FabSwingers.com forum: Someone I know and work with a bit!

By *enry Jackmen OP Man
34 weeks ago

york

Hi all, just after people’s thoughts on this one!

So a lady I know that lives a couple of miles away and do work with occasionally, yes, she has had an account on here too! (doesn’t anymore tho.) I recognised her instantly although she never showed her face.

Ive since then noticed that she was on some other similar apps that I am on, she also has an only fans account. So I created a account and paid to see under a different name, curiosity got the better of me…

So it turns out she’s a bit of a domme and posts lots of interesting pictures etc, as I’m sure you can imagine. I’ve talked to her on the app, but haven’t told the truth.

So my question is do you think I should come clean to her? What would you do?

Or should I just keep quiet and keep enjoying, as we do work together a couple times a month and I don’t want her to stop as she’s good at what she does and is nice to work with….??

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By *ildo_swagginsthe3rdWoman
34 weeks ago

Wales

How can you recognise someone instantly without seeing their face...

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By *ildo_swagginsthe3rdWoman
34 weeks ago

Wales

I'd recognise that arse cheek anywhere!

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
34 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"How can you recognise someone instantly without seeing their face...

There's plenty of times I've recognised someone from something other than their face.

OP. What do you hope to gain from telling this woman?

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By *almprintsWoman
34 weeks ago

deepest, darkest West

None of your business. Leave her alone to enjoy her life and you can then vicariously enjoy what she is doing too. Why make it awkward?

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By *iss.Bella.Woman
34 weeks ago

Wales

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By *iss.Bella.Woman
34 weeks ago

Wales

"She may think her content is more anonymous than it is. If it was me I think I'd like to know so I can do something about people recognising me. Although If you're on there maybe that's not a concern. I do think you're best being honest though."

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By *penJackMan
34 weeks ago

Northampton

Feels a bit stalky if you come clean. Don't think there's any way to progress this without creeping her out, tbh.

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By *ornycougaWoman
34 weeks ago

NORWAY Wherever I lay my hat

If someone I knew set up a fake account to gain access to me I would be raging. It's disingenuous

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By *electableicecreamMan
34 weeks ago

The West

I guess it just depends on what you want.

I've seen people I know on dating apps and if I fancied them I swiped right. No harm in that. If they fancy me back they'll do the same and that's actually worked out a couple of times.

I feel like if I saw someone on only fans and then made that known it would probably make them very uncomfortable.

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By *r TriomanMan
34 weeks ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

OP, it's also possible that she's recognised you and has chosen not to say anything; maybe you should assume that and follow her example... Just a thought.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
34 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

"Feels a bit stalky if you come clean. Don't think there's any way to progress this without creeping her out, tbh."

It’s definitely more stalky not coming clean and still watching

What would you like to happen OP, as unless you think she’s going to jump on you for admitting you know it’s her, then it’s now creepy!

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By *ildo_swagginsthe3rdWoman
34 weeks ago

Wales

"How can you recognise someone instantly without seeing their face...

There's plenty of times I've recognised someone from something other than their face.

OP. What do you hope to gain from telling this woman?"

From tatoos? Or body parts? Or if they have a distinct hairstyle or something I suppose

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By *oodmessMan
34 weeks ago

yumsville

I doubt she'd stop doing what she does Henry Jackmen, more likely block you. It sounds as though you're a bit fascinated with her, there'd be no other reason to find her other sites and pay to view her otherwise.

What you expect to come of it I don't know. A shag in the toilets, a fb, a gf, a great chat over a lunchtime sandwich.. she's living her life and it's is far and away from the couple of times you've seen her at work.

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

What you’ve done is creepy I’m not going to lie.

Creating a fake profile to get close and talking to her while she thinks you’re someone else. Coming clean and letting her know it’s been you all along would make me feel really uncomfortable. Continuing to watch while she doesn’t know is also really weird.

My suggestion would be to leave her alone

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
34 weeks ago

East Sussex

I can't see any way that she'd be happy to discover that you'd been talking to her under an assumed name on line while interacting with her face to face in real life

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By *agnar73Man
34 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

"If someone I knew set up a fake account to gain access to me I would be raging. It's disingenuous "

There’s curiousity and then stalking.

I might suppose on knowing who someone is, but I guess you chat with them to find out, not do that in my view.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
34 weeks ago

Kidsgrove

Your brain says you could lose her friendship and work skills. Your penis thinks that there is a remote possibility of sex to be had. Delete the fake profile and stop stalking her.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
34 weeks ago

East Sussex

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By *allySlinkyWoman
34 weeks ago

Leeds

Next time you see her at work you could ask why she came off Fab.

Or you could ask if she earns more from OF than her job with you.

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By *eroLondonMan
34 weeks ago

Covent Garden

"...Delete the fake profile and stop stalking her."

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It's not a fake profile. People can have more than one authentic 'fully paid up' profile.

It's when you start using it for nefarious purposes it becomes a concern and something all together unsavoury.

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By *electableicecreamMan
34 weeks ago

The West

OP I actually missed the bit where you wrote that you've been talking to her and she doesn't know it's you.

I honestly feel like that's crossing a line both professionally and personally.

I can't see any scenario where her finding out about that is going to go well for you.

Best just leave it.

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By *imply DeeWoman
34 weeks ago

Wherever

Whatever you hope to come out from this will be doomed from the start as based on borderline stalking behaviour.

Leave the woman alone.

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By *rill PhilMan
34 weeks ago

Crediton

This all seems a little stalkerish.

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
34 weeks ago

BRIDPORT

Take some screenshots next time and then when you meet her at work you can show them to her and advise her on how better lighting and angles would improve the customer experience

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By *allySlinkyWoman
34 weeks ago

Leeds

Could you ask her for a staff discount ?

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By *arla SwingerWoman
34 weeks ago

Somewhere

If you're interested in her sexually you can only float that boat via work. I doubt she'd take kindly to a 'surprise! It's really me on the chat'. If she's not interested in going for a drink or whatever. Then fair enough, bit awkward no harm done. If you approach it from the other angle she could well feel you're trying to railroad her into a sexual encounter from a knowing her in a work setting (worst case scenario).

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By *icolerobbieCouple
34 weeks ago

walsall

She’s offering a paid service, feel free to use it. I would not mention it at work unless she was open about her OF work first.

Having an anonymous account is fine. Just remember that you’re just another paying punter, so what she tells you is probably just what she thinks you want to hear so you keep subscribing.

Surely people who do OF fans know that there’ll be people who know them see their work?

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By *imi_RougeWoman
34 weeks ago

Portsmouth

The fact you've already been sneaky and chatted under false pretences is a more than a little bit off.

I would leave it and say nothing.

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By *naswingdressWoman
34 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

I wouldn't say a word. Too many ways it could go horribly wrong.

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By *imisugarWoman
34 weeks ago

Rugby

Keep it to yourself.

I'd find it really strange if I was in her shoes with the things you've admitted to in this forum.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
34 weeks ago

East Sussex

"She’s offering a paid service, feel free to use it. I would not mention it at work unless she was open about her OF work first.

Having an anonymous account is fine. Just remember that you’re just another paying punter, so what she tells you is probably just what she thinks you want to hear so you keep subscribing.

Surely people who do OF fans know that there’ll be people who know them see their work?"

I agree with this to an extent but telling someone you've been looking at their content under an alias isn't a great idea in my opinion.

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By *mmaleiaWoman
34 weeks ago

East Northamptonshire

"None of your business. Leave her alone to enjoy her life and you can then vicariously enjoy what she is doing too. Why make it awkward? "
this, don’t be weird

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
34 weeks ago

Leeds

"What you’ve done is creepy I’m not going to lie.

My suggestion would be to leave her alone

Exactly this, all this.

Mrs

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By *r. Nice-GuyMan
34 weeks ago

Cannock

Similar apps?

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By *eiaorganaWoman
34 weeks ago

Dundee

"What you’ve done is creepy I’m not going to lie.

My suggestion would be to leave her alone

So, so much this. Leave the poor woman alone

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By *oberto7Man
34 weeks ago

Greenock

Nothing to do with you

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By *alcon77Man
34 weeks ago

under the sun & the moon

Get rid of your current only fans 'customer' page.

Create a new only fans 'creator' page.

Put your stuff on there.

See if she approaches you about it.

That would be a lot more interesting and less stalker-ish.

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By *ot to giggleWoman
34 weeks ago

Coventry

why did you not mention it to her when you 1st realised she had a FAB profile. Having had people keep changing profiles to be able to 'watch' what you are doing its more than annoying.

Either forget it and dont mention it again or if you feel that you need to put it right i would suggest that you have possibly seen her on the OF as its a 'paid' to view so she is after followers.

it is kind of stalking to keep following and watching without her knowledge. I think the paid to view subscription changes the dynamics slightly because she is looking for people to view and that also gives you and angle to come clean about having 'seen' perhaps just that bit

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By *osey WalesMan
34 weeks ago

Surrey

Delete the fake stalkerish accounts.

Next time you are working together ask her out to this "Fab" little place you know and see where the conversation goes from there.

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By *ellhungvweMan
34 weeks ago

Cheltenham

"She’s offering a paid service, feel free to use it. I would not mention it at work unless she was open about her OF work first.

Having an anonymous account is fine. Just remember that you’re just another paying punter, so what she tells you is probably just what she thinks you want to hear so you keep subscribing.

Surely people who do OF fans know that there’ll be people who know them see their work?"

To be honest I think this is spot on. I don’t get why everyone is getting so indignant over someone who is _actively_ promoting _paid_ OF work. I certainly wouldn’t mention it at work - just like I couldn’t mention Fabs etc but I think the idea that she would be shocked that someone she knew was looking at her content is naive. She knows it is a possibility and is clearly happy with that. Good for her is what I say.

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By *ex HolesMan
34 weeks ago

Up North

"How can you recognise someone instantly without seeing their face...

Read my lips

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
34 weeks ago

Central

Walk away and stay there, from her personal lifestyle arena

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