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"You're going to have to give us a bit more to go on " I justed wanted to discuss a topic that is rarely spoken about. Recently society often speaks on Father's/Men failures but we rarely speak about the accountability of Women/Mother's. I made some mistakes in regards to my ex partner, however I have always been a good Father to my children & feel my ex is punishing me through the lack of contact with our children. I thought I'd share in the lounge as a safe space to discuss, as I've met alot of Men going through something similar to I'm currently going through. This is not a bash at Women as my children's Mum is a very good Mother & I know there's alot of hard working Mother's out there. Just thought I could see if any Women/Mother's could share their experience on the topic at hand | |||
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"You're going to have to give us a bit more to go on I justed wanted to discuss a topic that is rarely spoken about. Recently society often speaks on Father's/Men failures but we rarely speak about the accountability of Women/Mother's. I made some mistakes in regards to my ex partner, however I have always been a good Father to my children & feel my ex is punishing me through the lack of contact with our children. I thought I'd share in the lounge as a safe space to discuss, as I've met alot of Men going through something similar to I'm currently going through. This is not a bash at Women as my children's Mum is a very good Mother & I know there's alot of hard working Mother's out there. Just thought I could see if any Women/Mother's could share their experience on the topic at hand "Well the title of the thread is derogatory. Therefore it writes its own narrative and progression. I mean it’s not up to me to decide what your thread title should be but you know it’s the way it is | |||
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"You're going to have to give us a bit more to go on I justed wanted to discuss a topic that is rarely spoken about. Recently society often speaks on Father's/Men failures but we rarely speak about the accountability of Women/Mother's. I made some mistakes in regards to my ex partner, however I have always been a good Father to my children & feel my ex is punishing me through the lack of contact with our children. I thought I'd share in the lounge as a safe space to discuss, as I've met alot of Men going through something similar to I'm currently going through. This is not a bash at Women as my children's Mum is a very good Mother & I know there's alot of hard working Mother's out there. Just thought I could see if any Women/Mother's could share their experience on the topic at hand "Have you tried court for visitation/shared custody? I never agree with people stopping a parent seeing their children, I've seen pricks on both sides mum's and dad's, unless there's any DV/abuse etc I personally think it's always in the child's best interests to have both parents involved, shared care. Mrs | |||
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"On a swingers site?????????" Although this is a Swinger site, I'm not necessarily here just for Sex. I see this as my adult Facebook, I specifically shared this is the Lounge as apposed to the Swinger section. All sorts gets discussed here. Whenever I read a post that doesn't relate to me I tend not to comment but, each time their own I guess | |||
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"On a swingers site?????????" Maybe the best cake thread is more appropriate for you? Mrs | |||
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"You're going to have to give us a bit more to go on I justed wanted to discuss a topic that is rarely spoken about. Recently society often speaks on Father's/Men failures but we rarely speak about the accountability of Women/Mother's. I made some mistakes in regards to my ex partner, however I have always been a good Father to my children & feel my ex is punishing me through the lack of contact with our children. I thought I'd share in the lounge as a safe space to discuss, as I've met alot of Men going through something similar to I'm currently going through. This is not a bash at Women as my children's Mum is a very good Mother & I know there's alot of hard working Mother's out there. Just thought I could see if any Women/Mother's could share their experience on the topic at hand
Well the title of the thread is derogatory. Therefore it writes its own narrative and progression. I mean it’s not up to me to decide what your thread title should be but you know it’s the way it is ""It's provocative, it gets the people going" You said it mate, it's not your decision. If you know me then you know that I'm not here to offend, but will always say what I wanna say. I don't mean any offence by my Posts | |||
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"You're going to have to give us a bit more to go on " Which imho will all be one sided. Op when your kids are old enough they will I’m sure want to see you but from experience it may be a waiting game. Good luck. T | |||
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"Have you tried court for visitation/shared custody? I never agree with people stopping a parent seeing their children, I've seen pricks on both sides mum's and dad's, unless there's any DV/abuse etc I personally think it's always in the child's best interests to have both parents involved, shared care. Mrs " There isn't anything legal in place however... "Heaven has no rage like love to hatred turned, nor Hell a fury like a woman scorned" William Congreves 'The Mourning Bride' (1967) | |||
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 we have tried and tried to help but she's not bothered we got him at 5days old it's so sad x | |||
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"It’s well known certain mothers use their children as weapons against the fathers. Sorry to hear hope situation resolves OP and you get to see the children. On an opposite note I told my ex to come see his children to have access but he chose to be an absent parent. Then there’s good men who want to be around their children it’s really frustrating. It’s the innocent children who suffer the most. "Thanks for the positive response & it's always refreshing hearing that from a Mother. I have friends like your Childrens Father & it is hard to see them not taking responsibility when given fair opportunity to do so. My mother never restricted my Father but he also chose to take you Childrens Fathers route. I also get it from Fathers point of view but I couldn't give up on them despite what went on with Me & Mum. I take full accountability for my role in the downfall but like you said it's always the kids that suffer | |||
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"You're going to have to give us a bit more to go on Which imho will all be one sided. Op when your kids are old enough they will I’m sure want to see you but from experience it may be a waiting game. Good luck. T" Thank you for your response... I've recently come to terms with this & have been doing everything my power to patiently wait for that day to come. Gonna be the best GrandDad ever... watch this space | |||
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"She's turned the weans against ye? " Limmy...is that you?! | |||
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"She's turned the weans against ye? Limmy...is that you?!" I Love Limmy, he is an absolute Legand 
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"It's true that women can use children as weapons in break ups and fathers suffer as a result." This is all I wanted to discuss tbh. I know how I phrased it may have been controversial to some, it obviously attracted your attention & my only intention was discuss the fact you've stated. Do you know a bad Mother or a good Father who wants to see his kids but the Mother doesn't allow him to due to her dislike for the Father/Him??? My Children are well looked after & I do my part as a caring Father, despite all I've mentioned above. | |||
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"Have you tried court for visitation/shared custody? I never agree with people stopping a parent seeing their children, I've seen pricks on both sides mum's and dad's, unless there's any DV/abuse etc I personally think it's always in the child's best interests to have both parents involved, shared care. Mrs There isn't anything legal in place however... "Heaven has no rage like love to hatred turned, nor Hell a fury like a woman scorned" William Congreves 'The Mourning Bride' (1967)" Why haven't you gone to court? It costs £300, free if you're on benefits. I never understand parents who complain about having no contact but don't apply to court. | |||
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"Have you tried court for visitation/shared custody? I never agree with people stopping a parent seeing their children, I've seen pricks on both sides mum's and dad's, unless there's any DV/abuse etc I personally think it's always in the child's best interests to have both parents involved, shared care. Mrs There isn't anything legal in place however... "Heaven has no rage like love to hatred turned, nor Hell a fury like a woman scorned" William Congreves 'The Mourning Bride' (1967) Why haven't you gone to court? It costs £300, free if you're on benefits. I never understand parents who complain about having no contact but don't apply to court. " I have often found that this is because the one complaining actually has no interest in being a parent but wants everyone to think its the resident parents fault. MrsAbz | |||
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"Have you tried court for visitation/shared custody? I never agree with people stopping a parent seeing their children, I've seen pricks on both sides mum's and dad's, unless there's any DV/abuse etc I personally think it's always in the child's best interests to have both parents involved, shared care. Mrs There isn't anything legal in place however... "Heaven has no rage like love to hatred turned, nor Hell a fury like a woman scorned" William Congreves 'The Mourning Bride' (1967) Why haven't you gone to court? It costs £300, free if you're on benefits. I never understand parents who complain about having no contact but don't apply to court. " What cost £300??? Please go into more details, where do I pay £300 to see my children, to put them to bed every night, to make sure they get to school n back every day... £300 it takes more than £300 but if you know a solution to pay that amount to be in my children life I'd love to double | |||
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"Have you tried court for visitation/shared custody? I never agree with people stopping a parent seeing their children, I've seen pricks on both sides mum's and dad's, unless there's any DV/abuse etc I personally think it's always in the child's best interests to have both parents involved, shared care. Mrs There isn't anything legal in place however... "Heaven has no rage like love to hatred turned, nor Hell a fury like a woman scorned" William Congreves 'The Mourning Bride' (1967) Why haven't you gone to court? It costs £300, free if you're on benefits. I never understand parents who complain about having no contact but don't apply to court. I have often found that this is because the one complaining actually has no interest in being a parent but wants everyone to think its the resident parents fault. MrsAbz" This maybe the case in your experience on the said topic, however my interest in the topic is genuine & only wanted to discuss with Father's/Mother's who have been through a similar experience. My children's Mother is a good Parent, I have no issue about my Children's safety or well being, I'm more concerned about how balanced they are without a willing loving Father. | |||
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"Have you tried court for visitation/shared custody? I never agree with people stopping a parent seeing their children, I've seen pricks on both sides mum's and dad's, unless there's any DV/abuse etc I personally think it's always in the child's best interests to have both parents involved, shared care. Mrs There isn't anything legal in place however... "Heaven has no rage like love to hatred turned, nor Hell a fury like a woman scorned" William Congreves 'The Mourning Bride' (1967)" You have legal rights as a dad, if you want to see your child then go through the courts for access. Mrs | |||
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"Have you tried court for visitation/shared custody? I never agree with people stopping a parent seeing their children, I've seen pricks on both sides mum's and dad's, unless there's any DV/abuse etc I personally think it's always in the child's best interests to have both parents involved, shared care. Mrs There isn't anything legal in place however... "Heaven has no rage like love to hatred turned, nor Hell a fury like a woman scorned" William Congreves 'The Mourning Bride' (1967) Why haven't you gone to court? It costs £300, free if you're on benefits. I never understand parents who complain about having no contact but don't apply to court. I have often found that this is because the one complaining actually has no interest in being a parent but wants everyone to think its the resident parents fault. MrsAbz This maybe the case in your experience on the said topic, however my interest in the topic is genuine & only wanted to discuss with Father's/Mother's who have been through a similar experience. My children's Mother is a good Parent, I have no issue about my Children's safety or well being, I'm more concerned about how balanced they are without a willing loving Father. " so your ex-wife is a good parent You are an awesome parent (with no evidence) who wants more access to your kids .. And yet you entitled your thread "Deadbeat/Bad Mother's"....which is really derogatory... But you now say is unconnected to your ask. If this is how you are in reality you're kids are gonna be very confused Anyway I'm interested in -how much access you currently have -how far away you live -does the mother work - pt/ft -age of kids -what changes do you want to effect -why did the partnership dissolve | |||
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"Have you tried court for visitation/shared custody? I never agree with people stopping a parent seeing their children, I've seen pricks on both sides mum's and dad's, unless there's any DV/abuse etc I personally think it's always in the child's best interests to have both parents involved, shared care. Mrs There isn't anything legal in place however... "Heaven has no rage like love to hatred turned, nor Hell a fury like a woman scorned" William Congreves 'The Mourning Bride' (1967) Why haven't you gone to court? It costs £300, free if you're on benefits. I never understand parents who complain about having no contact but don't apply to court. What cost £300??? Please go into more details, where do I pay £300 to see my children, to put them to bed every night, to make sure they get to school n back every day... £300 it takes more than £300 but if you know a solution to pay that amount to be in my children life I'd love to double "C100 application for a child arrangements order costs around £300. The court will decide how much of that stuff you get to do. | |||
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"Have you tried court for visitation/shared custody? I never agree with people stopping a parent seeing their children, I've seen pricks on both sides mum's and dad's, unless there's any DV/abuse etc I personally think it's always in the child's best interests to have both parents involved, shared care. Mrs There isn't anything legal in place however... "Heaven has no rage like love to hatred turned, nor Hell a fury like a woman scorned" William Congreves 'The Mourning Bride' (1967) Why haven't you gone to court? It costs £300, free if you're on benefits. I never understand parents who complain about having no contact but don't apply to court. " It costs a heck of a lot more than that. We've had to go through the process as M ex was preventing access. We were lucky as we could afford it, there are many not so lucky. | |||
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"Have you tried court for visitation/shared custody? I never agree with people stopping a parent seeing their children, I've seen pricks on both sides mum's and dad's, unless there's any DV/abuse etc I personally think it's always in the child's best interests to have both parents involved, shared care. Mrs There isn't anything legal in place however... "Heaven has no rage like love to hatred turned, nor Hell a fury like a woman scorned" William Congreves 'The Mourning Bride' (1967) Why haven't you gone to court? It costs £300, free if you're on benefits. I never understand parents who complain about having no contact but don't apply to court. It costs a heck of a lot more than that. We've had to go through the process as M ex was preventing access. We were lucky as we could afford it, there are many not so lucky. " It costs more if you need a solicitor of course. Anyone can represent themselves in person for free. | |||
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