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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Don't you have a girlfriend?

Why don't you have a girlfriend

Don't you want a girlfriend?

Any other guys get asked this a lot?

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By *ouples_EroticaXXXCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Just you Romeo

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito


"Don't you have a girlfriend?

Why don't you have a girlfriend

Don't you want a girlfriend?

Any other guys get asked this a lot?"

I don’t ask this. I’d probably ask if you are in a relationship depending on context of our conversation but why would I ask anything else?

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By *amsam101Man
over a year ago

poulton

Never been asked those questions but then I’m not lucky enough to have women messaging me regularly without me them messaging first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't you have a girlfriend?

Why don't you have a girlfriend

Don't you want a girlfriend?

Any other guys get asked this a lot?"
yes.

Also, why no kids.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've found that these sort of questions can mean that they are possibly interested in being your girlfriend. Though it's not an absolute.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never asked any of those questions

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I mean I always get asked why I'm single and what am I doing on this site...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Don't you have a girlfriend?

Why don't you have a girlfriend

Don't you want a girlfriend?

Any other guys get asked this a lot?yes.

Also, why no kids. "

Yeah that's another one. Do you have kids? Do you want kids? Why not? Don't you like kids...?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Never been asked those questions but then I’m not lucky enough to have women messaging me regularly without me them messaging first "

I always get asked this in person.

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By *ingerTwistWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

It's often less about seeing if they're available for more, and more about seeing how much self awareness they have about why they're single, and how comfortable they are with that. And also to check there's no current emotional baggage that's s going to result in post nut clarity crying, or self pity, or a psycho ex sending me abuse.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've found that these sort of questions can mean that they are possibly interested in being your girlfriend. Though it's not an absolute."

Most of those who asked are always older than me so probably not

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By *m-BatmanMan
over a year ago

Gotham


"I mean I always get asked why I'm single and what am I doing on this site..."

Yeah, why are you single and why are you on this site?

Don’t you have a girlfriend?

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Swanage

Never been asked

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By *sWyldWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I don't ask this on here. It's none of my business

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, never asked any of those questions. No one who’d ask!

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By *m-BatmanMan
over a year ago

Gotham


"Don't you have a girlfriend?

Why don't you have a girlfriend

Don't you want a girlfriend?

Any other guys get asked this a lot?"

I am curious OP to be honest…

Don't you have a girlfriend?

Why don't you have a girlfriend

Don't you want a girlfriend?

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

I've never asked this question and I'm 38 years old

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've never asked this question and I'm 38 years old "

Same.

Except I'm a tad older than 38...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get asked this and they get the same answer: it's not for lack of fucking trying!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've never asked this question and I'm 38 years old

Same.

Except I'm a tad older than 38..."

"tad"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've never asked this question and I'm 38 years old

Same.

Except I'm a tad older than 38...

"tad" "

You should respect your elders Joe

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By *rucking-HellMan
over a year ago

Northampton

When I go into town on a Saturday night, I often get asked these questions when chatting to women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've never asked this question and I'm 38 years old

Same.

Except I'm a tad older than 38...

"tad"

You should respect your elders Joe "

I've seen your photos and respected all over them

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By *uddy laneMan
over a year ago

dudley


"Don't you have a girlfriend?

Why don't you have a girlfriend

Don't you want a girlfriend?

Any other guys get asked this a lot?"

NO

No

And no

I prefer women lady friends.

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By *akandaForeverMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I get asked this frequently. I suspect it’s women doing their due diligence and trying to detect any red flags

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Don't you have a girlfriend?

Why don't you have a girlfriend

Don't you want a girlfriend?

Any other guys get asked this a lot?

I am curious OP to be honest…

Don't you have a girlfriend?

Why don't you have a girlfriend

Don't you want a girlfriend?

"

Not the right time I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've found that these sort of questions can mean that they are possibly interested in being your girlfriend. Though it's not an absolute."

I agree. Sounds like they’re doing a little digging to see if you’re available and if so are you a player.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've found that these sort of questions can mean that they are possibly interested in being your girlfriend. Though it's not an absolute.

I agree. Sounds like they’re doing a little digging to see if you’re available and if so are you a player."

Or they are just inflating the old ego.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Positive spin. They want you.

Negative spin. What's wrong with you.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Usually, I find its only people in miserable marriages that bother me with such questions.

Just lucky I guess is my usual answer

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By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante

I have to ask because so many are shady about being single. Its so disappointing when you spend time getting to know someone only to find there is another completely unaware partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The mind boggles. Maybe they just want goss *shrugs shoulders* brew anyone?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

potential reasons

1. indirect compliment - oh my god you're so amazing I can't believe no one has snatched you up

2. they suspect you're in a relationship and lying about it

3. they're one of those weirdos (usually older) who try to pressure everyone around them to have kids. (you have kids, great, you do you, but that's as personal a decision for you as it is for everyone around you!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't you have a girlfriend?

Why don't you have a girlfriend

Don't you want a girlfriend?

Any other guys get asked this a lot?yes.

Also, why no kids. "

Only once and about a month ago. I can’t believe your not with anyone…

Ffs. Neither can I. *cries.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"potential reasons

1. indirect compliment - oh my god you're so amazing I can't believe no one has snatched you up

2. they suspect you're in a relationship and lying about it

3. they're one of those weirdos (usually older) who try to pressure everyone around them to have kids. (you have kids, great, you do you, but that's as personal a decision for you as it is for everyone around you!)"

I think it's number 3...

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I've only ever asked men on here if they have a partner. Otherwise they'll usually tell you anyway

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

WHEREVER I LAY MY HAT

I have never asked this question. I get asked it a lot by men and the answer is very simple - I wouldn't inflict myself on anyone again other than on a part time basis!

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Nope never been asked any of those questions

It's always been what are my plans and mobile number

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

Chichester

Maybe they are nosey or just trying to flatter you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Insecurity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I mean I always get asked why I'm single and what am I doing on this site..."

Me too xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get asked why I'm single and what am I doing here lol xx

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By *assConductorMan
over a year ago

the wild

Never on here over text, but I do get asked those things by people I meet IRL (both from here and otherwise).

Social events with work colleagues springs to mind as the place it'll most commonly occur.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because she loves married dick, women are hardcore that way.

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By *ittleshit-SteveMan
over a year ago

Devon

I normally get told 'I'm surprised you are single' every now and again, although there can be various reasons behind it. Haha although I just typically respond saying I haven't found anyone desperate enough yet :L

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because she loves married dick, women are hardcore that way."

Are you hardcore

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

It's a backhanded way of asking:

What's wrong with you?...please describe your red flags so i dont have to find out later

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