FabSwingers.com forum: Unread messages

By *westUKguy OP Man
34 weeks ago

Southport

How many unread messages do you have in your sent box..???

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By *enk15Man
34 weeks ago

Evesham

Zero, Zilch

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
34 weeks ago

East Sussex

None.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
34 weeks ago

East Sussex

We have pretty tight filters set up and with one or two exceptions tend to open messages fairly quickly

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
34 weeks ago

Central

I never look

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By *alcon77Man
34 weeks ago

under the sun & the moon

In the sent box, only one.

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By *enk15Man
34 weeks ago

Evesham

"We have pretty tight filters set up and with one or two exceptions tend to open messages fairly quickly"

As my teachers used to say to me... RTFQ

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By *asycouple1971Couple
34 weeks ago

midlands

No idea . We delete them after 2 days so don't know If they get read

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
34 weeks ago

East Sussex

"We have pretty tight filters set up and with one or two exceptions tend to open messages fairly quickly"

And I've read the op completely wrong

The answers still zero I think. We never look

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
34 weeks ago

East Sussex

"We have pretty tight filters set up and with one or two exceptions tend to open messages fairly quickly

As my teachers used to say to me... RTFQ

Quite!

. I really ought to concentrate properly

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
34 weeks ago

Reading

6. I dont usually look.

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By *heonixrising500Man
34 weeks ago

Barnsley

I allways look and reply

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By *issmorganWoman
34 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

1, to someone I chat regularly to.

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

Inbox. Probably none.

Out box. Probably many.

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By *sWyldWoman
34 weeks ago

Edinburgh

163 currently

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By *ouples_EroticaXXXCouple
34 weeks ago

manchester

"How many unread messages do you have in your sent box..???"

0 we just delete them

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By *obilebottomMan
34 weeks ago

All over

3 but that is not me messaging, just replies like a thanks for a fab or something like thar. I usually delete when I see them

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By *lderflower_AppleWoman
34 weeks ago

Basingstoke

I never look!

I can't control whether people read them, so once they're sent they're out of my mind.

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By *orbidden eastMan
34 weeks ago

london dodging electric scooters

I am a man, so that is a zero

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By *CLM87Woman
34 weeks ago

Derbyshire

100...try to stay on top is a pain

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By *offiaCoolWoman
34 weeks ago

Kidsgrove

"We have pretty tight filters set up and with one or two exceptions tend to open messages fairly quickly

As my teachers used to say to me... RTFQ

Quite!

. I really ought to concentrate properly

10/10 for enthusiasm though

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
34 weeks ago

BRIDPORT

I don’t bother looking, once they are sent it’s out of my hands, I will either get a reply or not, don’t sweat the things you have no control over.

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34 weeks ago

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By *westUKguy OP Man
34 weeks ago

Southport

Im not sweating it was a question to the forum , just like every other person that posts...

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By *adyBugsWoman
34 weeks ago

cognito

3 in my sent messages

And 1 unread in my inbox

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
34 weeks ago

Leeds

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

360....the auto delete is kicking in now

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By *mmaleiaWoman
34 weeks ago

East Northamptonshire

I’m pretty on-top of my inbox, I delete within the day now, or it gets so overwhelming, there’s only actually 2 I’m conversing with, so including them, I have 23

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By *elix SightedMan
34 weeks ago

Cloud 8

"How many unread messages do you have in your sent box..???"

So many folk not reading the OP’s OP

I always delete messages from my sent box as soon as I’ve sent them. That way I don’t have the anxiety. If they reply I’ll know they’re interested in chatting.

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

You have unread messages?

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By *iss_Juicy79Woman
34 weeks ago

Edinburgh

6 I can't be bothered opening them at the moment

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By *ris GrayMan
34 weeks ago

Dorchester

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

Inbox none

Outbox one (but they aren't online every single day)

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By *orny-DJMan
34 weeks ago

Leigh-on-Sea

A few

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By *hatbiatchWoman
34 weeks ago

craigavon

Sent - just 1

Inbox - currently 112 unread

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

"Sent - just 1

Inbox - currently 112 unread

Omg

no wonder it’s so hard for straight guys to get meet with single women. Hell even getting a message is a god send

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

4.. but then i message a lot of people lol

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By *asisfan25Man
34 weeks ago

Essex

"Sent - just 1

Inbox - currently 112 unread

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there’s a long queue including me

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By *eroLondonMan
34 weeks ago

Covent Garden

"How many unread messages do you have in your sent box..???"

•

Zerø.

They've all been read (I felt compelled to reply).

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By *isa 59Woman
34 weeks ago

Newcastle

Just one…but I know he’ll get round to it when he has the time or inclination

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
34 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

Just the one from a lovely Welsh lady that usually replies. She gets inundated lol.

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By *paniard CuckMan
34 weeks ago

Finchley

I started fully using fabswingers in mid-August. I sent several messages in the first 3 months. I've never sent two or three messages in one day. I always wait a couple of days at least to send a message to another person on my hotlist, sometimes I wait much less, when I see that that person has connected a lot and has ignored my message.

Whatever the case, my unread messages always pile up. If the message is not read, a few days pass and the person does not respond, I delete it and also from the hotlist. Logically the same if it's read and deleted by that person.

But the worst of all is when I connect and see that several messages have disappeared, which means that I have been blocked. Was the message read? No idea.

From November until less than a month ago I didn't send a single message. I sent a few in the last 3 weeks. Now I have 6 accumulated, waiting to be read (3 have not connected in almost 3 weeks). I would have some more but I deleted them since they were read and deleted... and others... well... disappeared.

I often wonder why I still try. Since it takes a long time to write a good message to someone to either be blocked or read and deleted or ignored... Obviously for people who receive dozens of messages a day, it is wasting time to reply to someone to say: " Sorry, I'm not interested", although for me to receive a message like that would be like a triumph. However, I feel like I end up in the trash along with those who send messages like:

Subject: Hey

Hi mate,

How are you doing?

The above is a real message, received a few days ago.

Well, forgive the talk, at least it has been good for me as therapy haha. Thank you

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By *imi_RougeWoman
34 weeks ago

Portsmouth

1 from weeks ago.

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By *urora1912Woman
34 weeks ago

Norfolk East anglia

10 I'm really not in the mood to reply

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34 weeks ago

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By *atgirl and RobinCouple
34 weeks ago

Durham

"How many unread messages do you have in your sent box..???"

None. My OCD does not approve of having anything but a clear inbox

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

None. Don’t send any.

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By *ookie46Woman
34 weeks ago

Deepest darkest Peru

SENT box is two

Unread messages in inbox is completely a different matter

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By *urve_your_enthusiasmWoman
34 weeks ago

Manchester

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By *obbycheqMan
34 weeks ago

cambridge

Just two right now

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By *rixie_BlondeWoman
34 weeks ago

London (She/Her)

In my sent box 9 (so pretty high for a single woman) in my received box right now 1087

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By *asisfan25Man
34 weeks ago

Essex

[Removed by poster at 26/03/24 02:31:18]

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By *asisfan25Man
34 weeks ago

Essex

"In my sent box 9 (so pretty high for a single woman) in my received box right now 1087"
I’m one of them cluttering up your inbox

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By *olo180Man
34 weeks ago

West London

"In my sent box 9 (so pretty high for a single woman) in my received box right now 1087"

Wow….over a thousand….no wonder single guys on here have a hopeless task…

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By *jg83Man
34 weeks ago

BURNLEY

3 I think my profile must be shit lol

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

None currently.

We have 6 that have been left on read from guys who tried very hard to sext but failed

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By *elboy1978Man
34 weeks ago

Fellgate

Zero

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By *hinstrapMan
34 weeks ago

Barnsley

None.....I rarely get a message. I reckon I'd think the site was broken if I got a message

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

None.

Maybe because I haven't sent any.

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By *rixie_BlondeWoman
34 weeks ago

London (She/Her)

"In my sent box 9 (so pretty high for a single woman) in my received box right now 1087

Wow….over a thousand….no wonder single guys on here have a hopeless task…

Yeah, guys that come on here shouting about how awful women are for not replying just have no idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

"In my sent box 9 (so pretty high for a single woman) in my received box right now 1087

Wow….over a thousand….no wonder single guys on here have a hopeless task…

Yeah, guys that come on here shouting about how awful women are for not replying just have no idea. "

Yeah you tell em, I've had nearly 10 today FFS. I can't keep up with that.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
34 weeks ago

Okehampton

None

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By *BootyfulDayWoman
34 weeks ago

…

None!

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By *ickyKlungespeareMan
34 weeks ago

St Leonards

One.

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By *BootyfulDayWoman
34 weeks ago

…

"None!

Oh wait I didn’t read the OP properly, sent box doh! 1!

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By *rixie_BlondeWoman
34 weeks ago

London (She/Her)

"In my sent box 9 (so pretty high for a single woman) in my received box right now 1087

Wow….over a thousand….no wonder single guys on here have a hopeless task…

Yeah, guys that come on here shouting about how awful women are for not replying just have no idea.

Yeah you tell em, I've had nearly 10 today FFS. I can't keep up with that. "

Have your filters blocked single men? How do you get so few?

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

"In my sent box 9 (so pretty high for a single woman) in my received box right now 1087

Wow….over a thousand….no wonder single guys on here have a hopeless task…

Yeah, guys that come on here shouting about how awful women are for not replying just have no idea.

Yeah you tell em, I've had nearly 10 today FFS. I can't keep up with that.

Have your filters blocked single men? How do you get so few? "

This is a confidence builder.

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By *antastic_Mr_Fox_76Man
34 weeks ago

District 13

Zero, I recently got advised to delete once sent the I’ll not know if a message is deleted or un-read

so if I get a response it’s just a nice surprise even if it reads no thanks

Totally changed my fab experience, so far

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By *rixie_BlondeWoman
34 weeks ago

London (She/Her)

"In my sent box 9 (so pretty high for a single woman) in my received box right now 1087

Wow….over a thousand….no wonder single guys on here have a hopeless task…

Yeah, guys that come on here shouting about how awful women are for not replying just have no idea.

Yeah you tell em, I've had nearly 10 today FFS. I can't keep up with that.

Have your filters blocked single men? How do you get so few?

This is a confidence builder. "

Your profile makes it clear you’re not interested, but I expect them still to be pounding on your inbox

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By *carlett!Woman
34 weeks ago

19 in sent box unread. I don't usually check either. 364 in my inbox. It's ridiculous lol

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By *eyond PurityCouple
34 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

3 - 1 was someone who gushed (not literally) over our profile and we sent a reply to say we’d like to chat and they’ve left it unopened for almost a day now

We don’t look normally but it does make you wonder now I’ve seen it unread.

The other two are just ‘thanks, but no thanks’ messages anyway.

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By *ot to giggleWoman
34 weeks ago

Coventry

About 20 i think in send , just answered a load today, 10 in my inbox

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By *inochioMan
34 weeks ago

Derbyshire

The same number as read messages. 0

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By *WB85Man
34 weeks ago

Staffordshire

I'm not as pushy sending them any more. I find it better for my ego this way lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

I normally read most of my messages. If my inbox gets overwhelming I have been known to delete bulk unread messages.

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