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By (user no longer on site) OP   
39 weeks ago

It's up to us who we choose to see, date and fuck.. but is it morally right to have a regular date with someone you see as a potential romantic interest knowing (and in some cases boasting) about the guy you're going to fuck in a few days time?

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

Depends if you've discussed the boundaries of you "relationship" or not and what you personally feel isnok or not.

And if you feel its not OK, be clear on your boundaries and what you want in terms of a relationship and be prepared to walk away if they can't offer what you need.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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39 weeks ago

East Sussex

What's the dynamic of the possible romantic relationship?

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By *TG3Man
39 weeks ago

Dorchester


"It's up to us who we choose to see, date and fuck.. but is it morally right to have a regular date with someone you see as a potential romantic interest knowing (and in some cases boasting) about the guy you're going to fuck in a few days time? "
You mean the woman is boasting about meeting you?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
39 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Why would it be morally wrong OP?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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39 weeks ago

East Sussex

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By *odevilWoman
39 weeks ago

exeter


"It's up to us who we choose to see, date and fuck.. but is it morally right to have a regular date with someone you see as a potential romantic interest knowing (and in some cases boasting) about the guy you're going to fuck in a few days time? "

Provided everyone involved is aware of the circumstances, yeah.

If for example you're the potential romantic interest/regular date guy, it's your responsibility to decide whether or not your date fucking another guy is a problem or not and communicate that.

What exactly is *morally* questionable in this scenario for you?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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39 weeks ago

East Sussex

Darn it! I didn't proof read.

It would be an immediate end to any potential romantic relationship for me.

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By *estarossa.Woman
39 weeks ago

Flagrante

No.

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

Do you see it as a possible romantic interest? Or does she?

I always talk about other guys with guys I talk to on here. It's good to share.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
39 weeks ago

Literally first date with the romantic relationship

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
39 weeks ago

I don't think in this situation the person who the woman would be dating would know she was even on fab?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
39 weeks ago

But you may not even know

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
39 weeks ago

It's not myself I'm talking about. And I doubt the romantic date knows the person is fucking others or even on fab. Call me old fashioned but if I liked someone, even after a first date, I'd only be thinking about them and not want to fuck someone else

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By *a LunaWoman
39 weeks ago

South Wales

I wouldn’t do that. It’s a bit insensitive.

If they asked I’d maybe mention vague details, but I wouldn’t sing like a canary.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
39 weeks ago

Sorry didn't quote anyone. Hopefully you can work out who I was replying to

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

It’s not something I’d do personally.

I also don’t want to hear about whoever they have lined up to have sex with next. It would make me loose interest fast.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
39 weeks ago

Reading

I am ethically non monogamous. Some of my partners love to hear what i get up to with others. Some don't and i respect the preference. Communicate that you don't like to hear it.

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By *odevilWoman
39 weeks ago

exeter


"I am ethically non monogamous. Some of my partners love to hear what i get up to with others. Some don't and i respect the preference. Communicate that you don't like to hear it. "

This.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
39 weeks ago


"I am ethically non monogamous. Some of my partners love to hear what i get up to with others. Some don't and i respect the preference. Communicate that you don't like to hear it.

This."

It's not me. Its someone else I saw talking about it.

I mean, what if the vanilla date has no idea about their fab life etc. you could be really into someone thinking they like you (and they may) and they're also off banging someone else the very next day they arranged previously to meeting you.

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By *odevilWoman
39 weeks ago

exeter


"I am ethically non monogamous. Some of my partners love to hear what i get up to with others. Some don't and i respect the preference. Communicate that you don't like to hear it.

This.

It's not me. Its someone else I saw talking about it.

I mean, what if the vanilla date has no idea about their fab life etc. you could be really into someone thinking they like you (and they may) and they're also off banging someone else the very next day they arranged previously to meeting you. "

Since I am not monogamous and make this clear from the outset, I have no expectation on anyone I meet being exclusive to me whether they consider themselves monogamous or not - that's their choice.

Assuming that everyone understands the boundaries of the situation and has agreed to continue on that basis, it's a non-issue.

Personally, this situation wouldn't bother me at all. I'd be interested to hear about it. I do however expect honesty/transparency in any given situation of this nature.

For me, dishonesty or omission is the only morally questionable part of the question.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
39 weeks ago


"I am ethically non monogamous. Some of my partners love to hear what i get up to with others. Some don't and i respect the preference. Communicate that you don't like to hear it.

This.

Honesty is always important

It's not me. Its someone else I saw talking about it.

I mean, what if the vanilla date has no idea about their fab life etc. you could be really into someone thinking they like you (and they may) and they're also off banging someone else the very next day they arranged previously to meeting you.

Since I am not monogamous and make this clear from the outset, I have no expectation on anyone I meet being exclusive to me whether they consider themselves monogamous or not - that's their choice.

Assuming that everyone understands the boundaries of the situation and has agreed to continue on that basis, it's a non-issue.

Personally, this situation wouldn't bother me at all. I'd be interested to hear about it. I do however expect honesty/transparency in any given situation of this nature.

For me, dishonesty or omission is the only morally questionable part of the question.

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