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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I know its not rant Thursday but

Is it just me or are there a section of individuals on here who have established themselves in the office of constable, enforcing some form of common law in the swinging world.

True swingers do this, you should use another site more apt to you, real things used to be so much better on this site before all these people joined and upset my equilibrium etc etc blah blah blah.

Swinging may have a formal definition, but its not something anyone holds a patent to, its what any one individual choses it to be for them.

Maybe ask to see some id next time one of them is in action ?

Ahhhh breathe !

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Yes

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I'd say it's an evanescent group tho.

With each newcomer thinking they are the first to say the things they say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree, too much over analysis, swinging is just enjoying yourself shagging, anyone can do it given the inclination and opportunity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I know its not rant Thursday but

Is it just me or are there a section of individuals on here who have established themselves in the office of constable, enforcing some form of common law in the swinging world.

True swingers do this, you should use another site more apt to you, real things used to be so much better on this site before all these people joined and upset my equilibrium etc etc blah blah blah.

Swinging may have a formal definition, but its not something anyone holds a patent to, its what any one individual choses it to be for them.

Maybe ask to see some id next time one of them is in action ?

Ahhhh breathe !

Here here!!

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i must be blind or i've not read the threads you have, as i don't see this.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I have to agree with you OP.

I must say that I was surprised when I started to realise that a section of society I imagined would be broad minded and accepting of people's differences is anything but.

Intolerance is alive and well I'm afraid.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Swinging for some, is just writing on forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont class myself as a swinger.. just this site works for me and has alot of like midned people on it..

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Don't worry you'll get a meet soon.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

That wasn't for you BigBum. x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"i dont class myself as a swinger.. just this site works for me and has alot of like midned people on it.. "

Well said! That's a good description

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"i dont class myself as a swinger.. just this site works for me and has alot of like midned people on it.. "

Don't class yourself as anything. If you enjoy it this is a site open to anyone so use it as you please.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I have to agree with you OP.

I must say that I was surprised when I started to realise that a section of society I imagined would be broad minded and accepting of people's differences is anything but.

Intolerance is alive and well I'm afraid."

I'm broad minded enough to accept differences but not indifferent enough to agree with some acts.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"Swinging for some, is just writing on forums "

But as you said in your OP - 'Swinging may have a formal definition, but its not something anyone holds a patent to, its what any one individual choses it to be for them.'

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Don't worry you'll get a meet soon."

well if it was for me, I don't think I'm really looking, but my point being that doesn't mean I should leave and go on a pay site more suitable for the likes of me as I was told in another forum

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"Swinging for some, is just writing on forums "

Well that is me at the moment...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For a lifestyle choice which is frowned upon in 'mainstream / vanilla' world, some people do enjoy trying to marginalize and make pariahs out of their fellow swingers.

I laugh at these people. For they are funny and, ultimately, are arguing on the internet - which like pissing the wind.

They are also asshats.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I have to agree with you OP.

I must say that I was surprised when I started to realise that a section of society I imagined would be broad minded and accepting of people's differences is anything but.

Intolerance is alive and well I'm afraid.

I'm broad minded enough to accept differences but not indifferent enough to agree with some acts. "

Yes, maybe I worded that wrongly. I had in mind a thread about women's pubic hair where some people said it was wrong on every level , someone else said they were gorillas and yet another person said that women with pubic hair in places they thought it shouldn't be were really men .

When it comes to things like "breeding" and other stuff I would expect people to have an opinion and express it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I know its not rant Thursday but

Is it just me or are there a section of individuals on here who have established themselves in the office of constable, enforcing some form of common law in the swinging world.

True swingers do this, you should use another site more apt to you, real things used to be so much better on this site before all these people joined and upset my equilibrium etc etc blah blah blah.

Swinging may have a formal definition, but its not something anyone holds a patent to, its what any one individual choses it to be for them.

Maybe ask to see some id next time one of them is in action ?

Ahhhh breathe !

"

I have seen elements of this in forum posts - thankfully in a serious minority compared to the total number of threads and contributions.

In all aspects of life you'll have those that think they're 'experts', 'veterans' and 'the elite' - be it work, sport, knitting circles or - yes - swinging.

In general they get away with it largely because others let them - fawning at their sharing of knowledge and experience and _iewing them as superior. To the majority though - they're nothing more than irritants - harmless enough and if you ignore them and crack on with your own lives and _iewpoints then all will be well.

There's very few people that have ever been able to 'dictate' how I choose to do anything in my life - my parents up to a point, my ex tried for a while - and the only one right now is 'she who signs off my expenses at work' !!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Don't worry you'll get a meet soon.

well if it was for me, I don't think I'm really looking, but my point being that doesn't mean I should leave and go on a pay site more suitable for the likes of me as I was told in another forum "

Gotcha now. xx

No the site is for you to use as you wish. Within the rules of course.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I have to agree with you OP.

I must say that I was surprised when I started to realise that a section of society I imagined would be broad minded and accepting of people's differences is anything but.

Intolerance is alive and well I'm afraid.

I'm broad minded enough to accept differences but not indifferent enough to agree with some acts.

Yes, maybe I worded that wrongly. I had in mind a thread about women's pubic hair where some people said it was wrong on every level , someone else said they were gorillas and yet another person said that women with pubic hair in places they thought it shouldn't be were really men .

When it comes to things like "breeding" and other stuff I would expect people to have an opinion and express it "

Made me grin. Someone should tell the porn taught that hair is a natural state.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Having said that ..... there's something not too nice about overly hairy balls.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't care and won't care about others' _iews and opinions of what FAB and the swinging lifestyle is about.

My life, my ways.

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

I thought the forums were meant to encourage debate. I personally like hearing other people's _iews. I may not agree with them, but I am interested in reading them.

Any post is just that posters _iew point. Yes some shout louder than others. But why ask a question on a public forum if you don't expect different people's _iews.

I am open minded but that does not mean I have to agree to everything does it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging is so diverse these days with differring levels to explore.. It's down to the individual how they use a site like a fab.. Whether it's the extreme of the lifestyle or basic going out for a one to one meet... drinkies, chat and fun or just a social meet..

Variety is the spice of the life

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"

Yes, maybe I worded that wrongly. I had in mind a thread about women's pubic hair where some people said it was wrong on every level , someone else said they were gorillas and yet another person said that women with pubic hair in places they thought it shouldn't be were really men .

When it comes to things like "breeding" and other stuff I would expect people to have an opinion and express it "

I agree with you there - insults are never appropriate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I know its not rant Thursday but

Is it just me or are there a section of individuals on here who have established themselves in the office of constable, enforcing some form of common law in the swinging world.

True swingers do this, you should use another site more apt to you, real things used to be so much better on this site before all these people joined and upset my equilibrium etc etc blah blah blah.

Swinging may have a formal definition, but its not something anyone holds a patent to, its what any one individual choses it to be for them.

Maybe ask to see some id next time one of them is in action ?

Ahhhh breathe !

I have seen elements of this in forum posts - thankfully in a serious minority compared to the total number of threads and contributions.

In all aspects of life you'll have those that think they're 'experts', 'veterans' and 'the elite' - be it work, sport, knitting circles or - yes - swinging.

In general they get away with it largely because others let them - fawning at their sharing of knowledge and experience and _iewing them as superior. To the majority though - they're nothing more than irritants - harmless enough and if you ignore them and crack on with your own lives and _iewpoints then all will be well.

There's very few people that have ever been able to 'dictate' how I choose to do anything in my life - my parents up to a point, my ex tried for a while - and the only one right now is 'she who signs off my expenses at work' !!

"

Or 'She who has her teeth around your cock'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At a glance (I don't if it's actually the case) the forums seem to be largely used by a small number of long term users who *seem* single (but maybe just single profiles?) and couples who use them briefly while still exploring/new to things.

And then from time to time a 'grumpy old swinger' maybe drops in and complains about stuff.

Sounds quite fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd say it's an evanescent group tho.

With each newcomer thinking they are the first to say the things they say"

exactly!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

maybe I should stay off forums after busy Friday night's....I don't usually bite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" maybe I should stay off forums after busy Friday night's....I don't usually bite."

hahaha - bite away - dull as dishwater if people don't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I know its not rant Thursday but

Is it just me or are there a section of individuals on here who have established themselves in the office of constable, enforcing some form of common law in the swinging world.

True swingers do this, you should use another site more apt to you, real things used to be so much better on this site before all these people joined and upset my equilibrium etc etc blah blah blah.

Swinging may have a formal definition, but its not something anyone holds a patent to, its what any one individual choses it to be for them.

Maybe ask to see some id next time one of them is in action ?

Ahhhh breathe !

"

What so the fact that some people don;t define a married man looking to cheat on his wife as swinging really surprises you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" I know its not rant Thursday but

Is it just me or are there a section of individuals on here who have established themselves in the office of constable, enforcing some form of common law in the swinging world.

True swingers do this, you should use another site more apt to you, real things used to be so much better on this site before all these people joined and upset my equilibrium etc etc blah blah blah.

Swinging may have a formal definition, but its not something anyone holds a patent to, its what any one individual choses it to be for them.

Maybe ask to see some id next time one of them is in action ?

Ahhhh breathe !

What so the fact that some people don;t define a married man looking to cheat on his wife as swinging really surprises you?"

Not atall as outlined on that thread, its the fact the a small section of people go beyond expressing an opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I know its not rant Thursday but

Is it just me or are there a section of individuals on here who have established themselves in the office of constable, enforcing some form of common law in the swinging world.

True swingers do this, you should use another site more apt to you, real things used to be so much better on this site before all these people joined and upset my equilibrium etc etc blah blah blah.

Swinging may have a formal definition, but its not something anyone holds a patent to, its what any one individual choses it to be for them.

Maybe ask to see some id next time one of them is in action ?

Ahhhh breathe !

What so the fact that some people don;t define a married man looking to cheat on his wife as swinging really surprises you?

Not atall as outlined on that thread, its the fact the a small section of people go beyond expressing an opinion."

But all anyone can do on here is express an opinion. That's why in the end, no matter how high the horses, or low the humour - its utterly meaningless. Just a way to pass a bit of time, nobody's here to change the world.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I quote a thread aimed at me....and yes I've put myself on offer by posting on thread but...

I know ill join a swingers site because everyone on there will fuck just about anything that moves with a pulse and once ive met 1 person the flodd gates will be open to me and ill have pussy/cock by the lorry load.

Really ? I didn't realise I'd done that ? In fact I haven't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"At a glance (I don't if it's actually the case) the forums seem to be largely used by a small number of long term users who *seem* single (but maybe just single profiles?) and couples who use them briefly while still exploring/new to things.

And then from time to time a 'grumpy old swinger' maybe drops in and complains about stuff.

Sounds quite fun "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" I know its not rant Thursday but

Is it just me or are there a section of individuals on here who have established themselves in the office of constable, enforcing some form of common law in the swinging world.

True swingers do this, you should use another site more apt to you, real things used to be so much better on this site before all these people joined and upset my equilibrium etc etc blah blah blah.

Swinging may have a formal definition, but its not something anyone holds a patent to, its what any one individual choses it to be for them.

Maybe ask to see some id next time one of them is in action ?

Ahhhh breathe !

What so the fact that some people don;t define a married man looking to cheat on his wife as swinging really surprises you?

Not atall as outlined on that thread, its the fact the a small section of people go beyond expressing an opinion.

But all anyone can do on here is express an opinion. That's why in the end, no matter how high the horses, or low the humour - its utterly meaningless. Just a way to pass a bit of time, nobody's here to change the world."

True...now I shall try and apply that before I go back for a busy Saturday night !

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


" I know its not rant Thursday but

Is it just me or are there a section of individuals on here who have established themselves in the office of constable, enforcing some form of common law in the swinging world.

True swingers do this, you should use another site more apt to you, real things used to be so much better on this site before all these people joined and upset my equilibrium etc etc blah blah blah.

Swinging may have a formal definition, but its not something anyone holds a patent to, its what any one individual choses it to be for them.

Maybe ask to see some id next time one of them is in action ?

Ahhhh breathe !

What so the fact that some people don;t define a married man looking to cheat on his wife as swinging really surprises you?"

And some finally mentioned "elephant in room"...

It could be seen by some as a sly dig at those who don't condone certain types of behaviour...

... Or again a justification for being here.... But remember that just because this is a forum that everyone is going to agree with opinions... Regardless of how subtle you try to put them....

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over a year ago

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Sometimes I just howl like a monkey on speed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On this issue, I'm 'Striaght Outta Compton'!

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

yes....

Chief Inspector View

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By *r and mrs willingCouple
over a year ago

SOUTH WEST & WALES


"Don't care and won't care about others' _iews and opinions of what FAB and the swinging lifestyle is about.

My life, my ways. "

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By *r and mrs willingCouple
over a year ago

SOUTH WEST & WALES

How disappointing - I thought this was going to be a thread featuring lots of nice men in uniforms.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How disappointing - I thought this was going to be a thread featuring lots of nice men in uniforms. "

I'm staying off it now !

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

maybe your thinking about it to much,it's a forum,on a swingers site.

Shag and be happy,that's it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No filth or fuzz please...plod on....

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

So let me get this right...

Because we think that guys and gals on here to cheat on their spouse/partner are the lowest of the low and not swingers, we are the "Swinger Police"?

Because we think that singles can't be swingers or else everyone who goes out to "pull" should be called swingers. And they are definitely not! That makes us the "Swinger Police"?

Because we believe that just because you (the collective, not personal) can join a swingers site it doesn't make you a swinger. (after all, I can stand in a garage workshop and I wouldn't be a mechanic!) And that makes us the "Swinger Police"?

Well I just don't know! Still, move along please, nothing to see here...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have to agree with you OP.

I must say that I was surprised when I started to realise that a section of society I imagined would be broad minded and accepting of people's differences is anything but.

Intolerance is alive and well I'm afraid."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

bloody full of keyboard warriors

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thought the forums were meant to encourage debate. I personally like hearing other people's _iews. I may not agree with them, but I am interested in reading them.

Any post is just that posters _iew point. Yes some shout louder than others. But why ask a question on a public forum if you don't expect different people's _iews.

I am open minded but that does not mean I have to agree to everything does it?"

Same here...I accept how others choose to live their lives, but I often choose not to live my life in the same way and have my own reasons for/opinions on it. Sometimes posts on the forums have made me think about my choices or the way I do things, but generally I'll put my opinion forward because that's the only one I have! If everyone agreed with each other then we'd all be like nodding dogs

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"Swinging for some, is just writing on forums "

If only it was just swinging and not their whole fecking life story.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Swinging for some, is just writing on forums

If only it was just swinging and not their whole fecking life story."

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

I am here to shag. The site allows for singles as well as couples, so it's not just about the traditional 'wife-swapping'. I like to think of it as for people with an 'alternative' lifestyle. Though mine is hardly 'alternative' since I only do one to one. But I'm certainly not here to date - I'd be on somewhere like match.com if that were the case.

As for people telling what I should or should not be doing on here - I just pay no attention to that. I don't allow total strangers to tell me what to do with my life - that's my business. In fact, I let NO ONE tell me what to do! LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been told many times, I should be on a dating site, just because I wont have sex with anyone who asks, my point is, I like sex and yes I do want to meet "special" people, meaning I have standards and I know what I like, if I don't find someone attractive, I'm not going to have sex with them, a small minority on this site think if it's offered you should take it, "after all it's a sex site" wrong...it's a swingers site, where like minded people meet for mutual pleasure, whether that be social or sexual. I've had abuse when I've been on cam, because I have a "type" of person I like, because I'm an older, single woman, I should be grateful to even be offered sex lol......This is by no means a lot of people, just the odd one or two that can't take rejection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been told many times, I should be on a dating site, just because I wont have sex with anyone who asks, my point is, I like sex and yes I do want to meet "special" people, meaning I have standards and I know what I like, if I don't find someone attractive, I'm not going to have sex with them, a small minority on this site think if it's offered you should take it, "after all it's a sex site" wrong...it's a swingers site, where like minded people meet for mutual pleasure, whether that be social or sexual. I've had abuse when I've been on cam, because I have a "type" of person I like, because I'm an older, single woman, I should be grateful to even be offered sex lol......This is by no means a lot of people, just the odd one or two that can't take rejection."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've noticed people are narrow minded but hey that's life in general.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been told many times, I should be on a dating site, just because I wont have sex with anyone who asks, my point is, I like sex and yes I do want to meet "special" people, meaning I have standards and I know what I like, if I don't find someone attractive, I'm not going to have sex with them, a small minority on this site think if it's offered you should take it, "after all it's a sex site" wrong...it's a swingers site, where like minded people meet for mutual pleasure, whether that be social or sexual. I've had abuse when I've been on cam, because I have a "type" of person I like, because I'm an older, single woman, I should be grateful to even be offered sex lol......This is by no means a lot of people, just the odd one or two that can't take rejection."

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By *uncpl2015Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend Area

If everyone had respect for one another on this site and were not thinking they were better than everyone else or that everyone on here owes them a shag because they want one etc then there would be no reason for such police to be the way they are.

Too many come on here insisting its a instant shag site and how dare anyone reject then for whatever reason.

In anyones book people on the swingin g scene still have choice preference which they are entitled to and owe no one a shag.

If everyone remembered that it would be a start.

But alot here its there way or no way.

We have always said each to their own just dont push others ways onto us thats just respect and being polite.

Mind you those two things are missing in alot of people these days (not just fab).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Swinging for some, is just writing on forums

If only it was just swinging and not their whole fecking life story."

Quote of the day

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


" I know its not rant Thursday but

Is it just me or are there a section of individuals on here who have established themselves in the office of constable, enforcing some form of common law in the swinging world.

True swingers do this, you should use another site more apt to you, real things used to be so much better on this site before all these people joined and upset my equilibrium etc etc blah blah blah.

Swinging may have a formal definition, but its not something anyone holds a patent to, its what any one individual choses it to be for them.

Maybe ask to see some id next time one of them is in action ?

Ahhhh breathe !

I have seen elements of this in forum posts - thankfully in a serious minority compared to the total number of threads and contributions.

In all aspects of life you'll have those that think they're 'experts', 'veterans' and 'the elite' - be it work, sport, knitting circles or - yes - swinging.

In general they get away with it largely because others let them - fawning at their sharing of knowledge and experience and _iewing them as superior. To the majority though - they're nothing more than irritants - harmless enough and if you ignore them and crack on with your own lives and _iewpoints then all will be well.

There's very few people that have ever been able to 'dictate' how I choose to do anything in my life - my parents up to a point, my ex tried for a while - and the only one right now is 'she who signs off my expenses at work' !!

"

You do skirt around an interesting point….. should we blame the 'experts' or those who court them? After all, if it wasn't for those compelled to post their dilemmas (almost just for the sake of having something to post) on the forum (with supplementary status updates) actively pursuing *cough* advice, then who would the ‘experts’ advise?

But then again all too often when people are pointed in the right direction for impartial accurate advice, there’s generally a posse ready to jump in and defend the OP’s right to be given advice here…. if the OP hasn’t jumped in first to complain that they are not getting the attention they had hoped for (in so many words).

If people don’t get the answer they were expecting, may be they asked the wrong question.

If a subject is raised in the forum then ‘everyone’ is entitled to comment… not just those who agree or go along with the most popular replies just to fit in.

My question would be where do you draw the line between people being self-imposed ‘experts’ and those just bragging?..... you see 'experts' can come in many guises.

And one more specifically for you Obi…. you’d never use your ‘expert’ belief of what a photo should look like as reason enough to start a thread to slag off someone else’s would you?

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Swinging Support and Advice: If you need to ask advice or feel like giving some hints and tips for people new to the scene this is the place to come.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yes....

Chief Inspector View"
yes can see you as that , lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Mmm ever wished you hadn't opened a can of worms as an OP.

Threads are easy to interpret in your own way, and sometimes in a totally different manner to how they were first intended by an op, who may not have articulated it in the best manner.

In short as outlined somewhere above, yes, if you post a thread you will get opinions posted which are contrary to your beliefs.

However the point was, there's a crucial difference between people posting their opinions on the subject, and them acting in a vociferous manner almost directing people what they should and shouldn't do.

Yes I attracted some angry responses on here and in my inbox ! But hey that's the hazzard of the forums I guess.... although ill be careful about contributing to some subjects from now on ! Live by the keyboard, die by the keyboard.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I stopped responding when this took a funny turn in the middle ....

It got like an episode of lost

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over a year ago


"Mmm ever wished you hadn't opened a can of worms as an OP.

Threads are easy to interpret in your own way, and sometimes in a totally different manner to how they were first intended by an op, who may not have articulated it in the best manner.

In short as outlined somewhere above, yes, if you post a thread you will get opinions posted which are contrary to your beliefs.

However the point was, there's a crucial difference between people posting their opinions on the subject, and them acting in a vociferous manner almost directing people what they should and shouldn't do.

Yes I attracted some angry responses on here and in my inbox ! But hey that's the hazzard of the forums I guess.... although ill be careful about contributing to some subjects from now on ! Live by the keyboard, die by the keyboard."

I shouldn't be at all concerned about stirring up some noise - far too many sheep on here already.

I was just about to say something similar in that for sex I'm an expert on what I like - that's all. I can have an opinion on whatever I like.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Mmm ever wished you hadn't opened a can of worms as an OP.

Threads are easy to interpret in your own way, and sometimes in a totally different manner to how they were first intended by an op, who may not have articulated it in the best manner.

In short as outlined somewhere above, yes, if you post a thread you will get opinions posted which are contrary to your beliefs.

However the point was, there's a crucial difference between people posting their opinions on the subject, and them acting in a vociferous manner almost directing people what they should and shouldn't do.

Yes I attracted some angry responses on here and in my inbox ! But hey that's the hazzard of the forums I guess.... although ill be careful about contributing to some subjects from now on ! Live by the keyboard, die by the keyboard."

Post what you like, better to live one day as a lion than your whole life as a sheep.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mmm ever wished you hadn't opened a can of worms as an OP.

Threads are easy to interpret in your own way, and sometimes in a totally different manner to how they were first intended by an op, who may not have articulated it in the best manner.

In short as outlined somewhere above, yes, if you post a thread you will get opinions posted which are contrary to your beliefs.

However the point was, there's a crucial difference between people posting their opinions on the subject, and them acting in a vociferous manner almost directing people what they should and shouldn't do.

Yes I attracted some angry responses on here and in my inbox ! But hey that's the hazzard of the forums I guess.... although ill be careful about contributing to some subjects from now on ! Live by the keyboard, die by the keyboard.

Post what you like, better to live one day as a lion than your whole life as a sheep. "

Not if you're surrounded by hungry hippos

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been told many times, I should be on a dating site, just because I wont have sex with anyone who asks, my point is, I like sex and yes I do want to meet "special" people, meaning I have standards and I know what I like, if I don't find someone attractive, I'm not going to have sex with them, a small minority on this site think if it's offered you should take it, "after all it's a sex site" wrong...it's a swingers site, where like minded people meet for mutual pleasure, whether that be social or sexual. I've had abuse when I've been on cam, because I have a "type" of person I like, because I'm an older, single woman, I should be grateful to even be offered sex lol......This is by no means a lot of people, just the odd one or two that can't take rejection."

totally agree.. any sex site doesnt mean being on there you will drop your knickers for every person who messages you.. we all have our reasons to be here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Mmm ever wished you hadn't opened a can of worms as an OP.

Threads are easy to interpret in your own way, and sometimes in a totally different manner to how they were first intended by an op, who may not have articulated it in the best manner.

In short as outlined somewhere above, yes, if you post a thread you will get opinions posted which are contrary to your beliefs.

However the point was, there's a crucial difference between people posting their opinions on the subject, and them acting in a vociferous manner almost directing people what they should and shouldn't do.

Yes I attracted some angry responses on here and in my inbox ! But hey that's the hazzard of the forums I guess.... although ill be careful about contributing to some subjects from now on ! Live by the keyboard, die by the keyboard.

Post what you like, better to live one day as a lion than your whole life as a sheep.

Not if you're surrounded by hungry hippos "

Isn't that a kids game ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I honestly don't care what others think of me on here, they either like me or don't. I've made great friends on here and some will be friends for life. I try and me nice and fair and steer away from the more controversial topics that escalate in a fist fight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mmm ever wished you hadn't opened a can of worms as an OP.

Threads are easy to interpret in your own way, and sometimes in a totally different manner to how they were first intended by an op, who may not have articulated it in the best manner.

In short as outlined somewhere above, yes, if you post a thread you will get opinions posted which are contrary to your beliefs.

However the point was, there's a crucial difference between people posting their opinions on the subject, and them acting in a vociferous manner almost directing people what they should and shouldn't do.

Yes I attracted some angry responses on here and in my inbox ! But hey that's the hazzard of the forums I guess.... although ill be careful about contributing to some subjects from now on ! Live by the keyboard, die by the keyboard.

Post what you like, better to live one day as a lion than your whole life as a sheep.

Not if you're surrounded by hungry hippos

Isn't that a kids game ? "

Trust me - lions hate it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Baaaaa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The days of putting your car keys in a fruit bowl are long gone. Swinging has evolved and those who attempt to hold the 'swinging high ground' by directing others on who can and cannot be accepted as 'swingers' remind me of a certain King who stood on a beach somewhere and ordered back the tide!

That type of thinking based in the 'wanting to exclude others club' is becoming obsolete......quickly.

That said, acceptance and agreement are two very different things. Just because people may fully accept anothers right to be here and even be classed a 'swinger', it doesn't mean that they have to agree or partake in all aspects of that other persons take on the lifestyle.

There can be differences within swinging without one camp trying to evict the other from swinging.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"The days of putting your car keys in a fruit bowl are long gone. Swinging has evolved and those who attempt to hold the 'swinging high ground' by directing others on who can and cannot be accepted as 'swingers' remind me of a certain King who stood on a beach somewhere and ordered back the tide!

That type of thinking based in the 'wanting to exclude others club' is becoming obsolete......quickly.

That said, acceptance and agreement are two very different things. Just because people may fully accept anothers right to be here and even be classed a 'swinger', it doesn't mean that they have to agree or partake in all aspects of that other persons take on the lifestyle.

There can be differences within swinging without one camp trying to evict the other from swinging. "

Is it about excluding others or is it about giving something an appropriate label?.... oh god I may have triggered the 'don't label me' posse

I question the need for a single to label themselves as a 'swinger' in an attempt to differentiate themselves from other singles who are enjoying casual sex. Create a new label sure.... but why stretch one to force it to fit?

Labels are not bad things, they are useful if used appropriately. When you want a plumber you’d be pretty pissed if the person who turned up only had the experience of turning taps on and off… but thought that reason enough to call themselves a plumber.

Why is it so important for those who don't fit the old definition to change it so they can call themselves a 'swinger'?

Whether you are a 'swinger' or not has no baring status. There should be no hierarchy. If anything people insisting they are entitled to call themselves a swinger just because they shag around is encouraging people to imagine a hierarchy exists.... and that can surely not be a positive thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A hierarchy.... as if?

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"A hierarchy.... as if?"

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"The days of putting your car keys in a fruit bowl are long gone. Swinging has evolved and those who attempt to hold the 'swinging high ground' by directing others on who can and cannot be accepted as 'swingers' remind me of a certain King who stood on a beach somewhere and ordered back the tide!

That type of thinking based in the 'wanting to exclude others club' is becoming obsolete......quickly.

That said, acceptance and agreement are two very different things. Just because people may fully accept anothers right to be here and even be classed a 'swinger', it doesn't mean that they have to agree or partake in all aspects of that other persons take on the lifestyle.

There can be differences within swinging without one camp trying to evict the other from swinging. "

As so often, Blackspice, you are spot on (in my opinion)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The days of putting your car keys in a fruit bowl are long gone. Swinging has evolved and those who attempt to hold the 'swinging high ground' by directing others on who can and cannot be accepted as 'swingers' remind me of a certain King who stood on a beach somewhere and ordered back the tide!

That type of thinking based in the 'wanting to exclude others club' is becoming obsolete......quickly.

That said, acceptance and agreement are two very different things. Just because people may fully accept anothers right to be here and even be classed a 'swinger', it doesn't mean that they have to agree or partake in all aspects of that other persons take on the lifestyle.

There can be differences within swinging without one camp trying to evict the other from swinging.

As so often, Blackspice, you are spot on (in my opinion)

"

Totally agree

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

The FabSuper8 club started a website for Super 8 enthusiasts. The members of the site called themselves 'Super8ers' as a way of letting others know what their shared interest was. It didn’t matter if you owned a Super 8 camera, had some Super 8 films or were just interested in the historical factor of Super 8 home movies - all were welcome to join the FabSuper8 website as the Super8ers were happy to share their love of Super 8 with everyone.

More and more people joined the site and some of the people who didn’t know that much about Super 8 started feeling left out – they wanted to be able to call themselves Super8ers, they wanted to feel that they belonged to something. No one really knows why, whether it was down to insecurity, having that sense of belonging unfulfilled in their day to day life or just a paranoid sense of being excluded – whatever it was that started it, it was clear they wanted to belong and share the name of being a Super8er.

The folk who owned a VHS camera started first… after all most Super8ers used their camera for filming home movies, so filming similar things on a VHS camera wasn’t that much of a difference – they wanted to be called Super8ers too. The original Super8ers didn’t mind that much, it didn’t seem to do any harm.

Well if people who use a VSH camera can call themselves Super8ers the folk with digital cameras wanted to also… after all there’s not much difference between filming home movies on a VHS camera and filming them on a digicam. “We want to call ourselves Super8ers” declared the digicam owners.

This got some of the others thinking that they were now being left out..... I may not own a digicam as such, but I can film my mates doing stupid stuff on my phone…. after all what’s the difference between filming on a hand held digicam and filming clips on a phone. “I own a phone, so I am just as much a Super8er” the phone owners declared.

“If owning a phone makes you a Super8er, then I am a Super8er too… even if I don’t have a camera on my phone, I’ve watched clips on YouTube.”

Eventually every Tom, Dick and Harriet was claiming the right to call themselves a Super8er just because they had watched the television whilst making a phone call…. description of being‘Super8er’ had lost all meaning.

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over a year ago


"The FabSuper8 club started a website for Super 8 enthusiasts. The members of the site called themselves 'Super8ers' as a way of letting others know what their shared interest was. It didn’t matter if you owned a Super 8 camera, had some Super 8 films or were just interested in the historical factor of Super 8 home movies - all were welcome to join the FabSuper8 website as the Super8ers were happy to share their love of Super 8 with everyone.

More and more people joined the site and some of the people who didn’t know that much about Super 8 started feeling left out – they wanted to be able to call themselves Super8ers, they wanted to feel that they belonged to something. No one really knows why, whether it was down to insecurity, having that sense of belonging unfulfilled in their day to day life or just a paranoid sense of being excluded – whatever it was that started it, it was clear they wanted to belong and share the name of being a Super8er.

The folk who owned a VHS camera started first… after all most Super8ers used their camera for filming home movies, so filming similar things on a VHS camera wasn’t that much of a difference – they wanted to be called Super8ers too. The original Super8ers didn’t mind that much, it didn’t seem to do any harm.

Well if people who use a VSH camera can call themselves Super8ers the folk with digital cameras wanted to also… after all there’s not much difference between filming home movies on a VHS camera and filming them on a digicam. “We want to call ourselves Super8ers” declared the digicam owners.

This got some of the others thinking that they were now being left out..... I may not own a digicam as such, but I can film my mates doing stupid stuff on my phone…. after all what’s the difference between filming on a hand held digicam and filming clips on a phone. “I own a phone, so I am just as much a Super8er” the phone owners declared.

“If owning a phone makes you a Super8er, then I am a Super8er too… even if I don’t have a camera on my phone, I’ve watched clips on YouTube.”

Eventually every Tom, Dick and Harriet was claiming the right to call themselves a Super8er just because they had watched the television whilst making a phone call…. description of being‘Super8er’ had lost all meaning.

"

Brilliant. As always.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"The FabSuper8 club started a website for Super 8 enthusiasts. The members of the site called themselves 'Super8ers' as a way of letting others know what their shared interest was. It didn’t matter if you owned a Super 8 camera, had some Super 8 films or were just interested in the historical factor of Super 8 home movies - all were welcome to join the FabSuper8 website as the Super8ers were happy to share their love of Super 8 with everyone.

More and more people joined the site and some of the people who didn’t know that much about Super 8 started feeling left out – they wanted to be able to call themselves Super8ers, they wanted to feel that they belonged to something. No one really knows why, whether it was down to insecurity, having that sense of belonging unfulfilled in their day to day life or just a paranoid sense of being excluded – whatever it was that started it, it was clear they wanted to belong and share the name of being a Super8er.

The folk who owned a VHS camera started first… after all most Super8ers used their camera for filming home movies, so filming similar things on a VHS camera wasn’t that much of a difference – they wanted to be called Super8ers too. The original Super8ers didn’t mind that much, it didn’t seem to do any harm.

Well if people who use a VSH camera can call themselves Super8ers the folk with digital cameras wanted to also… after all there’s not much difference between filming home movies on a VHS camera and filming them on a digicam. “We want to call ourselves Super8ers” declared the digicam owners.

This got some of the others thinking that they were now being left out..... I may not own a digicam as such, but I can film my mates doing stupid stuff on my phone…. after all what’s the difference between filming on a hand held digicam and filming clips on a phone. “I own a phone, so I am just as much a Super8er” the phone owners declared.

“If owning a phone makes you a Super8er, then I am a Super8er too… even if I don’t have a camera on my phone, I’ve watched clips on YouTube.”

Eventually every Tom, Dick and Harriet was claiming the right to call themselves a Super8er just because they had watched the television whilst making a phone call…. description of being‘Super8er’ had lost all meaning.

"

I sucked off the guy who works in Asda on the Photo Developing Stand... I am a super8er

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"

I sucked off the guy who works in Asda on the Photo Developing Stand... I am a super8er"

View my dear, I would never have you down as a Super8er.... you're a nine pinter at the very least

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"

I sucked off the guy who works in Asda on the Photo Developing Stand... I am a super8er

View my dear, I would never have you down as a Super8er.... you're a nine pinter at the very least "

yeah, I fucking am cheers doll

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden


"The FabSuper8 club started a website for Super 8 enthusiasts. The members of the site called themselves 'Super8ers' as a way of letting others know what their shared interest was. It didn’t matter if you owned a Super 8 camera, had some Super 8 films or were just interested in the historical factor of Super 8 home movies - all were welcome to join the FabSuper8 website as the Super8ers were happy to share their love of Super 8 with everyone.

More and more people joined the site and some of the people who didn’t know that much about Super 8 started feeling left out – they wanted to be able to call themselves Super8ers, they wanted to feel that they belonged to something. No one really knows why, whether it was down to insecurity, having that sense of belonging unfulfilled in their day to day life or just a paranoid sense of being excluded – whatever it was that started it, it was clear they wanted to belong and share the name of being a Super8er.

The folk who owned a VHS camera started first… after all most Super8ers used their camera for filming home movies, so filming similar things on a VHS camera wasn’t that much of a difference – they wanted to be called Super8ers too. The original Super8ers didn’t mind that much, it didn’t seem to do any harm.

Well if people who use a VSH camera can call themselves Super8ers the folk with digital cameras wanted to also… after all there’s not much difference between filming home movies on a VHS camera and filming them on a digicam. “We want to call ourselves Super8ers” declared the digicam owners.

This got some of the others thinking that they were now being left out..... I may not own a digicam as such, but I can film my mates doing stupid stuff on my phone…. after all what’s the difference between filming on a hand held digicam and filming clips on a phone. “I own a phone, so I am just as much a Super8er” the phone owners declared.

“If owning a phone makes you a Super8er, then I am a Super8er too… even if I don’t have a camera on my phone, I’ve watched clips on YouTube.”

Eventually every Tom, Dick and Harriet was claiming the right to call themselves a Super8er just because they had watched the television whilst making a phone call…. description of being‘Super8er’ had lost all meaning.

"

Spot on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ok theres a handful herewho chat you think are thay swing police , lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

correct ! its meant to be fun , and everyone is different and enjoys different hings ,

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I never really think of anybody being swing police - it would attribute an element of power to whoever....and nobody has the power to police my swinging style.

I dont really care much about what constitutes a swinger, nor is it my business whether somebody cheats (if indeed it is cheating or not)...

I enjoy the generally healthy and lively discussions on the forums for what they are. That is really all there is to it - happy swinging everybody. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The FabSuper8 club started a website for Super 8 enthusiasts. The members of the site called themselves 'Super8ers' as a way of letting others know what their shared interest was. It didn’t matter if you owned a Super 8 camera, had some Super 8 films or were just interested in the historical factor of Super 8 home movies - all were welcome to join the FabSuper8 website as the Super8ers were happy to share their love of Super 8 with everyone.

More and more people joined the site and some of the people who didn’t know that much about Super 8 started feeling left out – they wanted to be able to call themselves Super8ers, they wanted to feel that they belonged to something. No one really knows why, whether it was down to insecurity, having that sense of belonging unfulfilled in their day to day life or just a paranoid sense of being excluded – whatever it was that started it, it was clear they wanted to belong and share the name of being a Super8er.

The folk who owned a VHS camera started first… after all most Super8ers used their camera for filming home movies, so filming similar things on a VHS camera wasn’t that much of a difference – they wanted to be called Super8ers too. The original Super8ers didn’t mind that much, it didn’t seem to do any harm.

Well if people who use a VSH camera can call themselves Super8ers the folk with digital cameras wanted to also… after all there’s not much difference between filming home movies on a VHS camera and filming them on a digicam. “We want to call ourselves Super8ers” declared the digicam owners.

This got some of the others thinking that they were now being left out..... I may not own a digicam as such, but I can film my mates doing stupid stuff on my phone…. after all what’s the difference between filming on a hand held digicam and filming clips on a phone. “I own a phone, so I am just as much a Super8er” the phone owners declared.

“If owning a phone makes you a Super8er, then I am a Super8er too… even if I don’t have a camera on my phone, I’ve watched clips on YouTube.”

Eventually every Tom, Dick and Harriet was claiming the right to call themselves a Super8er just because they had watched the television whilst making a phone call…. description of being‘Super8er’ had lost all meaning.

"

That's one way of looking at it, another way is to appreciate that the Super8ters had impressively evolved into something beyond its initial niche into an organisation with a meaning which does not conflict with the original core values of appreciating high quality imagery on a screen.

When Apple started out, who'd of imagined they'd ever make phones?

When we look at what is accepted by many as the root of modern day swinging, in my opinion it has as little in common with the idea of two married couples meeting up to swap partners for same room fun as it now does for singles bringing their dynamic to the mix.

My issue is when someone somewhere down the pecking order of the evolution ladder decides that something should not evolve any further or it loses all meaning or merit. Especially when their 'ideal' probably differs somewhat from the original incarnation.

When the tide chooses to come in it will.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can these people put uniforms on their avatars please? I haven't a clue who the Fabsuper8ers, Tom, Dick, Harriet etc. are and I'd feel more confident if I could see them displaying a helmet in their profile pic..

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis


"Swinging for some, is just writing on forums "

I agree with you...and in your own words " its what any one individual choses it to be for them." so lets not be intolerant of them either!!

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By *pecifically1Woman
over a year ago

Hull


"Swinging for some, is just writing on forums "

That is another thread completely lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The FabSuper8 club started a website for Super 8 enthusiasts. The members of the site called themselves 'Super8ers' as a way of letting others know what their shared interest was. It didn’t matter if you owned a Super 8 camera, had some Super 8 films or were just interested in the historical factor of Super 8 home movies - all were welcome to join the FabSuper8 website as the Super8ers were happy to share their love of Super 8 with everyone.

More and more people joined the site and some of the people who didn’t know that much about Super 8 started feeling left out – they wanted to be able to call themselves Super8ers, they wanted to feel that they belonged to something. No one really knows why, whether it was down to insecurity, having that sense of belonging unfulfilled in their day to day life or just a paranoid sense of being excluded – whatever it was that started it, it was clear they wanted to belong and share the name of being a Super8er.

The folk who owned a VHS camera started first… after all most Super8ers used their camera for filming home movies, so filming similar things on a VHS camera wasn’t that much of a difference – they wanted to be called Super8ers too. The original Super8ers didn’t mind that much, it didn’t seem to do any harm.

Well if people who use a VSH camera can call themselves Super8ers the folk with digital cameras wanted to also… after all there’s not much difference between filming home movies on a VHS camera and filming them on a digicam. “We want to call ourselves Super8ers” declared the digicam owners.

This got some of the others thinking that they were now being left out..... I may not own a digicam as such, but I can film my mates doing stupid stuff on my phone…. after all what’s the difference between filming on a hand held digicam and filming clips on a phone. “I own a phone, so I am just as much a Super8er” the phone owners declared.

“If owning a phone makes you a Super8er, then I am a Super8er too… even if I don’t have a camera on my phone, I’ve watched clips on YouTube.”

Eventually every Tom, Dick and Harriet was claiming the right to call themselves a Super8er just because they had watched the television whilst making a phone call…. description of being‘Super8er’ had lost all meaning.

"

well put

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Swinging for some, is just writing on forums

I agree with you...and in your own words " its what any one individual choses it to be for them." so lets not be intolerant of them either!! "

Regulation in all aspects of our lives is now deemed essential.

To comply all clubs will now be required to bar code any body part capable of penetration and place a reader in all orifices. This will greatly assist in traceability and allow the introduction of loyalty schemes.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"

That's one way of looking at it, another way is to appreciate that the Super8ters had impressively evolved into something beyond its initial niche into an organisation with a meaning which does not conflict with the original core values of appreciating high quality imagery on a screen.

When Apple started out, who'd of imagined they'd ever make phones?

When we look at what is accepted by many as the root of modern day swinging, in my opinion it has as little in common with the idea of two married couples meeting up to swap partners for same room fun as it now does for singles bringing their dynamic to the mix.

My issue is when someone somewhere down the pecking order of the evolution ladder decides that something should not evolve any further or it loses all meaning or merit. Especially when their 'ideal' probably differs somewhat from the original incarnation.

When the tide chooses to come in it will. "

If you went to a swinging club, would you be happy to find it was actually a gay sauna or a brothel?

At what point does a connection to sex become too tenuous to call it 'swinging'?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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If you went to a swinging club, would you be happy to find it was actually a gay sauna or a brothel?

At what point does a connection to sex become too tenuous to call it 'swinging'?"

If a gay couple with a civil partnership decides to meet another gay couple at a gay sauna and it catches on, who am I to say it cannot be called a swinging club one day.

I've been told about current swinging clubs who pay certain women to attend greedy girls nights, some would call them brothels.

It doesn't matter if I'd be happy if I walked into either club, it only matters that the people who choose to use the clubs in question are happy. It would be up to me to find a club that fits my needs.

As for when the connection to sex becomes too tenuous, I honestly don't know. That's a good question.

But there is one thing I'm certain of, less people want to be labelled a swinger than don't want that label. It's not a common aspiration in the grand scheme of things.

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over a year ago

Has this turned into an officer briefing?

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over a year ago

Are so many people getting hot under the collar about this issue because, in reality, they aren't getting enough?

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over a year ago

Some ppl just take things too literal and way too serious !!

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over a year ago

Grumpy old swinger here.....

Moan moan moan moan mmooaann mmmooooooooannnnn.

Awww shit, my batteries just ran out.

Deffo never getting enough, and I was an original super8er.....

Steps off soap box to allow next preacher their say....lol.

This is meant to be a fun lifestyle, and I in the majority enjoy it. But it is deffo becoming more a find a fuck site for swingles xx

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