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"No official diagnosis. But... Waiting mode probably drives B mad - we're at a social or club at 7pm? Don't expect me to be able to do anything useful all day I can get huge anxiety in the build up to things and find the environment overwhelming especially if the music is too loud. J" Completely get you with the waiting mode. Even more so when you desperately want to be productive but you just can't. | |||
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"I'm neurospicy but not ADHD flavour. In terms of the "swinging /poly scene" (I really don't like that term but trying to go with it), I've found far more ND people than I've expected - including those with ADHD. It's easier for me to talk to those who are because... I don't need to explain myself. Have to keep on explaining certain things. I also struggle with half lies, lies whatever. My ND friends it's reassuringly straight forward. One particular social it's fantastic because I don't need to worry about masking, they're a fairly liberal open minded bunch of weirdos and it's great. They accommodate for quiet time, check about being hugged etc. In terms of having sex with them? I embrace the chaos. One date involved us kissing heavily and the next he was playing the piano and getting me to sing along. And then he wanted to... Anyway. It's far more supportive, enjoyable and just, I guess, better than you'd imagine at first. " 'An open-minded bunch of weirdos' - there's the new Fab tag-line. | |||
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" 'An open-minded bunch of weirdos' - there's the new Fab tag-line. " It wishes. Open-minded? | |||
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"It seems most people on fab are neuro atypical, which makes sense as hyper sexuality can be a feature and also relationships can be hard to maintain! Personally I find it makes managing the worlds biggest inbox with the least support features (why no search option??) a nightmare. I loose people I’m interested in all the time because my adhd brain has moved on and forgets to reply, or we are chatting happily but then they drop out of emails I can see and I can’t search for their profile because all I can remember is what the profile pic looked like. " Yes!!! I do this all the time. | |||
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"It seems most people on fab are neuro atypical, which makes sense as hyper sexuality can be a feature and also relationships can be hard to maintain! Personally I find it makes managing the worlds biggest inbox with the least support features (why no search option??) a nightmare. I loose people I’m interested in all the time because my adhd brain has moved on and forgets to reply, or we are chatting happily but then they drop out of emails I can see and I can’t search for their profile because all I can remember is what the profile pic looked like. " This sums up my experience and feelings, so well. | |||
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" 'An open-minded bunch of weirdos' - there's the new Fab tag-line. It wishes. Open-minded? " Well...maybe it could be aspirational rather than factual? | |||
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"I have a theory in its infancy about swinging and ASD. Specifically ADHD. I have ADHD and I think it’s part of why I enjoy the lifestyle & find myself needing certain things. Generally I find swinging/poly good for my ADHD. But things like changed plans, people being untruthful, loud clubs etc can be a struggle. " This comment is something I totally agree with x | |||
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"I'm diagnosed dyslexic, but as my son has been diagnosed ASD and ADHD it becomes very apparent I have very similar traits. I find it hard meeting people for the first time as the internal monologue is constantly telling me I'm going to say something wrong and upset someone. Clubs are hard, but fun once I've had the to settle and adjust to the sensory inputs (audio, visual, and other ) The hardest thing by far though is sending initial messages. I have previously started messaging you OP, but the internal monologue kicks in and tells me it's all rubbish and I hit back. This is probably the most open message I've ever written. #fabtherapy" I can understand totally about saying the wrong thing as I try to over compensate with talking for instance once there were 9 of us in a room and Mr adhd over here over compensated with talking untill I made everyone laugh that much my face was pushed into someone's crotch to get me to shut up | |||
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"My RSD side of ADHD is kicking my ass hard at present, I have not been able to bring myself to meet for the last 15 months " I know the RSD feeling all too well. Sorry to hear you're struggling with it. | |||
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"Try autism and swinging. Jesus H. Christ, that's a bastard to work around!" Hard relate | |||
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"I never thought I’d see a thread about ADHD on here. I have ADHD so can completely resonate with whats been said so far by everyone. " I don't have an official diagnosis (and was told at the doctor's appointment where I asked about it that there's nothing NHS Scotland can do to test for it...) but pretty much everyone who knows me could be knocked over with a feather if it were ever established that I don't have ADHD. | |||
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" 'An open-minded bunch of weirdos' - there's the new Fab tag-line. It wishes. Open-minded? Well...maybe it could be aspirational rather than factual? " Love this! | |||
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"I never thought I’d see a thread about ADHD on here. I have ADHD so can completely resonate with whats been said so far by everyone. I don't have an official diagnosis (and was told at the doctor's appointment where I asked about it that there's nothing NHS Scotland can do to test for it...) but pretty much everyone who knows me could be knocked over with a feather if it were ever established that I don't have ADHD." Won't get much help on the NHS, I paid and went private but it was worth it. Meds cost £90 a month though | |||
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"I never thought I’d see a thread about ADHD on here. I have ADHD so can completely resonate with whats been said so far by everyone. I don't have an official diagnosis (and was told at the doctor's appointment where I asked about it that there's nothing NHS Scotland can do to test for it...) but pretty much everyone who knows me could be knocked over with a feather if it were ever established that I don't have ADHD." I got diagnosed very young, I must’ve only been 8 or 9 years old. In the current climate of the NHS, the waiting times for tests for diagnose autism and ADHD or even a consultation are ridiculous whereas it was a bit more straightforward when I was younger. I think if you know you have ADHD, then use online resources to find ways to manage it. Thats exactly what I do. I don’t take any medication for it at all! | |||
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"I never thought I’d see a thread about ADHD on here. I have ADHD so can completely resonate with whats been said so far by everyone. I don't have an official diagnosis (and was told at the doctor's appointment where I asked about it that there's nothing NHS Scotland can do to test for it...) but pretty much everyone who knows me could be knocked over with a feather if it were ever established that I don't have ADHD. Won't get much help on the NHS, I paid and went private but it was worth it. Meds cost £90 a month though" Have you not managed to get the NHS to take over responsibility for your prescriptions? | |||
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"I never thought I’d see a thread about ADHD on here. I have ADHD so can completely resonate with whats been said so far by everyone. I don't have an official diagnosis (and was told at the doctor's appointment where I asked about it that there's nothing NHS Scotland can do to test for it...) but pretty much everyone who knows me could be knocked over with a feather if it were ever established that I don't have ADHD. Won't get much help on the NHS, I paid and went private but it was worth it. Meds cost £90 a month though Have you not managed to get the NHS to take over responsibility for your prescriptions? " No Ritalin is now class B drug which means and can't be prescribed by a GP only and private specialist. Same as Xanex | |||
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"Try autism and swinging. Jesus H. Christ, that's a bastard to work around! Hard relate " Agreed lol. The reason for this is that sex is a very demanding thing for an autistic person. It is the ultimate form of social interaction with another human being. Autistics often find conversations with people a challenge so you can imagine how difficult something as intimate as sex can be. Then there is the massive sensory overload, all the different sounds and smells and things that are felt | |||
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"No official diagnosis. But... Waiting mode probably drives B mad - we're at a social or club at 7pm? Don't expect me to be able to do anything useful all day I can get huge anxiety in the build up to things and find the environment overwhelming especially if the music is too loud. J Completely get you with the waiting mode. Even more so when you desperately want to be productive but you just can't." Neurospicy here, and this hits real hard. 🖤 | |||
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"Recently diagnosed ADHDr and it’s a definite dopermine fix but sometimes it’s all too overwhelming Hence why i leave and come back again " Totally relate to this, sometimes it can be so stimulating and but then other times it’s the devil! | |||
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"Recently diagnosed ADHDr and it’s a definite dopermine fix but sometimes it’s all too overwhelming Hence why i leave and come back again Totally relate to this, sometimes it can be so stimulating and but then other times it’s the devil! " 100% I love clubs but will stress on the day all day about it. Won’t sit still , just mind running overtime about it | |||
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"Recently diagnosed ADHDr and it’s a definite dopermine fix but sometimes it’s all too overwhelming Hence why i leave and come back again Totally relate to this, sometimes it can be so stimulating and but then other times it’s the devil! 100% I love clubs but will stress on the day all day about it. Won’t sit still , just mind running overtime about it " And then I talk myself out of it when I become so overwhelmed. Obviously going alone heightens this so hiking is such a cure or atleast a time out. Nature is a serotonin boost! | |||
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"Recently diagnosed ADHDr and it’s a definite dopermine fix but sometimes it’s all too overwhelming Hence why i leave and come back again Totally relate to this, sometimes it can be so stimulating and but then other times it’s the devil! 100% I love clubs but will stress on the day all day about it. Won’t sit still , just mind running overtime about it And then I talk myself out of it when I become so overwhelmed. Obviously going alone heightens this so hiking is such a cure or atleast a time out. Nature is a serotonin boost! " That’s very true | |||
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"I have a question. Seems this thread is very friendly and supportive so hope you don't mind if I go a little off piste. Being diagnosed and or being diagnosed as an adult. Does that help in any way? Or are the coping mechanisms the same weather you are diagnosed or remain undiagnosed? " For he it simply put all the missing jigsaw puzzle in to place So many aspects of my life made sense and it’s helped me to find ways of dealing with areas that I just thought I was rubbish with Gave me a bit of inner peace | |||
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"I have a question. Seems this thread is very friendly and supportive so hope you don't mind if I go a little off piste. Being diagnosed and or being diagnosed as an adult. Does that help in any way? Or are the coping mechanisms the same weather you are diagnosed or remain undiagnosed? For he it simply put all the missing jigsaw puzzle in to place So many aspects of my life made sense and it’s helped me to find ways of dealing with areas that I just thought I was rubbish with Gave me a bit of inner peace " So in your case, very worth while finding out? And how do you find out is it. A matter of going to your gp and asking for an assessment? | |||
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"I have a question. Seems this thread is very friendly and supportive so hope you don't mind if I go a little off piste. Being diagnosed and or being diagnosed as an adult. Does that help in any way? Or are the coping mechanisms the same weather you are diagnosed or remain undiagnosed? For he it simply put all the missing jigsaw puzzle in to place So many aspects of my life made sense and it’s helped me to find ways of dealing with areas that I just thought I was rubbish with Gave me a bit of inner peace So in your case, very worth while finding out? And how do you find out is it. A matter of going to your gp and asking for an assessment? " Yes your GP will help | |||
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"As an adult with late diagnosed ADHD I find that sometimes when it comes to swinging my ADHD can either be a blessing or a curse and it can vary really quickly and its a bit like being blindfolded on a roller coaster not always able to predict what may happen. Interested to hear how others with ADHD find it and also what it's like for those without ADHD and their experiences of playing with people with ADHD." Carla here. Was diagnosed with adhd this year.. I find it both a blessing and a hindrance. Sometimes I find if we get guests here i feel that if they aren't entertaining me enough I get very quickly bored and going onto fab trying to find someone else whilst they're here 🙈 | |||
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"No official diagnosis. But... Waiting mode probably drives B mad - we're at a social or club at 7pm? Don't expect me to be able to do anything useful all day I can get huge anxiety in the build up to things and find the environment overwhelming especially if the music is too loud. J Completely get you with the waiting mode. Even more so when you desperately want to be productive but you just can't." I hate waiting mode, the fact that because I gave something at 7 I can't do anything all day bugs the hell out of me. I also hate executive dysfunction, I try to explain it to others as, I see the cup that needs to be moved, I know it needs to be moved, I know I'll feel better once it's moved, but I just can't do it. I struggle to stay focused and often forget to message people. | |||
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"As an adult with late diagnosed ADHD I find that sometimes when it comes to swinging my ADHD can either be a blessing or a curse and it can vary really quickly and its a bit like being blindfolded on a roller coaster not always able to predict what may happen. Interested to hear how others with ADHD find it and also what it's like for those without ADHD and their experiences of playing with people with ADHD." I’m exploring this topic myself I’m convinced i have ADHD and it’s been responsible for my need and desires for casual sex I’ve always wanted to think my brain was wired for kink and now I know why. As you say this is a blessing and a curse especially if your in a relationship with someone else | |||
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"I have a theory in its infancy about swinging and ASD. Specifically ADHD. I have ADHD and I think it’s part of why I enjoy the lifestyle & find myself needing certain things. Generally I find swinging/poly good for my ADHD. But things like changed plans, people being untruthful, loud clubs etc can be a struggle. " 100% agreed 👍 | |||
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"I was diagnosed a year ago and it's been a blessing to finally understand why I feel and do things that aren't necessarily the social norm. I've met lots of other ND people on here which in itself is so comforting and it's amazing how we find eachother instinctively without realising it. The difficulties I have within the Fab world are overwhelm at events and sometimes, during or after play and I'll need some quiet time to reset. RSD can be difficult at times especially if I'm hormonal. Staying focused when talking to someone or within a group of people when there's music or other conversations going on close by. Craving sex! I have to really be careful that I don't get impulsive at times. Burnout is also an issue. I'm all or nothing and that's difficult for me and others at times. Oversharing.... I love fab though, it's great for exploring sexually and meeting so many lovely inclusive people." 200% me Just can’t kick fab kink habbit from my life | |||
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"Recently diagnosed ADHDr and it’s a definite dopermine fix but sometimes it’s all too overwhelming Hence why i leave and come back again " 200% me too | |||
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"Recently diagnosed ADHDr and it’s a definite dopermine fix but sometimes it’s all too overwhelming Hence why i leave and come back again Totally relate to this, sometimes it can be so stimulating and but then other times it’s the devil! 100% I love clubs but will stress on the day all day about it. Won’t sit still , just mind running overtime about it " Can’t do clubs too busy | |||
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"I have a question. Seems this thread is very friendly and supportive so hope you don't mind if I go a little off piste. Being diagnosed and or being diagnosed as an adult. Does that help in any way? Or are the coping mechanisms the same weather you are diagnosed or remain undiagnosed? For he it simply put all the missing jigsaw puzzle in to place So many aspects of my life made sense and it’s helped me to find ways of dealing with areas that I just thought I was rubbish with Gave me a bit of inner peace " 200% for me it was like a light shining on my life events and why I got drawn on to fab | |||
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"100% agree with this, Dopamine by a lull and boredom to only return again. Can be extremely addictive at times. " When the dopamine hits don’t hit the way they used to… (natural dopamine I hasten to add lol) The mix of ADHD and peri/menopause has hit me like a Shinkansen at top speed. Especially with anxiety-social anxiety etc | |||
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"100% agree with this, Dopamine by a lull and boredom to only return again. Can be extremely addictive at times. " Hey there can you please message me about this post? | |||
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