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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do you prefer to do last minute meets or get to know someone first then arranged something?

As I'm quite new to this and just trying stuff out. I like to get to know people and make sure I'm safe and meeting up with the right person.

I learned that the hard way with my first meet so I'm very cautious about who I talk to now.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I never have and never will do last minute meets... worked out for me so far.

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By *ynne459TV/TS
over a year ago

wigan

Don’t do last minute meets, prefer to know who I am going to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you prefer to do last minute meets or get to know someone first then arranged something?

As I'm quite new to this and just trying stuff out. I like to get to know people and make sure I'm safe and meeting up with the right person.

I learned that the hard way with my first meet so I'm very cautious about who I talk to now."

Get to know them, speak on the phone, plan a meet

Lesson learned after one pretty last min meet where I just felt a bit awkward and a bit uncomfortable. The person was lovely to be fair, we just didn't click

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

It's a personal thing for me: I've never understood the concept of last minute meets with a stranger.

My meets have been the outcome of protracted chatting/messaging over weeks/months (mostly) and, occasionally, a year (or two).

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I have on occasion done a last minute social. No more than that, though.

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By *ilentnightMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Most definitely prefer to get to know someone a lot first, would never meet straight after 1 or 2 messages

You never know one of us could be a serial killer

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

I’d do a last minute social if it was convenient for both parties

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By *etKatproject88Woman
over a year ago

Bristol

We do both because we look for different things. When it's hubby's turn to choose he puts up an ad and finds someone on the day. I'm more into BDSM and need to choose people I have similar kinks with. So it depends what you're looking for.

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over


"I’d do a last minute social if it was convenient for both parties "

And if there was good coffee and a slice of the finest cake

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair


"I’d do a last minute social if it was convenient for both parties "

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He ^ does love a good party though, where there's lashings of jelly, ice cream, fruit sherbet and ginger beer...and cake.

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By *rixie_BlondeWoman
over a year ago

London (She/Her)

I want to get to know a guy first. Lots of reasons for that, not least safety

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer a meet with a happy ending

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I tend not to do same day, last minute meets but to get to know a man, filtering us in or out, depending on compatibility etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never the same day and never quick. Like to chat for a while first.

Only time I have rushed the meet was not great .... so lesson learnt

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By *rixie_BlondeWoman
over a year ago

London (She/Her)


"Never the same day and never quick. Like to chat for a while first.

Only time I have rushed the meet was not great .... so lesson learnt"

Yeap if a guy wants to meet you NOW he’s wanking and either won’t show or won’t be able to perform

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair


"Never the same day and never quick. Like to chat for a while first.

Only time I have rushed the meet was not great .... so lesson learnt

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Yeap if a guy wants to meet you NOW he’s wanking and either won’t show or won’t be able to perform "

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The same applies to naive women who think ruffling their plumage at men will have them running to them on a whim. I've had my fair share of "meet me now, I'm only down the road in Soho" type of messages.

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By *WB85Man
over a year ago

Staffordshire

I spent time getting to know people and the first meet is only ever a social.

I don't do last minute meets.

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

I’m too old and cranky for last minute meetings now.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Never the same day and never quick. Like to chat for a while first.

Only time I have rushed the meet was not great .... so lesson learnt

Yeap if a guy wants to meet you NOW he’s wanking and either won’t show or won’t be able to perform "

That's a good point, never thought of that!

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito


"Never the same day and never quick. Like to chat for a while first.

Only time I have rushed the meet was not great .... so lesson learnt

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Yeap if a guy wants to meet you NOW he’s wanking and either won’t show or won’t be able to perform

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The same applies to naive women who think ruffling their plumage at men will have them running to them on a whim. I've had my fair share of "meet me now, I'm only down the road in Soho" type of messages."

*_adybugs ruffles her plumage at Nerolicious *

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By *issBehavexxxWoman
over a year ago

essex

Always chat and get to know them first. I think you can definately get a feel for people on here the more you chat to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never ever meet a random you asking for trouble.

Never meet a stranger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The messages I get mainly from ransoms

Wanna fucc...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prefer to chat and get to know them before arranging anything…..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The messages I get mainly from ransoms

Wanna fucc..."

Randoms

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By *ommander_StraxMan
over a year ago

Telford

ALWAYS prefer to get to know somebody first. Last minute usually means it’s a bit iffy. Not idea what they are like, no conceptions of personality… done it before and it very rarely goes well. I tend to just stick to socials now if it’s last minute.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair


"Never the same day and never quick. Like to chat for a while first.

Only time I have rushed the meet was not great .... so lesson learnt

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Yeap if a guy wants to meet you NOW he’s wanking and either won’t show or won’t be able to perform

•

The same applies to naive women who think ruffling their plumage at men will have them running to them on a whim. I've had my fair share of "meet me now, I'm only down the road in Soho" type of messages.

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*_adybugs ruffles her plumage at Nerolicious *"

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That's because I already know you and you're a stalwart of the Fab Forå.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair


"Never the same day and never quick. Like to chat for a while first.

Only time I have rushed the meet was not great .... so lesson learnt

Yeap if a guy wants to meet you NOW he’s wanking and either won’t show or won’t be able to perform

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That's a good point, never thought of that!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to exchange at least 300 messages and a 1 hour video call before I arrange a meet.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"I have to exchange at least 300 messages and a 1 hour video call before I arrange a meet. "

Since you dropped the need for formal introductions through a mutual third party, you’ve made it too easy

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

I like to get to know someone first, then ghost each other for months, then meet last minute.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have to exchange at least 300 messages and a 1 hour video call before I arrange a meet.

Since you dropped the need for formal introductions through a mutual third party, you’ve made it too easy "

I don't trust third parties.

Too easy? Message away.....

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish


"Most definitely prefer to get to know someone a lot first, would never meet straight after 1 or 2 messages

You never know one of us could be a serial killer "

Don't worry. It's unlikely to be both of us.

J

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By *urry BlokeMan
over a year ago

There is, I believe, a fine balance between not knowing someone enough and knowing a little too much about them upfront.

It's finding someone who's scales tip at the same time as yours that makes all the difference.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"I have to exchange at least 300 messages and a 1 hour video call before I arrange a meet.

Since you dropped the need for formal introductions through a mutual third party, you’ve made it too easy

I don't trust third parties.

Too easy? Message away....."

Most men knock a few years off their age here, but with your restrictions I can be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like to get to know someone first, then ghost each other for months, then meet last minute."

That's fab norm

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We’ve mainly got to know people beforehand.

However we did do a meet now ad whilst away one time and we got an Italian guy which was one of C’s fantasies, to have them both chatting in Italian - worked perfectly.

K

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