FabSwingers.com forum: What is an "exceptional male"?

By *endalshaggers OP Couple
41 weeks ago

Kendal

Plenty of profiles we view have the usual yadda yadda about "no single males".

However it seems more and more common profiles listing "exceptional males only" or "an exception will be made for exceptional males".

What is the actual definition of an "exceptional male"?

Curious.

C xoxo

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By *ex HolesMan
41 weeks ago

Up North

One that’s under the thumb

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By *r TriomanMan
41 weeks ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

Me, I'm good looking and fun to be with

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By *anther81Man
41 weeks ago

Drogheda

Assume your talking six pack, broad shoulders, strong arms, good looking and hung like 9inch.

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By *ackdaw52Man
41 weeks ago

Chesterfield

Depends entirely on what you're looking for, surely?

But I'd probably put myself in the top 20% simply because I read profiles!

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
41 weeks ago

Wirral.

I imagine it's a way of folk with an inflated opinion of themselves saying they'll deign to meet you if they think you're worth it

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
41 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

One that stands out to me as an exception to the masses

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
41 weeks ago

Wirral.

"Me, I'm good looking and fun to be with

You're definitely UNexceptional Rex. But you do have a pretty penis

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

I like to say it in the style of Sean Connery.

Eksheptional male.

I don’t know anymore.

I always assume it’s about an image. Jason Momoa. Thor. Magic, Mike that type of image.

What I would add, an image can change over time, I hope those exceptional males are appreciating the gorgeous women they have found themselves with, and not just popping from 1 to the next leaving behind carnage.

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

It's a term that gives me the serious ick and screams of self importance. Women and couples say they prefer confidence over arrogance but surely any man messaging a profile that is looking for "exceptional" males is bordering on arrogance anyway.

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By *ealitybitesMan
41 weeks ago

Belfast

A grateful one with a talent for jumping through hoops and bending over backwards.

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By *ark ElMan
41 weeks ago

London

It’s just a way of saying most men on fabs are below the desired level. So if one of the 5% happen to message them AND be their type, their message will be entertained at least lol.

All boils down to supply and demand really.

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By *icolasHidalgoDeCorazonMan
41 weeks ago

St Leonards

I think it has to involve empathy, modesty, humility, maturity and an awful lot of self-awareness.

So - me, basically.

And the rest of you are all losers who smell like poo-poo.

And your parents never wanted you.

And you have tiny winkles.

So nerrrrr!

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

I read it as really good looking (by their standards)

I see it a lot in profiles looking for “exceptional couples”. I tend to avoid those ones.

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By *ark ElMan
41 weeks ago

London

"I think it has to involve empathy, modesty, humility, maturity and an awful lot of self-awareness.

So - me, basically.

And the rest of you are all losers who smell like poo-poo.

And your parents never wanted you.

And you have tiny winkles.

So nerrrrr!"

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By *ora the explorerWoman
41 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

Subjective

Although I think putting this in a profile makes someone look a bit of a nob

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

"I read it as really good looking (by their standards)

I see it a lot in profiles looking for “exceptional couples”. I tend to avoid those ones. "

I get that, but I think in that case, they should really go searching for them as opposed to getting the supposed riff-raff in their inbox. It does seem they just want to have their cake and eat it too.

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By *odgerMooreMan
41 weeks ago

Nowhere

I once got trapped in a paper bag… shagged my way out - so she was wrong!!! - just saying!!

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By *ruceyyMan
41 weeks ago

London

It pretty much means be even somewhat near Bruceys level. Just like, perfection in skin.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
41 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Well, I could be wrong, but I believe exceptional male is an old, old wooden ship that was used during the Civil War era.

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By *orbidden eastMan
41 weeks ago

london dodging electric scooters

I am not a twat does that count?

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

"I read it as really good looking (by their standards)

I see it a lot in profiles looking for “exceptional couples”. I tend to avoid those ones.

I agree. As soon as I read that, I don’t care how good their profile looks, it stops me from reaching out. It comes across as being stuck up. I’m pretty sure we’re all here to find people we’re attracted to.

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

Attractive men

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By *TG3Man
41 weeks ago

Dorchester

"Plenty of profiles we view have the usual yadda yadda about "no single males".

However it seems more and more common profiles listing "exceptional males only" or "an exception will be made for exceptional males".

What is the actual definition of an "exceptional male"?

Curious.

C xoxo"
The stereo typical alpha male, you can do your washing on his stomach his tatts don't match anything you wear he has a beard and is in the age range 30 to 35 and is 6'3

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By *erotic_adventureMan
41 weeks ago

London, Scotland & The North,

Only those who stipulate such actually know!

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By *rHotNottsMan
41 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"Depends entirely on what you're looking for, surely?

But I'd probably put myself in the top 20% simply because I read profiles!"

I would never rank myself or anyone else it’s just awful.

An exceptional male is whatever the person who asks for it thinks it is , they should expand on what they want. It typically reads like they have had a string of bad experiences , so maybe it’s another way of saying they are problematic

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By *TG3Man
41 weeks ago

Dorchester

"Subjective

Although I think putting this in a profile makes someone look a bit of a hob nob "
really

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By *ouples_EroticaXXXCouple
41 weeks ago

manchester

"Plenty of profiles we view have the usual yadda yadda about "no single males".

However it seems more and more common profiles listing "exceptional males only" or "an exception will be made for exceptional males".

What is the actual definition of an "exceptional male"?

Curious.

C xoxo"

What ever you choose it to be.

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By *rispyDuckMan
41 weeks ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

I’ve seen this too on a few profiles & intrigued by the feedback on thread

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By *odgerMooreMan
41 weeks ago

Nowhere

"Plenty of profiles we view have the usual yadda yadda about "no single males".

However it seems more and more common profiles listing "exceptional males only" or "an exception will be made for exceptional males".

What is the actual definition of an "exceptional male"?

Curious.

C xoxoThe stereo typical alpha male, you can do your washing on his stomach his tatts don't match anything you wear he has a beard and is in the age range 30 to 35 and is 6'3

Jeez - have i left my webcam on??? Uncanny!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

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By *espacito56Man
41 weeks ago

Orkney

"One that’s under the thumb "

Really. Oooh. Me. Me.

Might be in with a chance then.

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

"[Removed by poster at 25/03/24 13:21:48]"

*Typos sorry

IMO they are hurting their own chances by saying that.

If I was an exceptional male (assuming I'm also modest, being exceptional and all....) would I have an ego big enough to message them, believing I AM exceptional?

Hmmm

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By *TG3Man
41 weeks ago

Dorchester

"Plenty of profiles we view have the usual yadda yadda about "no single males".

However it seems more and more common profiles listing "exceptional males only" or "an exception will be made for exceptional males".

What is the actual definition of an "exceptional male"?

Curious.

C xoxoThe stereo typical alpha male, you can do your washing on his stomach his tatts don't match anything you wear he has a beard and is in the age range 30 to 35 and is 6'3

Jeez - have i left my webcam on??? Uncanny!!!

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Or Todger

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By *ig_eric_tionMan
41 weeks ago

IPSWICH

It's me obviously.

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By *londebiguyMan
41 weeks ago

Southport

"Plenty of profiles we view have the usual yadda yadda about "no single males".

However it seems more and more common profiles listing "exceptional males only" or "an exception will be made for exceptional males".

What is the actual definition of an "exceptional male"?

Curious.

C xoxo"

I think that you sit a test .

Results back in about 10 days with a stamped addressed envelope.

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By *electableicecreamMan
41 weeks ago

The West

It probably means many things to as many people.

I read it as

'exceeding the standard we see in general'

'as good looking as we think we are'

'makes my heart beat faster just looking at you'

Context is everything

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By *ora the explorerWoman
41 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

"Plenty of profiles we view have the usual yadda yadda about "no single males".

However it seems more and more common profiles listing "exceptional males only" or "an exception will be made for exceptional males".

What is the actual definition of an "exceptional male"?

Curious.

C xoxo

I think that you sit a test .

Results back in about 10 days with a stamped addressed envelope."

Happy to be a judge

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

Hung like a shire horse, tall and physically fit would be my interpretation.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
41 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

We are all looking for people, who in our own eyes, are exceptional - whether someone has it on their profile or not, it’s what we are all here to find.

The ones who have that certain something that gives you twinges.

That’s what it means to us - but one persons exceptional could be another persons munter

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

"One that stands out to me as an exception to the masses

^^^^^^^

This....An exceptional male to me too is one that stands out from the Masses..The ones who also don't always think & act with their dick..& send a different kinda msg to all the usual ones..& can have a conversation & know & realise the importance of a connection & not just jumping into sex talk & flashing their bits straight away....

Many other factors too to being an exceptional male .. Respectful being one of them

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

Chris hemsworth with a donkey dick I would imagine

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
41 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry

"Plenty of profiles we view have the usual yadda yadda about "no single males".

However it seems more and more common profiles listing "exceptional males only" or "an exception will be made for exceptional males".

What is the actual definition of an "exceptional male"?

Curious.

C xoxo"

An exceptional males is one

That doesn't disappoint women with dick pics online.

An exceptional male, gets out there and disappoints women in real life..

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
41 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

* Walks in, gives Marty Pellow smirk, touches nose, winks and walks out.

** Then probably let's a squeaker out before banishing and ruins any exceptionality.

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By *ad NannaWoman
41 weeks ago

East London

It depends on who is asking.

I've seen women say they're fussy and only meet exceptional men, and I've not been interested in the men they've met.

I don't think there's exceptional people, just different levels of attraction.

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By *naswingdressWoman
41 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

An alpha, indigenous, free thinker wolf who does their own research.

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By *ad NannaWoman
41 weeks ago

East London

"It's me obviously.

Do you mani-pedi?

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

"Chris hemsworth with a donkey dick I would imagine

.... do you have that mans number...?!

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

I reckon what makes someone exceptional will be different depending who is making the decision… for me it’s not necessarily about looks but about the vibe and whether they are enjoyable to chat with, don’t try to challenge my boundaries and seem genuine. In fab terms it’ll be someone who’s got really good in person verifications (that’s why you have to show some lads!) isn’t too pushy but also isn’t one of those guys who’s all mouth and nothing to back it up.

Oh also tall.

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By *odgerMooreMan
41 weeks ago

Nowhere

"Plenty of profiles we view have the usual yadda yadda about "no single males".

However it seems more and more common profiles listing "exceptional males only" or "an exception will be made for exceptional males".

What is the actual definition of an "exceptional male"?

Curious.

C xoxoThe stereo typical alpha male, you can do your washing on his stomach his tatts don't match anything you wear he has a beard and is in the age range 30 to 35 and is 6'3

Jeez - have i left my webcam on??? Uncanny!!!

Or Todger

Listen to this man- he speaks wisdom!!!

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By *TG3Man
41 weeks ago

Dorchester

"Plenty of profiles we view have the usual yadda yadda about "no single males".

However it seems more and more common profiles listing "exceptional males only" or "an exception will be made for exceptional males".

What is the actual definition of an "exceptional male"?

Curious.

C xoxoThe stereo typical alpha male, you can do your washing on his stomach his tatts don't match anything you wear he has a beard and is in the age range 30 to 35 and is 6'3

Jeez - have i left my webcam on??? Uncanny!!!

Or Todger

Listen to this man- he speaks wisdom!!!

"
You may be exceptional todger as I'm sure you are but Carlisle

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

The more I think about it, is it just a lazy way of hoping their type will reach out? Wouldn’t it just be easier to type a detailed description of these exceptional men they’re looking for?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
41 weeks ago

Central

It just speaks about the profile user, who aren't particularly good at expressing themselves. It's as good as vague and meaningless, when they could have been specific instead.

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By *odgerMooreMan
41 weeks ago

Nowhere

"Chris hemsworth with a donkey dick I would imagine

Does it matter if the donkey dick is where his face should be?? Asking for a friend

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By *naswingdressWoman
41 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"The more I think about it, is it just a lazy way of hoping their type will reach out? Wouldn’t it just be easier to type a detailed description of these exceptional men they’re looking for? "

This sounds like the point where someone should say "this is a sex sight, not skool" (sic)

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By *odgerMooreMan
41 weeks ago

Nowhere

"Plenty of profiles we view have the usual yadda yadda about "no single males".

However it seems more and more common profiles listing "exceptional males only" or "an exception will be made for exceptional males".

What is the actual definition of an "exceptional male"?

Curious.

C xoxoThe stereo typical alpha male, you can do your washing on his stomach his tatts don't match anything you wear he has a beard and is in the age range 30 to 35 and is 6'3

Jeez - have i left my webcam on??? Uncanny!!!

Or Todger

Listen to this man- he speaks wisdom!!!

You may be exceptional todger as I'm sure you are but Carlisle

Only place I can go outside of the current restraining orders

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By *icolasHidalgoDeCorazonMan
41 weeks ago

St Leonards

"It's me obviously.

Do you mani-pedi?"

I'm going to assume that most of us guys do (or can) chew off excess finger and toe nails?

So the "exceptional" bit must be cleaning our teeth enough after so that only imperceptible amounts of "jam" are exchanged between parties we kiss/perform oral on afterwards?

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By *TG3Man
41 weeks ago

Dorchester

Also i guess it depends who wrote the profile (couples) if it was the guy its him you need to impress and if its the woman its still him you need to impress

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

"The more I think about it, is it just a lazy way of hoping their type will reach out? Wouldn’t it just be easier to type a detailed description of these exceptional men they’re looking for?

This sounds like the point where someone should say "this is a sex sight, not skool" (sic)"

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By *ags73Man
41 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

I just assume ‘not me’ and move on.

Their loss.

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By *adyBugsWoman
41 weeks ago

cognito

We are all exceptional regardless of gender aren’t we?

It’s just that people don’t always share what makes them exceptional in the best of ways

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
41 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

"I reckon what makes someone exceptional will be different depending who is making the decision… for me it’s not necessarily about looks but about the vibe and whether they are enjoyable to chat with, don’t try to challenge my boundaries and seem genuine. In fab terms it’ll be someone who’s got really good in person verifications (that’s why you have to show some lads!) isn’t too pushy but also isn’t one of those guys who’s all mouth and nothing to back it up.

Oh also tall.

Really agree with the first part but not the Veris. I have great verifications but fucked if I'm sharing with this rabble.

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

Oh also tall.

Really agree with the first part but not the Veris. I have great verifications but fucked if I'm sharing with this rabble."

I did say “some” - just enough to give a flavour of who you are and honestly get bonus points if they’re not graphic!! For me anyway

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By *lderflower_AppleWoman
41 weeks ago

Basingstoke

I have no idea what makes someone 'exceptional' other than the dictionary definition being 'unusual, not the norm'.

But it strikes me as odd that until you've actually met someone, how can you possibly know if they are in fact 'exceptional'and are not the same as everyone else?

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
41 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"We are all looking for people, who in our own eyes, are exceptional - whether someone has it on their profile or not, it’s what we are all here to find.

The ones who have that certain something that gives you twinges.

That’s what it means to us - but one persons exceptional could be another persons munter

This!

We're all exceptional (ok, most people) in some way, shape or form. Whether it's a physical thing, a facial thing, unbelievable eyes, an enigmatic personality or hilarious sense of humour.

I don't think 'exceptional' is any one thing.

It's just a word. On profiles it goes over my head, much like 'genuine', 'professional' or 'discreet'.

You'll never second guess someone else's defi ition, so assuming you fit it, or trying to adjust in some way to do so is pointless.

If someone thinks you're right for them they'll let you know.

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

"…

What is the actual definition of an "exceptional male"?

…."

I have un-hid my profile

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By *TG3Man
41 weeks ago

Dorchester

"I have no idea what makes someone 'exceptional' other than the dictionary definition being 'unusual, not the norm'.

But it strikes me as odd that until you've actually met someone, how can you possibly know if they are in fact 'exceptional'and are not the same as everyone else? "
no two people are the same though

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By *rispyDuckMan
41 weeks ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

Maybe next time you come across a profile with that phrase, before you wink or message ask yourself! They are looking for an Exceptional __, but are they exceptional to you & your standards?

Hahaha food for thought

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By *ags73Man
41 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

"We are all exceptional regardless of gender aren’t we?

It’s just that people don’t always share what makes them exceptional in the best of ways

Same token we’re all shite regardless of gender as we don’t share what makes us shit in a lot of ways.

Apologies if that seems unduly negative but the positive flip works the other way too

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
41 weeks ago

Leeds

Totally subjective could mean numerous things to numerous people.

If a couples profile asks for an exceptional couple I avoid them.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

When he winks at you, you're pregnant.

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By *naswingdressWoman
41 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"When he winks at you, you're pregnant."

Oh I don't miss those messages

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By *lderflower_AppleWoman
41 weeks ago

Basingstoke

"I have no idea what makes someone 'exceptional' other than the dictionary definition being 'unusual, not the norm'.

But it strikes me as odd that until you've actually met someone, how can you possibly know if they are in fact 'exceptional'and are not the same as everyone else? no two people are the same though

Thus demonstrating that there is no such thing as an 'exceptional' person/couple...

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By *TG3Man
41 weeks ago

Dorchester

"I have no idea what makes someone 'exceptional' other than the dictionary definition being 'unusual, not the norm'.

But it strikes me as odd that until you've actually met someone, how can you possibly know if they are in fact 'exceptional'and are not the same as everyone else? no two people are the same though

Thus demonstrating that there is no such thing as an 'exceptional' person/couple...

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I think when you think about it those that have this as a requirement are the only people that can answer it

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By *orny-DJMan
41 weeks ago

Leigh-on-Sea

"One that stands out to me as an exception to the masses

I'd say that is an excellent definition and was thinking much the same myself

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By *2000ManMan
41 weeks ago

Worthing

Someone who has a resemblance to "him on the telly".

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