plenty more people there"

Ping pong messaging for weeks or months on end. No thanks.

Go to a club meet loads of people face to face, have a chat, laugh and go from there.

people cannot show up at the clubs too

That's why I said ohh well plenty more people there. so what you are saying is your meat didn't turn up so you think everyone else in the club is going to sleep with you

I do that too with a couple of female friends of mine. Go for a drink now and again.

I don't have kids so when I'm not working, seeing friends and family I will go to a club. Sometimes on my own or with others.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
37 weeks ago

Reading

Always

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it....

Chill on Sunday?

Haha, yep

I got let down other night too mate. Blocked me. Didn't have the bollocks to tell she wasn't interested. Ah well. Onwards and upwards I guess haha

That's why I stick to clubs. If they don't show up, or cancel. "Ohh well plenty more people there"

Ping pong messaging for weeks or months on end. No thanks.

Go to a club meet loads of people face to face, have a chat, laugh and go from there.

people cannot show up at the clubs too

That's why I said ohh well plenty more people there. so what you are saying is your meat didn't turn up so you think everyone else in the club is going to sleep with you

I mainly just turn up to clubs don't plan. But if I do plan a meet at a club and they don't show up. (Which I very rarely do) I just chat and have a good time with others. chats and have a laugh and a good time with others when you're not in a club as well so basically you are letting these clubs control how you meet people"
you don't need a club to control you you can meet people without these clubs

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By *ee69Man
37 weeks ago

glasgow

Reading so many socials I must be a proper slut lol

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37 weeks ago

"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it....

Chill on Sunday?

Haha, yep

I got let down other night too mate. Blocked me. Didn't have the bollocks to tell she wasn't interested. Ah well. Onwards and upwards I guess haha

That's why I stick to clubs. If they don't show up, or cancel. "Ohh well plenty more people there"

Ping pong messaging for weeks or months on end. No thanks.

Go to a club meet loads of people face to face, have a chat, laugh and go from there.

people cannot show up at the clubs too

That's why I said ohh well plenty more people there. so what you are saying is your meat didn't turn up so you think everyone else in the club is going to sleep with you

I mainly just turn up to clubs don't plan. But if I do plan a meet at a club and they don't show up. (Which I very rarely do) I just chat and have a good time with others. chats and have a laugh and a good time with others when you're not in a club as well so basically you are letting these clubs control how you meet people"

Not at all. Everyone has different ways they like to meet people. Loads of people stick to clubs. Some people don't like clubs, lots of people like socials first, some like to just to play meets etc.

I prefer clubs. Can relax in the bar area, chat to people, relax in the jacuzzi, sauna.

I don't have kids so just turn up to a club when I'm not working, seeing friends and family.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it....

Chill on Sunday?

Haha, yep

I got let down other night too mate. Blocked me. Didn't have the bollocks to tell she wasn't interested. Ah well. Onwards and upwards I guess haha

That's why I stick to clubs. If they don't show up, or cancel. "Ohh well plenty more people there"

Ping pong messaging for weeks or months on end. No thanks.

Go to a club meet loads of people face to face, have a chat, laugh and go from there.

people cannot show up at the clubs too

That's why I said ohh well plenty more people there. so what you are saying is your meat didn't turn up so you think everyone else in the club is going to sleep with you

I mainly just turn up to clubs don't plan. But if I do plan a meet at a club and they don't show up. (Which I very rarely do) I just chat and have a good time with others. chats and have a laugh and a good time with others when you're not in a club as well so basically you are letting these clubs control how you meet people

Not at all. Everyone has different ways they like to meet people. Loads of people stick to clubs. Some people don't like clubs, lots of people like socials first, some like to just to play meets etc.

I prefer clubs. Can relax in the bar area, chat to people, relax in the jacuzzi, sauna.

I don't have kids so just turn up to a club when I'm not working, seeing friends and family.

"
there is a lot of women that want to meet men that are not in the club scene

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37 weeks ago

"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it....

Chill on Sunday?

Haha, yep

I got let down other night too mate. Blocked me. Didn't have the bollocks to tell she wasn't interested. Ah well. Onwards and upwards I guess haha

That's why I stick to clubs. If they don't show up, or cancel. "Ohh well plenty more people there"

Ping pong messaging for weeks or months on end. No thanks.

Go to a club meet loads of people face to face, have a chat, laugh and go from there.

people cannot show up at the clubs too

That's why I said ohh well plenty more people there. so what you are saying is your meat didn't turn up so you think everyone else in the club is going to sleep with you

I mainly just turn up to clubs don't plan. But if I do plan a meet at a club and they don't show up. (Which I very rarely do) I just chat and have a good time with others. chats and have a laugh and a good time with others when you're not in a club as well so basically you are letting these clubs control how you meet people

Not at all. Everyone has different ways they like to meet people. Loads of people stick to clubs. Some people don't like clubs, lots of people like socials first, some like to just to play meets etc.

I prefer clubs. Can relax in the bar area, chat to people, relax in the jacuzzi, sauna.

I don't have kids so just turn up to a club when I'm not working, seeing friends and family.

there is a lot of women that want to meet men that are not in the club scene"
the club scene started to make me hate men that's why I stopped going I used to like men before I started going to the clubs

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By *arrenandhisduckCouple
37 weeks ago

blackpool

The social side does make us a little uncomfortable but I think that's purely because we only ever want people to watch us we don't want to swap.

If swapping or anyone involved in anyway then yes think a social would be fun

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37 weeks ago

"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it....

Chill on Sunday?

Haha, yep

I got let down other night too mate. Blocked me. Didn't have the bollocks to tell she wasn't interested. Ah well. Onwards and upwards I guess haha

That's why I stick to clubs. If they don't show up, or cancel. "Ohh well plenty more people there"

Ping pong messaging for weeks or months on end. No thanks.

Go to a club meet loads of people face to face, have a chat, laugh and go from there.

people cannot show up at the clubs too

That's why I said ohh well plenty more people there. so what you are saying is your meat didn't turn up so you think everyone else in the club is going to sleep with you

I mainly just turn up to clubs don't plan. But if I do plan a meet at a club and they don't show up. (Which I very rarely do) I just chat and have a good time with others. chats and have a laugh and a good time with others when you're not in a club as well so basically you are letting these clubs control how you meet people

Not at all. Everyone has different ways they like to meet people. Loads of people stick to clubs. Some people don't like clubs, lots of people like socials first, some like to just to play meets etc.

I prefer clubs. Can relax in the bar area, chat to people, relax in the jacuzzi, sauna.

I don't have kids so just turn up to a club when I'm not working, seeing friends and family.

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By *WB85Man
37 weeks ago

Staffordshire

There's no right or wrong way of doing this.

Some like clubs.

Some like socials first.

Some like to just fuck.

Each to their own.

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37 weeks ago

"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it....

Chill on Sunday?

Haha, yep

I got let down other night too mate. Blocked me. Didn't have the bollocks to tell she wasn't interested. Ah well. Onwards and upwards I guess haha

That's why I stick to clubs. If they don't show up, or cancel. "Ohh well plenty more people there"

Ping pong messaging for weeks or months on end. No thanks.

Go to a club meet loads of people face to face, have a chat, laugh and go from there.

people cannot show up at the clubs too

That's why I said ohh well plenty more people there. so what you are saying is your meat didn't turn up so you think everyone else in the club is going to sleep with you

I mainly just turn up to clubs don't plan. But if I do plan a meet at a club and they don't show up. (Which I very rarely do) I just chat and have a good time with others. chats and have a laugh and a good time with others when you're not in a club as well so basically you are letting these clubs control how you meet people

Not at all. Everyone has different ways they like to meet people. Loads of people stick to clubs. Some people don't like clubs, lots of people like socials first, some like to just to play meets etc.

I prefer clubs. Can relax in the bar area, chat to people, relax in the jacuzzi, sauna.

I don't have kids so just turn up to a club when I'm not working, seeing friends and family.

there is a lot of women that want to meet men that are not in the club scene the club scene started to make me hate men that's why I stopped going I used to like men before I started going to the clubs I am glad that I know people that don't go clubs"
I hate the way men carry their selves in clubs the conversations it knocks me sick that's why I was stopped going

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37 weeks ago

"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it....

Chill on Sunday?

Haha, yep

I got let down other night too mate. Blocked me. Didn't have the bollocks to tell she wasn't interested. Ah well. Onwards and upwards I guess haha

That's why I stick to clubs. If they don't show up, or cancel. "Ohh well plenty more people there"

Ping pong messaging for weeks or months on end. No thanks.

Go to a club meet loads of people face to face, have a chat, laugh and go from there.

people cannot show up at the clubs too

That's why I said ohh well plenty more people there. so what you are saying is your meat didn't turn up so you think everyone else in the club is going to sleep with you

I mainly just turn up to clubs don't plan. But if I do plan a meet at a club and they don't show up. (Which I very rarely do) I just chat and have a good time with others. chats and have a laugh and a good time with others when you're not in a club as well so basically you are letting these clubs control how you meet people

Not at all. Everyone has different ways they like to meet people. Loads of people stick to clubs. Some people don't like clubs, lots of people like socials first, some like to just to play meets etc.

I prefer clubs. Can relax in the bar area, chat to people, relax in the jacuzzi, sauna.

I don't have kids so just turn up to a club when I'm not working, seeing friends and family.

Sorry you have had bad experiences at clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it....

Chill on Sunday?

Haha, yep

I got let down other night too mate. Blocked me. Didn't have the bollocks to tell she wasn't interested. Ah well. Onwards and upwards I guess haha

That's why I stick to clubs. If they don't show up, or cancel. "Ohh well plenty more people there"

Ping pong messaging for weeks or months on end. No thanks.

Go to a club meet loads of people face to face, have a chat, laugh and go from there.

people cannot show up at the clubs too

That's why I said ohh well plenty more people there. so what you are saying is your meat didn't turn up so you think everyone else in the club is going to sleep with you

I mainly just turn up to clubs don't plan. But if I do plan a meet at a club and they don't show up. (Which I very rarely do) I just chat and have a good time with others. chats and have a laugh and a good time with others when you're not in a club as well so basically you are letting these clubs control how you meet people

Not at all. Everyone has different ways they like to meet people. Loads of people stick to clubs. Some people don't like clubs, lots of people like socials first, some like to just to play meets etc.

I prefer clubs. Can relax in the bar area, chat to people, relax in the jacuzzi, sauna.

I don't have kids so just turn up to a club when I'm not working, seeing friends and family.

Sorry you have had bad experiences at clubs.

"
that's why I have stopped going and I will never go to a club again it just makes me hate men and not all men are like that that just wants to sleep with anything some men are not like that and they're the kind of men that I want to meet in the future

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37 weeks ago

"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it....

Chill on Sunday?

Haha, yep

I got let down other night too mate. Blocked me. Didn't have the bollocks to tell she wasn't interested. Ah well. Onwards and upwards I guess haha

That's why I stick to clubs. If they don't show up, or cancel. "Ohh well plenty more people there"

Ping pong messaging for weeks or months on end. No thanks.

Go to a club meet loads of people face to face, have a chat, laugh and go from there.

people cannot show up at the clubs too

That's why I said ohh well plenty more people there. so what you are saying is your meat didn't turn up so you think everyone else in the club is going to sleep with you

I mainly just turn up to clubs don't plan. But if I do plan a meet at a club and they don't show up. (Which I very rarely do) I just chat and have a good time with others. chats and have a laugh and a good time with others when you're not in a club as well so basically you are letting these clubs control how you meet people

Not at all. Everyone has different ways they like to meet people. Loads of people stick to clubs. Some people don't like clubs, lots of people like socials first, some like to just to play meets etc.

I prefer clubs. Can relax in the bar area, chat to people, relax in the jacuzzi, sauna.

I don't have kids so just turn up to a club when I'm not working, seeing friends and family.

Sorry you have had bad experiences at clubs.

that's why I have stopped going and I will never go to a club again it just makes me hate men and not all men are like that that just wants to sleep with anything some men are not like that and they're the kind of men that I want to meet in the future"

It's horrible you have had bad experiences in clubs. Not all men in clubs sleep with anyone. Definitely not me.

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By *empest2KMan
37 weeks ago

Derby

"Social. Always.

To reinforce that connection, chemistry and frisson established early on from protracted messaging.

This is the same for me.

Sadly, not everyone acts the same in person as they do online, so socials give you the chance to determine whether reality meets expectation, and vice versa, in my humble opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it....

Chill on Sunday?

Haha, yep

I got let down other night too mate. Blocked me. Didn't have the bollocks to tell she wasn't interested. Ah well. Onwards and upwards I guess haha

That's why I stick to clubs. If they don't show up, or cancel. "Ohh well plenty more people there"

Ping pong messaging for weeks or months on end. No thanks.

Go to a club meet loads of people face to face, have a chat, laugh and go from there.

people cannot show up at the clubs too

That's why I said ohh well plenty more people there. so what you are saying is your meat didn't turn up so you think everyone else in the club is going to sleep with you

I mainly just turn up to clubs don't plan. But if I do plan a meet at a club and they don't show up. (Which I very rarely do) I just chat and have a good time with others. chats and have a laugh and a good time with others when you're not in a club as well so basically you are letting these clubs control how you meet people

Not at all. Everyone has different ways they like to meet people. Loads of people stick to clubs. Some people don't like clubs, lots of people like socials first, some like to just to play meets etc.

I prefer clubs. Can relax in the bar area, chat to people, relax in the jacuzzi, sauna.

I don't have kids so just turn up to a club when I'm not working, seeing friends and family.

Sorry you have had bad experiences at clubs.

It's horrible you have had bad experiences in clubs. Not all men in clubs sleep with anyone. Definitely not me. "
a lot of men in clubs sliver like snakes round couples and single females going around saying the same conversations

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it.... Just to get a bit of sex

Chill on Sunday?

Haha, yep

I got let down other night too mate. Blocked me. Didn't have the bollocks to tell she wasn't interested. Ah well. Onwards and upwards I guess haha

That's why I stick to clubs. If they don't show up, or cancel. "Ohh well plenty more people there"

Ping pong messaging for weeks or months on end. No thanks.

Go to a club meet loads of people face to face, have a chat, laugh and go from there.

people cannot show up at the clubs too

That's why I said ohh well plenty more people there. so what you are saying is your meat didn't turn up so you think everyone else in the club is going to sleep with you

I mainly just turn up to clubs don't plan. But if I do plan a meet at a club and they don't show up. (Which I very rarely do) I just chat and have a good time with others. chats and have a laugh and a good time with others when you're not in a club as well so basically you are letting these clubs control how you meet people

Not at all. Everyone has different ways they like to meet people. Loads of people stick to clubs. Some people don't like clubs, lots of people like socials first, some like to just to play meets etc.

I prefer clubs. Can relax in the bar area, chat to people, relax in the jacuzzi, sauna.

I don't have kids so just turn up to a club when I'm not working, seeing friends and family.

Sorry you have had bad experiences at clubs.

It's horrible you have had bad experiences in clubs. Not all men in clubs sleep with anyone. Definitely not me. a lot of men in clubs sliver like snakes round couples and single females going around saying the same conversations"

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37 weeks ago

"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it.... Just to get a bit of sex

Chill on Sunday?

Haha, yep

I got let down other night too mate. Blocked me. Didn't have the bollocks to tell she wasn't interested. Ah well. Onwards and upwards I guess haha

That's why I stick to clubs. If they don't show up, or cancel. "Ohh well plenty more people there"

Ping pong messaging for weeks or months on end. No thanks.

Go to a club meet loads of people face to face, have a chat, laugh and go from there.

people cannot show up at the clubs too

That's why I said ohh well plenty more people there. so what you are saying is your meat didn't turn up so you think everyone else in the club is going to sleep with you

I mainly just turn up to clubs don't plan. But if I do plan a meet at a club and they don't show up. (Which I very rarely do) I just chat and have a good time with others. chats and have a laugh and a good time with others when you're not in a club as well so basically you are letting these clubs control how you meet people

Not at all. Everyone has different ways they like to meet people. Loads of people stick to clubs. Some people don't like clubs, lots of people like socials first, some like to just to play meets etc.

I prefer clubs. Can relax in the bar area, chat to people, relax in the jacuzzi, sauna.

I don't have kids so just turn up to a club when I'm not working, seeing friends and family.

Sorry you have had bad experiences at clubs.

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By *ouples_EroticaXXXCouple
37 weeks ago

manchester

Straight at it.

Not here for friendship

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By *ife NinjaMan
37 weeks ago

Dunfermline

"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it.... Just to get a bit of sex

Chill on Sunday?

Haha, yep

I got let down other night too mate. Blocked me. Didn't have the bollocks to tell she wasn't interested. Ah well. Onwards and upwards I guess haha

That's why I stick to clubs. If they don't show up, or cancel. "Ohh well plenty more people there"

Ping pong messaging for weeks or months on end. No thanks.

Go to a club meet loads of people face to face, have a chat, laugh and go from there.

people cannot show up at the clubs too

That's why I said ohh well plenty more people there. so what you are saying is your meat didn't turn up so you think everyone else in the club is going to sleep with you

I mainly just turn up to clubs don't plan. But if I do plan a meet at a club and they don't show up. (Which I very rarely do) I just chat and have a good time with others. chats and have a laugh and a good time with others when you're not in a club as well so basically you are letting these clubs control how you meet people

Not at all. Everyone has different ways they like to meet people. Loads of people stick to clubs. Some people don't like clubs, lots of people like socials first, some like to just to play meets etc.

I prefer clubs. Can relax in the bar area, chat to people, relax in the jacuzzi, sauna.

I don't have kids so just turn up to a club when I'm not working, seeing friends and family.

Sorry you have had bad experiences at clubs.

O love a social. In a club I'll have conservations, even if it leads nowhere. Not one for following a woman around like a zombie

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37 weeks ago

"Straight at it.

Not here for friendship "
at least you're honest what you're looking for but not everyone wants to go straight at it

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By *ilth N KinkCouple
37 weeks ago

Gloucester

Social always first for us

Kink (mrs)

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By *allen Angels CplCouple
37 weeks ago

North East leicestershire

Always social first, need to feel if there is chemistry.

We have also had meets where they turn up and are 10+ years older than they appear in their photos!

Flirting and seduction adds to the lead up to sex too. X

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By *BootyfulDayWoman
37 weeks ago

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Social first please

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By *ewels74Woman
37 weeks ago

Dundee/Angus/Blackpool

Would seriously need to be a social, whether it be a coffee, or just meeting in a public area so where even chat even if gets naughty but flirty you can then get the lay of the land...so to speak.

Cause even if you had been speaking on here in messages you cannot always feel how someone is or that, and if there is a spark when you meet then in a way you know.

There is much more things like nerves and stuff. Plus im shy a lot of the time as well so until im super comfortable in someone's presence in a social its one way to break the ice.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it.... Just to get a bit of sex

Chill on Sunday?

Haha, yep

I got let down other night too mate. Blocked me. Didn't have the bollocks to tell she wasn't interested. Ah well. Onwards and upwards I guess haha

That's why I stick to clubs. If they don't show up, or cancel. "Ohh well plenty more people there"

Ping pong messaging for weeks or months on end. No thanks.

Go to a club meet loads of people face to face, have a chat, laugh and go from there.

people cannot show up at the clubs too

That's why I said ohh well plenty more people there. so what you are saying is your meat didn't turn up so you think everyone else in the club is going to sleep with you

I mainly just turn up to clubs don't plan. But if I do plan a meet at a club and they don't show up. (Which I very rarely do) I just chat and have a good time with others. chats and have a laugh and a good time with others when you're not in a club as well so basically you are letting these clubs control how you meet people

Not at all. Everyone has different ways they like to meet people. Loads of people stick to clubs. Some people don't like clubs, lots of people like socials first, some like to just to play meets etc.

I prefer clubs. Can relax in the bar area, chat to people, relax in the jacuzzi, sauna.

I don't have kids so just turn up to a club when I'm not working, seeing friends and family.

Sorry you have had bad experiences at clubs.

O love a social. In a club I'll have conservations, even if it leads nowhere. Not one for following a woman around like a zombie

They are called the wanking dead.

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By *ex HolesMan
37 weeks ago

Up North

I prefer to see the meat before sampling

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By *reative-mindMan
37 weeks ago

Exeter

Social or chatting for a ages. Probably a mix of both.

Quality over quantity is what im here for.

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By *rozac_fairyCouple
37 weeks ago

Birmingham

As we only meet in clubs, we kinda get both in one go. We aim for socials and if the moment feels right, we will invite/accept play.

It's been far easier for us personally to combine the two.

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37 weeks ago

"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it.... Just to get a bit of sex

Chill on Sunday?

Haha, yep

I got let down other night too mate. Blocked me. Didn't have the bollocks to tell she wasn't interested. Ah well. Onwards and upwards I guess haha

That's why I stick to clubs. If they don't show up, or cancel. "Ohh well plenty more people there"

Ping pong messaging for weeks or months on end. No thanks.

Go to a club meet loads of people face to face, have a chat, laugh and go from there.

people cannot show up at the clubs too

That's why I said ohh well plenty more people there. so what you are saying is your meat didn't turn up so you think everyone else in the club is going to sleep with you

I mainly just turn up to clubs don't plan. But if I do plan a meet at a club and they don't show up. (Which I very rarely do) I just chat and have a good time with others. chats and have a laugh and a good time with others when you're not in a club as well so basically you are letting these clubs control how you meet people

Not at all. Everyone has different ways they like to meet people. Loads of people stick to clubs. Some people don't like clubs, lots of people like socials first, some like to just to play meets etc.

I prefer clubs. Can relax in the bar area, chat to people, relax in the jacuzzi, sauna.

I don't have kids so just turn up to a club when I'm not working, seeing friends and family.

Sorry you have had bad experiences at clubs.

O love a social. In a club I'll have conservations, even if it leads nowhere. Not one for following a woman around like a zombie

They are called the wanking dead. "
they are brothels clubs but only people get paid are bar staff and hosts

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it.... Just to get a bit of sex

Chill on Sunday?

Haha, yep

I got let down other night too mate. Blocked me. Didn't have the bollocks to tell she wasn't interested. Ah well. Onwards and upwards I guess haha

That's why I stick to clubs. If they don't show up, or cancel. "Ohh well plenty more people there"

Ping pong messaging for weeks or months on end. No thanks.

Go to a club meet loads of people face to face, have a chat, laugh and go from there.

people cannot show up at the clubs too

That's why I said ohh well plenty more people there. so what you are saying is your meat didn't turn up so you think everyone else in the club is going to sleep with you

I mainly just turn up to clubs don't plan. But if I do plan a meet at a club and they don't show up. (Which I very rarely do) I just chat and have a good time with others. chats and have a laugh and a good time with others when you're not in a club as well so basically you are letting these clubs control how you meet people

Not at all. Everyone has different ways they like to meet people. Loads of people stick to clubs. Some people don't like clubs, lots of people like socials first, some like to just to play meets etc.

I prefer clubs. Can relax in the bar area, chat to people, relax in the jacuzzi, sauna.

I don't have kids so just turn up to a club when I'm not working, seeing friends and family.

Sorry you have had bad experiences at clubs.

O love a social. In a club I'll have conservations, even if it leads nowhere. Not one for following a woman around like a zombie

They are called the wanking dead. they are brothels clubs but only people get paid are bar staff and hosts "
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By *oxy jWoman
37 weeks ago

taunton somerset

i very rarely do socials anymore im not here to hear the other persons life story i find socials can be with guys very very boring for me i just want sexual attraction and to know we are going to have fun and be on the same page fun wise .... going back quite a few years i was with friends who never did socials and they never got let down so i/we tried that along with a tougher selection process and we hardly ever got let down again ..

dont get me wrong we enjoy clubs and will enjoy socials with couples and women but just not guys i found socials gave away too much info and they wanted too much info with some becoming too invested / clingy/ stalkerish it improved my meets with guys vastly and another thing i do with guys is if we are wanting to meet then its no further in advance planning than one week and it works ive not been let down for a very very long time cant remember the last meet that was crap neither ...

people harp on about socials as if its a golden rule with swinging but its really not i know way way more couples who dont do socials than those who do ...

of course its completely different for single women safe wise ...

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37 weeks ago

"i very rarely do socials anymore im not here to hear the other persons life story i find socials can be with guys very very boring for me i just want sexual attraction and to know we are going to have fun and be on the same page fun wise .... going back quite a few years i was with friends who never did socials and they never got let down so i/we tried that along with a tougher selection process and we hardly ever got let down again ..

people harp on about socials as if its a golden rule with swinging but its really not i know way way more couples who dont do socials than those who do ...

of course its completely different for single women safe wise ..."
volunteering making them money charity worker

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By *outhsuffolkcoupleCouple
37 weeks ago

Ipswich

Always a social first to make sure there is some connection. Clubs is a different matter

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By *oxy jWoman
37 weeks ago

taunton somerset

people harp on about socials as if its a golden rule with swinging but its really not i know way way more couples who dont do socials than those who do ...

of course its completely different for single women safe wise ...

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By *lirtyfuncplxCouple
37 weeks ago

South Yorkshire

A social is a must for us. Connection in person is better than connection via messaging. We’re absolutely not opposed to playing on the first meet but it does require a bit of a social aspect to it first. As others have said, break the ice, get some common ground, ensure there’s attractions and boundaries etc x

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By *eiaorganaWoman
37 weeks ago

Dundee

A social is non negotiable. Imagining someone turning up and either looking nothing like their pic or there being no chemistry and it's totally disappointing. No thanks

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By *udie NudieMan
37 weeks ago

Newcastle

Social first. Definitely.

I'm not some desperate fuck-machine.

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
37 weeks ago

Sheffield

"As we only meet in clubs, we kinda get both in one go. We aim for socials and if the moment feels right, we will invite/accept play.

It's been far easier for us personally to combine the two. "

I’ve found this also. Just clubs for me too.

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
37 weeks ago

Sheffield

"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it.... Just to get a bit of sex

Chill on Sunday?

Haha, yep

I got let down other night too mate. Blocked me. Didn't have the bollocks to tell she wasn't interested. Ah well. Onwards and upwards I guess haha

That's why I stick to clubs. If they don't show up, or cancel. "Ohh well plenty more people there"

Ping pong messaging for weeks or months on end. No thanks.

Go to a club meet loads of people face to face, have a chat, laugh and go from there.

people cannot show up at the clubs too

That's why I said ohh well plenty more people there. so what you are saying is your meat didn't turn up so you think everyone else in the club is going to sleep with you

I mainly just turn up to clubs don't plan. But if I do plan a meet at a club and they don't show up. (Which I very rarely do) I just chat and have a good time with others. chats and have a laugh and a good time with others when you're not in a club as well so basically you are letting these clubs control how you meet people

Not at all. Everyone has different ways they like to meet people. Loads of people stick to clubs. Some people don't like clubs, lots of people like socials first, some like to just to play meets etc.

I prefer clubs. Can relax in the bar area, chat to people, relax in the jacuzzi, sauna.

I don't have kids so just turn up to a club when I'm not working, seeing friends and family.

Sorry you have had bad experiences at clubs.

O love a social. In a club I'll have conservations, even if it leads nowhere. Not one for following a woman around like a zombie

They are called the wanking dead. they are brothels clubs but only people get paid are bar staff and hosts "

Not sure what clubs or events you’ve been to think that. I’ve always felt safe and enjoyed the ones I’ve attended. And have plenty more planned!

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
37 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry

people harp on about socials as if its a golden rule with swinging but its really not i know way way more couples who dont do socials than those who do ...

of course its completely different for single women safe wise ... volunteering making them money charity worker "

Cuckoo cuckoo

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37 weeks ago

In an ideal world, it would be a social first always. But have met with women who are quite far away and have just been in the area, in which case it's been a drink and then down to it which I enjoyed as we would have already messaged a lot beforehand and the drink helps whet the appetite a bit before the main event

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37 weeks ago

people harp on about socials as if its a golden rule with swinging but its really not i know way way more couples who dont do socials than those who do ...

of course its completely different for single women safe wise ... volunteering making them money charity worker

Cuckoo cuckoo

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women going with men they not attracted too in club for free be real

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By *uffnmuffCouple
37 weeks ago

London

social always x

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By *partharmonyCouple
37 weeks ago

Ruislip

At least one social, no question. We would never just jump into bed with anybody if we didn't enjoy a bit of banter together.

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