FabSwingers.com forum: Advice

By (user no longer on site) OP
38 weeks ago

Okay... So there's a woman who works on the reception desk where I work.

She seems to flirt a lot with me anytime we are on the same shift.

We've talked a fair bit and it's usually quite flirty, and on occasion it's seemed a bit steamy.

She informed me that she needs two fingers when she's being fingered because one isn't enough and more than 2 is too much.

She's also told me that she always has a completely shaved smooth pussy.

Both of these tidbits of info she offered up freely, I didn't ask her these questions outright, she just seemed to come out with them whilst talking and being a bit flirty.

I even joked about bending her over the desk once, and to my surprise, she just bent over the desk, and said "like this?" And wiggled her bum a bit.

I laughed it off and then another colleague came in so changed the subject to work stuff.

Now... Is she just being super flirty or does she actually want something to happen?

I'd really love to fuck her but

I'm confused really because she's married and has 2 young kids.

I'd appreciate anyone's 2 cents on this. Thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

Walk away now ! In fact fucking run !

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By *stwo2023Couple
38 weeks ago

Worcester

What are you confused about?

Evie

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By *irthandgirthMan
38 weeks ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

Stay well away.

So many red flags here.

Married with kids, and a colleague. As the old saying goes, don't shit where you eat.

If you do decide to go for it, be prepared to leave your job quickly if its found out and her relationship ends over it. You could end up a pariah at work. Even if you don't do anything, if someone sees you in a compromising position like you described it could be a disciplinary for unprofessional conduct.

I would (metaphorically) be backing away and politely closing down and flirtatious conversation.

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By *stwo2023Couple
38 weeks ago

Worcester

I bet it you asked 10 other guys in the office they'd all say she flirted with them.

Evie

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By (user no longer on site) OP
38 weeks ago

"What are you confused about?

Evie "

Whether she wants something more to actually happen between us, or if she's just a very open, outrageous flirt, basically.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
38 weeks ago

Cheshire

Never met a female colleague get that explicit chatting, even when they’ve had a few drinks.

Is she flirting ? In my opinion a definite Yes !

Should you have an affair with a married colleague, my opinion no, see other replies that I agree with.

Good luck with whatever you do.

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By *parkle1974Woman
38 weeks ago

Leeds

Does it really matter what other people say??

At the end of the day, you'll fuck her or you won't.....you know she is married with kids so if you have no morals then crack on.

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By *ittle miss sunshineWoman
38 weeks ago

south sheilds

Ask her out on a date…

maybe she’s just enjoying the attention and winding you up….

If she’s married…… are they poly or would she be cheating on her husband ?

And then if it doesn’t work out between the 2 of you your still guna have to see each other every day which is goin to be akward as shit

Lots of things to consider

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By *irthandgirthMan
38 weeks ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

"I bet it you asked 10 other guys in the office they'd all say she flirted with them.

Evie "

Agree. I think there are 3 possibilities.

1. She gets off on being the centre of attention

2. She enjoys being a prick tease.

3. She is a potential career ender.

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

I've been in a similar situation with two colleagues.

1st colleague, very flirty in emails and over the phone. I remained professional but teased a little, mostly just jokey stuff. She is married with kids. I'm actually glad I didn't pursue anything.

2nd colleague. We worked together years ago and became Facebook friends.

She is married and her hubby occasionally works away. She would often message me during the early hours asking if I was up.

I would see the message the next day and reply asking if she was OK but she wouldn't reply.

A couple of months ago. I received a number of messages( her being flirty( video calls, normal calls.

I replied again asking if she was OK and why she was calling me so late.

She replied but didn't give reasons why she called.

I called her bluff that night as same thing happened but left my phone on loud. I wrote her a meet story basically describing in detail what I would do to her and how powerful I could be.

At the end of the message I said " If you can't handle the above don't message or call me again at silly times "

Thankfully she's taken the hint

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
38 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Fucking your coworkers is a terrible idea even if you're both single.

Add the risk of destroying an actual family on top of the HR nightmare and it's even worse.

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

Doesn't seem like there's anything to be confused about. She's literally telling you how she likes to be finger banged, op.

She's an adult. Maybe she has an open relationship with her partner. Maybe they're separated. Who knows. Ask her.

If you're in the same line of management as her then it seems risky, but from how you say it she might not even be in the same company. Problems generally arise with co-workers, but not if you're doing completely unrelated jobs.

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By *stwo2023Couple
38 weeks ago

Worcester

"What are you confused about?

Evie

Whether she wants something more to actually happen between us, or if she's just a very open, outrageous flirt, basically. "

Oh. Not the moral dilemma of fucking a married woman then

Evie

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
38 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry

Who gives a fuck about random opinions on a swingers site, about sleeping with a married women, or her super flirty ways.

Your a grown arsed man, who needs to make his own mind up....

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By *avexxMan
38 weeks ago

cheshire

shes just flirting with you op,, i had woman at work who was exactly the same

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

"Your a grown arsed man, who needs to make his own mind up..."

"We were gendered to lead, not to read"

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By *icky330Man
38 weeks ago

South West

Enjoy it for what it is! Makes the work day go faster. Perhaps if she continues to steer the conversation that way, ask in a light hearted manner if her fella is up for sharing. Her answer should give you a little more indication of the way she sees this situation panning out. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
38 weeks ago

"What are you confused about?

Evie

Whether she wants something more to actually happen between us, or if she's just a very open, outrageous flirt, basically.

Oh. Not the moral dilemma of fucking a married woman then

Evie "

Oh no, no moral dilemma about that Evie. I love fucking married women, just usually when it happens her husband is watching or helping out lol

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By *na64Woman
38 weeks ago

Manchester

"I bet it you asked 10 other guys in the office they'd all say she flirted with them.

Evie

Agree. I think there are 3 possibilities.

1. She gets off on being the centre of attention

2. She enjoys being a prick tease.

3. She is a potential career ender."

LOL, all of the above,

RUN! Run far run fast

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
38 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I'd leave well alone anyway, her being married would a big enough reason.

Maybe she's flirty with all colleagues, I worked with a woman like that in the past. Always telling men about the 3sums she'd had in the past and what she did when she was a holiday rep etc and she actually lived with another woman. Some people just love attention.

There is no way of knowing if it's a come on or shes just very flirty, unless you observe her with other people or you ask her.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
38 weeks ago

East Sussex

I really wish women wouldn't behave this way at work. if a woman posted that a man was doing this there'd be uproar. Tell her to leave it out and behave professionally or avoid her.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
38 weeks ago

East Sussex

Also if this is flirting it's changed an awful lot in recent years.

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By *exxyyDy11Man
38 weeks ago

Darwen

Personally wouldn't bother. A work colleague and married. Recipe for disaster.

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By *a LunaWoman
38 weeks ago

South Wales

Don’t get involved. Things could turn nasty and you might end up getting reported to HR for inappropriate conduct.

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

Unless she swings with her husband, then the 2nd To last sentence of her being married with children kind of would put a halt to it all for me..

All the circumstances point to it becoming a mexican soap opera from hell.

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By *inAndTonic21Couple
38 weeks ago

Merseyside

You are a grown up and can do what you want but in our eyes the issue is : could your job be compromised if it goes wrong? Would her husband turn up at work to handle the situation if found out?!

If you are seriously interested you would need to ask her does her husband know she seeks attention elsewhere and if it just a bit of fun, likely answer is she likes the cheeky attention

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
38 weeks ago

Bristol

Throw it all to the wind for some fanny... it'll be worth it after you've jizzed.

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By *oubleswing2019Man
38 weeks ago

Colchester

I'm don't know whether she is flirting or not, but I do know such behaviour in a workplace is highly inappropriate and unprofessional.

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