FabSwingers.com forum: F & R

By *obilebottom OP Man
35 weeks ago

All over

Today is a solemn and important day for millions of people across the globe, reflecting and commemorating the crucifixion. Whatever your faith or beliefs, lets wish everyone a life filled with goodness and hapiness.

However, the purpose of the thread is to ask everyone their thoughts on forgiveness and redemption in a totally non religious context. Can you, have you done both? How easy do you find it, or not. Were you the recipient of that yourself? Obviously only share if appropriate.

By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

Forgiveness is more about healing yourself than healing the other person. There's an attitude of a person not being worthy of forgiveness but the longer we hold on to hate, the longer that person hurts us. Acknowledge it, learn from it, forgive but don't forget.

By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
35 weeks ago

kent

"Forgiveness is more about healing yourself than healing the other person. There's an attitude of a person not being worthy of forgiveness but the longer we hold on to hate, the longer that person hurts us. Acknowledge it, learn from it, forgive but don't forget. "

I agree with this for the most part, but there is a caveat for me. There is someone in our past that I cannot and will never forgive. It’s not hate, and I’m not the kind of person to hold grudges. This however, was so wilfully vicious and destructive that I will never be able to find it within myself to forgive. Xx

By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

This in large part but sometimes for our own safety/ peace we also don't. Can depend on the other person's intentions & remorse too. Any of the options below & more that bring us peace not bitterness;

Forgive but not forget

Forgive & forget

Forget but will never forgive

By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

Self forgiveness & the reflection to understand why, whether it is that behaviour that serves us or not.