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By *alcon77 OP   Man
35 weeks ago

under the sun & the moon

A will, or having to deal with someone's possessions/estate after they have passed away.

It seems everyone I know has some sort of horror story regarding this..

Myself and my brother luckily remain civil to each other and are in friendly terms. ( I'm grateful for that.)

I have one other friend that dealt with this issue, that it went smoothly for, -but he was an only child. (No brothers or sisters.)

Any thoughts welcome.

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By *irthandgirthMan
35 weeks ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

Not quite at that stage but I'm speaking to my parents about getting powers of probate etc. Unfortunately my sister is ummm.. less than reliable (to put it very mildly) so it will be down to me.

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By *undee2Man
35 weeks ago

Dundee


"Not quite at that stage but I'm speaking to my parents about getting powers of probate etc. Unfortunately my sister is ummm.. less than reliable (to put it very mildly) so it will be down to me."

Make sure that you are sole executor

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
35 weeks ago

little house on the praire

I had to sort it all out and my dad didn't leave a bloody will

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
35 weeks ago

Reading

My sister was the executor for my father's will and played a blinder. I am still in awe of the deal she made with the tax man. We had zero disagreements.

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By *TG3Man
35 weeks ago

Dorchester

When my dad died my sister who hated my dad became the executor of his will it certainly didn't go the way i would have liked.

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By *ob8888Man
35 weeks ago

Carlisle

I’m just going through it now, dad passed away, home is in a trust, that came right to us, money in the bank, we have a will, it says it’s to be split between myself and brother, but executor is the guy that set up the trust and will, trying to deal with him, but he won’t ask the phone or messages, we have a copy each of the will, not sure if we need to start a probate or not,just doing our heads in at the moment

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By *alcon77 OP   Man
35 weeks ago

under the sun & the moon

Probate is time-consuming, if you're doing it yourself.

I'm doing it (even though we're both named as executors on the will) because my brother has a young child & I have more time than him.

& I've heard quotes from solicitors that charge 12 grand for doing it for you.

But yep, that would be the easiest option..

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By *estarossa.Woman
35 weeks ago

Flagrante

Probate currently takes around 3 months.

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By *irthandgirthMan
35 weeks ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster


"Not quite at that stage but I'm speaking to my parents about getting powers of probate etc. Unfortunately my sister is ummm.. less than reliable (to put it very mildly) so it will be down to me.

Make sure that you are sole executor"

My sister makes life choices that mean both my parents and I give her a 50% chance of passing before they do..

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By *ullyMan
35 weeks ago

Near Clacton

Wills and after death conditions thereof are essential if there is "upset" in the family. Long story short, Cople had a daughter, she went totally off the rails for years,stealing, drink drugs prostitution crime you name it, gave her parents hell. They disowned her, even put an add in the paper stating that , and that they will no longer be responsible!

4 decades later dad died,no will, just did not think they needed one! Out of the woodwork comes daughter, claims half, solicitors got involved, probate too, in the end mum had to sell "EVERYTHING" ended up no home, no possessions and very little money after the solicitors had been paid.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
35 weeks ago

East Sussex

It can be very difficult because often the people you least expect it of become entitled. They'll say that one relative doesn't deserve anything, that the deceased promised they could have various items (usually the most valuable), they'll tell you they know what the deceased wanted, people will emerge from the woodwork who hadn't given the deceased the time of day previously, wondering if the Rolex, Ming vase, Titian they were promised is ready to collect etc.

I'm joint executor for my father's estate with one of my brothers and already have plans in place for how we'll deal with it all.

I would say keep detailed records of everything you do and expenses etc. it just saves future arguments.

Best of luck with it all

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