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By *m-Batman OP   Man
34 weeks ago

Gotham

Sooooo…. Does this mean the person is only wanting to chat, or hang out on the site, or cam or something…

Or is it like a very particular niche, like geo-localised dogging, outdoors, but really really close to home?

Just don’t want to be missing out on a new trend I could get in early on.

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By *orphnStormMan
34 weeks ago

Pontypridd

Could indicate they are happy to share a hotel, meet outside etc.

May be unable to travel longer distances, so could be looking for local meets, or within reasonable distances etc.

It can sometimes seem off-putting, but unless you actually speak to the individual, you won't know.

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

The reason we set it like that is because we only meet at clubs and we have limited travel options due to having relatives we care for.

It is easier to put cant travel and cant accom instead of have having to explain it to everyone who messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

Not at all

Could mean hotel meets only

Could mean club and social events only

Can’t accommodate and can’t travel dosent mean what you think

Well can’t accommodate dose it is exactly what it says

But can’t travel isn’t

They maybe able to travel but not willing to travel to others homes so just set it to can’t travel

That’s not to say they can’t travel to a hotel or social event or club

Just another filter that has to be put in place to stop the constant messages off

Want to travel to mine for a meet type thing

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

Can't speak for everyone but for me it means lying on the front garden all seductive like seeing if anyone wants a piece.

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By *m-Batman OP   Man
34 weeks ago

Gotham


"Can't speak for everyone but for me it means lying on the front garden all seductive like seeing if anyone wants a piece."

Exactly as I thought it meant!!!

For a minute I thought I was being stupid about this!

Ok, back in the game phew!

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

It acts as a filter in itself!

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago


"It acts as a filter in itself! "

This!

Means some of the many people far away who message, hoping to travel to you & meet at yours, think twice before contacting you.

Also to others it means they seek local people who can accommodate.

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By *hristopherd999Man
34 weeks ago

Brentwood

On here it could mean absolutely anything, I find you have to take most things people say on their profile with a pinch of salt generally

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By *rpeggioCouple
34 weeks ago

Baughurst

You forget that many people can accommodate. Those who can't and don't travel might be happy to go to someone's place.

We understand travel as farther than 45-60 mins by car. Below that, it's just meeting someone local at a commonly convenient place.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
34 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross

Can't travel generally means can't travel far but they can meet locally OR have transport provided.

Can't accommodate means they don't use their own home for meets.

It seems very simple to me.

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By *rpeggioCouple
34 weeks ago

Baughurst


"It acts as a filter in itself!

This!

Means some of the many people far away who message, hoping to travel to you & meet at yours, think twice before contacting you.

Also to others it means they seek local people who can accommodate.

"

You beat me to it.

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By *opman121Man
34 weeks ago

stoke on trent

It confuses me too guess they was in a rush when filling the profile on the web site ?

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By *antastic_Mr_Fox_76Man
34 weeks ago

District 13

There are multiple reasons as to why a person sets their profile to these options and that is fine and dandy however for me cannot “travel” is one, of very few, thing that will make not choose to message said person and I say this in the context that if I’m getting to know someone I’d at least expect that someone to “travel” to a mutually agreed location there is public transport if someone can’t drive

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By *heGateKeeperMan
34 weeks ago

Stratford

‘Can’t travel’ and ‘won’t travel for you’ aren’t the same thing

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By *sWyldWoman
34 weeks ago

Edinburgh

It means hotels that aren't a million miles away

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago


"‘Can’t travel’ and ‘won’t travel for you’ aren’t the same thing "

This... Messages are very different when you have can't accom/can't travel aa options

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By *antastic_Mr_Fox_76Man
34 weeks ago

District 13


"‘Can’t travel’ and ‘won’t travel for you’ aren’t the same thing "

They are to me

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago


"‘Can’t travel’ and ‘won’t travel for you’ aren’t the same thing "

Absolute.

I ‘can’ accommodate and have guests. Not everyone gets that invite.

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By *m-Batman OP   Man
34 weeks ago

Gotham


"On here it could mean absolutely anything, I find you have to take most things people say on their profile with a pinch of salt generally"

Everything in my profile is 1000% true!

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By *m-Batman OP   Man
34 weeks ago

Gotham

But where are the outdoor garden dogging parties that are within walking distance then?

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By *dam1971Man
34 weeks ago

Bedford

Just because I can accommodate, doesn’t mean I always will. I’d be forever dusting

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

I can only speak for my own reasons here for my bio saying that.

I am full time Carer for my daughter. I also care for another family member in a separate household. I don't have a car. Money is limited. Free time is limited. My adult daughter lives with me (who I'm Carer for). We have both had bad experiences from online dating where we got involved too quickly. We made an agreement that neither of us would bring someone new back to the house for a length of time, we'd meet and get to know them away from the house before any invites back.

I can't travel long distances as I need to get back home quickly especially if there was a family emergency. It's easier to just put it in bio as 'cannot' instead of explaining to everyone.

So 'cannot accommodate' doesn't always mean it's for dodgy reasons like they can't accomm because they're married and cheating. That's the usual assumption xx

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By *antastic_Mr_Fox_76Man
34 weeks ago

District 13

I can accom and can travel and yes neither are gonna happen in an instance however if a person selects that they CANT TRAVEL, even if this selection is optional to will or won’t, I take it as read and move on simples

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago


"The reason we set it like that is because we only meet at clubs and we have limited travel options due to having relatives we care for.

It is easier to put cant travel and cant accom instead of have having to explain it to everyone who messages."

Similar to my reasons, family care commitments. I can't be many miles and hours away from home. I don't live alone so I have to consider my daughter's welfare and wishes in bringing someone new back xx

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By *antastic_Mr_Fox_76Man
34 weeks ago

District 13


"I can only speak for my own reasons here for my bio saying that.

I am full time Carer for my daughter. I also care for another family member in a separate household. I don't have a car. Money is limited. Free time is limited. My adult daughter lives with me (who I'm Carer for). We have both had bad experiences from online dating where we got involved too quickly. We made an agreement that neither of us would bring someone new back to the house for a length of time, we'd meet and get to know them away from the house before any invites back.

I can't travel long distances as I need to get back home quickly especially if there was a family emergency. It's easier to just put it in bio as 'cannot' instead of explaining to everyone.

So 'cannot accommodate' doesn't always mean it's for dodgy reasons like they can't accomm because they're married and cheating. That's the usual assumption xx"

Now this makes sense and made me realise that “some” folk have genuine reasons x hope you’re well

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By *ot to giggleWoman
34 weeks ago

Coventry

I reckon it means, there's something else in my profile, that you actually haven't read anyway and no the air b&b is closed for the weekend

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By *ris GrayMan
34 weeks ago

Dorchester


"Sooooo…. Does this mean the person is only wanting to chat, or hang out on the site, or cam or something…

Or is it like a very particular niche, like geo-localised dogging, outdoors, but really really close to home?

Just don’t want to be missing out on a new trend I could get in early on."
They like local or maybe hotel and once they've met you a few times they may accomodate

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

Can’t accommodate. Can’t travel.

*I show up in your dreams.

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By *mily36CWoman
34 weeks ago

Beds (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

If someone wants to they will, regardless of what their profile says.

If someone doesn't want to then they won't, regardless of what they say.

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By *eroLondonMan
34 weeks ago

Covent Garden

Cannot accommodate is self explanatory. Cannot travel means that they do have the ability to leave their home and socialise/meet within their locale. However they are not willing or able to travel further afield or miles and miles away. Makes sense really.

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By *imply DeeWoman
34 weeks ago

Wherever


"Cannot accommodate is self explanatory. Cannot travel means that they do have the ability to leave their home and socialise/meet within their locale. However they are not willing or able to travel further afield or miles and miles away. Makes sense really."

^ What Nero said.

I have this very thing on my profile and it means exactly that.

Not a rocket science really.

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By *ltrMan
34 weeks ago

sheffield


"I can only speak for my own reasons here for my bio saying that.

I am full time Carer for my daughter. I also care for another family member in a separate household. I don't have a car. Money is limited. Free time is limited. My adult daughter lives with me (who I'm Carer for). We have both had bad experiences from online dating where we got involved too quickly. We made an agreement that neither of us would bring someone new back to the house for a length of time, we'd meet and get to know them away from the house before any invites back.

I can't travel long distances as I need to get back home quickly especially if there was a family emergency. It's easier to just put it in bio as 'cannot' instead of explaining to everyone.

So 'cannot accommodate' doesn't always mean it's for dodgy reasons like they can't accomm because they're married and cheating. That's the usual assumption xx"

In my case I care for my quadriplegic son so can not accommodate but do travel and have done but the cost of carers after hour is so expensive that limits to how far and how many times I can achieve this

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By *exxyyDy11Man
34 weeks ago

North West


"I can only speak for my own reasons here for my bio saying that.

I am full time Carer for my daughter. I also care for another family member in a separate household. I don't have a car. Money is limited. Free time is limited. My adult daughter lives with me (who I'm Carer for). We have both had bad experiences from online dating where we got involved too quickly. We made an agreement that neither of us would bring someone new back to the house for a length of time, we'd meet and get to know them away from the house before any invites back.

I can't travel long distances as I need to get back home quickly especially if there was a family emergency. It's easier to just put it in bio as 'cannot' instead of explaining to everyone.

So 'cannot accommodate' doesn't always mean it's for dodgy reasons like they can't accomm because they're married and cheating. That's the usual assumption xx"

Ahh gotcha. Thanks for explaining

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By *rpeggioCouple
34 weeks ago

Baughurst


"Cannot accommodate is self explanatory. Cannot travel means that they do have the ability to leave their home and socialise/meet within their locale. However they are not willing or able to travel further afield or miles and miles away. Makes sense really."

Well, apparently to many hear it doesn't make sense. They seem to think that walking to the local pub is traveling to the pub, our they travel to knock on the door of their next door neighbour. I would have assumed most people can figure out the difference between traveling and getting out of home locally.

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

I interpret it as long distance travel.

Reminds me of Richard from the Undateables who had a strict rule of no more than 5 miles.

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By *arla SwingerWoman
34 weeks ago

Somewhere

I don't/won't accomodate in my home. I clearly state happy to split a hotel cost if it comes to it though. I can travel, but don't drive. Obviously I'm capable of using public transport/ubers whatnot.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
34 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

For me it's more a won't than a can't.

As far as 99.99% of people are concerned, I will not travel to them and I will not accommodate them

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By *naswingdressWoman
34 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

When I've had my filters open and settings set to Can Accommodate Can Travel, people assume that I'm an open house and/ or will travel to Plymouth or Lerwick immediately.

For me, can't and can't probably means "won't accommodate for any Tom Dick or Harriette" and "won't travel outside my local area except for the rarest of exceptions"

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By *undee2Man
34 weeks ago

Dundee

I can understand the above interpretations. I have always taken it literally. That the person wants me to collect them, go to mine and then drive them back home.

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By *dventuresWithOllieMan
34 weeks ago

sheffield


"When I've had my filters open and settings set to Can Accommodate Can Travel, people assume that I'm an open house and/ or will travel to Plymouth or Lerwick immediately.

For me, can't and can't probably means "won't accommodate for any Tom Dick or Harriette" and "won't travel outside my local area except for the rarest of exceptions""

I think there needs to another option? Its a double negative...so unless explains it in your profile... it kinda looks odd or maybe with that option the person o ly does 'by cam'

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By *naswingdressWoman
34 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"When I've had my filters open and settings set to Can Accommodate Can Travel, people assume that I'm an open house and/ or will travel to Plymouth or Lerwick immediately.

For me, can't and can't probably means "won't accommodate for any Tom Dick or Harriette" and "won't travel outside my local area except for the rarest of exceptions"

I think there needs to another option? Its a double negative...so unless explains it in your profile... it kinda looks odd or maybe with that option the person o ly does 'by cam'"

I'm working with the tools I've got. If I say I can, people assume I will. I won't in the vast majority of cases, so I say I can't.

It's a bit like the way you tell a small child that 2+2=4. Yes, in the universe of complex mathematics blah blah sometimes that isn't true, but it's true enough for the vast majority of cases. In the vast majority of cases, the answer is "can't", even though occasionally I can and will.

And it's not a double negative. A double negative is "I am not not a woman" - they cancel each other out. This is more like "I am not a hamster and I do not smell like elderberries" - the fact that I am not a hamster has no bearing on the fact that I do not smell like elderberries.

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By *arla SwingerWoman
34 weeks ago

Somewhere

I'm also not prepared to have sex in someone's car, a field, any other random outdoors location. I'm not really a fan of going to a strangers home either. Options are limited I guess - but then again I'm seeking decent connections, not prepared to shag someone in the back of their work van

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By *dventuresWithOllieMan
34 weeks ago

sheffield


"When I've had my filters open and settings set to Can Accommodate Can Travel, people assume that I'm an open house and/ or will travel to Plymouth or Lerwick immediately.

For me, can't and can't probably means "won't accommodate for any Tom Dick or Harriette" and "won't travel outside my local area except for the rarest of exceptions"

I think there needs to another option? Its a double negative...so unless explains it in your profile... it kinda looks odd or maybe with that option the person o ly does 'by cam'

I'm working with the tools I've got. If I say I can, people assume I will. I won't in the vast majority of cases, so I say I can't.

It's a bit like the way you tell a small child that 2+2=4. Yes, in the universe of complex mathematics blah blah sometimes that isn't true, but it's true enough for the vast majority of cases. In the vast majority of cases, the answer is "can't", even though occasionally I can and will.

And it's not a double negative. A double negative is "I am not not a woman" - they cancel each other out. This is more like "I am not a hamster and I do not smell like elderberries" - the fact that I am not a hamster has no bearing on the fact that I do not smell like elderberries."

Fair points... not critising just think another option or 2 might be usefull for some

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By *naswingdressWoman
34 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"When I've had my filters open and settings set to Can Accommodate Can Travel, people assume that I'm an open house and/ or will travel to Plymouth or Lerwick immediately.

For me, can't and can't probably means "won't accommodate for any Tom Dick or Harriette" and "won't travel outside my local area except for the rarest of exceptions"

I think there needs to another option? Its a double negative...so unless explains it in your profile... it kinda looks odd or maybe with that option the person o ly does 'by cam'

I'm working with the tools I've got. If I say I can, people assume I will. I won't in the vast majority of cases, so I say I can't.

It's a bit like the way you tell a small child that 2+2=4. Yes, in the universe of complex mathematics blah blah sometimes that isn't true, but it's true enough for the vast majority of cases. In the vast majority of cases, the answer is "can't", even though occasionally I can and will.

And it's not a double negative. A double negative is "I am not not a woman" - they cancel each other out. This is more like "I am not a hamster and I do not smell like elderberries" - the fact that I am not a hamster has no bearing on the fact that I do not smell like elderberries.

Fair points... not critising just think another option or 2 might be usefull for some "

Entirely agree. If I had other options I'd use them!

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
34 weeks ago

Leeds

It probably means they can't travel far/don't drive - close club/hotel/other accommodates meets.

Mrs

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By *otsMan
34 weeks ago

Higham


"Can't speak for everyone but for me it means lying on the front garden all seductive like seeing if anyone wants a piece."

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